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Damnfailure:
We are tools God uses to sustain himself. By our worship. Hence he creating an unbalanced world where some are suffering while others enjoying. This unblanced life makes us seek him worship and that ustains him.

Why does he need us to sustain himself?

We are supposed to depend on him to sustain us.

What do you mean by sustain??

isaiah4life:
Earth needed you so badly. God had no option than to create a special being like you to come help earth out.

Your suffering and trials are part of the solution mechanism. Don't give up. Don't make temporal hardship stop you from unleashing what's inside of you.

Hmmm I see

The question has given me sleepiness nights
What is our purpose in life??
Why were we not left uncreated
Why suffer?

Maybe my meaningless ranting should be ignored....

Kobicove:
The problem is with you!

I know that is why I need help

Newyorkitis:
Don't wish for a bad friend, please.

I really do not know the kind of novels you read, brotherly. However, I'll suggest you read how to win frend and influence people by Dale Carnegie.

On another level, you have to see other people as unique and not as items to be taken from your shelf whenever you need them.

Also, use your phone to read about current issues and you won't run out of ideas when having a conversation.
Cheers!

Thanks for this I will download the book

TheN1:
Perhaps you walk around with a scowl on your face. Even extremely quiet people still have people who walk up to them and want to be friends.

Anyway, always have a pleasant disposition. Move close to where people are having a conversation. Listen to them and occasionally chip in. With time you'll have one or two people who know you and don't mind talking to you.

You must learn to make an attempt at friendship. It may be hard at first but it'll get much easier with time.

I actually have a smile on my face and I have had people walk up to me to be my friend but I end up pushing them away because when next I see them I usually have nothing to say and end up ignoring them. I just find it hard to make friends.

Joysticks:
You are a private person.Nothing to worry about.

I can stay indoors all day long for a week without knowing what is going on outside
I am not comfortable with it but it seems like I can't do anything about it

NNtv:
I truly understand what you are going through because am also an introvert. One horrible thing is that I sometimes cutoff from friends, even when there was no issues between us. And later I will be looking for their attention.

One thing that has been saving me is that people like me, but I find it difficult to open up myself for them. I only crack jokes, we laugh and that's all.


So, I will advise you to always go out to event places...
If you like computer or playing instruments. Go find a place to learn it. From there you can socialize with people there.
Don't look for a girlfriend rather try to make platonic friends. Just normal female friends that you can ask questions, discuss some certain topics with. You can archive this by looking for a girl that sales something you buy regularly. Always go to her shop or office, ask her about a common topic or about the hardship in the country.


You need to travel very often. When you see any amount of money in your hand that can take you to a city or a town. Enter buss, and travel to a place, just to learn about the place, ask questions about the place and visit restaurants there. Talk to strangers more.

Remember, you are the only one that can make yourself happy, so do the things that excites you.

I will try my best to do some of these

MONEY247:
First of all.... what are your likes
The things you like doing or that interests you should bring like minded people to you thereby making friends..,..
You don't need many friends.... you need friends that are resourceful......
Reasonable ones.....
If you are a thief... surely thieves would be your friends
If you are pastor surely you will have more pastor friends..,

Just look for people with like mind in things that you like doing..... from there your friends would come

Alright thanks

Double0h7:
How do we help you? We can't talk for you... If this is bothering you then you have to make the changes. Nobody will approach you, and then carry the conversation, and look for you.

You have to take a chance and be ready for rejection, and then dust yourself off and try again anyway. You might have to try a number of times, and face a number of rejections before you could build your community.

You have to do the work and try. If you're shy then push yourself, face the discomfort and keep trying because you will get better at it but like most things in life you gotta practice.

I don't even know how to keep a conversation

gift0123:
Where do you reside?

citywal:
Where do u live?

Kaduna

everythinggirly:
Pray to God.
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You definitely don't understand

Help me
I have no Friends at all not even a single person who I can talk to.
I spend my entire time on my phone either playing games, watching movies, reading novels or browsing on the Internet and when I am not doing all these I am sleeping. I spend my entire day indoors but even the times I go outside I don't have anyone to talk to or play with. Throughout my day in the polytechnic I had no single friend in school when I finished my ND I was alone taking pictures and no one even celebrated with me.
I heard my siblings today talking about how they will spend their Christmas day with people yet I can't even relate well with my siblings.
I can't keep a chat going with people online or offline because sometimes I run out of what to say.
I don't even have a girlfriend nor have I ever asked a girl out, I don't even know what to say to them.
Any advice is appreciated all I need is to stop this boring lifestyle of mine.
I see people on the street laughing and joking, sometimes insulting each other and wish I am among them. I really need a friend even if it's a bad one