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NoToPile:

Gbam, you have said it all.

[quote author=ExtraExtra post=69558270]Women are the backbone of the family, they make or mar the home, since they help bring life to the world suffice it to say they sum up what we call family, 99% of successful, longlasting home or family is the ability of the woman to hold the "forte".

My attention was drawn to this forum and this topic https://www.nairaland.com/4617351/husbands-pride-wants-ruin-home#69371294 and it is sad that most people drew conclusion on a one sided story though i wouldnt blame those involved....

My humble submission.

1) marriages pass thru phases and the phase you and your wife is determines the future of the marriage. Pls talk things out with ur wife.

2)probably you acted like most men does when it comes to marriage, which is ; "i can spend money more on my family than yours ". Am not disputing the fact that ur half went on ur dad 's medication but be honest if it were hers would you had allowed her to use her half for her parents medication. You probably would have told her to give some certain amt. And if this were the case , she must have queried herself on what the future holds and did what she did .

3)that she used her name dosent mean she stopped loving you but its for future security should incase what you did or said by asking her to leave ur house comes up.

4)oga , women are moved by what they hear and you stopped telling her how much you appreciate her effort ,started having harmless friends like you said . Some whom you sometimes compliment and of cos she felt threatened of her position and ur Love. So stop all you did or do which made her to question your integrity .

5) you sound like one who doesnt apologise when he is wrong but maybe buys gifts to makeup, and she wil forgive and you wil still do same thing again. Oga things like this can make even the softest, most forgiving woman to harbour resentments ,and the day she will explode, you will marvel at the depth of bitterness from her mouth and i guess this is why you where shocked she insulted you and family members together .
You really pushed her by telling her to leave the house and her full bitterness came up. Show ur wife love and make her fill important again.

6)finally quarel brings out the worst in ppl ,so you showed her what she feared most by telling her to leave ur house and belives putting ur family ,s need most is the reason she did what she did. Pks you guys should make up, dont allow urself think you cant beg her .if this marriage is important to you then put pride aside , call your wife and thrash things out . Let her unburden her years accumulated resentment out and make her know that there is no other her if you claim you dont have another .

Ogwula mu na onu.

ExtraExtra:
Women are the backbone of the family, they make or mar the home, since they help bring life to the world suffice it to say they sum up what we call family, 99% of successful, longlasting home or family is the ability of the woman to hold the "forte".

My attention was drawn to this forum and this topic https://www.nairaland.com/4617351/husbands-pride-wants-ruin-home#69371294 and it is sad that most people drew conclusion on a one sided story though i wouldnt blame those involved because they judged based on what was said and the individual involved needed public validation for her wrong doing, a public display i dont approve of but since external persons and relations are already involved i'd like to clear some details.

"Dee" comes from a very well to do family while i dont so when we got married, i made her feel we are in this together, not one above the other but as partners in EVERYTHING. To be fair to her she brought up the business idea we did years ago, in other to put forth money to start up, i made sure i had equal money as her for it, goal was to own a property, build et al. Unfortunately my dad's ailing health deteriorated to the extent that he had to be flown out, when the profit came, i told her and she agreed, she decided we split it into two so she use hers for the initial plan. As the first born i went with my dad, back here she got the property and started building, when i came back the remaining money with me was used to complete it, what was left was used for my parents house. Being a trust worthy person i feel she is, i didnt bother to check documents cos i felt she would do the right thing by putting both our names which she kept in a bank.

Now, i work and own other businesses so i'm always in contact with alot of people from both genders so to her she feels i may have lost guard by cheating which is not true: i dont have password on my phones, i always make and receive calls right in front of her but she still think i'm hiding something and that was the genesis of the problem weeks ago, i rebuked her to cut it out immediately but she was out for blood, she insulted me like never before, when i didnt give her face, she extended her TOXIC words to my parents, my family, my background and my personality, that was when i lost it, if not for my cousin that was there i would have hit her, out of anger i told her to get the hell out of the house which of course i didnt mean, then she shocked me saying the house is ONLY in her name, i was numb and speechless, in other for me not to react in a brutal way i left the house, told her i would never step there again if she doesnt change it to my name ONLY. My cousin who was there when it happened told my people, they called me so i had to explain things, right now her family knows what happened and none is supporting her.

YES i said she should put my name only cos she belittled and betrayed me which tells me if it was in both our names she will raise shoulder and feel above me.YES i requested for transfer and i will go through with it, i cannot be away from my kids and still be in the same state, it doesnt make, when it is sucessful, i will get a place conducive amd comfortable for my kids, they will be with me. I told her recently not to bother with the name change anymore, she can have the house all to herself for all i care.

I wont divorce her because i dont believe in that, once i move with the kids she can come along if she wants but right now we are seperated. I wanted a partner, she displayed stupidity not smartness, what the future holds i dont know, she made her bed she should lay on it.

My humble submission.

1) marriages pass thru phases and the phase you and your wife is determines the future of the marriage. Pls talk things out with ur wife.

2)probably you acted like most men does when it comes to marriage, which is ; "i can spend money more on my family than yours ". Am not disputing the fact that ur half went on ur dad 's medication but be honest if it were hers would you had allowed her to use her half for her parents medication. You probably would have told her to give some certain amt. And if this were the case , she must have queried herself on what the future holds and did what she did .

3)that she used her name dosent mean she stopped loving you but its for future security should incase what you did or said by asking her to leave ur house comes up.

4)oga , women are moved by what they hear and you stopped telling her how much you appreciate her effort ,started having harmless friends like you said . Some whom you sometimes compliment and of cos she felt threatened of her position and ur Love. So stop all you did or do which made her to question your integrity .

5) you sound like one who doesnt apologise when he is wrong but maybe buys gifts to makeup, and she wil forgive and you wil still do same thing again. Oga things like this can make even the softest, most forgiving woman to harbour resentments ,and the day she will explode, you will marvel at the depth of bitterness from her mouth and i guess this is why you where shocked she insulted you and family members together .
You really pushed her by telling her to leave the house and her full bitterness came up. Show ur wife love and make her fill important again.

6)finally quarel brings out the worst in ppl ,so you showed her what she feared most by telling her to leave ur house and belives putting ur family ,s need most is the reason she did what she did. Pks you guys should make up, dont allow urself think you cant beg her .if this marriage is important to you then put pride aside , call your wife and thrash things out . Let her unburden her years accumulated resentment out and make her know that there is no other her if you claim you dont have another .

Ogwula mu na onu.

ExtraExtra:
Women are the backbone of the family, they make or mar the home, since they help bring life to the world suffice it to say they sum up what we call family, 99% of successful, longlasting home or family is the ability of the woman to hold the "forte".

My attention was drawn to this forum and this topic https://www.nairaland.com/4617351/husbands-pride-wants-ruin-home#69371294 and it is sad that most people drew conclusion on a one sided story though i wouldnt blame those involved because they judged based on what was said and the individual involved needed public validation for her wrong doing, a public display i dont approve of but since external persons and relations are already involved i'd like to clear some details.

"Dee" comes from a very well to do family while i dont so when we got married, i made her feel we are in this together, not one above the other but as partners in EVERYTHING. To be fair to her she brought up the business idea we did years ago, in other to put forth money to start up, i made sure i had equal money as her for it, goal was to own a property, build et al. Unfortunately my dad's ailing health deteriorated to the extent that he had to be flown out, when the profit came, i told her and she agreed, she decided we split it into two so she use hers for the initial plan. As the first born i went with my dad, back here she got the property and started building, when i came back the remaining money with me was used to complete it, what was left was used for my parents house. Being a trust worthy person i feel she is, i didnt bother to check documents cos i felt she would do the right thing by putting both our names which she kept in a bank.

Now, i work and own other businesses so i'm always in contact with alot of people from both genders so to her she feels i may have lost guard by cheating which is not true: i dont have password on my phones, i always make and receive calls right in front of her but she still think i'm hiding something and that was the genesis of the problem weeks ago, i rebuked her to cut it out immediately but she was out for blood, she insulted me like never before, when i didnt give her face, she extended her TOXIC words to my parents, my family, my background and my personality, that was when i lost it, if not for my cousin that was there i would have hit her, out of anger i told her to get the hell out of the house which of course i didnt mean, then she shocked me saying the house is ONLY in her name, i was numb and speechless, in other for me not to react in a brutal way i left the house, told her i would never step there again if she doesnt change it to my name ONLY. My cousin who was there when it happened told my people, they called me so i had to explain things, right now her family knows what happened and none is supporting her.

YES i said she should put my name only cos she belittled and betrayed me which tells me if it was in both our names she will raise shoulder and feel above me.YES i requested for transfer and i will go through with it, i cannot be away from my kids and still be in the same state, it doesnt make, when it is sucessful, i will get a place conducive amd comfortable for my kids, they will be with me. I told her recently not to bother with the name change anymore, she can have the house all to herself for all i care.

I wont divorce her because i dont believe in that, once i move with the kids she can come along if she wants but right now we are seperated. I wanted a partner, she displayed stupidity not smartness, what the future holds i dont know, she made her bed she should lay on it.

My humble submission.

1) marriages pass thru phases and the phase you and your wife is determines the future of the marriage. Pls talk things out with ur wife.

2)probably you acted like most men does when it comes to msrriage, which is ; "i can can spend money more on my family than yours ". Am not disputing the fact that ur half went on ur dad 's mefication but be honest if it were her would you had allowed use her half for her parents mefication. You probably would have told to give some certain amt. And if this is the case , she must have queried herdelf on what the future holds and did what she did .

3)that she used her name didnt mean she stopped loving you but its a future security should incase what you did or said by asking her to leave ur house comes up.

4)oga , women are moved by what they hear and you stopped telling her how much you appreciate her effort ,started having harmless friends like you said . Some whom you sometimes compliment and of cos she felt threatened of her position and ur Love. So stop all you did or do which made her to question your integrity .

5) you sound like one who doesnt apologise when he is wrong but maybe buys gifts to makeup, and she wil forgive and you wil still do same thing again. Oga things like this can make even the softest, most forgiving woman to harbour resentments ,and the day she will explode, you will marvel at the depth of bitterness from her mouth and i guess this is why you where shocked she insulted you and family members together .
You really pushed her by telling her to leave the house and her full bitterness came up. Show ur wife love and make her fill important again.

6)finally quarel brings out the worst in ppl ,so you showed her what she feared most by telling her to leave ur house and belives putting ur family ,s need most is the reason she did what she did. Pks you guys should make up, dont allow urself think you cant beg her .if this marriage is important to you then put pride aside , call your wife and thrash things out . Let her unburden her years accumulated resentment out and make her know that there is no other her if you claim you dont have another .

Ogwula mu na onu.

kingem:
OP

They're not conjoined... it's just photo effect

check their instagram page... they are separate twins

ima akwukwo. Surprised at ppl thinking they are conloined. Didnt they read the article ?

Waiting for cr7 fan to respond to this ....

Waiting for cr7 fans to respond to this ....

Sisijetue:
Chai...see this baby

So sad and heartbroken.

MrBrownJay1:
is it me or she doesnt look too happy about her "gift"?

Soo looking like she is forced to stand for the camera . You av got sharp eyes o

izzou:


Thank you TechCapon

Errmm... I want to officially ask for your help, dear nairalanders

Please, now that we know cars that are no longer produced, if you have any Toyota Venza that you are not using......please, I beg you, just dash me

I know we have so many millionaires on nairaland that may feel irritated just by reading this thread. I beg you, Don't throw that Venza away, or leave it to rust. Just call me to come and pick the keys up. Abeg


I await your Pms as you read this please.

Thanks in anticipation

Bro, abeg no just kee,me with laugh.

Pls the red flag or banner in btw our nigerian flag in the decorations,abeg which country get am ? Or abi we don get two flags ?

Shortyy:
Nice outfit. But why exactly is she being celebrated??
Mehn! See our ETF. Sometimes I feel like going back to school.

LOL, cant forget prof igwe and our cs exams those days. He wil put 2 in a sit with wide gap beside abd behind as not to ask any one. Na the spill over stds i dey pity den ....he wil put them front ,front and space dem like 10 ft from others. And he was even my project supervisor . Imo star alert !

Alredy checking my fingers .... update my findings later. Thanks for the info , OP.

GoTV:
Even though I'm a born again Chris.....

LOL.

CriticMaestro:
I just heard that neymar won't fly with the brazilian squad back to Brazil, instead he will dive from Russia to brazil..wow what a talent

Lol , what a match. Neymar gone who is next ??

missyblissy:
Eyah.... Brazil sorry join us now!!! Another 4 years. All bets will be wrong this period cos this world cup matches na SURPRISE i tell you. Nobody expected Brazil to loose

I dey tell you. No be small surprise matta.

zainabope:
Brazil go score one goal last last. We just need to remove Belgium's goalkeeper and Brazil go score goal.

The most fantastic world cup ever. The big names are all down. Messi, ronaldo , neymar don join too. Eweee e .

monlawal:
If this marriage is 17years and the girl has already grown to the extent of sleeping with married men, it can therefore be concluded that she is a product of extra marital affair.

She is still a teenager and she has such record. Anyways she was transmitted in the process of transmission between her cheating dad and her willing mum

I like ur deductions, or it simply means the story was cooked up.

nairalandaddict:
the number plate are different

Honestly , had been looking at the thing o. Or is dat his other ride. If not, nigerians like him, be forming what they dont have and are not.

GoTV:
Even though I'm a born again Christian, this is why i love Muslims. Instead of allowing the young girl to roam around dating and sleeping with several boyfriends like we Christians do, it's better to marry her and allow her stick to a man. We Christians are hypocrites, we condemn this while majority of us engage in sexual indiscipline

Must you start every comment with eventhough am a born again christain ? Kind of makes me doubt your authenticity . Peace.

LOL. The pidgin commentary said that ronaldo and portugal should fill the tank to join messi at the airport. Berra, the two competitors goes home same to aviod supremacy rule . Lol

Nbote:
Dats his own medal for being on d bench...

Lolest lol

Speechless . Let me try and console my self

She did well.

ABDULSODEEQ:
Nigeria of course,but we will be heartbroken to see Messi sad!! Pure truth bro

Standing btw the devil and deep sea but for today , i go with my country nigeria.

Earthbound:
It is a bittersweet feeling not watching this game.



Person for don collapse

Honextly, the tension wan kill me o. I just enter room dey browse am online but the tension still dey online kwa. God pls help US. Help super eagles, Amen .

She is fine girl.

Cant still find it

Lol , the fear of naija bashing is the beginning of wisdom

Baba GOD THANK YOU O. congratulations to super eagles .[color=#006600][/color]

Baba GOD THANK YOU O. congratulations to super eagles .

Goooooooooooooaaaaaaaaaal.