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I believe in positive affirmations and I pray too! Thank you for that, I really appreciate.

Shokoloko:
Hello dear, I'm so sorry to hear that you are facing this here.

First off, you need to find a Nigerian whatsapp group in your area. I know each province has a group.

Now you are not making friends, most likely, you have an unfriendly aura, so people can sense the negative energy even when you try.
Fortunately its easy to take care of it. And I will tell you what worked for my son: Go to the mirror each morning and say " I am happy, I am kind, life is good, I am great at making friends, my friends like me, I am the best"
You might need to say this for months until it gets deep in your spirit and then boom.
Now this is something tried and tested for ME and my kids and not something that I read up.

When you go to the stores, or anywhere attempt simple short conversation. Canadians like to talk.....A LOT.

Finally if you are a Christian, talk to the Lord about it. He knows how to put friends (not sexual ones for now, because you re not married) in your path

I wish you the best and just know that there a few impossibilities in this world

Thanks for this invaluable advice. I will definitely work on these courses!

Ikjosh04:
@Childofthelord, i strongly recommend you follow the counsel above because I'll do just that too.

In addition to it, go on Coursera, and take a course titled: Storytelling and influencing; communicating with impact by Macquarie University. it'll be cool if you enrol and, take the full specialization.

The specialization contain the following courses:
* Storytelling and influencing; communicating with impact.
* Critical thinking skills for university success.
*Problem solving skills for university success.
*Information and digital literacy for university success.
*Build Personal Resilience.
*Leading transformation: Manage change.

You can add the course below to it;
*Successful Presentation by University of Colorado boulder.

I'm exactly like you and, my social life and, self esteem got a boost after taking this courses though, I must confess, I still don't have friends cause, I don't go out and, I don't have anything taking me out.

Personally, I think there's a socializing gene that is dormant in our brain that, needs to be triggered and I don't know what can trigger it!

I just finished my Nysc in Lag and, through out the 1yr of service, I made only one friend(a female) few days to my pop and, this my new friend, is gradually turning to an acquitance cause our chatting reduced drastically after the pop and, I guess she got fed up of always initiating the conversation.

Me, thinking out loud now, do we really need casual friends? We're in the Era of 4th industrial revolution that is characterized by a range of new technologies fusing the physical, digital, and biological worlds, impacting all disciplines, economies, and industries, and even challenging ideas about what it means to be human.

What I need in my life are (my circle)more mentors and role models that will aid me, get to where I want to be faster and, definitely a gf/fiancee/wife of my own.

When I get bored, I just surf the web from IG to NL to LinkedIn to Quora to YouTube, listen to music or movies and get back to work/studying.

Obviously the cold affects everyone, right now its about -6c. Although BC is actually the one of the warm sides of Canada, the thing about the cold is that it keeps everyone indoors, the weather forecast can keep you in your house for days. And now that most Universities in Canada are teaching remotely, it gets worse. Everything is online.

TysonsCorner:
Hope the cold isn't affecting you? Canada is cool tho but the weather nah!!!!! I prefer the US

While i do agree that Canadians do not give a shit about immigrants, I think they are quite friendly to everyone, but they want no relationship or long-time friendship whatsoever. Most of the time there has to be a linking factor, like taking the same course or being in the same committee but once that is over, they can see you on the street and act like they don't even know you. It takes wisdom to realize that that behaviour of theirs has nothing to do with you. For me, it wasn't until i heard similar scenerios before i realized that i was not the bad person. And yeah, Nigerian guys are always after the white girls.

TysonsCorner:
The reason is that most Nigerian guys are mainly after other ladies from other countries.... While the Canadians don't give a Bleep about immigrants or international students. They are very cold and unfriendly. They prefer to look front and date Canadians!!

Hi everyone,

My name is Grace, 21yrs, I am in my 3rd year student, pursing a BN degree in Nursing administration (UBC) in Canada. However, since I left Nigeria in 2018, my life never remained the same. Let me start by saying a little about myself.
I come from a Christian home in Nigeria, my parents both attend deeper life.
They are hardcore disciplinarians and prayer warriors. My mum especially, each time i came back from school, my mum searched my bag. I was not allowed to have any social networking apps, not even WhatsApp, my mum always checked my phone. All my parents ever care about is my education and getting good grades. If i am not talking about books, i am not making sense( i was not allowed to attend prom). I had no outfits, just normal clothes and school uniform. I am never allowed to visit friends, go out or have friends over. I spent a large chunk of my time in my bedroom. I do not know how to socialize or communicate with people.
My social life was in bad shape and i never realized it.
I realized that my upbringing and the way i lived my life has really affected me now. I have trouble making friends and even sometimes when people approach me, they go mute after some days, it appears like i cannot keep friends. There are 60 students in my department and i could not make friends with one person, i do not have anyone to check with after an exam or test, nobody checks on me either. I always conatact the professors directly if i have any issues.
To be frank, I did spend 2 years in Unilag before coming to Canada and I had quite a number of friends, many guys were toasting me. I even lost count as some point. But ever since i stepped into this Canada, no guy, i repeat no guy has ever asked me out. white oh, black oh, hispanic oh, nothing. Though i have a number of acquittances but no one to share a drink with or talk about how the day went. This was different from when i was in Nigeria.
Right now I am really trying to make friends but each time i try, the energy is always coming from my end and sometimes they ignore me. I have no best friend, no boyfriend, no padi padi. I believe i have a bright future ahead of me but sometimes i just feel lost with how lonely i get.
Sometimes i feel like there a spirit of loneliness following me, i have no roommates too.
This has not stopped me from doing what i have to do and studying well, but i find it a little disturbing.
Is this normal? for students studying abroad? Maybe I am just different, I dunno.
I am willing to answer any questions?

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Groovenaija360:
After fucking all her lecturers

They gave her another man's sweat

there should be more to life than this unkuuu