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topup:
There's no 'good' way to break off a relationship, I advice you just tell her, I am sure deep down inside she's still unsure whether you'll stay for the long run.

Staying wiht her would only please her, you would end up resenting her, feeling forced to stay, captive, and you would end up making her into a monster, just so you can push her away, and then you would end up having a nasty break up!!

Trust me, end it now, it will be painful for her, but you will be friends, and she will get over it.

She has to understand that there is no reason to force someone to stay with you - it will always backfire. The chances of you cheating will increase, and she could very much lose her virginity.

By the way, why did you want to end the relationsgip as soon as you heard she was a virgin? Was it because you knew you would end up pressuring her into intimacy, or that you would get tempted elsewhere, have you had a bad abstinence-related experience? I'm just curious. .

reason is that i dont want to take what she prized most knowing that i cant marry her.i dont want a religious freak on my hand.

agathamari:
you start dating her on a dare, then decide to break up with her only because you cant sleep with her. hell tell her the trueth, you are a miserable pathetic he goat and she deserve a man who will love her and not her Arrow

Maybe i am a goat but the truth is I am not breakin up because i cant sleep wit her. i know how ladies are atached to their first love.She deserves a better man that is what i am tryin to tell her.

violent:
Send her a break up text message on a Friday and switch off your phone till Monday.

Then i will see her at my place before monday.See the truth is that she has always being the Good girl in mid 20 who just opened trhat part of her heart to a guy.All the same thanks to all nairalanders.u guys are great tryin to help a bro out.of courese u people were not there when i walked into trouble

TewMuch:
lol, Number one way of manipulation for girls is crying..Since you know you are the worst kind of person for her, just come out with the truth and confess to her. Tell her you are a big assholle that is just operating on a dare, and you think she is a wonderful and beautiful person that does not deserve you. Tell her you are sorry and hope she can forgive you, you will also like to end the relationship because you feel too guilty and you have someone else that you are serious about. Tell her you admire her lifestyle and are too ashamed of yourself, and you will like to move on but want to remain friends. That you have talked to God about it, and he told you she is not the one for you. . You can also cry when she is crying.

Thanks tewmuch,maybe i need to tell u that i said all these but she said games or no games she loves me and has built her world around me.u need to be there to see all the drama from begging to crying to having cold and stomach pain.infact i gave sex as the excuse knowing that she is a virgin while am not.she came to my table to tell me that inasmuch as she want to keep her virginity she would do anything 4 me.If not becos of shortage of job,i would have cease going to work.My friends at work too are advising that they would do anytin to be in my shoe.But crying wit her i dont think that is possible for it seems as if tears don finish 4 my eyes.the last time i cried was in 2002 when i lost my immediate sister to an accident.

ursa:
@poster

There is no easy way out of this.
Let me see, 
she loves you,
       cares for you
           will never hurt you
             always thinking about you
               cherishes you
                 adores you !

You can never break out of this relationship. If you do, she can hurt herself cos she has wrapped her world around you.
When a girl keeps her virginity for wedding day and meets someone that "likes" her, she pours her story, her life on you.

I have had an experience like that and it ended up in the altar,  of course that was some years later.

*** I can hear wedding bells ringing. But do not be scared, her love will last the distance. But pray about it all the same.

Please no wedding bell 4 now.infact i felt like a fool sighting sex as she is bent on doing all just to have me.she loves me no doubt and my friends thinks she is d right person for me but imagine me listening to Dagrin while she wants tolisten to cece winans or Don moen.
.see i have told her several things so that she can back out from the fact that i smoke,drink etc but her response was that God is able to see us through it all.she said she has a conviction within her that i am the one 4 her.I cant even go to work again knowing that if i refuse to answer her call na river the next day.i just walk into a BRT.

i no i shouldnt have done that,She is pretty but the snag is that i dont want to take what she prized so much knowing that i cant marry a religous freak.I feel i dont really want to have a case on my hand.I think she has never given anybody a chance in her life so i dont want to spoil another person's chance 4 her to love.u get d drift

There is this gal in my office.Sweet and very religious.the wifey type.The problem started when some guys in my office decided that i should go and psyche her up that she will never agree.Though i didnot yeild to their initial request but after much persuasion i decided to play ball.I closed up and we started talking and moved to dating.Then i discorvered that she was a virgin and since i didnot want to put myself in trouble i decided to call the relationship off. So i called her upand told her that we really need to end the relationship since i dont want to break her vow of losing her virginity on her weding day but she got so emotional and said i should please not take her back to her lonely days and dat she can not do wit out me.I tried to tell her that she does not need some1 like me but she told me that she loves me so much.After much talk she made me promise that if i walk out of the relationship that i should never 4get her and dat i should let her no about my gal after her.The weepin was too much that i had to change my heart about the break up.She was so happy.the problem is how do i break up wit her wit out causin her much tears as i had to change my mind when the tears and hysteria wastoo much.i mean how do i do it witout actually lookig like i deamon.pls house help me.I dont want to destroy a good lady