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INTRODUCTION

“I, ____, take you, ____, to be my lawfully wedded (husband/wife), to have and to hold, from this day forward, for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, until death do us part or the Lord comes for His own, and hereto I pledge you my faithfulness”.

The quotation above is one of hundreds ceremonial vows often administered to and recited before many witnesses by couples during marriage feasts, after which they proceed to sign the dotted lines. It is usually an exciting moment. Most often the spouses, overwhelmed by the excitement, spend no thought to have a reflection on the obligations engraved in the recitations. Marriage is beyond ceremonial recitations.

Whether couples recite vows or not, marriage institution is itself a sacred vow that must be kept. The Almighty God who instituted marriage describes it as a good thing, which attracts favour (Prov.18:22). This is true as long as the spouses wholly agree to leave, cleave, become one (Gen.2:24) and discharge their divine obligations as contained in the scripture. It is unfortunate that many couples are today enduring instead of enjoying their marriages. It is the failures of the spouses to uphold these divine obligations that breed dereliction, infidelity and sometimes divorce. This lesson examines the causes and dangers of infidelity in marriage. It also highlights God’s warning on the sin of infidelity.

DEFINITION OF TERMS

Danger: According to Cambridge Advance Learner’s Dictionary (Third Edition) the word Danger means “the possibility of harm or death to someone, something or someone that may harm you”. Is it true that infidelity in marriage has the potentials to harm or kill? This question shall be answered in the course of this lesson.

Infidelity: Wikipedia defines Infidelity as “a violation of a couple’s assumed or stated contract regarding emotional and/or sexual exclusivity”. It is a marital disloyalty, adultery, unfaithfulness and a breach of trust. When it comes to sex and relationships, potential problems are constantly brewing for couples. Though some may have a slightly different definition of what qualifies as infidelity, in the context of this lesson it involves sexual or emotional betrayal. Our Lord Jesus further clarified the definition when He said “You have heard that it was said, ‘Do not commit adultery.’ But I tell you that anyone who looks at a woman lustfully has already committed adultery with her in his heart.”(Matt 5:28).

Marriage: The marriage discussed in this lesson is a social institution under which a man and woman establish their decision to live as husband and wife by legal commitments, religious, ceremonies, etc. According to American Tract Society Dictionary, Marriage is “The union for life of one man and one woman, (which) is an ordinance of the Creator for the perpetuity and happiness of the human race”. This agrees with Genesis 2:24.

CAUSES OF INFIDELITY

The causes of unfaithfulness in marriage are diverse, spanning through socio-economic factors and spiritual deficiencies. There is however none of the reasons that may be adduced that gives justification to infidelity, which is a sin before God. In this lesson, the following causes of infidelity have been discussed:

Disobedience to the Word of God: The primary reason of infidelity in Christian marriages is the failure of the couple to hold fast the word of God. Christians are repeatedly warned against adultery, but adherence to this divine injunction has become a problem in several homes. If the partners were to understand and uphold just one verse of the scripture each – the husband, Colossians 3:18 and the wife, Colossian 3:19, cases of infidelity would not be named among Christian families. When submissiveness, love and the fear of God are absent in the home, the relationship between the husband and wife cannot be harmonious. When there is love and mutual respect, the Holy Spirit takes charge of the home and resists any socio-economic factor that may bring instability including conjugal infidelity.

The Old Friend Syndrome: Before getting married, many people go into close and long relationship with opposite sex, particularly at the secondary school and university levels. Sometimes such relationships lead to regular premarital sex and fornication. Most often, the female partner in the relationship, apparently aging faster, get married to another man, since the one in relationship would insist he is not ready for marriage.

Although the lady now has a husband, communication with the old friend has not been severed, emotions and memories still linger. The old boyfriend may eventually have his own wife, but still sustaining the amorous tie with the old girlfriend. The result of such sustained relationship often leads to adultery and infidelity. This explains why the scripture warns against fornication among Christians because it finally culminates into infidelity and other severe consequences.

Multiple Sex Partners before Marriage: Some individuals while still singles, get so overwhelmed in sex activities such that they become maniacs, wanting to sleep with whosoever comes across them. This illicit affair continues and with time turning to a way of life. It becomes difficult for such persons to be satisfied emotionally and sexually by their spouses in post marital life. They always would want to continue with the old habit of moving from one person to another. A Christian who marries such a person has already brought an unending problem to himself/herself. Having multiple sex partners before marriage increases depression and higher rates of infidelity and divorce in future marriages.

Lack of Communication among Spouses: Communication is very essential in matrimonial relationships. It is the oil that actually lubricates and sparks up a relationship. Talking between spouses enhances their bond and helps them to fulfill their emotional, mental and sexual needs. Unfortunately, some husbands and wives do not see constant communication as important in their marriages. The inability for spouses to meet their communication needs is a reason enough for them to resort to outside help.

This is why many people are excited to talk and chat with their friends, neighbours, colleagues and co-workers, but back home with their spouses they are dull and mute. Constant communication engenders affinity and if done with opposite sex outside matrimonial home could develop into emotional attachment, sexual relationship and adultery. Christian couple should chat constantly with themselves, talking about their daily experiences, sharing the word of God, and discussing family matters. Misunderstanding that may necessitate a break in communication should be promptly resolved.

Boredom in the Home: Closely related to lack or poor communication among couple is boredom at home. Partners in a relationship that has no sense of humour, excitement, adventure and fun in it, find it hard to stay in the relationship. Loss of spark in a relationship can lead the husband or wife to look out for opportunities outside of the marriage, thereby inviting infidelity. Christian families should from time to time sit out and engage in recreational activities together. They should also develop new approaches to alter the old bedroom routines and consciously making their marriages refreshed. In Proverbs 17:22 we are told that “a merry heart doeth good like a medicine, but a broken spirit drieth the bones.”

Lack of Affection: Another cause of infidelity is not showing concern and affection towards one another in the relationship. Some couples are less sentimental, less romantic, and less generous when it comes to expressing love. It is a wrong notion that only women crave for affection. Men need to feel loved too. In a family where there is love, the husband and the wife exchange sweet and romantic words and gestures.

They seldom attend public functions without the other. Some of those who cheat their lovers crave for tenderness, and that’s why they end up seeking affection in someone else’s arms. Spouses must not forget to show love to each other (Eph.5:33). They could express their love through words or actions (Col.4:6). They should kiss themselves more often, embrace each other and make charming surprises. They have the license to do anything as a mark of expressing love towards each other. This kind of behavior definitely ends up improving relationship and keeping infidelity at bare.

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The history of man is coloured with series of developmental stages characterized by challenges. One of such challenges faced by man is “The Battle against lie and deceit”

Lie and deceit are a cumbersome burden to many people among whom are some unfortunate Christians who have been caught in the web. Like a spider has made it practically impossible for its preys to extricate themselves from her tentacle so is the case with lying people in hands of their master – the devil “… he is a liar and a father of it…” (John 8:44).

Explicitly, Exodus 20: 3-4 emphatically commands that “thou shall not lie” and invariably Hebrews 6:18 and Numbers 23:19 vouch that “it is eternally impossible for God to lie” and as an alternating feature of the devil against God, the devil is a liar and father of all lies (John 8:44). As such, Christians who lie are joint-heirs with the devil the kingdom of hell (Rev. 21:. Therefore, it is expected that lies and deceits should not be mentioned among Christians (Col. 3:9).

THE CONCEPT OF LIES AND DECEITS.
Lie, according to Oxford Advanced Learner Dictionary is to say or write something that you know is not true. 1 John 2:21 ‘…no lie is truth.’ From the same source, deceit means a dishonest behavior that is intended to make somebody believes something that is not true. The differences between lie and deceit is that lie is generally spoken or written; but deceit includes anything, whether words or deeds that are intended to mislead people to believe what is not true. Lie and Deceit, in a nutshell, suggest dubious character aimed at misinforming, misleading or misrepresenting the truth (Rom. 1:25).

THE PRONENESS OF CHRISTIANS TO LIE AND DECEIT.
Man is good at the point of birth but the society is the corrupter of man. There are always two spirits speaking alternatively in a man’s mind, whether or not to tell lies or act deceitfully. Lie and deceit are sicknesses comparable to the disease of leprosy. When you extend a handshake to a leper, he converts it into a permanent hug. The same is the situation with lie and deceit.

When one tells the first lie, he is forced to invent supporting lies. Lie and deceit by nature have a reduplicating tendency, this means that they multiply.

THERE CAN BE MANY LIES BUT ONE TRUTH JOHN 8:32.

On the contrary, lies and deceit need many supports to stand the taste of time. This is why Veronica Ruth says that ‘lie and deceit require commitment’

Lying is synonymous with cell division in the body which, if out of control, turns to cancer and cancer kills (Acts 5:3, Heb. 6:4-6). Peter had the opportunity to correct the lies he had earlier told that he was not connected with Christ, instead, he perfected the lie by building on it (John 18:16,18,25-27; Luke 22:54-62).

In this respect, hypocrisy and vainglory forced them to lie. Also, in the story of Ananias and his wife, she had the opportunity to refute the lies told by her husband instead, she perfected it (Act 5:1-11). From these two instances of lies considered above, you will agree that truth does not cost anything but lie and deceit cost everything; one lie is enough to question all truth.

Christians today equally have these pressures around them. These pressures may persuade or dissuade them from telling lies depending on the Christian’s maturity or immaturity. Recall the story of Shedrach, Meshack and Abednego in Daniel 3:15.

In a bid to survive economic, political, social cultural and academic challenges, some Christians could be tempted to lie just like Jacob lied that he was Esau, so as to get his father’s blessings and wealth. “I am” Gen. 27:24. Christians are believed to be a righteous people and as such should resist lying and deceit or their tendencies by all available means (Proverb 13:15).

BIBLICAL INSTANCES OF DECEIT
Many people make superficial promises which they are sincerely aware that they have no intention of fulfilling. This tantamount to what is perceived as deceit by deliberately misleading the people. Are we guilty of this? (Jeremiah 5:2; Exodus 21:18; Psalm 24:4;1:4 Mathew 21: 30). On the other hand, we could make promises believing God to fulfill them but life challenges could hinder us from fulfilling them. In this situation, deceit is not the case. On the contrary:

Genesis 29:18, 28 gives a stretch account about Jacob’s ordeal of deceit in the hand of his uncle Laban. Having bargained to serve his uncle for seven years to get the hand of Rachael in marriage, Laban ended up presenting Leah in place of Rachael. Jacob expressed it that Laban beguiled or deceived him.
Pharaoh deceived Moses by promising severally to free the Israelites if the plagues were removed but did not keep his promises (Exodus 8:28-29).
Joseph brothers sold him to the Midianites: they soaked his coat in animal blood, brought it to Jacob and told him that his son had been killed by a wild animal (Gen 37:28,31 33).
Elymas the sorcerer tried to prevent Sergius Paulus from accepting the gospel. Paul accused him of being full of deceit and fraud (Acts 13:6-10).

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Character is defined as the strength of moral fiber. A. W. Tozer described character as “the excellence of moral being.” As the excellence of gold is its purity and the excellence of art is its beauty, so the excellence of man is his character. Persons of character are noted for their honesty, ethics, and charity.

Descriptions such as “a man of principle” and ”woman of integrity” are assertions of character. A lack of character is a moral deficiency, and persons lacking character tend to behave dishonestly, unethically and uncharitably.

A person’s character is the sum of his or her disposition, thoughts, desires and actions. It is good to remember that character is gauged by general tendencies, not on the basis of a few isolated actions. We must look at the whole life.

For example, King David was a man of good character (1 Sam 13:14), although he sinned on few occasions (2 Sam 11). And although Ahab may have acted nobly once (1 Kgs 22:35), he was still a man of overall bad character (1 Kgs 16:33). Several people in the Bible are described as having noble character: Ruth (Ruth 3:11), Hanani (Neh 7:2), David (Psalm 78:72), Job (Job 2:3). These individuals’ lives were distinguished by persistent moral virtues.

Character is influenced and developed by our choices. Daniel “resolved not to defile himself” in Babylon (Dan 1:, and that godly choice was an important step in formulating an unassailable integrity in the young man’s life. Character, in turn, influences our choices. “The integrity of the upright guides them” (Prov. 11:3a). Character will help us weather the storms of life and keep us from sin (Prov 10:9a).

It is the Lord’s command to develop good character within us. “The crucible for silver and the furnace for gold, but the LORD test the heart” (Prov 17:3). Godly character is the result of the Holy Spirit’s work of sanctification.

A GODLY CHARACTER IN THE BELIEVER IS A CONSISTENT MANIFESTATION OF JESUS IN HIS LIFE.

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(HealthDay News) — How filling you think a meal will be can affect how much you eat later, a small study found.

The research included 26 people who ate what they were told were two-egg and four-egg omelets on two different mornings. But both omelets contained three eggs.

When people ate what they believed to be the smaller omelet, they said they were much hungrier after two hours, ate much more of a pasta lunch and consumed significantly more calories throughout the day than when they believed they had eaten a larger omelet.

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The findings were to be presented Thursday at a British Psychological Society meeting.

“Previous studies have shown that a person’s expectations can have an impact on their subsequent feelings of hunger and fullness and, to a degree, their later calorie consumption,” study leader Steven Brown, of Sheffield Hallam University in the United Kingdom, said in a society news release.

“Our work builds on this with the introduction of solid food and measured people’s subsequent consumption four hours later, a period of time more indicative of the gap between breakfast and lunch,” he said.

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A third grader was recognized by his school on Thursday for his heroic actions that helped to save his mother’s life. Dimitri Meram, of San Carlos, California, quickly administered CPR recently after his mother, who was not identified, hit her head on a car door and fell unconscious.

She awoke five days later in the hospital to discover that her son had performed life-saving measures after she collapsed. Dimitri said he had learned CPR during a lesson at Green Elementary School, and he knew that he had to act quickly.

“I just gotta do CPR,” he told the news outlet. “I mean, I learned it.”

Dimitri’s teacher said his actions were instrumental in saving his mother’s life.

“I’m incredibly proud of him,” Dimitri’s mother said “He truly is my special angel. The second he was born, he got his little finger out of the incubator and grabbed my hand. Just a very special connection.”

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Did you know that there are about 5 million children in the United States who wet the bed? If your child wets the bed, he or she is not alone.

Though most children are toilet trained between 2 and 4 years of age, some children may not be able to stay dry at night until they are older. Children develop at their own rate. For example, 20% of 5-year-olds, 10% of 7-year-olds, and 5% of 10-year-olds may still wet the bed.

Bedwetting is not a serious medical condition, but it can be a challenging problem for children and parents. Read on to find out more from the American Academy of Pediatrics about bedwetting and what can be done about it.

Causes of bed wetting

Although not all of the causes of bed wetting are fully understood, the following are some that are possible:

Your child is a deep sleeper and does not awaken to the signal of a full bladder.
Your child has not yet learned how to hold and empty urine well. (Communication between the brain and bladder may take time to develop.)
Your child’s body makes too much urine at night.
Your child is constipated. Full bowels can put pressure on the bladder and lead to problems with holding and emptying urine well.
Your child has a minor illness, is overly tired, or is responding to changes or stresses going on at home.
There is a family history of bedwetting. Most children who wet the bed have at least one parent who had the same problem as a child.
Your child’s bladder is small or not developed enough to hold urine for a full night.
Your child has an underlying medical problem.

What you can do

Most children wet their beds during toilet training. Even after they stay dry at night for a number of days or even weeks, they may start wetting at night again. If this happens to your child, simply go back to training pants at night and try again another time. The problem usually disappears as children get older. If children reach school age and still have problems wetting the bed, it most likely means they have never developed nighttime bladder control.

If you are concerned about your child’s bedwetting or your child expresses concern, talk with your child’s doctor. You may be asked the following questions about your child’s bedwetting:

Is there a family history of bedwetting?
How often and when does your child urinate during the day?
Have there been any changes in your child’s home life such as a new baby, divorce, or new house?
Does your child drink carbonated beverages, caffeine, citrus juices, or a lot of water before bed?
Is there anything unusual about how your child urinates or the way the urine looks?


Signs of a medical problem

If your child has been completely toilet trained for 6 months or longer and suddenly begins wetting the bed, talk with your child’s doctor. It may be a sign of a medical problem. However, most medical problems that cause bedwetting to recur suddenly have other signs, including:

Changes in how much and how often your child urinates during the day
Pain, burning, or straining while urinating
A very small or narrow stream of urine or dribbling that is constant or happens just after urination
Cloudy or pink urine or bloodstains on underpants
Daytime and nighttime wetting
Sudden change in personality or mood
Poor bowel control
Urinating after stress (coughing, running, or lifting)
Certain gait disturbances (problems with walking that may mean an underlying neurologic problem)
Continuous dampness
If your child has any of these signs, your child’s doctor may want to take a closer look at the kidneys or bladder. If necessary, your child’s doctor will refer you to a pediatric urologist, a doctor who is specially trained to treat children’s urinary problems.

Managing bed wetting

Keep the following tips in mind when dealing with bedwetting:

Do not blame your child. Remember that it is not your child’s fault. (See “Causes of bedwetting.”)
Be honest with your child about what is going on. Let your child know it’s not his or her fault and that most children outgrow bedwetting.
Be sensitive to your child’s feelings. If you don’t make a big issue out of bedwetting, chances are your child won’t either. Also remind your child that other children wet the bed.
Protect the bed. A plastic cover under the sheets protects the mattress from getting wet and smelling like urine.
Let your child help. Encourage your child to help change the wet sheets and covers. This teaches responsibility. It can also keep your child from feeling embarrassed if the rest of the family knows. However, if your child sees this as punishment, it is not recommended.
Set a no-teasing rule in your family. Do not let family members, especially siblings, tease your child. Let them know that it’s not your child’s fault.
Take steps before bedtime. Have your child use the toilet and avoid drinking large amounts of fluid just before bedtime.
Try to wake your child up to use the toilet 1 to 2 hours after going to sleep to help your child stay dry through the night.
Be positive. Reward your child for dry nights. Offer support, not punishment, for wet nights.
Be aware of your child’s daily urine and bowel habits.
Bed wetting alarms

If your child is still not able to stay dry during the night after using these steps for 1 to 3 months, a bedwetting alarm may be recommended. When a bedwetting alarm senses urine, it sets off an alarm so the child can wake up to use the toilet. When used correctly, it will detect wetness right away and sound the alarm. Be sure your child resets the alarm before going back to sleep.

Bedwetting alarms are successful 50% to 75% of the time. They tend to be most helpful for children who are deep sleepers and have some bladder control on their own. Ask your child’s doctor which type of alarm would be best for your child.

Medicines

Medicines are available to treat bedwetting for children 6 years and older. Though medicines rarely cure bedwetting, they may be helpful, especially when children begin attending sleepovers or overnight camps. Your child’s doctor can tell you more about these medicines and if they are right for your child. Remember to ask about possible side effects.

Beware of “cures”

There are many treatment programs and devices that claim they can “cure” bed wetting. Be careful; many of these products make false claims and promises and may be very expensive. Your child’s doctor is the best source for advice about bed wetting. Talk with your child’s doctor before starting any treatment program. .....

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Yesterday being the world asthma day I felicitate with all asthma sufferers encouraging them to hold on, fight and live a healthy lifestyle in other to manage their condition.

Asthma is a disease of the lungs; this condition causes the airways to be inflamed and narrow causing difficulty in breathing, wheezing, coughing, and chest tightness.

Understanding asthma
People who have asthma are said to be asthmatic. With asthma, the airways are usually inflamed (swollen), the airways are tubes that carry air to and fro the lungs, when the airways are inflamed, the muscles tighten further making breathing difficult as the airways get narrower as a result. Cells in the airways make more mucus during this episode.

Asthma symptoms are from mild to severe. You can get relief from mild asthma through minimal medication but when it is severe, it can lead you to the emergency room.

Asthma has no cure yet, but can be managed via medication, identifying your trigger and avoiding it. Individuals who suffer from asthma have an important role to play in its management.

Asthma triggers
The asthmatic individual has a sensitive airway. Some allergens and other environmental factors responsible for the frequent asthma attacks include:

Dust
Pungent smell-Strong perfumes, air fresheners etc
Cold air
Colds and flu
Smoke
Anxiety and stress
Exercise
Healthy tips to manage asthma

Asthma triggers vary from person to person, so observe yourself very closely and identify your trigger then avoid it as much as you can.
Identify your severity (mild-severe) and follow measures as prescribed by your doctor to relieve symptoms.
Always keep yourself warm, don’t wear clothes that are too light and exposing especially during cold weather
Stay away from household items that can trap dust such as rugs, wash your curtains regularly, and mop the floor regularly.
Keep asthmatic children away from toys with furs – teddy bears.
As much as you can avoid fumes from vehicles.
Avoid places where trees and grasses are cut.
Avoid the kitchen when they stir-fry or deep fry, also avoid the fumes from a cooking stove.
Always have your inhaler handy and use properly.


Hope these tips helped. Do well to share with a friend

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In Nigeria, we operate a 9-5 work system and some people in the private sector may stay for longer hours. People spend most of their active hours at work, making it difficult to find time to exercise. If you spend more of your active and inactive hours (time you spend at home) being physically inactive then it’s definitely going to take a toll on your work productivity.

When you don’t get enough sleep and you have to go to work, your whole day at work will be unproductive because all your body feels at that point is the need for more sleep and until you get it you won’t feel comfortable with yourself. It’s same with physical activity, your body tells you, you need to exercise but you choose to ignore it (or take analgesics). This could result in muscular pains which are a major cause of absenteeism at work; the mind is no longer sharp, lack of creativity, irritability, tiredness, etc. The outcome of such lifestyle may be debilitating at the long run for both the employee and the employer.

Employees’ physical fitness is to be encouraged by the employers or top management because it would have a positive ripple effect on productivity. There would be individual alertness, creative minds, happiness, less irritability (no quarrel or fighting amongst employees), There will be energy to perform tasks at work.

Have you been bothered with a problem and you decide to take a walk? You may end up finding solutions and the answers you seek while taking a walk because the brain is also exercising and ideas starts flowing,

Exercise trains you to be persistent and accomplish your goal, it trains you how to work under any stressful condition (in CV writing, some people usually state – I can work in stressful situations). Can they really? When it comes hitting it, do they just give up? However, exercise trains you to reach your finish line no matter how hard it seems or add an extra minute no matter how fagged out you may feel and you usually learn from such and practice it in your daily activities.

Ways exercise can help enhance productivity at the workplace

People who exercise are more productive in these ways:

Exercise enhances cognitive abilities of the brain
As a worker your brain is your greatest asset, the ability to be productive depends on how well the brain learns, understands, store information and uses that stored information to solve problems by strategic planning and execution.

Exercise helps in improving the brain’s cognitive functions. A study published by the National Centre for Biotechnology Information titled- “The influence of exercise on cognitive abilities” states that Aerobic fitness spares age-related loss of brain tissue during aging, and enhances functional aspects of higher order regions involved in the control of cognition. More active or higher fit individuals are capable of allocating greater attention resources toward the environment and are able to process information more quickly. These data are suggestive that aerobic fitness enhances cognitive strategies enabling to respond effectively to an imposed challenge with a better yield in task performance. Thus, the hippocampus (responsible for long term memory), a structure that has a fundamental role in memory processing is one of the main brain regions influenced by physical activity.


Exercise keeps you energized
Do you always feel fatigue at work? After climbing the stairs you feel like you are going to give up? Some people may feel it’s the other way round, I mean exercise saps energy but in actual sense, exercise helps you take in more oxygen. The muscles and brain at the point of exercise demand more oxygen and glucose which gives you more strength. When you exercise your muscles gain more strength and therefore can stand exertion in case you do more energy demanding job. When you are energized you stay more alert and willing to do more work. Exercising improves blood flow to the brain helping you to stay focused and sharp.

Exercise improves mental health
The feeling of depression and anxiety is real. In fact, depression is a very serious health condition that needs to be properly managed, especially as it could lead to suicidal tendencies like we hear from the news these days. When you exercise, endorphins are released. This hormone helps to reduce your perception of pain and also gives you that feeling of euphoria, happiness, sometimes called runners high (the feeling you get after running or performing a rigorous exercise). Now when this happy hormone is released after exercising the feeling of depression and anxiety is replaced with the feeling of happiness. In turn at the workplace, you’ll be known to be in high spirits, and there will be fewer conflicts. Exercise also helps you manage stress by making you sleep better, sleep being very vital for good health.

Exercise can help prevent diseases
It is a fact that at some point or the other some people may have taken a sick leave or absent themselves from work due to one ill health or the other which may include: joint pains, stroke, heart diseases etc. Exercising is a very natural way to prevent heart and blood vessel diseases, stroke, and musculoskeletal pain. When you exercise, the heart also exercises, thus keeping the heart muscles strong and making the blood pumping process easy thereby preventing heart diseases. Exercise also lowers your blood pressure. Individuals who are into one form of sporting activity or the other are known to have a moderate blood pressure.

5. Exercise can help prevent Obesity

Another condition that brings about a lot of ill health in a person’s life is obesity. Obese individuals are less productive at the place of work.The findings of an epidemiological study on obesity and absenteeism were published by the American Journal of Health Promotion. The aim of the study was to find the relationship between obesity and absenteeism due to illness. The conclusion of that study found that obese employees tend to be absent from work due to illnesses substantially more than their counterpart.


Obesity comes with a lot of health challenges that would definitely make you absent from work. The obese have a lot of unhealthy fat in them and these fats can clog the blood vessels; these clogged vessels, in turn, would not allow free flow of blood to tissues which may lead to heart diseases, high blood pressure, and stroke. The weight on joints can lead to arthritis, aches, and pain. If employees are healthy inside out it will definitely reduce absenteeism caused by ill health.

Sex life benefit
A happy man is a productive man and sex is one of the things that make a happy and fulfilled married man. Exercise enhances libido. It also gives you the required energy to carry on during intercourse. Exercise helps men with erectile dysfunction. When you exercise there is enhanced and generalized blood flow throughout the body. The penis also benefits because blood flows better for the erection to be sustained. Women who are not easily aroused are also encouraged to exercise because it helps to increase your desire for sex. When your sex life is good it will reduce depression and enhance relationship at work leading to more productivity.

Regular exercise is part of your job description because you are required to be productive at work. It’s a healthy lifestyle that shouldn’t be overlooked and could be done in fun ways – engaging in a sporting activity.

30 minutes of exercise is recommended each day 5 days a week for optimal health.

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In Nigeria, we operate a 9-5 work system and some people in the private sector may stay for longer hours. People spend most of their active hours at work, making it difficult to find time to exercise. If you spend more of your active and inactive hours (time you spend at home) being physically inactive then it’s definitely going to take a toll on your work productivity.

When you don’t get enough sleep and you have to go to work, your whole day at work will be unproductive because all your body feels at that point is the need for more sleep and until you get it you won’t feel comfortable with yourself. It’s same with physical activity, your body tells you, you need to exercise but you choose to ignore it (or take analgesics). This could result in muscular pains which are a major cause of absenteeism at work; the mind is no longer sharp, lack of creativity, irritability, tiredness, etc. The outcome of such lifestyle may be debilitating at the long run for both the employee and the employer.

Employees’ physical fitness is to be encouraged by the employers or top management because it would have a positive ripple effect on productivity. There would be individual alertness, creative minds, happiness, less irritability (no quarrel or fighting amongst employees), There will be energy to perform tasks at work.

Have you been bothered with a problem and you decide to take a walk? You may end up finding solutions and the answers you seek while taking a walk because the brain is also exercising and ideas starts flowing,

Exercise trains you to be persistent and accomplish your goal, it trains you how to work under any stressful condition (in CV writing, some people usually state – I can work in stressful situations). Can they really? When it comes hitting it, do they just give up? However, exercise trains you to reach your finish line no matter how hard it seems or add an extra minute no matter how fagged out you may feel and you usually learn from such and practice it in your daily activities.

Ways exercise can help enhance productivity at the workplace

People who exercise are more productive in these ways:

Exercise enhances cognitive abilities of the brain
As a worker your brain is your greatest asset, the ability to be productive depends on how well the brain learns, understands, store information and uses that stored information to solve problems by strategic planning and execution.

Exercise helps in improving the brain’s cognitive functions. A study published by the National Centre for Biotechnology Information titled- “The influence of exercise on cognitive abilities” states that Aerobic fitness spares age-related loss of brain tissue during aging, and enhances functional aspects of higher order regions involved in the control of cognition. More active or higher fit individuals are capable of allocating greater attention resources toward the environment and are able to process information more quickly. These data are suggestive that aerobic fitness enhances cognitive strategies enabling to respond effectively to an imposed challenge with a better yield in task performance. Thus, the hippocampus (responsible for long term memory), a structure that has a fundamental role in memory processing is one of the main brain regions influenced by physical activity.


Exercise keeps you energized
Do you always feel fatigue at work? After climbing the stairs you feel like you are going to give up? Some people may feel it’s the other way round, I mean exercise saps energy but in actual sense, exercise helps you take in more oxygen. The muscles and brain at the point of exercise demand more oxygen and glucose which gives you more strength. When you exercise your muscles gain more strength and therefore can stand exertion in case you do more energy demanding job. When you are energized you stay more alert and willing to do more work. Exercising improves blood flow to the brain helping you to stay focused and sharp.

Exercise improves mental health
The feeling of depression and anxiety is real. In fact, depression is a very serious health condition that needs to be properly managed, especially as it could lead to suicidal tendencies like we hear from the news these days. When you exercise, endorphins are released. This hormone helps to reduce your perception of pain and also gives you that feeling of euphoria, happiness, sometimes called runners high (the feeling you get after running or performing a rigorous exercise). Now when this happy hormone is released after exercising the feeling of depression and anxiety is replaced with the feeling of happiness. In turn at the workplace, you’ll be known to be in high spirits, and there will be fewer conflicts. Exercise also helps you manage stress by making you sleep better, sleep being very vital for good health.

Exercise can help prevent diseases
It is a fact that at some point or the other some people may have taken a sick leave or absent themselves from work due to one ill health or the other which may include: joint pains, stroke, heart diseases etc. Exercising is a very natural way to prevent heart and blood vessel diseases, stroke, and musculoskeletal pain. When you exercise, the heart also exercises, thus keeping the heart muscles strong and making the blood pumping process easy thereby preventing heart diseases. Exercise also lowers your blood pressure. Individuals who are into one form of sporting activity or the other are known to have a moderate blood pressure.

5. Exercise can help prevent Obesity

Another condition that brings about a lot of ill health in a person’s life is obesity. Obese individuals are less productive at the place of work.The findings of an epidemiological study on obesity and absenteeism were published by the American Journal of Health Promotion. The aim of the study was to find the relationship between obesity and absenteeism due to illness. The conclusion of that study found that obese employees tend to be absent from work due to illnesses substantially more than their counterpart.


Obesity comes with a lot of health challenges that would definitely make you absent from work. The obese have a lot of unhealthy fat in them and these fats can clog the blood vessels; these clogged vessels, in turn, would not allow free flow of blood to tissues which may lead to heart diseases, high blood pressure, and stroke. The weight on joints can lead to arthritis, aches, and pain. If employees are healthy inside out it will definitely reduce absenteeism caused by ill health.

Sex life benefit
A happy man is a productive man and sex is one of the things that make a happy and fulfilled married man. Exercise enhances libido. It also gives you the required energy to carry on during intercourse. Exercise helps men with erectile dysfunction. When you exercise there is enhanced and generalized blood flow throughout the body. The penis also benefits because blood flows better for the erection to be sustained. Women who are not easily aroused are also encouraged to exercise because it helps to increase your desire for sex. When your sex life is good it will reduce depression and enhance relationship at work leading to more productivity.

Regular exercise is part of your job description because you are required to be productive at work. It’s a healthy lifestyle that shouldn’t be overlooked and could be done in fun ways – engaging in a sporting activity.

30 minutes of exercise is recommended each day 5 days a week for optimal health.

One minute, the sight of your partner makes you want to put him out with the weekly garbage; the next, you might want to play a couple of rounds of naked Twister. Par for the course during pregnancy.

See, as your estrogen and progesterone levels rise, they cause changes in your body that boost libido. Estrogen in particular, which serves such pregnancy-related functions as boosting blood flow to your uterus (and to your entire pelvis), also increases vaginal lubrication and heightens sensitivity in your breasts and nipples.

It’s a righteous recipe for romance. But the same hormones can also conspire against you, especially in the beginning when nausea and fatigue can send you to bed for an entirely different reason. And toward the end, you may just feel too huge, unwieldy and, again, tired. (That’s why months four to six or so are often called the “honeymoon” trimester.)

So where does that leave you? The X factor in the sex equation is the relationship between your changing moods and your changing body: Just as every woman’s pregnancy is unique, so is every pregnant woman’s sex drive. If your spirit is willing but fears or misinformation are holding you back, this advice can help you relax.

Sex is usually safe.
If you do want to have sex, embrace the ubiquitous three-word Nike slogan. As long as your pregnancy is progressing normally, you can have sex as often as you like (some exceptions may include a history of miscarriage or preterm labor).

Be aware that it’s pretty common for some women to experience bleeding during intercourse, especially in the first trimester. This is caused by the normal swelling of capillaries in the cervix, which can burst when irritated during sex. While such spotting or bleeding is generally nothing to worry about, you should still mention it to your doctor or midwife.

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What’s more, there’s typically no chance of hurting the baby during sex because the amniotic fluid and your cervix protect him. But one caution: If you have MouthAction, your partner should not blow air into your vagina, as during pregnancy this can cause an air bubble to block a blood vessel.

Sex can still be comfortable.
The old standby missionary position for intercourse may not work for you now. Instead, try these options:

Spooning: Lie side by side with him behind you. This makes for more shallow penetration.

You on top: There’s no pressure on your belly, and you can control the speed and depth of penetration.

Side of the bed: You lie on your back on the edge of the bed with your knees bent and feet on the edge. He stands facing you. It’s like classic missionary, but he won’t be resting his body weight on you.

Living room love: Kneel on a couch with your belly facing the back of it; use your arms for support. He penetrates from behind.

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You will have sex again after the baby comes.
Just be aware that with the sudden drop of estrogen after delivery, your libido can plummet and the lining of your vagina thins out, making intercourse feel like you’re losing your virginity all over again. This can be particularly true if you’re breastfeeding.

Most docs recommend that you wait six weeks until after giving birth (even for MouthAction). The goals are to allow your body to heal, avoid infection and deal with any psychological or emotional issues you and your partner may be feeling. When you do venture back, it’s important to make your partner aware that you may need plenty of pre-intimacy and possibly lubrication. Taking care of the baby for you whenever possible so that you can nap couldn’t hurt, either!

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The headphone of a female air traveller caught fire on an Australia bound plane and suffered burns in her face and hands.

Australian officials reported on Wednesday as they warned about the dangers of battery-operated devices in-flight.

The passenger was listening to music on her own battery-operated headphones as she dozed about two hours into the trip from Beijing to Melbourne on February 19 when there was a loud explosion.

“As I went to turn around I felt burning on my face,” the woman said “I grabbed them off and threw them on the floor. They were sparking and had small amounts of fire.”

“As I went to turn around I felt burning on my face,” she told the Australian Transport Safety Bureau (ATSB) which investigated the incident, AFP reported on Wednesday.

“I just grabbed my face which caused the headphones to go around my neck. I continued to feel burning so I grabbed them off and threw them on the floor.

“They were sparking and had small amounts of fire.”

Flight attendants rushed to help and poured a bucket of water on the headphones, but the battery and its cover had both melted and stuck to the floor.

Fellow passengers had to endure the smell of melted plastic, burnt electronics and singed hair for the remainder of the flight.

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greatnaija01:
THOSE CARTOONS mentioned above do not teach good morals o.

MOANA teaches disobedience as a means of discovery..... Maui will marry moana and that is UNDER-AGED affairs.... Recently pregnant dolls of barbie are being sold in high end stores. Pls lets be careful what we allow kids watch. BARNEY is a very good one to watch.


CARTOONS that teach TRUE morals like LOVE FOR HUMANITY, FRIENDSHIP, TEAM WORK etc it is sad that recent cartoons have dark contents in them unlike the ones we grew up to watch like LION KING, SESEME STREET, FRAGLE ROCK.

IN MOST MOVIES AND CARTOONS There are secret sub-linear messages that are aimed at your subconscious... Lets be watchful. recently we are being warned of a new disney cartoon that encourages gay acts.... even BEAUTY and the BEAST.

I think you are getting it all wrong. You are only seeing one side of the picture. What if Moana obeyed her father, what would have been the end result. Moana shows, following your dreams against the stereotype handed to us my family and society. It teaches courage and passion. Never giving up no matter the odds..

Affection: It’s the cuddling, whispering secrets afterwards that boost contentedness, study finds

Couples who regularly have sex tend to be happier, and now a new study suggests one reason why: affection.

The study of couples in committed relationships found what many others had shown before: Couples who had sex more often were typically happier and more content with their lives.

However, much of that link seemed to be explained not by sex itself, but by couples’ general levels of affection — whether that meant cuddling or whispering sweet-nothings to each other.

It all suggests that the “relational aspects of sexuality — and more specifically, the sharing of affection — are central in understanding why sex does good,” said lead researcher Anik Debrot.

That might be good news for people who worry about things like sexual performance or having a “perfect body,” according to Debrot.

Instead, they could “remember that sex is a great way to share an intimate and affectionate moment with your partner,” said Debrot, a research fellow at the University of Lausanne’s Institute of Psychology, in Switzerland.

She was based at the University of Toronto at the time of the study.

The findings are based on four studies of couples in the United States and Switzerland. In each, couples were asked how often they had sex, and how often they shared affectionate “moments” or “touches.” Two studies asked participants about their typical habits, while the other two tracked them over a specific time period.

Overall, the studies found, couples who were more sexually active tended to report greater satisfaction with life. They also had more “positive emotions” — both in general, and the morning after having sex.

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But in each study, affection seemed to largely account for that sex-happiness link.

So does that mean sex, by encouraging affection, helps breed happiness? Or do happy people have sex more often?

One of the studies suggests it may be the former: Debrot’s team found that sex predicted positive emotions the next day — whereas good feelings did not boost couples’ likelihood of having sex over the next 24 hours.

“This is a great study,” said Robin Milhausen. She’s an associate professor of family relations and human sexuality at the University of Guelph, in Ontario, Canada.

Milhausen, who wasn’t involved in the research, said it “sheds light on how sex and life satisfaction are intertwined.”

So while past studies have linked the frequency of sex to couples’ contentment, it’s actually more complicated than that, according to Milhausen.

“Sex can’t be divorced from context,” she said. “It’s not a magic bullet. Affection, including post-sex affection, is important.”

Milhausen also pointed to a particularly interesting finding: Affection mattered to both women and men — in contrast to the stereotype that men can do without the cuddling and sweet words.

Debrot agreed. “This counters the idea that ‘lovey-dovey’ sex would mostly be appreciated by women,” she said.

Still, the research has limitations. For one, couples who volunteer for a relationship study may not be representative of couples in general, Milhausen pointed out.

And, she stressed, it’s never possible to give couples a one-size-fits-all prescription for happiness. So neither more-frequent sex nor extra cuddling and hand-holding are magic bullets.

People do vary widely in how they like to express affection, Milhausen noted. “For some people, it’s hugging. For others, it’s gifts of service, like putting your snow tires on for you,” she said.

Debrot pointed out that no one is saying that life satisfaction depends on affection from a romantic partner. Many studies show that a range of factors contribute to any one person’s well-being.

Nor does this study imply that couples get no emotional benefit from sex itself. For example, Debrot said, the physiological effects of sex — including the hormones it releases — may also boost a couple’s positive feelings.

The study was published in the March issue of the Personality and Social Psychology Bulletin.

SOURCES: Anik Debrot, Ph.D., research and teaching fellow, Institute of Psychology, University of Lausanne, Switzerland; Robin Milhausen, Ph.D., associate professor, family relations and human sexuality, University of Guelph, Ontario, Canada; March 2017, Personality and Social Psychology Bulletin

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Amacaco:
It is in their blood. I am not surprised

Remember she was a former stripper!

A former stripper who wants to run for the presidential election was arrested for parading topless in the street to promote transparency.

Cindy Lee, 52, who is the candidate for the Pleasure Party in France, was handing out pamphlets and talking to voters while she was wearing just a pair of hotpants and tassels covering each nipple.

But her desire to shine a light on what she described as corruption in French politics did not go well, as she was arrested by 30 riot police officers who had mistaken her for a radical feminist activist.

The potential presidential candidate stripped down and talked LCI to surrounded by her supporters.

She said: ‘We are here to demand transparency when it comes to corruption, and this outfit justifies transparency

‘I advocate the well-being of the individual in society, putting people at the centre of politics.’

As well as talking to the local press, she stopped motorists to hand out her manifesto, which includes pumping money into projects to help residents enjoy a more fulfilled sex life.

Her effort to gain support was cut short just as she was getting into the groove of her campaigning when 30 riot police officers led her away.

They wrongly thought she was associated to the Femen movement, which regularly holds topless protest against the exploitation of women that invariably result in those taking part being detained.

Although Lee is an official candidate of her party, it seems unlikely she will challenge Marine Le Pen, Emmanuel Macron or Francois Fillon for the leadership.

In order for a candidate to be considered for the ballot paper, 500 elected French officials need to sponsor them.

So far, a week before the cut-off point, Lee has not managed one.

The former stripper has made a name for herself in the past for similar scantily-clad protests.

The first round of the 2017 French presidential election will be held on April 23.

If no candidate wins a majority, a second vote will be held between the top two prospective presidents on May 7.

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There has been a momentous push to highlight gender inequality within tech, yet the question still remains: Why are there so few women in tech and in top leadership roles?

According to a recent Reuters study, 30% of 450 technology executives stated that their groups had no women in leadership positions. Only 25% of the IT jobs in the US were filled by women and considering the fact that 56% of women leave IT in the highlight of their career, it’s no surprise that there are so few women leading the tech industry.

30% of 450 technology executives stated that their groups had no women in leadership positions

The value of having women in leadership is common sense – women make up half of the purchasing demographic so having limited or no representation of women leading companies can make them miss out on valuable insight. This common sense is backed by a study by a DDI consulting firm that found the top 20% of top-performing companies had 27% or more women in key leadership positions while the bottom 20% of companies had less than 19% of women in these roles.

I asked women in leadership roles to share their experience in the tech space, everything from why they chose a career in tech to perks/challenges of being a woman in a male-dominated industry to advice for young women considering tech as a career.

Advice to young women considering tech

Brush up on your math.

Becca Stucky, Director of Demand Generation at tech company Thycotic, says that math skills are critical. “Tech companies move fast, and to know you’re making the right choices, you need to be able to read trends and metrics for how your initiatives perform – this is true not only for marketing but also for making choices for product features or UX, running tech support and client happiness teams, and even working across teams and explaining to other managers why your team is making certain choices.”

Diane Merrick, VP of Marketing at Teradici agrees with Stucky, adding “Don’t be intimidated by math and science. Ask questions. Sometimes the problem is the teacher, not the subject. You may need to explore other sources of learning.” Merrick also recommends young women check out the option of a co-op degree where you’re guaranteed work after graduation. “It is a fantastic way to help you discover what you like and maybe more importantly what you don’t like,” she says.

Know your worth

For Katie McCroskey, Senior Manager Channel Operations at Thycotic, it’s important for young women to know their value. “Women bring a lot to a tech company – different perspectives and skill sets, tech companies with more women are more successful and it’s a hot industry to be in, good paying jobs with lots of diversity in focus (dev, cybersecurity, ops, etc.) and opportunity. Don’t allow yourself to be intimidated by a room full of men.”

Become a life-long learner

Karen Nowicki, director of engineering for a Chicago-based software company called kCura, says that women in tech need to become life-long learners. “Make learning part of your commitment to yourself and keep looking for new ways to grow. Technology is an especially fast-paced career. Not only will you find the domain changing quickly, but career growth also demands being proficient in each new role. Joining user groups in your industry and national societies to keep current are just a couple ways to stay sharp.”

Go for it

“There are so many options open to you when you go into a tech career,” says Dr. Galina Datskovsky, CEO of Vaporstream. “It is not just programming or coding – the options are unlimited. You should never be afraid and never think that the guys are better at it than you. You are capable of the same and more. So, just go for it.”

Stand Out

Robbie Hardy, tech sector veteran, and author of the new book UPSETTING THE TABLE: Women Mentoring Women says that young women should consider tech because they’ll stand out. “Technology is a great career for smart women who like a challenge and lots of opportunities. While it has been a male-dominated Wild Wild West for years, it is changing. An increasing number of women are embracing STEM, which is the basis of most technology careers. These women “stand out” and therefore their talents and integrity are more exposed than a man. This has both pluses and minuses, but if you understand that you must not take no for an answer and take your rightful seat at the table of technology (upsetting the table, as I like to say), you will succeed.”

Choosing a career in tech

Solving real-world problems

For Stucky, she enjoyed the idea of working for a company making lives better was a big motivation for her to enter the tech space. “In tech — and software specifically — if you can imagine it then you can make it. There are very few limits to what people can do when given a computer and the knowledge to code. I find that very inspiring. Software can make people’s lives easier, it can make work more productive, companies more secure, and it can connect people all over the world. Productivity is something I get especially excited about. I absolutely hate doing something if I know it can be done faster, with fewer steps, or if I can automate it. Even though my own coding skills are mediocre at best, I get to be part of an industry of problem solvers, idea-dreamers, and of virtual builders, who are creating entirely new markets and tools that the world never considered before now, but once made, could not imagine living without.”

Happy accident

Not everyone starts out with a desire to join a tech company. “My tech career began by accident,” McCroskey said. “I joined Thycotic seven years ago with a background in marketing and grew my technical knowledge and background as the company grew; now I love the challenge of constant change and teaching myself new technical topics, this constant quest for knowledge keeps me driven and engaged.”

Hardy also stumbled into tech on accident. “The technology world chose me. I was a research assistant at UNC Chapel Hill, putting my husband through his Ph.D. program, and in order to do my job, I had to learn to use technology to analyze the data we had collected. It was certainly challenging because I am not a math and science person by nature, but once I unlocked the door to all that was possible with those 1s and 0s, I was hooked for life,” she said. “I found my sweet spot in technology management. My experience in those days as a research analyst and beyond gave me the technology foundation I needed to be successful in managing it.”

Creating a shared vision
For Nowicki, knowing how to earn respect from an early age is a critical part of a tech career. “In high school, I became president of a rifle club and it was my first foray into leadership. I had to earn respect to get the role and incorporate everyone’s feedback to shape the program in a positive way. In college, I picked up computer science and led a national mathematics honor society where I put on a national math convention. Throughout the process, I got the hang of how to collaborate effectively and make decisions that were best for the group,” she said. “I’m also a volunteer coach for an Olympic-style junior air rifle club and there are very few female coaches. When I take the students to tournaments, the other coaches and attendees are sometimes surprised to see me. They perceive the sport to be male-dominated and have to shift how they think, so we can work together effectively. From a leadership standpoint, volunteering has taught me that you have to appreciate and maximize the unique passions and talents that everyone brings to the table and work with people of all different skill levels and backgrounds to create a shared vision.”

Groundbreaking field

For Datskovsky, the opportunity to be in a revolutionary space like tech was too attractive to resist. “I always liked exact sciences and found that computer science gave the right mix of science, technology, and human interaction, as well as the ability to work in a groundbreaking field that is constantly changing and evolving.”

Innovation

Being in an innovative space is what drew Merrick to a career in tech. “I began my career as a civil structural engineer in Ontario, Canada – a technical career but not in the “tech space”. There are several things that intrigued me about the tech space: The pace of innovation. The openness to do things differently. A lesser degree of prejudice – good ideas seemed welcome from anyone regardless of age or sex. The tech space is also a very global industry and it afforded me the opportunity to not only move to California but to travel the world.”

The challenges facing women in tech

Finding the right company
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It’s not the best idea to be constantly searching for warning signs in every relationship. If you’re always looking for trouble, nothing is ever going to actually work out. Still, once you’ve been dating long enough, it starts to get easier to notice the tiny flags that typically mean a relationship just isn’t built to last. Here are 12 signs a relationship is probably doomed, inspired by a recent Ask Reddit thread that asked people to spill the things they see as dating death sentences.

1. You’re trying to change each other.

People can change, but it takes time, and it doesn’t work if someone is trying to force it. If you catch yourself thinking, This person would be perfect if only [insert thing here], you’re probably less happy than you think you are.

2. Hanging out just feels like an obligation.

It’s nice to have a go-to person to share meals with and be lazy with when you have no energy but need human contact. But if you’re only hanging out with the person you’ve committed to dating out of obligation or as a default “I’m bored, wanna hang?” situation, where’s the fun in that? No spark! No sizzle!

3. Tiny things annoy you.

Especially if it’s tiny things they mean to be nice but just end up annoying you anyway. Like they offer to wash the dishes, but do it all wrong, and you get mad instead of laughing off the mistake. There’s something deeper happening here that has nothing to do with forks and knives, and you should take a moment to evaluate what’s really bothering you.

4. Every argument feels like it could end in a breakup.

If you can’t have a calm (or even heated!) argument with your partner without feeling terrified they’re going to dump you at the end of it, that’s a problem. People argue. Couples argue. Again, there’s something deeper happening here if every single disagreement feels like it could be The Big One.

5. Parts of their personality feel like a compromise.

It’s normal to compromise in a relationship – no two people are exactly alike, and even if there were someone exactly like you out there, would you even want to date them? (NO!) What’s not so normal is to feel like there are parts of their personality you just have to ignore in order to keep dating them. That’s not fair to either of you.

6. You feel like you’re constantly sacrificing your feelings to please them.

Sometimes you have to put your feelings aside to appease someone else, and sometimes that sucks. If you feel like you’re constantly walking on eggshells around your partner, that’s not a good sign. Not only is that just enabling them, but it’s exhausting for you.

7. You catch yourself window-shopping.

So sure, you’d never actually meet up with that person who sometimes texts you at night or flirts with you on your commute, but the idea of it is thrilling. It’s like a job search – once you start looking around at other listings, just to see what’s out there, you’re already unhappy in your current position and probably just need to move on.

8. Or you catch yourself reminiscing on things you loved about ex-partners.

Not that you want to get back with the guy from college who never washed his sheets a single time during your relationship, but man, now you can’t stop thinking about how much you loved the way he always made coffee for you first thing in the morning. This isn’t a sign you should revive old flings, but it is a sign that your current relationship is missing things that are really important to you.

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For patients with breast cancer, physical activity and avoiding weight gain are the most important lifestyle choices that can reduce the risk of cancer recurrence and death, according to an evidence-based review published in CMAJ (Canadian Medical Association Journal).

“Of all lifestyle factors, physical activity has the most robust effect on breast cancer outcomes,” writes Dr. Ellen Warner, Sunnybrook Health Sciences Centre, Toronto, Ontario, with coauthor Julia Hamer. “Weight gain of more than 10% body weight after a breast cancer diagnosis increases breast cancer mortality and all-cause mortality. However, there are good reasons to discourage even moderate weight gain because of its negative effects on mood and body image,” the authors state.

The review of 67 published articles looks at a variety of lifestyle factors, such as exercise, weight, diet, smoking and more, and examines the changes women can make to improve their chances of survival and reduce the risk of cancer recurring. About one-quarter of women diagnosed with early stage disease will eventually die of later metastases.

As the review contains practical recommendations of interest to patients, their families, physicians and other health care professionals, it is open-access and freely available to a global audience.

While evidence is inconclusive on the impact of some lifestyle behaviours, such as specific diets, alcohol consumption, and vitamin supplements, the authors have summarized easy-to-follow key findings and unanswered questions in charts.

Key findings:

Avoid weight gain — weight gain during or after breast cancer treatment is linked to breast cancer-related death. Women who are overweight or obese at diagnosis also have poorer prognoses.
Exercise — patients should engage in at least 30 minutes of moderate exercise a day, five days a week, or 75 minutes of vigorous exercise per week. Two to three sessions of strength training for large muscle groups are also recommended.
Diet — no specific type of diet has been shown to reduce the risk of breast cancer recurrence. Evidence indicates that patients do not need to avoid soy, and it may help with weight management if used to replace higher-calorie meat protein.
Vitamin supplementation — moderate consumption of vitamin C may be helpful although more evidence is needed. Vitamin D supplements may be taken to maintain adequate levels for bone strength since chemotherapy and hormonal treatments can reduce bone density.
Smoking — stop smoking. While it is unclear if stopping smoking after a breast cancer diagnosis affects recurrence, the risk of death from smoking-related health issues is a strong reason to quit.
Alcohol intake — limiting consumption to one or fewer alcoholic drinks per day may help reduce the risk of a second breast cancer.
“Making positive lifestyle changes can also be psychologically beneficial to patients by empowering them, since the feeling of loss of control is one of the biggest challenges of a cancer diagnosis,” write the authors.

Physicians can play an important role in helping patients make positive changes.

“Because it is common for patients to reduce their level of physical activity after a breast cancer diagnosis, it is important for health care professionals to promote and encourage exercise in this patient population,” the authors write. “Simply receiving advice from an oncologist to exercise more has been shown to increase patients’ level of activity.”

An important point to emphasize is that the breast cancer patients in the studies showing the benefits of lifestyle changes were also receiving conventional anticancer therapy; lifestyle changes should never be used as a substitute for standard therapy.

The authors caution that these recommendations are not a silver bullet for all women with breast cancer. Some breast cancers have aggressive biology and will recur despite the most meticulous lifestyle behaviours.

“Patients should not be made to feel that inadequate lifestyle changes have led to recurrence of their cancer,” they conclude.

The World Health Organization has revised its guidelines for pregnant women: According to the organization, women should visit a doctor, midwife, or nurse at least eight times during their pregnancies, and five of those visits should take place during their third trimester.

This is a pretty significant change: the organization’s previous recommendations advised four clinical visits throughout the duration of a single pregnancy. These new guidelines also point out that qualified midwives play important roles for women who cannot afford doctor’s visits or are unable to travel to meet with their physicians.

These guidelines just might be the very thing we need to bring down the statistics surrounding maternal death rates. According to a release from the organization, over 300,000 women suffered pregnancy-related deaths last year alone. The statistics surrounding infant mortality are alarming as well: The organization reports that 2.6 million stillbirths occurred, and 2.7 million infants died within 28 days of birth.

“The new model increases maternal and fetal assessments to detect problems, improves communication between health providers and pregnant women, and increases the likelihood of positive pregnancy outcomes. It recommends pregnant women have their first contact in the first 12 weeks’ gestation, with subsequent contacts taking place at 20, 26, 30, 34, 36, 38 and 40 weeks’ gestation,” a release for this news reads.

Could more frequent medical visits be the key to reversing these stats? It’s possible: After all, seeing your doctor doesn’t just represent a chance to rule out or address complications, it may also help you better understand how to implement healthier lifestyle behaviors in your day-to-day life.

Speaking of lifestyle choices, the organization also released some additional guidelines for pregnant women. They should take daily folic acid pills, have tetanus shots, get blood sugar testing, take antibiotics (if bacteria are detected), and undergo nutritional/fitness counseling. Healthcare providers should discuss issues like smoking/drinking during pregnancy, the appropriate course of treatment for day-to-day ailments (think back pain and nausea), and HIV prevention, to name a few topics. The organization also recommends ultrasounds before 24 weeks gestation to determine gestational age and detect fetal abnormalities.

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It is common to hear people talk about how to detect adulterated honey. This is simply because adulterated honey exists in the market. However, there are myths about how to detect adulteration and most dwell on some conventional physical features. There are also other myths about honey that has been generally accepted to be truth. Whether you are a big fan of honey or are just curious about it, the list below will help you understand some very important information about honey. Some of the myths and facts about honey just might end up surprising you!

MYTH: Pure Honey is rarely available these days.

FACT: Production of natural honey in Nigeria can be traced to some regions in the middle belt, south and northern part of the country. The demand of honey is greater than the supply, for this reason, there is a lot of adulterated honey on the shelves of supermarkets or in the custody of local vendors in Nigeria. Some honey vendors use sugar or glucose syrup to make honey look alike deceiving the unsuspecting consumers. However, the fact remains that unadulterated honey is also in abundance in Nigeria, thanks to the states like Taraba, Enugu, Kogi Kaduna, Cross river, Oyo, Edo that produce honey.

MYTH: Honey can easily be tested for its purity by conventional methods like

Some people say that you can test for pure honey by applying any of the conventional methods such as:

When pure honey is dropped in a glass of water, it doesn’t dissolve;
Dog will not eat bread that is laced with pure honey;
Cotton wet in honey will burn when lit if it’s a pure honey;
Ants will not go near pure honey;
If applied on the eye, the burn will be more if honey is pure.
FACT: These tests only analyze the physical attribute of honey. The invert sugar honey (fake honey) also passes most of these tests as its physical nature is similar to that of pure honey. Honey can only be tested for its purity by laboratory analysis.



MYTH: Pure honey does not Crystalize (SOLIDIFY), if honey turns to solid then it is impure.

FACT: Many varieties of honey crystallize or turn into a solid state within few months of their extraction. Crystallization can’t be stopped no matter how much processing and filtering that is done, it can only be delayed. The rate of crystallization also depends on the environment. Honey crystallizes faster in a cold environment that is why you see in some labels - do not refrigerate. After crystallization, you can liquefy by keeping it in warm water or sunlight. Crystallization is nature’s way of preserving honey, it does not affect its taste, flavor or quality, and it can stay naturally preserved (crystallized) for years.

MYTH: Light color honey is of better quality

FACT: The Color of natural honey differs it ranges from light artery color to dark amber color, it all depends on the floral source and pollen content of honey. All kinds of honey Irrespective of the color has almost same nutritional and medicinal importance.
MYTH: Thick consistency honey (honey which does not flow easily) is of better quality

FACT: Honey contains moisture (water) level ranging from 18%- 25% according to time and season of harvesting. The less the moisture, the thicker will be the honey. The only difference between thin and thick honey is its moisture content, other nutritional content will be same. Moisture is a natural attribute in honey, the earlier the harvest the more the moisture content, nutritional content still remains same.
MYTH: Honey will not spoil in any condition

FACT: Honey will not spoil only if the harvest was done properly (moisture level should be less than 20%), handled and stored (only in glass or stainless steel container). Otherwise honey tends to ferment and produce acidic smell if not stored properly. Honey darkens as it stays longer.
MYTH: Ants does not come near pure honey

FACT: Honey is made up of natural sugars fructose and glucose and so is a natural sweetener. Ants are attracted to any sweet thing and so honey falls in the sweet category so naturally ants are attracted to honey.

A Clinical Associate, Fistula Care Plus, Dr. Suleiman Zakariya says about 12,000 new cases of obstetric fistula are discovered yearly in Nigeria, amounting to an average of 33 women coming down with the disease every year.

He said about 150,000 Nigerian women were presently living with the condition in Nigeria, adding that, “what is more worrisome is that many of them are not aware there exist treatment to stop the leakage. Most of them are also not aware the surgical treatment is done in the country free of charge by the Federal Government.”

He said despite the new cases yearly, it was unfortunate that only about 5,000 cases were being repaired yearly, leaving behind a backlog of 7,000 victims per year who are either not aware there exist surgical interventions that can correct the health issue or are unaware there were centers for free treatment. Here are seven things you need to know about obstetric fistula

What is obstetric fistula?

Obstetric fistula is an injury of childbearing that has been relatively neglected, despite the devastating impact it has on the lives of girls and women. It is usually caused by several days of obstructed labor, without timely medical intervention – typically a Caesarean section – to relieve the pressure. In as high as 90 percent of fistula cases, the baby will die and the woman is left with chronic incontinence. Fistula sufferers are often abandoned or neglected by their husbands and families and ostracized by their communities. Without treatment, prospects for work and family life for these women are greatly diminished and they are often left to rely on charity.

What are the medical consequences of fistula?

Left untreated, fistula can lead to frequent ulcerations and infections, kidney disease and even death. Some women drink as little as possible to avoid leaking and become dehydrated. Damage to the nerves in the legs can leave some women unable to walk. These medical consequences, coupled with social and economic problems, often contribute to a general decline in health and well-being that can result in early death.

What are the social consequences of fistula?

Beyond these physical consequences, fistula often exacts a severe social toll. The social consequences of fistula include physical and emotional isolation, abandonment or divorce, ridicule and shame, infertility, lack of economic support, and the risk of violence and abuse.

Why does fistula occur?

Fistula occurs when emergency obstetric care is not available to women who develop complications during childbirth. This is why women living in remote rural areas with little access to medical care are at risk. Before the medical advances of the 20th century, fistula was quite common in Europe and the United States. Today, fistula is almost unheard of in high-income countries, or in countries where obstetric care is widely available.

Fistula tells us where health systems are failing. The World Health Organization has called fistula “the single most dramatic aftermath of neglected childbirth.” Malnutrition, poor health services, early marriage and gender discrimination are interlinked root causes of obstetric fistula.

Poverty is the main underlying factor, as it is associated with early marriage and malnutrition, and because lack of funds hinders a woman’s access to emergency obstetric care. Consequently, young and poor women living in rural areas are particularly at risk. Because of their low status in many communities, women often lack the power to choose when to start bearing children or where to give birth.

Childbearing before the pelvis is fully developed, as well as malnutrition, small stature, and generally poor health, are contributing physiological factors to obstructed labor. Older women who have delivered many children are at risk as well.

Can fistula be “cured”?

Yes, fistula is treatable as well as preventable. Reconstructive surgery can mend the injury, and success rates are as high as 90 percent. Two weeks or more of post-operative care is needed to ensure a successful outcome. Counseling and support are also important to address emotional damage and facilitate social reintegration. The average cost of fistula treatment – including surgery, post-operative care, and rehabilitation support – is $500, according to fightfistula.org.

How widespread is fistula?

Fistula is most common in poor communities in sub-Saharan Africa and parts of Asia where access to or use of obstetric care is limited. Good data on fistula are scarce. In 1989, the World Health Organization estimated that more than two million women remain untreated in developing countries and that at least 50,000 to 100,000 new cases occur each year. But the secrecy and shame that surround the condition make it difficult to get a reliable estimate of its prevalence. Needs assessments done as part of the Campaign to End Fistula suggests those numbers are far too low. In fact, WHO experts have also estimated that in areas of high maternal mortality, two to three women per 1,000 pregnancies develop fistula, which would mean that the prevalence is likely much higher than the 1989 estimates.

How can fistula be prevented?

Prevention, rather than treatment, is the key to ending fistula. Making family planning available to all who want to use it would reduce maternal disability and death by at least 20 percent. Complementing that with skilled attendance at all births and emergency obstetric care for those women who develop complications during delivery would make fistula less common. Addressing social issues that contribute to the problem – such as early pregnancy, girls’ education, poverty and women’s empowerment – are important areas of intervention as well.

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Remember the saying “what’s good for the goose is good for the ganja”. Same goes to breastfeeding for mother and child. Breastfeeding does not only benefit the child but mother as well.

Breastfeeding contributes to the health and wellbeing of mothers according to World Health Organization (WHO). It may be a difficult task for some mothers to breastfeed their infants but when you consider the health benefits not just for your child but for you as well then you will reconsider your choice not to breastfeed. Here are ways Breastfeeding benefits mothers:

Helps burn calories:

Breastfeeding burns 300 to 500 calories studies suggest. When you burn calories you naturally lose weight and get back to your pre-pregnancy body quickly. See http://www.womanlycare.com/simple-ways-to-lose-belly-fat-while-breastfeeding/

Helps in better child spacing:

WHO strongly recommends exclusive breastfeeding for the first six months of an infant. This also benefits the mother as well. When you breastfeed prolactin levels (essential for lactation) are high and estrogen levels (essential for ovulation) are low. If you breastfeed exclusively it will delay the return of your period as estrogen levels are low. But if you combine bottle feeding with breastfeeding, your period comes back sooner than it would have if you breastfed exclusively. So since ovulation is delayed during breastfeeding it gives you a chance to practice natural child spacing.

Reduces breast and ovarian cancer risk:

Since estrogen levels are low during breastfeeding, it is believed to reduce the chances of developing breast or ovarian cancers as high levels of the hormone increases the risk for this cancer. See http://www.womanlycare.com/6-ways-to-prevent-breast-cancer/

Reduces risk for post-menopausal osteoporosis:
Lactation improves your body’s absorption of calcium, and calcium improves bone health, preventing osteoporosis and fractures.

Great bonding experience:

Breastfeeding gives you that ‘baby and me’ time that you’ve always longed for and makes the bond between you and your baby an exceptional one.

It’s cheap:

Breastfeeding is cheap and saves money for the family. imagine if you were bottle-feeding for the first 6months, you would have spent a lot of money buying formula.

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So many women are unaware of the role of a physiotherapist in women’s health. They just let their body after birth without proper rehabilitation.

I am a three-time mom and have benefitted from physiotherapy before and after birth and still benefitting because I’m also a new mom. As a physiotherapist myself, I have had the opportunity to advise and treat women with various physical health challenges during pregnancy and after birth. You don’t really need to bear the pain, you don’t need to wear a pad every day hoping that someday the urine leak would stop. As a new mom, you need physiotherapy.

During pregnancy and childbirth, most women see their body as not theirs; so many physical and hormonal changes may affect your health temporarily or even long term. The perineal and pelvic region are culprit during labour and childbirth. These muscles (pelvic floor muscles) have been stretched so much that it becomes weak and may lead to urinary incontinence, pelvic pain etc. Here few signs that you need a physiotherapist:

Urinary incontinence:

This is the uncontrolled passing of urine. It occurs when one sneezes or coughs; also when you feel the urge for urine and you can’t hold back for a little while it just comes gushing out. You don’t need to bear it, pregnancy and childbirth have taken its toll on you and you need to treat it. A physiotherapist can help by prescribing therapeutic exercises that would help you heal fast.

Back pain:

Back and joint pain could be very disturbing and therefore should not be overlooked. As a new mom you need your body back, and so should report whatever pain you may be experiencing to your physiotherapist. The back and joint pain you may have experienced during pregnancy contribute to your pain postpartum, therefore your muscles need to be strengthened and toned up in order to relieve pain. Positioning while breastfeeding also contributes to your back pain.

Pelvic pain:

if you experience pain in your pelvic area either during sex or bowel movement, you need physiotherapy sessions. It would be too bad starting your postpartum exercise programs with weak pelvic floor muscles. After birth, these muscles need to be rehabilitated before any proper exercise classes. Your pelvic floor muscles also need to be rehabilitated in preparation for the next pregnancy (I’m sure you never). Now you know, get to your nearest physiotherapist for postpartum rehabilitation.

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Nbote:
Properly timed or not, if ur sperm is super active ur precum definitely contains sperm and would get her pregnant. Like is clearly stated, not 100% guaranteed whether properly timed or not

I totally agree with you. Like I said, this is just one method and may not prevent pregnancy, that is why it has about 28% failure rate

Luizkid:
chaii... sometyms u're ready to withdraw n within those split seconds she'll beg u not to, mehn e no easy o

That is why as many as 28 out of 100 women who practice the withdrawal method for one year will get pregnant.

ToriBlue:
Coitus interruptus sometimes fail people, so they say.

Properly time withdrawal. When a man feels he’s about to ejaculate, he must withdraw his joystick from the woman’s vagina. Make sure that ejaculation occurs away from the woman’s genitals.

Take precautions before having sex again. If you plan to have sex again within a short period of time, make sure the man urinates and cleans off the tip of his joystick first. This will help remove any remaining sperm from the previous ejaculation.

The withdrawal method of contraception, also known as coitus interruptus, is the practice of withdrawing the penis from the vagina and away from a woman’s external genitals before ejaculation to prevent pregnancy. The goal of the withdrawal method is to prevent sperm from entering the vagina.

Using the withdrawal method for birth control requires self-control. Even then, the withdrawal method isn’t an especially effective form of birth control. Sperm may enter the vagina if withdrawal isn’t properly timed or if the pre-ejaculation fluid contains sperm. The withdrawal method doesn’t offer protection from sexually transmitted infections.

The withdrawal method of contraception can help prevent pregnancy. Among various benefits, the withdrawal method:

Is free and readily available
Has no side effects
Doesn’t require a fitting or prescription
Some couples choose to use the withdrawal method because they don’t want to use other contraceptive methods.

Using the withdrawal method to prevent pregnancy doesn’t pose any direct risks, but it doesn’t offer protection from sexually transmitted infections. Some couples also feel that the withdrawal method disrupts sexual pleasure.

As many as 28 out of 100 women who practice the withdrawal method for one year will get pregnant.

To use the withdrawal method:

Properly time withdrawal. When a man feels he’s about to ejaculate, he must withdraw his penis from the woman’s vagina. Make sure that ejaculation occurs away from the woman’s genitals.

Take precautions before having sex again. If you plan to have sex again within a short period of time, make sure the man urinates and cleans off the tip of his penis first. This will help remove any remaining sperm from the previous ejaculation.

If ejaculation isn’t properly timed and you’re concerned about pregnancy, consult your health care provider about emergency contraception.


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If you’re on the fence about joining a gym, consider this: Health club members exercise more and have better heart health, according to a new study.

Researchers from Iowa State University found men and women who have a gym membership get more aerobic and strength-training activity than those who don’t.

“It’s not surprising that people with a gym membership work out more, but the difference in our results is pretty dramatic,” said study corresponding author Duck-Chul Lee, an assistant professor of kinesiology.

“Gym members were 14 times more aerobically active than non-members and 10 times more likely to meet muscle-strengthening guidelines, regardless of their age and weight,” Lee said in a university news release.

U.S. health officials recommend that adults get 150 minutes of moderate or 75 minutes of vigorous aerobic activity each week.

Adults should also incorporate two days of weight lifting or other muscle-strengthening activities into their weekly routine. Muscle mass burns more energy and lowers the risk of obesity, the study authors explained.

Only half of all Americans meet the guidelines for aerobic activity, and only about 20 percent get the preferred amount of strength training, the study authors noted.

For the study, the researchers looked at data on more than 400 people, half of whom had a gym membership.

They found that 75 percent of the gym members met both aerobic and strength-training guidelines. But the same was true for only 18 percent of non-members.

Most of the people with a gym membership exceeded exercise recommendations, spending at least 300 minutes running, biking or engaging in some other cardio workout each week, according to the study.

Overall, the researchers noted health club members got nearly six more hours of physical activity a week than non-members.


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While the United States of America will spend about $7 million per prisoner in Guantanamo Bay in 2017, Nigeria will spend N1,688 on the health of each citizen in the year. An unrealistic figure it hoped would magically tackle the numerous health issues in the country.

Ever wondered why Nigeria is yet to find solutions to most of the health challenges in the country, like the incessant outbreaks of Lassa fever, high maternal and child deaths, poor primary health facilities, lack of functioning cancer machines, malnutrition, poor health emergency responses, among others? Wonder no further. The Nigerian government does not allocate enough funds for health interventions. It is not their priority.

This again has been shown in the 2017 national budget of N7.298 trillion presented to the National Assembly by President Muhammadu Buhari for approval, where only a meager 4.17 percent was allocated to the health sector, which is arguably one of the most critical sectors that drive other sectors of a country. Only a healthy people can plan for security, development or economic advancement.

On specifics, the Federal Government, if the appropriation bill is passed, will spend N304 billion on the health of over 180 million Nigerians, amounting to N1,688 per citizen for the whole year. Meanwhile, a prisoner in Guantanamo Bay in the United States will expend at least $7 million in the same year.

Also, on healthcare alone, the United States this year will spend at least $7,000 per citizen, which is about N3.5 million using a forex rate of N495 to a dollar. Switzerland will this year spend $6000, which is about N3 million. This, when compared to Nigeria’s N1,688 per head for a whole year, suggests why the country still grapple with poor health indices and the poor mortality rates for a country that prides itself as the giant of Africa.

No wonder various statistics show that Nigeria has one of the worst health records in the world. The country’s average mortality rate is put at 52 years, whereas in some less economically strong nations, even in Africa, their mortality rates rank way better than Nigeria’s.

For instance, while the number of deaths of infants under one year per 1000 live births in Nigeria is about 72.7, according to a 2015 report from World Fact Book, that of Rwanda is 58 deaths per 1000 children under five. That of Malawi is 42 deaths per 1000. Gabon is 46, Togo is 45, Kenya is 39, while Libya is just 11.

According to the Group Medical Director, Reddington Hospital, Dr. Tunde Lalude, during a presentation in Lagos recently, he said the budget alone for National Insurance Scheme in the United Kingdom for a year was more than Nigeria’s entire annual budget, thereby underscoring the importance the UK government attaches to the health of its citizens; a direct contrast to what obtains in Nigeria, whose population almost triples that of UK.

But the World Health Organisation (WHO) says for Nigeria to be seen to prioritize healthcare, it must at the least spend a minimum of N6,908 per Nigerian in a year, which when multiplied by 180 million people will amount to N1.2 trillion.

Meaning if N1.2 trillion is budgeted and spent on healthcare for a year, as against the current N304 billion being allocated to healthcare for 2017, it will go a long way in solving significant health issues in the country.

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Bath time may be play time for some kids, as they giggle while the water trickles. No mother prays for the worst during bath time, but the worst can actually happen if the caregiver gets her attention to something else other than the child (especially young children).

January of every year marks the National Bath Safety Month (this is a time to take extra care when bathing our kids, ourselves or any loved one). Sorry this post is coming at a later date but it’s all good.

The bathroom is the most susceptible place for falls especially for young children. Accidents that occur in the bathroom are often overlooked, but they could be a serious cause for concern as these accidents could be debilitating for our young ones.

An average Nigerian mother or caregiver baths her child while the child stands, or some in a shallow baby bath tub, or in a plastic bucket (improvised bath tub *winks*). Whichever way you bath your child, if proper attention is not given, in a blink accidents could occur.

I interviewed a mom Margret Kalu (name changed), and she narrated what happened to her 2-year-old son in a flash. She said, “After I had finished bathing him I realized I forgot his towel in his room and hurriedly left him to get it. Before I knew it, my son tried getting out of the bathroom himself, slipped and fell onto the bathroom floor, he had a swollen head, he cried all morning”. Margret never forgot to get everything she would need to bath her son anymore she stays with him from start to finish.

Mothers are caught in the act of either getting distracted while bathing their little ones or leaving them on their own to get something. These choices should be thoroughly reviewed. Children had slipped, had a fracture or dislocation, scalds (from very hot water) even drowned in bathtubs or improvised bathtubs. According to BabyCenter Children can drown in less than an inch of water. Mothers should pay more attention to children while bathing them. Here are some tips to help:

1. Never ever leave your child alone in the bathroom, not for a second: Children get attracted to a pool of water and so can easily drown. Be in the alert mode, no distraction. If you want to get something tie a towel around your child and go along with that child.

2. Check the temperature of the water: Some Nigerian mothers use very hot water to bath their kids especially infants. Please, mothers, our little ones are not chickens that need their feathers out so we could have a sumptuous meal. They are just kids and their skin is still tender.so please use a lukewarm water for their bath, check it first with the back of your palm or your elbow before using it on them.

3. For older kids who can stand and bath wear bathroom slippers – it will increase friction and protect against slipping.

4. Bath time is also a time to observe your child’s skin for any skin disorder

5. Have a firm grip on your child during bath time

6. Get everything you need to bath your child before bathing starts

7. Don’t store water in big plastic buckets, always drain all the water in your bathtub, empty your buckets of water after bath time and keep away from children.

8. Always lock the bathroom door, you should know when the children want to use the bathroom, and then supervise.

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Having young demanding children at home is what every mother experiences. It’s not an easy task, but every mother needs to be ready mentally and emotionally to deal with the demands of young children. You have to be ready for the kids at all times. Out of my own personal experience as a mother with three young kids, it, thus, has necessitated the five must-haves in the home.

Must Haves:
1. First Aid Box: This is so important, trust me. No matter how much you try to protect your kids from getting injured they just find a way around to get injured.
2. Snacks: For your sanity, please always have some snacks at home. Kids love snacking and they won’t spare you until you give them a snack when they want it.
3. Cartoons: Even my 5months old baby gets a little distracted from whining when a cartoon is tuned on for his older brothers, but it doesn’t really last for him but for his brothers it sure does work.

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Women account for three times as many office visits to doctors compared to men, yet they are not treated as carefully as men by many physicians. This is most evident when it comes to screening for heart disease. Heart disease has traditionally been considered a disease that most commonly affects men. Most people also assume that cancer, not heart disease, is the number one killer of women in the United States. Both of these assumptions are no longer true and can be dangerous if believed.

In actuality, more than one-third of all American women are now living with some form of heart disease, and over 40 percent of all deaths among women in the U.S. are caused by heart disease (approximately 400,000 deaths each year), with heart disease killing approximately 10 times as many women each year as breast cancer.

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