TheArchangel:
Get your citizenship first before talking of divorce because I believed sincerely that you married a serial cheat, ex convict, and an older lady because the British passport.
No sane person endures something like this and still contemplates to stay put.

Reade mt post and correct yourself. With 80k dols per year u don't need that shit to live in the UK.

TheArchangel:
Get your citizenship first before talking of divorce because I believed sincerely that you married a serial cheat, ex convict, and an older lady because the British passport.
No sane person endures something like this and still contemplates to stay put.

Did you read how much I said I make annually?
What citizenship are you talking about? Wake up dude or girl.

Thanks alot for the NLs giving good advises to me here. God helping me I will eventually make the right decision for the good of all.

shaybebaby:
Two aspects to consider in this sorry mess.
1) your personal happiness
2) the happiness and wellbeing of your child. I'll start with your child first, keep it separate so she doesn't caught up in the brouhaha with the Mrs.

Is your errant wife a good mother? The reason why I ask is that she could be a bad wife but a good parent. It appears that the nature of your job is one that demands working away for extended periods of time so daily care of your child by you may prove difficult.

If you have no issues with her care of your child, then she continues to be the primary care giver and you support your child (maintenance) for her upkeep. The reason? Stability for your child.

2) what to do with your serial cheat of your wife.
It is apparent that she is not committed to the union and as such, you must both be free to pursue future happiness individually. The relationship has run its course, set her free. You cannot hold on to someone who is not invested in your happiness. Let her go, your leave the certainty of an unhappy marriage for the uncertainty of the future but one with the possibility of meeting someone else who is more deserving of your love.

There needs to be no rancour here, relationships end, it will hurt for a while but life moves on.

In the longer term, seek opportunities where you can be physically more present in your child's life. Be on the look out for career moves that can aid that, if possible, arrange breaks from work to coincide with school breaks. Avail yourself of modern technology, Skype, video calls etc as these will help sustain your relationship with your child when you cannot be physically present.

Most of all, goodluck and remember whilst divorce is not great for kids, it is better for them to have two parents happy apart than two who are together and warring. How you handle this will shape your child's views on relationships in the future. Set a good enough example even if it's not an ideal one.

The best advice I have gotten here so far. Though I still belive God can turn the most ugly situations around. I will take your advice in one of my hands and see how that works out.

GodnGold:
You are not silly to me.

I agree with your rhetorical questions about your daughter.

But I think you have also exhausted your patience.

But permit me to also ask you to tell me your wife's side of the story.

I need to know why she said she would cheat over and over again.

There has to be a reason.

Though it may seem negligible but there must be a reason.

My advice will come from there...For now...hold your peace.
Just keep it down bro!

According to her, she was just trying to cover her shame and felt like saying all what she said in a bid to hurt me because i had hurt her by going for over a year and leaving her and my daughter. But as it stands now i see her making positive steps towards restoration and listening to preaching of grace and restoration. even if i will leave her, i want to see her stable before i move so am sure my daughter will be fine. it does not look normal what she is doing and she agrees she needs help that if i leave her she might just die. bro so you see my deli ma?

Roland17:
I am not sure you need advice for this UNCONDITIONAL STUPIDITY you are displaying and construing for love.

Make sure you prepare a will that protects your daughter from this your "IZUZUBILITY".

Truth is, your home is already broken, I mean it has been shattered and you have to come to terms with that reality.

OP.....REMOVE YOURSELF FROM THE VICTIM CIRCLE AND IMAGINE THIS STORY IS BEING NARRATED TO YOU BY SOMEONE ELSE, HOW WOULD YOU ADVICE THE PERSON?

LOVE IS NOT ENOUGH TO KEEP A MARRIAGE!!!

Yes love is not enough to keep a marriage. thank you very much.

Oyind17:
Mehn!!! E too long

Read. you might learn something from it.

Oyind17:
This one na real life story or na all this una imagination dem.

my dear its as real as real can be. REAL LIFE STORY.

EggovinMma:
Captain Philip please divorce that woman before you die before your time, Your daughter will be fine.If you don't take time, you may end up losing your cool, or she losing her cool.Have you heard of crimes of passion? You better leave that woman!

thank you very much for your advice. i really appreciate.

she doesn’t know what is wrong with her. Now I have parked my bags to leave but what becomes of my very pretty and intelligent daughter’s future?? I said ok let me try and fix this even if its for my daughter’s sake. So I stayed.
We started going for one council to the other in different churches. My pastor asked her to delete his number and block him on Facebook. She saved his number with a woman’s name on two occasions and opened another Facebook account. Now this not a physical thing anymore and my daughter’s life is at stake if I opt out. While we were discussing about her shameful affair, I asked her if they did it on our bed, she said no but in the room and there are many positions of sex that doesn’t require the bed and that the first night they had it was the Saturday when she went to the club and they were drunk and her stupid female friend was in the sitting room when she and this boy went into the room (how sickening is that)? I got mad and was about to leave when she gave me a dirty slap. This made me to get mad and I beat her mercilessly to the extent that the neighbours called the police after they could not get access to my house as it was locked. The police arrested me and charged me with assault. I now have a court case that I have to spend 800 pounds to get a lawyer.
Now my reason for staying put is because I believe in the biblical precepts of marriage which is for better for worst. Though the bible still says that if a woman commits adultery, the man is free to go out. Number two, what becomes the fate of my daughter since I can’t take her back to naija till she is 18 and can come by herself. I know what broken homes do to children especially girls and I love my daughter so much that I can’t imagine that happening to her ever. Because I know very well that my wife will fail woefully in life when I go out of her life. Now cutting communications with this boy is been a battle. I wanted to go African in handling the boy but God spoke to me not to. So my dear NLs this is my story. Very painful I must say but am taking conscious efforts to heal and I have forgiven her not because of he but because of me.
Finally I close my story with 1 Corinthians 13: 1-13.

Verse 7 says ; LOVE bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things
8; says love never fails.
Also remember the story of Hosea and Gomer in the bible.
God bless you for reading my story.

fight from here side. Reasons being I did not tell her I was coming so should face my issues alone. I succeeded in reserving a return flight and they allowed me to fly.
On reaching UK, I went straight to my daughter’s school to see her. She was happy to see me. I took the keys and went home. Later came back to pick her up. As we discussed, I asked her what has been happening while I was away. She said that this satanic boy has been spending the night in our house about 5 times or so. I asked her if she is sure and she said very sure. That he has. I said ok. I then sent my wife a message saying I now know why she didn’t want me to surprise her. She started a fight with me again and did not return home to work that night and never told me where she slept. She said she will not come home till weekend. This was Tuesday. So I pleaded with her that I haven’t seen her since this year and I have travelled three continents for four days just to come home and she doesn’t want to see me? I felt bitter but held on. Now on Wednesday I logged in to her Gmail and got a notification for an expensive hotel reservation she had booked for two and dinner at 8pm. I shook my head and called her that who is she lodging in the hotel with? She said no one that it’s just her. I then went ahead to invite that boy to my house round about the time of the dinner just to confirm that he wasn’t the one she was planning to lodge with. While he was in my house, my wife drove down to the house and acted out a script. My wife asked me what the boy was doing in my house. I said I called him to thank him for assisting them while I was away. She said why did I not dish out the anger I had when I heard that he slept in my house? I kept calm. He left and me and my wife dropped him off as we were going to the hotel she had booked. I knelt down and apologised to her for not telling her I was coming home. My wife made me give this demon a 100 pounds that he was broke and he used his money to take taxi when he came to carry my daughter from school.
That same Thursday, my wife delayed in coming home so I called her and she said she was picking up a dress from River island. Then her phone dialled my number and I was now hearing her talking to someone at the background. She did not know that she had called me. I listened and cut the call then called back and she picked up. I asked her who she was with and she said that it was the demonic boy. I got upset and spoke with him on phone that whatever he has with my wife should stop. This nonsense ha to stop. The next day, I requested to see the boy in city centre. He agreed to come. When we met I told him a story of how men have lost their lives for messing about with people’s wives. I said my wife has told me all that has happened while I was away so he should come out clean now. Then he started that when all these things started he never wanted to be a part of it that my wife was the one who called him one day that she wants to drink and asked if he could come share with her. He came and she demanded that he kiss her but he turned down the offer that he can’t do something like that to me. He left that day and she invited again and he came and they then kissed. I now asked him point blank if he slept with my wife and he stopped. I stood up and gave him a dirty slap which made him to run away. I then took his phone and he ran away. Went ahead to report to the police that he was assaulted and that I stole his phone. I was able to retrieve all the messages they had been sending to each other. I called my wife who was still at work why she could do such a thing to me after all these years we had built together. She did not come home that day so I got my pastor involved. It was my pastor who eventually went to this boy’s house to bring my wife home. She insisted that she will do it again and again that I have hurt her over years so she doesn’t regret what she has done. I called her father to inform him that am no longer marrying his daughter anymore. Called my own people as well and her friends just to shame her. On the following Monday, she lost her job and when she got back home she said I am the one that made her to lose her job because I said that she shouldn’t let the blessings of God become a curse in her life. She got really upset and went out of the house again. My pastor called her to come back but she refused and went to the boy’s house to sleep. According to her while she was sleeping the boy had sex with her although she was asleep but she didn’t stop him. When she got home she started crying heavily that

I was able to round off my schooling in July 2012 and was offered employment in my company back in Nigeria. Before now we were owing some money here and there as my student allowance wasn’t able to sustain us though I did part time jobs here and there. The debts where all cleared as I started my job. My wife demanded to pursue her master’s degree and I agreed to it though I was the one sponsoring it. I was going to work for 4 months and return for 3 months. So I was always away.
We eventually got married in 2013 and it was a classical wedding that almost broke my bank account. Her wedding gown was over a 1000 pounds. The wedding was attended by our friends and a few family members from her side. Non from mine because my mother had to attend a burial of her foster mother who died at 110 years of age. My mother gave me the go ahead to do the wedding in her absence. I was very happy that I eventually married my wife. I guess she was happy too.
Our marriage like every other marriage had its ups and downs. In 2014 during one of my returns, I discovered that my wife was in touch with one of her ex’s and they had a very high sexual content chat over a long period of time. I confronted her and she said she was sorry for what she did. That it was when we had a disagreement over the phone that she started to talk with him. I let it go. Now around this time, she was planning to visit Nigeria for her brother’s wedding. I told her to see this guy in question while in Lagos and she agreed to that. She spent a week in Nigeria and came back. I asked her about her journey and where she spent her nights while in Lagos. She said her sister’s husband rented a hotel for because she wasn’t in a very good place with her sister. She told mee this over the phone while in Lagos. When she came back, I told her I called her sister’s husband and to thank him for the hotel he pai for her but he said he did not pay for any hotel. I then said so tell me where you slept that night. At this point she started crying that she was at her ex’s house but nothing happened. I said oh really? That’s very good. This marriage is over from this day. Then she begged me from heaven to earth and swore by all names that she did not sleep with this guy. We eventually got passed that one as well.
Now fast forward to 2015, I met this little boy in church who plays bass guitar so we became close and I took him as a younger brother since he was new in the country and even my kid brother was older than him so it felt right to advise and guide him through stuffs and school as he was a master’s student and I introduced him to my wife. Biggest mistake I ever made. Little did I know that this boy was sent from hell. As usual, I went away to sea. Now we had a chat group on WhatsApp for the choir. I started noticing that my wife was always chatting with this boy on this group so I called her attention to it that its not right what she is doing because she is married and who knows what they will be discussing in private if they have the boldness to discuss this in the open. I also told her never to drop him off at home because he is not her friend but an acquaintance of mine. She agreed to what I said so I was calm. She later told me that she got an xmas gift for him which I frowned at. All these did not stop her.
At a point close to my coming, she told me that she wants to go out of the marriage that she doesn’t love me anymore that she wants to divorce. I said wao really? Ok no worries but just relax and we will talk things through when am back home. Prior to this time, she just got a well-paid job after waiting for years after her masters. Now it was very stressful for her combining work and taking care of our daughter who now attends a private primary school where I pay over 8000 pounds (2.8million naira) a year. My daughters school had a mid-term break and it became difficult for my wife to combine child care and work. So it was affecting her psyche which resulted to her having an accident while coming back from work one evening. This made her to call this demonic boy for help as she claimed he was the only saint alive to help her out. When she told me about the accident, she picked a fight with me saying am the cause of the accident.
I was some days away from coming home as I was in Malaysia while all these was happening. I told her I was going to give her a surprise this time that I will come unannounced. She objected to this and insisted that I let her know when am coming. I left Malaysia to Lagos spent the night in Lagos and she called that night which was a Saturday saying she will be going clubbing with her gil friend but I said she should not go. She refused and went anyway. Another big mistake on her part. I spent a day in Lagos and headed for Abuja to start making my way to the UK when the stupid Nigerian Immigration said I must have a return ticket before they allow me board the plane which was about to depart. I could not but the ticket from myside so I called my wife that am at the airport about to come but am facing this challenge so can she buy me a ticket so I can board. This resulted to a big

My name is Allen. I don’t wish what happened to me on my worst enemy because the issues of the heart are the most difficult issues to deal with especially when you are married.
How do you know the right woman to marry and how well can you know a woman before you get married to her? How sure are you that she has told you all that needs to be known about her before you say I do? More and more questions keep popping up as I narrate my story.
People say men don’t cry and I tell you that is a big fallacy. Real men cry not because they are weak but because they thought they knew better. This is my story
Before I start, I would like to state here that what you are about to read happened to a gentle Nigerian in the UK. I have a very good job and make over 80000 USD annually. Remember this as you analyse my actions over the years
We met in a church in 2009 while I was studying in London. She was also a student as at then. I was playing drums for a church while she sang for the same choir. We ended up falling in love and it was epic because she was the first woman I had ever given my whole heart to flat on the ground. I later discovered she had been in prison for about 3 years for drugs smuggling into the UK. It never deterred me from loving her. I saw potentials in her and it made me love her the more. We connected pretty well and nothing in the world mattered to us. Later that year she got pregnant and we had a girl child in 2010 who is now 6 years old. While we were still dating I got to realise that my wife was 7 years older myself. It still felt good to love her.
A week after our daughter was born, I had to return to Nigeria so I cloud do my internship with my company that sponsored my 3 years’ program in the UK. She insisted I stayed back but I refused so I could finish my program and take proper care of her and our child. She reluctantly agreed and I left. After 9 months of being away, I was meant to return so I had to renew my visa but was refused on some mysterious circumstances. I could not come back to the UK as at when I was supposed to. This made my woman to grow heavy bitterness and hatred towards me which eventually led to her going with another man. Nothing I said made any sense to her because she said she waited and I was out there chasing other girls in Nigeria. This she claimed to get from my chats on Facebook. I let her be so she made her choice and did all what felt right with this guy and not long after then she came back begging me that she is sorry that the guy in question was just deceiving her so I took her back because she said she did not sleep with him. In 2012 I was back to the UK after being away for a year and a half. She moved houses and was living with a guy who had another female flat mate. According to her there was nothing between her and this new guy then so I believed her. We continued our relationship from where it was in 2010 July. Later that year, she confessed that she slept with that guy on three occasions or so. I was bitter but just had to let it go since we were not married yet.

Does divorce make both parties happier than they were in the marriage?
So when I leave her you guys think I will be happier?

It's pathetic but I feel I can scale through it God helping me. It might look stupid to everyone out there.

That same Thursday, my wife delayed in coming home so I called her and she said she was picking up a dress from River island. Then her phone dialled my number and I was now hearing her talking to someone at the background. She did not know that she had called me. I listened and cut the call then called back and she picked up. I asked her who she was with and she said that it was the demonic boy. I got upset and spoke with him on phone that whatever he has with my wife should stop. This nonsense ha to stop. The next day, I requested to see the boy in city centre. He agreed to come. When we met I told him a story of how men have lost their lives for messing about with people’s wives. I said my wife has told me all that has happened while I was away so he should come out clean now. Then he started that when all these things started he never wanted to be a part of it that my wife was the one who called him one day that she wants to drink and asked if he could come share with her. He came and she demanded that he kiss her but he turned down the offer that he can’t do something like that to me. He left that day and she invited again and he came and they then kissed. I now asked him point blank if he slept with my wife and he stopped. I stood up and gave him a dirty slap which made him to run away. I then took his phone and he ran away. Went ahead to report to the police that he was assaulted and that I stole his phone. I was able to retrieve all the messages they had been sending to each other. I called my wife who was still at work why she could do such a thing to me after all these years we had built together. She did not come home that day so I got my pastor involved. It was my pastor who eventually went to this boy’s house to bring my wife home. She insisted that she will do it again and again that I have hurt her over years so she doesn’t regret what she has done. I called her father to inform him that am no longer marrying his daughter anymore. Called my own people as well and her friends just to shame her. On the following Monday, she lost her job and when she got back home she said I am the one that made her to lose her job because I said that she shouldn’t let the blessings of God become a curse in her life. She got really upset and went out of the house again. My pastor called her to come back but she refused and went to the boy’s house to sleep. According to her while she was sleeping the boy had sex with her although she was asleep but she didn’t stop him. When she got home she started crying heavily that
she doesn’t know what is wrong with her. Now I have parked my bags to leave but what becomes of my very pretty and intelligent daughter’s future?? I said ok let me try and fix this even if its for my daughter’s sake. So I stayed.
We started going for one council to the other in different churches. My pastor asked her to delete his number and block him on Facebook. She saved his number with a woman’s name on two occasions and opened another Facebook account. Now this not a physical thing anymore and my daughter’s life is at stake if I opt out. While we were discussing about her shameful affair, I asked her if they did it on our bed, she said no but in the room and there are many positions of sex that doesn’t require the bed and that the first night they had it was the Saturday when she went to the club and they were drunk and her stupid female friend was in the sitting room when she and this boy went into the room (how sickening is that)? I got mad and was about to leave when she gave me a dirty slap. This made me to get mad and I beat her mercilessly to the extent that the neighbours called the police after they could not get access to my house as it was locked. The police arrested me and charged me with assault. I now have a court case that I have to spend 800 pounds to get a lawyer.
Now my reason for staying put is because I believe in the biblical precepts of marriage which is for better for worst. Though the bible still says that if a woman commits adultery, the man is free to go out. Number two, what becomes the fate of my daughter since I can’t take her back to naija till she is 18 and can come by herself. I know what broken homes do to children especially girls and I love my daughter so much that I can’t imagine that happening to her ever. Because I know very well that my wife will fail woefully in life when I go out of her life. Now cutting communications with this boy is been a battle. I wanted to go African in handling the boy but God spoke to me not to. So my dear NLs this is my story. Very painful I must say but am taking conscious efforts to heal and I have forgiven her not because of he but because of me.

On reaching UK, I went straight to my daughter’s school to see her. She was happy to see me. I took the keys and went home. Later came back to pick her up. As we discussed, I asked her what has been happening while I was away. She said that this satanic boy has been spending the night in our house about 5 times or so. I asked her if she is sure and she said very sure. That he has. I said ok. I then sent my wife a message saying I now know why she didn’t want me to surprise her. She started a fight with me again and did not return home to work that night and never told me where she slept. She said she will not come home till weekend. This was Tuesday. So I pleaded with her that I haven’t seen her since this year and I have travelled three continents for four days just to come home and she doesn’t want to see me? I felt bitter but held on. Now on Wednesday I logged in to her Gmail and got a notification for an expensive hotel reservation she had booked for two and dinner at 8pm. I shook my head and called her that who is she lodging in the hotel with? She said no one that it’s just her. I then went ahead to invite that boy to my house round about the time of the dinner just to confirm that he wasn’t the one she was planning to lodge with. While he was in my house, my wife drove down to the house and acted out a script. My wife asked me what the boy was doing in my house. I said I called him to thank him for assisting them while I was away. She said why did I not dish out the anger I had when I heard that he slept in my house? I kept calm. He left and me and my wife dropped him off as we were going to the hotel he had booked. I knelt down and apologised to her for not telling her I was coming home. My wife made me give this demon a 100 pounds that he was broke and he used his money to take taxi when he came to carry my daughter from school

Now fast forward to 2015, I met this little boy in church who plays bass guitar so we became close and I took him as a younger brother since he was new in the country and even my kid brother was older than him so it felt right to advise and guide him through stuffs and school as he was a masters student and I introduced him to my wife. Biggest mistake I ever made. Little did I know that this boy was sent from hell. As usual, I went away to sea. Now we had a chat group on WhatsApp for the choir. I started noticing that my wife was always chatting with this boy on this group so I called her attention to it that its not right what she is doing because she is married and who knows what they will be discussing in private if they have the boldness to discuss this in the open. I also told her never to drop him off at home because he is not her friend but an acquaintance of mine. She agreed to what I said so I was calm. She later told me that she got an xmas gift for him which I frowned at. All these did not stop her.
At a point close to my coming, she told me that she wants to go out of the marriage that she doesn’t love me anymore that she wants to divorce. I said wao really? Ok no worries but just relax and we will talk things through when am back home. Prior to this time, she just got a well-paid job after waiting for years after her masters. Now it was very stressful for her combining work and taking care of our daughter who now attends a private primary school where I pay over 8000 pounds (2.8million naira) a year. My daughters school had a mid-term break and it became difficult for my wife to combine child care and work. So it was affecting her psyche which resulted to her having an accident while coming back from work one evening. This made her to call this demonic boy for help as she claimed he was the only saint alive to help her out. When she told me about the accident, she picked a fight with me saying am the cause of the accident.
I was some days away from coming home as I was in Malaysia while all these was happening. I told her I was going to give her a surprise this time that I will come unannounced. She objected to this and insisted that I let her know when am coming. I left Malaysia to Lagos spent the night in Lagos and she called that night which was a Saturday saying she will be going clubbing with her gil friend but I said she should not go. She refused and went anyway. Another big mistake on her part. I spent a day in Lagos and headed for Abuja to start making my way to the UK when the stupid Nigerian Immigration said I must have a return ticket before they allow me board the plane which was about to depart. I could not but the ticket from myside so I called my wife that am at the airport about to come but am facing this challenge so can she buy me a ticket so I can board. This resulted to a big fight from here side. Reasons being I did not tell her I was coming so should face my issues alone. I succeeded in reserving a return flight and they allowed me to fly.

I was able to round off my schooling in July 2012 and was offered employment in my company back in Nigeria. Before now we were owing some money here and there as my student allowance wasn’t able to sustain us though I did part time jobs here and there. The debts where all cleared as I started my job. My wife demanded to pursue her master’s degree and I agreed to it though I was the one sponsoring it. I was going to work for 4 months and return for 3 months. So I was always away.
We eventually got married in 2013 and it was a classical wedding that almost broke my bank account. Her wedding gown was over a 1000 pounds. The wedding was attended by our friends and a few family members from her side. Non from mine because my mother had to attend a burial of her foster mother who died at 110 years of age. My mother gave me the go ahead to do the
wedding in her absence. I was very happy that I eventually married my wife. I guess she was happy too.
Our marriage like every other marriage had its ups and downs. In 2014 during one of my returns, I discovered that my wife was in touch with one of her ex’s and they had a very high sexual content chat over a long period of time. I confronted her and she said she was sorry for what she did. That it was when we had a disagreement over the phone that she started to talk with him. I let it go. Now around this time, she was planning to visit Nigeria for her brothers wedding. I told her to see this guy in question while in Lagos and she agreed to that. She spent a week in Nigeria and came back. I asked her about her joueney and where she spent her nights while in lagos. She said her sisters husband rented a hotel for because she wasn’t in a very good place with her sister. She told mee this over the phone while in Lagos. When she came back, I told her I called her sisters husband and to thank him for the hotel he payed for her but he said he did not pay for any hotel. I then said so tell me where you slept that night. At tis point she started crying that she was at her ex’s house but nothing happened. I said oh really? That’s very good. This marriage is over from this day. Then she begged me from heaven to earth and swore by all names that she did not sleep with this guy. We eventually got passed that one as well.

My name is Allen. I don’t wish what happened to me on my worst enemy because the issues of the heart are the most difficult issues to deal with especially when you are married.
How do you know the right woman to marry and how well can you know a woman before you get married to her? How sure are you that she has told you all that needs to be known about her before you say I do? More and more questions keep popping up as I narrate my story.
People say men don’t cry and I tell you that is a big fallacy. Real men cry not because they are weak but because they thought they knew better. This is my story
Before I start, I would like to state here that what you are about to read happened to a gentle Nigerian in the UK. I have a very good job and make over 80000 USD annually. Remember this as you analyse my actions over the years
We met in a church in 2009 while I was studying in London. She was also a student as at then. I was playing drums for a church while she sang for the same choir. We ended up falling in love and it was epic because she was the first woman I had ever given my whole heart to flat on the ground. I later discovered she had been in prison for about 3 years for drugs smuggling into the UK. It never deterred me from loving her. I saw potentials in her and it made me love her the more. We connected pretty well and nothing in the world mattered to us. Later that year she got pregnant and we had a girl child in 2010 who is now 6 years old. While we were still dating I got to realise that my wife was 7 years older myself. It still felt good to love her.
A week after our daughter was born, I had to return to Nigeria so I cloud do my internship with my company that sponsored my 3 years’ program in the UK. She insisted I stayed back but I refused so I could finish my program and take proper care of her and our child. She reluctantly agreed and I left. After 9 months of being away, I was meant to return so I had to renew my visa but was refused on some mysterious circumstances. I could not come back to the UK as at when I was supposed to. This made my woman to grow heavy bitterness and hatred towards me which eventually led to her going with another man. Nothing I said made any sense to her because she said she waited and I was out there chasing other girls in Nigeria. This she claimed to get from my chats on Facebook. I let her be so she made her choice and did all what felt right with this guy and not long after then she came back begging me that she is sorry that the guy in question was just deceiving her so I took her back because she said she did not sleep with him. In 2012 I was back to the UK after being away for a year and a half. She moved houses and was living with a guy who had another female flat mate. According to her there was nothing between her and this new guy then so I believed her. We continued our relationship from where it was in 2010 July. Later that year, she confessed that she slept with that guy on three occasions or so. I was bitter but just had to let it go since we were not married yet.

28 Indoor emissions from household combustion of coal: Coal is one of the most well-known carcinogens in the public consciousness, due to the prevalence of cancer in miners. It is a risk if coal dust produced from old-fashioned coal-burning fires is inhaled.

29 Diesel exhaust: There is a cancer risk from inhaling exhaust fumes produced by a diesel internal combustion engine. Over 30 components of diesel oil are listed at various levels of carcinogenic by the IARC.

30 Mineral oils, untreated and mildly treated: The World Health Organisation classifies untreated or mildly treated mineral oils as group-1 carcinogens to humans. Highly refined oils are classified as group-3, meaning they are not suspected to be carcinogenic, yet due to insufficient findings, cannot be classified as harmless.

31 Phenacetin, analgesic mixtures containing: Studies on this pain- and fever-reducing drug, now banned in some countries link it with renal, pelvic and other urothelial tumours in patients.

32 Plants containing aristolochic acid: Used in Chinese herbal medicine for centuries, this plant extract is found to cause kidney disease and urothelial cancer.

33 Polychlorinated biphenyls (PCBs): This synthetic compound, widely used in electrical equipment in the past, was banned at the end of the 1970s in many countries because of environmental concerns. Studies of PCBs in humans have found increased rates of melanomas, liver cancer, gall bladder cancer, biliary tract cancer, gastrointestinal tract cancer, and brain cancer, and may be linked to breast cancer. PCBs are known to cause a variety of cancers in animals.

34 Chinese-style salted fish: Diets that are very high in salt-cured meats and fish, or pickled foods – which are more common in parts of Asia and northern Africa – can increase the risk of nasopharyngeal cancer, related to the upper part of the throat behind the nose. These foods can be very high in nitrates and nitrites, which react with protein to form nitrosamines. These chemicals can damage DNA.

35 Shale oils: The development of shale gas, including fracking, may release toxic chemicals into air, water and soil during the process. Chemicals used in fracking are known to be of concern and have been linked to an increased risk of cancer. Benzene, acrylamide, and formaldehyde are all listed by the IARC as human carcinogens.

36 Soots: Coal dust, principally from the burning of coal, had contributed to a specific chimney sweep cancer that was prevalent in the 19th century.

37 Smokeless tobacco products: Tobacco chewed as a stimulant, sometimes with other leaves such as betel, is specifically linked to cancers of the larynx and the mouth.

38 Wood dust: Awareness of wood dust as a carcinogen and cause of nasal cancer is on the rise. In 2011 a cabinet maker’s widow successfully sued for £375,000 after her husband’s death.

39 Processed meat: Meat that is cured or treated in some way, either for preservation or taste. Examples include ham, bacon and sausages. It was ranked as dangerous as tobacco in October 2015 by the World Health Organisation (WHO), with specific links to bowel cancer.

Carcinogenic agents and groups of agents
40 Acetaldehyde

41 4-Aminobiphenyl

42 Aristolochic acids and plants containing them

43 Arsenic and arsenic compounds

44 Asbestos

45 Azathioprine

46 Benzene

47 Benzidine

48 Benzo[a]pyrene

49 Beryllium and beryllium compounds

50 Chlornapazine (N,N-Bis(2-chloroethyl)-2-naphthylamine)

51 Bis(chloromethyl)ether

52 Chloromethyl methyl ether

53 1,3-Butadiene

54 1,4-Butanediol dimethanesulfonate (Busulphan, Myleran)

55 Cadmium and cadmium compounds

56 Chlorambucil

57 Methyl-CCNU (1-(2-Chloroethyl)-3-(4-methylcyclohexyl)-1-nitrosourea; Semustine)

58 Chromium(VI) compounds

59 Ciclosporin

60 Contraceptives, hormonal, combined forms (those containing both oestrogen and a progestogen)

61 Contraceptives, oral, sequential forms of hormonal contraception (a period of oestrogen-only followed by a period of both oestrogen and a progestogen)

62 Cyclophosphamide

63 Diethylstilboestrol

64 Dyes metabolized to benzidine

65 Epstein-Barr virus

66 Oestrogens, nonsteroidal

67 Oestrogens, steroidal

68 Oestrogen therapy, postmenopausal

69 Ethanol in alcoholic beverages

70 Erionite

71 Ethylene oxide

13 Secondhand smoke: Otherwise known as passive smoking, a non-smoker’s risk of getting lung cancer can increase by a quarter by breathing in other people’s smoke. It may also increase the risk of cancers of the larynx (voice box) and pharynx (upper throat). It’s estimated that every year, secondhand smoke kills over 12,000 people in the UK from lung cancer, heart disease, stroke and the lung condition chronic obstructive pulmonary disease.

14 Iron and steel founding: Studies of iron and steel founding workers in various parts of the world showed them to have a significantly increased risk for lung cancer. Exposures in the iron and steel founding industry are complex and include a wide variety of known genotoxic and carcinogenic substances including metals and formaldehyde.

15 Isopropanol manufacture (strong-acid process): People in the isopropanol manufacturing industry may face an increased risk of developing cancer due to exposure to suspected carcinogens, such as diisopropyl sulphate, isopropyl oils and sulphuric acid. The colourless, flammable chemical compound with a strong odour has a wide variety of industrial, household and pharmaceutical uses. Isopropyl alcohol solution is found in rubbing alcohol, hand sanitiser, and disinfecting pads.

16 Magenta dye manufacturing: The production of magenta dyes – purplish-red in colour and among the first synthetic dyes to be produced in the 1850s – has chemicals linked to bladder cancer. Yet some carcinogenic chemicals were banned from hair dyes in the 1970s.

17 Occupational exposure as a painter: Studies have found a link between work as a painter and risk of cancer. Deaths such as bladder cancer and leukaemia in such cases could have been from an exposure to benzene – a chemical at high levels that can cause cancer and found in paint production – mixed with other organic solvents. Cases of lung cancer may be from exposure to particles containing lead chromate and to asbestos in the paint trade.

18 Paving and roofing with coal-tar pitch: Paving with coal tar and coal-tar pitch may contain many chemical compounds, including carcinogens such as benzene.

19 Rubber industry: Harvested mainly in the form of the latex from certain trees, the manufacturing process of stretchy material can cause the risk of developing cancer, caused by chemicals. Studies examining countries with workers in the rubber industry showed they were more likely to have cancers such as bladder cancer, lung cancer, and leukaemia.

20 Occupational exposure of strong inorganic acid mists containing sulphuric acid: The liquid aerosols formed by condensation of sulphuric acid vapour, which is highly corrosive, can cause a higher risk of getting lung cancer.

Carcinogenic mixtures
21 Naturally occurring mixtures of aflatoxins: Such toxins produced by certain species of fungi, are among the most carcinogenic substances known, and linked to increased risk of liver cancer.

22 Alcoholic beverages: Alcoholic beverage consumption is a cause of breast, colorectal, larynx, liver, oesophagus, oral cavity and pharynx cancers, and as a probable cause of pancreatic cancer, as classified by the IARC.

23 Areca nut: Areca nut is a mild stimulant, akin to coffee, that is chewed with betel leaf. It is known to cause increased risk of mouth and oesophageal cancer.

24 Betel quid without tobacco: A leaf indigenous to Asia, is chewed with areca nut as a stimulant and can increase the risk of oral cancer.

25 Betel quid with tobacco: Betel can increase the risk of oral cancer.

26 Coal-tar pitches: This thick black liquid contains many chemical compounds, including carcinogens such as benzene.

27 Coal tars: Coal tar, a bi-product of coke production, contains many chemical compounds, including benzene.

After Monday’s bombshell news from the World Health Organisation that bacon, ham and sausages are carcinogenic, you can be forgiven for wondering just what exactly is safe for you to come into contact with – let alone eat.

Handily, the International Agency for Research on Cancer – a body that collects and publishes cancer figures worldwide – has a list of the 116 substances and activities (for some of them are more verb than noun) that are now considered to cause cancer.

Red meat isn’t on the list – that only probably causes cancer. This is the IARC’s group 1 list – the stuff it says definitely is carcinogenic. The IARC splits the list into three categories, which it calls “exposure circumstances”, “mixtures” and “agents”.

Carcinogenic exposure circumstances
1 Tobacco smoking: The most common exposure to the stimulant, prepared from the leaves of the tobacco plant, is through burning it and smoking it from a cigarette or hookah pipe into the mouth and then releasing it. Smoking’s history dates back to as early as 5000–3000BC when the agricultural product began to be cultivated in South America.

2 Sunlamps and sunbeds: A tanning bed, a device that emits ultraviolet radiation for a cosmetic tan, can give humans overexposure to UV radiation, which can cause skin cancer, cataracts, and premature skin ageing.

3 Aluminium production: Increased lung and bladder cancer risks have been reported in workers in aluminium reduction plants. The fumes of chemicals the workers may inhale, and exposure to coal-tar pitch volatiles for long periods during the process, can cause cancer.

4 Arsenic in drinking water: The highly toxic chemical which is used to make certain alloys used in the manufacturing industry, can get into the drinking water supply, particularly in ground water. Arsenic is known to cause skin cancer, and linked to causing liver, lung, kidney, and bladder cancer.

5 Auramine production: Auramine can be used as an antiseptic agent as well as to make dyes. A study found there to be an excess of bladder tumours among men engaged in the manufacture of auramine, through inhaling harmful agents, such as formaldehyde and sulphur, during the manufacturing process.

6 Boot and shoe manufacture and repair: Linked to increased risk of nasal cancer and leukaemia, due to exposure to suspected carcinogens such as leather dust, benzene and other solvents, yet the risk of cancer in shoe manufacturing may vary depending on the duration and level of exposure.

7 Chimney sweeping: Cleaning chimneys of soot and dust, historically done by small boys who could climb the chimney but now done mechanically, could cause a very specific form of cancer – termed “chimney sweep” cancer. It could be caused by inhalation and accidental ingestion of coal and burnt wood fumes and residue.

8 Coal gasification: Studies of the cancer levels of workers who had occupational exposure to coal gasification – when coal is reacted with oxygen, steam and carbon dioxide to form a gas – showed there to be an excess of lung cancer.

9 Coal tar distillation: Derived from coal, coal-tar pitch is a thick black liquid that remains after the distillation of coal tar. It is used as a base for coatings and paint, in roofing and paving, and as a binder in asphalt products. Both coal tar and coal-tar pitch contain many chemical compounds, including carcinogens such as benzene. Human exposure to coal tars can be through inhalation, ingestion, and absorption through the skin. The general population can be exposed to coal tars in environmental contaminants.

10 Coke (fuel) production: Workers at coking plants and coal-tar production plants – where coal is refined to be used as a solid fuel – may be exposed to coke oven emissions, and have an excess risk of dying from lung cancer and kidney cancer.


11 Furniture and cabinet making: Furniture makers are shown to have a statistical increase in nasal cancer risk, with excessive exposure to wood dust, according to studies.

12 Haematite mining (underground) with exposure to radon: Mining hematite, an underground source of iron, workers are simultaneously exposed to radon – a radioactive carcinogen, which can cause a large increase in the risk of lung cancer.

http://www.theguardian.com/society/2015/oct/28/116-things-that-can-give-you-cancer-list

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PervyByNature:
damn! Nuffin for her husband to suck



Keep calm and vote Maureensylvia as Miss Nairaland 2015. Extra ordinary Beauty!!

Na you know

UK humble able bodied niger delta man like me. Choi

kennygee:


ROFL.

That girl means real business.

Y'all should better start playing

She don request prayer points for church sef.

Pikin for UK no be beans oh. I no fit shout.

A two year old once told me "Aunty you have byest, I only have nipples"

I was shocked.[/q

my daughter sAid my wife should keep eating so her tommy can get bigger.

My wife wonderING why she keeps saying that asked her why does she have to eat?
Daughter said, so u can give me a baby brother When ur tommy gets bigger.

My wife now said that dats not how baby's come. That daddy and mummy have to play in the room for a baby to come.

My daughter went and opened our bedroom door and said, daddy mumy go inside and start playin now Please.

I must be proud of her high sense of observation I guess!!.

as a young dad it still got me lafing sha!

I know but I least expected that question cod of the way she loved the video and kept replaying it.

It's funny how children observe little things.

Ok

My 4 years old daughter saw Asa's new video titled EYO and fell in love with the video. She watched it over and over again.
Then she came to me in the kitchen and asked me.

"Daddy Why dosent ASA have any BREAST?"

I didn't know what answer to give her but that her dress was covering it.

I told my wife when she got back from work and that got us cracking our ribs.

It's well oh baba

. Nice