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If it's 2023 then you're still out of point.
Tinubu's family are ruling while obi was just doing campaign. In both aspect APC is still a fraud in this case.
1. If it was when obi was Governor dat he gifted 10k then that money was more valuable.
2. If it's truly in 2023 dat he gifted them, then nothing spoilt. It's only a campaign assistance but Tinubu's family is ruling, so anything they do should not only be to gift but to make sure it changes people whom they're governing life.

LegendHero:
You mean 10k has great purchasing power in 2023?

So if 10k can do magic in 2023, why are you condemning 50k in 2026?

A sitting baby is easier to play with than a sleeping adult. When u talk, talk n talk n no reply will u kip talking stil?

GuestInfinity:
Why don't you do it instead of asking her to do it?

Long distance

jaxxy:
When u were dating what food where u giving her?

No,

Sonofgod1990:
Is she here?

Ok.
Her Facebook ID is Joy Amuta

Sonofgod1990:
I fit help you advice am?

No

Sonofgod1990:
Is like I know this your wife ooo. Is her name oluchi? Because someone of that nature told me something like this. Some of her brothers are Muslims right?

She's not complaining that way but she feels reluctant eating them most of the time

Elect1neAtegun:
New husband in town tell me which kain rubbish food you sef dey chop wey dey make her complain.

Sigh 😕...
Thanks so much

Onegai:
Chijeep

She's not your girlfriend. Stop expecting girlfriend behaviour.

Secondly, you dated online and it was amazing. Then you moved in together and reality showed. No shi, Sherlock . "Objects appear brighter and more visible in the mirror", that's what car side mirror says. In other words, both of you were acting and pretending to achieve a goal and now reality don enter.

Thirdly, this woman has been in pain for 2 months and is losing her appetite, Bro take her arse to the hospital asap because that's how (God forbid) dem dey diagnose cancer. Any pain that lasts that long is serious, ignore her be a Head of the House and drag her to save her life.

Fourthly, you want her to browse online and find topics to discuss. Is her name "Netflix-Tencent-AmazonTV but you can call her HBO for short?" . Bros, why can't you do that?

You kinda rushed into things but this is so fixable.

Whatever you want her to do, you have to model it first. That's what Biblical love is: unselfish.

Stop expecting her to entertain you, entertain her instead. You want to talk about something, start the conversation. You want her to open up to you, open up first. You want her to be more appreciative of your meals and show it with happiness, be appreciative of her efforts to keep the house clean (or whatever she does) and show it with happiness. She will unconsciously mirror you. That's Leadership and that's what you signed up for. This is Biblical and psychological, heck Justin Timberlake sang a song about it.

And love her, see her as the best thing in your life. See what happens then.

It's even Biblical and psychological, it's called the Pygmalion Effect: when you see the best in someone, they subconsciously start wanting to be the best because of you. And conversely, when you see the worst in someone, they tell themselves "she/he never sees my good, so why bother".

Give her room to find herself and give yourself room to find yourself. And marriage counseling is good, you're solving the problem before it gets worse.

Oya go and drink one can of Maltina and chill, your marriage will be wonderful.

Ok. Thanks

HenryStarlife:
You’re welcome, when there’s enough funds please take her for checkup

Thanks, she do complain of stomach pain but she said she's not the type that take medication that it'll go naturally. Since like 2months ago

HenryStarlife:
I think she might have Health issues, I would advise you to be the first person to initiate activities and conversations, Sounds silly but just act like she’s pregnant and most importantly don’t read meaning to majority of what she does, do this for a month & hope for the best. I’m sorry to inform you but your honeymoon is long gone

Thanks so much. But she never deprived me of making love with her but just that she act very boring especially in communication

Kemical23:
Oga that is marriage for you, you have to calm down and your matter is solvable since it not physical abuse give her time because from your post she is not insulting you but just the normal useless lifestyle so many girls out there does...
Calm down and accept your fate and watch things unfold, if she want to leave you let her go
The area of sex maybe she is sick or what she is thinking presently can cause it..
Because as for me whenever I'm sick or whenever I'm having a serious thinking my libido will just vanish, during that period p@na don't move me....

Bro, I've tried.
Atimes, I'll even be encouraging her as a graduate that even if you don't know how to spark liveliness in a marriage, you can go mak research online and bring topics so we can be discussing but all my talk just go like that

Curious345:
Most of the time , 99% of the time , we men are the problem . Bro you only gut one life . Make her happy . Make yourself happy too. I think you're the timid guy here . But you too can improve on yourself . Seem like you build mountains out of molehills..

Arise , speak peace into your spirit

Let me break down my own POV.
1. I'm a lonely guy. No friends, just me.
2. She's not based here(JJC) That means it only me n her.
3. We go out to shop, sit down, do business and just stay.
4. Go home rest, and press phone then sleep.
So if it continues like this won't I be forced to be going out for pleasure?

Kobojunkie:
. Again, you are the one complaining! If you seek happiness elsewhere, how will that help or change the fact that she may have really checked out on you and the marriage, but is just enduring? Doesn't that make you an even more pathetic entity in the relationship?

Ok, lemme shock you.
We're attending marriage class already. And the teacher advised us to be open to each other in terms of health issue but do you know that this lady didn't inform me that she's having stomach issues until I brought out d talk of this her behaviour

EmpressTitan:
All of the facts are not laid out here. We have no idea your wife's perspective. Please go for marriage counseling.

Please what can I do?
I don't want to go from frying pan to fire.
If I say I should bear it with her and tomorrow comes it doesn't change I'll be living like a married single man

Sonnobax15:

Na 3 months old marriage don dey experience traffic like this so

Bro,it seems you guys rushed into the marriage too early. The time you guys were supposed to use for dating and courting,una rush convert am into marriage.

Funny enough how you fell for the idea of her managing with you . Just pray that Tinubu shouldn't win his reelection . If not,na then the real Hulk Hogan spirit go take unleash for your wife body come out

Sorry, you're wrong.
If I'm not ready I won't go into it.

EmpressTitan:
Hey Kobo, the man is not tired. He just does not love or respect his wife nor marriage... he seem not yo be ready for marriage or willing to stay married.

I told her that I'm not enjoying her behaviour. That if we continue like this, I'll be forced to seek happiness elsewhere. It me n her everyday and we hardly talk and gist. Just only a normal question if necessary. It's very boring, I don't have friends and nowhere to go

Kobojunkie:
She is not the one complaining. You are! So, you need to decide if you are tired of the marriage.

What is behind here now?
I told you I've discussed this with her more than 3times. I'll ask her if I'm not trying my best and she'll say I am. And I'll ask then why ain't you showing appreciation through happiness and she won't say anything

EmpressTitan:
Amazing the way you speak of your wife behind her back! Imagine what you may have been saying to her or your treatment of her. It may just not be about what you are able to provide... possibly your capacity to be a husband, talk more of a good husband.

All the comments above me ain't fair at all.
So a whole street dog. I warlord, a radical, a tout and outcast that can singlehandedly train both she and her offsprings deserved all these insult

Like I said I've done that already. 3 good times. Me saying that we should divorce is to let her know that if she don't want it anymore I can bear it rather than watch my emotional life ruin by a timid girl that I don't know what will become of her tomorrow

EmpressTitan:
Sit her down and have a heart to heart talk with her in a responsible manner. Lay out your grievances and listen to her feedback and both of you choose to address it as a team for collective best results. No reasonable woman who sees her husband hardworking trying in this Tinubu regime would not be appreciative of her husband. BTW 3months you are here running your mouth talking about divorce...all these ochanja markit marriage sef.

What I mean is that, the way she feels unwqnting to eat self looks like she's seeing it as rubbish. Everyday no be Christmas na

EmpressTitan:
So you are providing rubbish for the family you love okwaya? Okay oh, kwantinue Mr rubbish.

I'm not but I'm not just welcoming her behaviour. She's a good girl. She doesn't complain about anything but the flow isn't just there. What of when we start having kids?

Kobojunkie:
If you are tired of the marriage, then take the necessary step yourself.

To cut the long story short, I did my traditional marriage 3momths ago, though I met the girl online but before we even started talking about marriage, our chat always flow with fun and togetherness.

But the moment we return back to our base after the marriage this girl started behaving like introvert and a bit celibacy. Won't want to talk to me like in the aspect of gisting and barely share issues and decisions with me. Even the aspect of food she hardly find interest in eating what I'm able to provide.
I've confronted her more than 3 times and reminded her that I told you already before we go into this union that I'm not rich yet and I'm managing, and she assured me that she's also not from a rich home either and she'll be supportive. but now the girl will be acting as if I'm forcing her to eat the rubbish I provided.

I told her that she's free to quit the marriage if she's not that impressed and happy but she doesn't want to or maybe she's thinking of how people will see her.

PLEASE WHAT CAN I DO AS THIS IS AFFECTING MY EMOTIONS?, BECAUSE I'M A GUY THAT DECIDED TO LIVE AND DO MY THINGS ALONE, SO THAT I'LL BE ABLE TO HAVE MORE TIME WITH MY WIFE AND CHILDREN WHEN THE TIME COMES.

But you people find it difficult to condemn the death of Deborah and other Christians killed in the north

RealLordZeus:
because of the opinion of a man, more than 2bn ppl are not okay.
Don't you think your sanity should be evaluated

2027 Election result will shock many people.
The truth will prevail

Just want to look for a means to demote Peter Obi.
Una no serious wahai

If you're complaining about poor economy or bad government I'll like you to put yourself together and thrive through the thick and thin of your challenges to make a way for yourself.
THIS WOMAN HERE IS A CLEAR EXAMPLE OF WHAT "NOT GIVING UP BECAUSE OF YOUR PREDICAMENTS" LOOKS LIKE.
That's her harvesting plenty maize from her farm.
Her moniker on social media is the unstoppable lady 1

Great news.
Tinubu supporters will do the same soon but the worse part is that it won't be there own money but their druggie will send

Tinubu can reign even beyond 2031 only in your heads and your likes

emmi14:
A monarch in kwara is dead in the hands of kidnappers. Tinubu 2031

Thank God you're being sincere this time around. But our honest response then, n9w and tomorrow is we don't want your renewed hope. Oh ha!!!