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alphonsojaybaz:
https://eyesoflagos.com/man-reviews-hilda-bacis-largest. -pot-of-jollof-rice-attempt-not-impressed/

Justseyii:
Marriage is often seen as a lifelong journey of love and compromise, but what happens when the changes one partner makes to feel better about themselves begin to push the other away?

For Terry* (43), his wife’s obsession with skin-lightening treatments and cosmetic procedures has left him questioning whether honesty in marriage sometimes does more harm than good.

At the end, you’ll get to decide: Did he Bleep up or not?

This is Terry’s dilemma, as shared with Mofiyinfoluwa
My wife, Lara*, and I have been married for almost eight years, and we have three kids together. When we first got married, she was caramel-skinned and very beautiful. I loved her exactly the way she was.

In the past few years, though, she has become obsessed with her skin tone and often says she wishes she were fairer. I always reassured her that I liked her as she was, but she never believed me. She started paying for instant bleaching baths and other whitening treatments.

At first, I didn’t think much of it, but now her skin is noticeably lighter, with green veins popping out and dark spots appearing. To me, she looks older than her 41 years.

She also got semi-permanent eyebrows that look like they were drawn on with a marker. Whenever I say I don’t like these things, she reminds me that it is her body, her choice, and that she never asks me for money to pay for them.

The truth is, I no longer find her as attractive as I once did. It has even affected our sex life because I rarely feel the desire to initiate. On top of that, I’ve noticed an odd odour, and the fragile look of her skin makes me uncomfortable.

Things came to a head recently when she tried to kiss me, and I flinched. She got angry right away and accused me of cheating. I swore I wasn’t. I hardly even have the time in between working long hours at the bank. But when she pushed, I admitted I don’t like the bleaching and the procedures. Instead of hearing me out, she got defensive, saying I was trying to control her and reminding me again that she makes her own money and pays for everything herself.

What hurt me most was when she reminded me that I wasn’t the same either. Back when we first met, I used to work out, but now I’ve gained weight and developed a potbelly. She implied that if I had stopped caring about my own body, then she had every right to change hers however she wanted. She even mentioned that Botox was next on her list.

In the heat of the moment, I lost my temper and shouted that she looked ugly and I no longer found her attractive. She broke down crying, moved into the guest room that night, and the next day, she left for her father’s house. Since then, her family members have bombarded me with insults, painting me as the villain.

Now our marriage feels strained. I promised for better or worse, but I’m not sure I can handle this version of worse. I don’t want a divorce because of the kids, and also because it would make me look even worse. Still, her looks no longer appeal to me. If she keeps changing herself like this, I won’t be able to cope. I’m afraid it might push me into temptations I don’t want.

Marriage is supposed to be about unconditional love, but I feel myself slipping out of love with her. I just wish she would consider my feelings, too. Now, I’m stuck wondering if being honest has only made things worse between us.

Source: https://studentvillage.com.ng/forums/topic/na-me-f-up-i-told-my-wife-she-looked-ugly-after-bleaching/

helinues:
Troublesome Sowore. With all your attacking of the president, that won't make Nigerians to vote for you. Then why not give it a rest

Angelfrost:
...And someone said Guns should be liberalized and made available to all Nigerians.

Look at how so called security operatives have turned into marauding killers just because guns were given to them.


Just imagine firearms in the possession of every street thug and lowlife in this nation.


Yes it should

If everyone there had a gun the shooter won’t dare to shoot cos it will come will great regret. You give one gun and not the other
Haiti will be paradise compared to what becomes of this nation.

Baawaa:
Brother forget,your food is nothing,I travelled to North in 2018,I spent 2 weeks I cannot eat any of your food,When I got back to my base people were asking me did I sick, because I did eat good food for two weeks

Powerbandooo:
And you can have a partner, that plans in getting rid of you without knowing it, still would be showing fake love around

This life is a risk itself, nobody is 100% safe

bigpicture001:
... first and foremost, I cut my clothe according to my size... I dnt go after ladies with very high maintainance or unending list of demands...I specifically go after moderate ladies, also, I made my gf understand I am not a rich guy, but we can work thing out standing by ourselves...

But nomata how u do it, ladies will always be demanding of u to spend and spend..since that is the only way to show love by a guy in this part of the world .
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I am a mid range earner...sh also works but in low income...as usual once a while there are stylish demand for u to assist financially so inorder not to embarrass her or annoy me or come at a time I am broke...I created a plan...

I noted issues which usually need my financial assistance more often...

Data, sickness, credit, and sometimes direct financial support...

For the data..I migrated her to glo, ND did an Always ON plan for her..one of 5k for one month which gives her 1G everyday...l continually subscribe it for her . If sh use all watch sabinus lafter zone, na she sabi. nomata what, sh must wait for tomorrow to get another.. data problem solved..I warned her not to b calling with that data..and buy credit instead...

On credit.. sh buys it herself... And I dnt tolerate it when sh need to call me and didn't cuz sh don't HV credit...


On health.. I used 12k to register her for health insurance for a year at the nearest hospital closest to her.. that way.. whenever sh tells me I am not feeling fine.. I simply reply, go to the hospital na.. it's free... Sh no dey bring that talk come again, but honestly, it helps her alot...

On financial support.. I gift her 25k monthly... But sh doesn't know... Sh believes my giving are endless..... Before the end of first week of the month, I send her money... Sometimes, 5k. Next month might be 15k, another might b 8k,10, as the spirit moves me... And in the third week I send the rest Wich must total 25k..

And if I send her sometimes 8k ND maybe forgot the rest when the month is almost spent, I buy her gift with the rest or take her out entirely... All within the 25k...

That way I satify all my supposed gifting requirements in a relationship...

Guyz how do u see this my method...

Dnt mind those that will rush to thread to shout simp, simp, na them do pass self...


I believe in plans, I believe if u dnt plan, u waste money

Barrywilly:
What's the benefits of all these Ai apps by the Americans other than ripping us off and making the youths to be intellectually lazy, redundant and unable to think and be creative with their brains.

RealTrump:
Na mostly people wey never enter Naija plane dey talk trash about K1. Very useless airlines, apart from Ibom air.

The idiots are allowed to delay your flight till the next day but you are not allowed to stop them on the tarmac? Who cook that lie for una?

Which other climes do the useless airlines delay that much for "technical reasons."

I understand K1, his grievance with the airlines didn't start with that single incident.

helinues:
AI might soon be banned as people have been doing crazy things with it lately

The AI is becoming more powerful that we might not be able to control it

Sirkingsnado:
Ok boss

She changed because the work is not meant for her and at the same time I promise to stay by her

Sirkingsnado:
Ok boss

She changed because the work is not meant for her and at the same time I promise to stay by her

Sirkingsnado:
Good Day Everyone.

I hope some of you all might had forgotten me,
Actually am the guy that made a post title
About to wed a prostitute.

Some months back.

After the set and done she abort the baby.
Ever since then I promise to be by her side

She has stopped being a sex worker ever since then and do come and spend some months with me here in rano

Our relationship is being known by the both families although I didn't open up to any of my relatives how I meet her, only my friends and area people knows about her past


Had made up my mind to wife her.

Am not even planning on relocating again

I just engage her some weeks ago

Igbo boy going to marry a tiv girl

Wish me luck hommies.


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