Softorgasm: most people on nairaland feel too big and are covered by online pride, they will not wish even a single person happy new month but they will be waiting to reply i wish you the same and same to you, when someone mentions them..
Nonsense!!! who are you forming Beyonce for?
There are only two people that are worthy of my greetings in the whole of nairaland, [b]these ones appreciates you for who you are.. so I'm wishing cherlene and oyind17 a happy new month.. These month, the two of you shall achieve what others have not achieve in 20 years, an extraordinary blessings.[/b]
Awwwwh, at bolded.
I declare it in Jesus name, amen. To your prayer.
May you EXCEL in all your ENDEAVORS and may God rain down unto you all His blessings.
Toks2008: Hello swerries and dudes...i believe you are all good and for those facing one or two challenges please understand that only GOD can give you succour so whether you are a muslim or christian,believe in the power of fasting and prayer and all will come out well
lastmaster: Gud one bro, imagine my babe telling me dat she have done much for me, and I asked her what, she said I so much love sex and she have been giving it to me freely without complain and do I want to sex her to death. This is a lady dat can't contribute 1 kobo in the relationship. I just open mouth dey look am.Dat was d last time I made love to her just to tell her dat I can survive without sex.
importexpert: We men have always said that women are the most complex creatures God has ever created. And some of us still hold this view. But when we hear women say that they do not understand us, we get shocked! Really?! We are the simplest creatures on the earth (you may choose not to agree though). Where you women have pages of things you expect of us, our list is quite simple. I mean very simple. Once you can understand what we want, you’ve struck gold. And yes, don’t assume to know what we want. Know it instead. When you do, you will be able to meet our needs. When you do, you will have made yourself too valuable to lose. So, here are eight things we really want in a relationship.
1. Be Independent: If you ask an average Naija guy, he would put it very bluntly thus: “stop demanding for money!” A young man cannot be trying to build his future and you keep demanding money from him incessantly. Nobody wants a leech. Be independent for yourself. Work with your own hands. Make your own money. Take care of yourself. Once you do, our attraction to you skyrockets. And when you become independent, you won’t need to beg us for money. Ask any guy around, he will give anything to a woman that does not ask him. Yes, the less you ask, the more valuable you tend to become, and the more you will eventually receive from us.
2. Invest in the relationship: When we want a relationship, we are not seeking to add another load to our burden, please. A woman who makes a man keep working in a relationship will soon lose him. The era of killing ourselves over a relationship is fast winding up. Buy us gifts from your own money. Call us with your own airtime. Pamper us when you see the need to. You are not the only one that wants to feel loved in a relationship; men do too! We want to see that we are really in a relationship with someone and not with ourselves.
3. Be homely: Men love beautiful women. But what is the advantage of a woman that is not homely? Or a woman that will fry plantains and serve us something that looks like coal? You visit your man’s house and notice it is ruffled; you complain about it but have never made an attempt to tidy it up. No one is asking that you perform all the roles of a wife, but we have to see that you can take care of a home. You think we want to return from work and see cobwebs everywhere? Be homely. Learn how to cook dishes rather than always pushing us to eatery. Learn how to keep a home.
4. Give us space: Yes, we may love you; but that does not mean we have to be together always. You need to hang out with your friends. But if you chose not to, don’t try to tie us around you. We don’t want a woman who will not give us space to breathe fresh air. Understand this; you cannot stop us from watching football matches. You cannot stop us from having a guys’ timeout. Relationship is not a prison. In fact, if you want your market to sell with us, encourage us to go watch the games. Come along if possible and do the shouting with us. You can even invite our friends over to play video games while you offer to make us snacks. That will be one of the most romantic thing you can do. In fact, your wife material will just increase by 200 yards instantly.
5. Don’t even think about changing us: Even our parents did not think about changing us. We love the way we are. If you know you are not happy with it, then you should never have said ‘yes’ to our proposal. If we love being indoors, don’t suddenly expect us to start going out. If we love being silent for one hour a day, don’t even imagine that you can get us to stop that routine. Kolewerk! We may have bad habits. Is that a new stuff? We may have flaws. Is that a strange ‘something’? When you agreed to be in a relationship with us, you were signing up for the full version of us. So, just hold your peace and love us like that.
6. Be faithful: While this goes both ways, it is one of the most important things we look out for. There are too many incidents of infidelity around. And it bothers us, especially if we are really interested in the relationship. Does that mean we cannot trust you? Not at all. But don’t ever give us a reason to think you are being unfaithful. I will say in my own opinion that most relationships of today get broken because of cheating than anything else. You don’t believe me? Read break up stories on nairaland. If you are sure it is a guy you want, then be true with him. If you are tired of the relationship, then walk away. It is called a ‘relationship’ not a ‘group meeting’.
7. Remain good looking: We know the usual cliché: “it takes good looks to attract a man but character will keep him.” But never forget what that we are creatures of sight. Don’t assume that you can let your physical looks go just because we are in a relationship. We want women that we can show off. Dress good. Watch your weight. Exercise if you need too. Some of us do not really fancy heavy makeup. Well, you have to know which your man is. But at all cost, please, keep looking good.
8. Support us: You have no idea how many times a guy needs encouragement. Because you see us smiling always, you now assume all is rosy? We encounter a lot of challenges. We face plenty disappointments. The responsibility to be a man can be crushing. It is real! Support us. If we are down, become our cheerleader. If things turn around negatively, stay with us. Motivate us. Let us know that you believe in us even when we do not believe in ourselves. Tell us you approve of us unconditionally. No need to nag or be contentious. Instead, be our peace! Don’t be indifferent when you notice we are down. That will be a very bad idea.
So, there we have it! Is there anything complex about this list? Of course not! We hope you women can now get along with us easily. Thank you for your cooperation.
P. S
Guys, did I omit something? Feel free to indicate in your comments. Ladies, what do you all think?
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Part of the reason why men dont like when their wife is richer is because they want to dominate the woman but the more financialy independent a person (male or female), the less possible it is to doninate that person. So they say a richer woman will be proud but it is that she will not agree to be subjugated.
They also seem to think a richer wife won't have time to take care of the home. They want a maid as a wife who will be in the kitchen or in the bed.
Personally, if I have a wife that's richer, better for us as the family have more disposable income and the standard of living rises. I dont see the need to control my wife as we are partners, we can just be ourselves.
And on the issue of taking care of the house, my wife is not a maid. I will rather employ a maid and pay the maid to do that. Heck, aint nothing sexier than your wife going for a board meeting and coning back to "thank" you for supporting her prepare for it.
But then again, what do I know? I dont even have a GF.
soberdrunk: The truth is in this era of 'slay queens' and 'instagram celebs', it is very hard to find a 'single', 'beautiful', 'intelligent', 'mature' lady that is worth settling down with, 'almost' every fine girl now has the 'runs girl' mentality and even our musicians like Yemi Alade are not helping matters, what type of song is "If you love me you go buy me ferrari, if you love me, you go pay me salary"! Gone are the days when ladies used to pick their partners based on 'prospects', now its based on 'wallet', the annoying part is that even the 'working class' ladies too have also developed this 'runs girl' mentality that my man must reward me financially, as if relationship is now 'employment'
bodejohn: We are in the days where deceit is celebrated and truth is scorned...
Imagine that the lady had aborted the pregnancies of those children, most of the folks talking above would have fallen head over heels with her...not knowing her past. But since she chose to live with the consequences of her actions...we jump to call her names...even though we might be worse than her.
OP, if your story is true, I pity that you came to NL to seek for opinions...you must be blaming yourself for that already.
My own opinion about single mums, I prefer a lady who is open with her past...a lady who chose to face the consequences of her actions than the one who had covered adultery and fornication with blue cold blood murder.
wouldnt it be lovely if our nigerian brothers based overseas get married to beautiful foreign ladies like u and QueenSuccubus .but no ..they prefer going for the uglies and they bring them to naija to boast that they have hooked up with a gem
lefulefu: i have always said white guys got taste .if they want to marry an african or asian woman they marry the best.but our fellow naija brothers based overseas if dem wan marry oyibo woman na the ones wey get face like horse and tobacco stained teeth like donkey and weighing over 800 pounds(shaka ma kunza) na im our naija brothers dey date and marry.is it that the Eva Mendez or Jennifer Lopez look alikes no dey gree for dem? na waoh .oh and she has ukwu sef..hmm white guys don really dey upgrade.congrats amigo.
chuks34: Today is bright Still I can't write Cuz am hungry And very angry Nigeria Bahd economy Is making me think of commiting felony But where is My president I guess he's relaxing in his residence Sai Buhari I can't buy garri A rubber is now nine hundred When am having just five hundred Well I'll just go to bed Hope my hunger comes to rest
Recession, is seriously taking a TOLL ON THE LIVES of so many in Nigeria.
ThinkSmarter: immoral ke #TeamVirgin Abi #teamBornAgain . What if they decide to abort the baby secretly just to make ur likes happy There's nothing wrong in giving birth before official marriage. It may be that they don't have money for the ceremony then or due to other circumstances.
Romance / Re: For Single Guys Above 30 And Single Ladies Above 25 by Cherlene(f): 8:55pm On May 01, 2017 
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