₦airaland Forum

Alas, in my haste to sleep i was remiss to notice there are actually three pages of scintillating dialogue.

@Obirin: Thanks for a good read. I must say you do possess a wonderful turn of phrase. You should consider getting some of your musings published. Very refreshing!!!

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Been reading this post now for a good half hour and I'm touched by a sense of bewilderment. There are many reasons why a man of 35 would still be single and these are closely related to the same reasons why a woman of that age would still be single. We live in a competitive world where we have all mostly been blessed with the gift of education. This means that women can choose not to get married at the age of 19 merely to become a housewife but CAN exploit the benefits of that education to pursue a career. This means one thing!. Rather than settling for the first man or woman one sees, one can and should seek out that partner that will complement the kind of lifestyle (and by lifestyle I don't mean clubbing etc, rather, religion, values, morals, ideologies, etc) one chooses to have.

Location also plays a part. Be mindful of the wise saying that the best of any country stay in their country. I have heard people say it is difficult to find a good Nigerian in places such as America, England etc. This may well be true but at the same time it is still difficult to find them in Nigeria unless one employs a great degree of circumspection. Unless luck plays a significant role, you will not find your ideal in the nightclubs, strip bars etc,

One other aspect is this. Whilst we are young we are wont to have a long list of qualities which we desire our ideal partner to possess. As we mature and get older this list becomes shorter but at the same time we become set in our ways and find it difficult to compromise in a relationship. Further, a woman of 35 is bound to have reached a stage in her career which statistically will be higher than a man of a similar age. This is a problem for most men.

35 is not an issue save for the limitation nature has placed on child bearing, but this is changing!!

60 is the new 40. We are living longer and 35 today will soon be what 50 was 30 years ago.

In summary i really did not have a point to make but to type myself to sleep,  adieu