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Why would I say it happened to me just to get sympathy? I don't know any of you and we are all like a million miles apart so there will be no need for me to talk bull.

Atupa, it is possible to be pregnant and STILL have the monthly flow - learn something new and stop being difficult!

Thanks people.

I feel so much better now.

I know my God never fails so it's all good.

Thank you alheri. How old was your child when you met your husband? I just think beacuse my son is almost 10, his not a baby anymore and it would be hard for a man to bond with him (he would be jealous and it's always been me and him and I would not want him to feel like someone was taking me away/our time together).

@kenflavor Sorry if I sounded harsh. I just needed him to understand.

@seun

@ sirkay, I don't think you read my post well, I did not say I fall easily for guys! I'm alot wiser than to listen to chat that guys spill and please - don't pity me! I love my life and would not change my son for anything but it would be nice to have someone take an interest in me (big difference). I am not desperate for any man.



I was simply asking guys views on if they would marry a woman with a child/women with the same circumstances.

@prettyH, thanks for that, you are so right. If a man loves me then of course he will love my child just as much. I just get abit weak at times but I leave everything to God.

x

I was in the same situation too, I didn't know I was pregnant either till I was about 7mths and me and the guy had already broken up. When everyone found out, lets just say 'I didn't see my family for years and my grandmother is only just about talking to me and my son is almost 10!

It sounds crazy but it's true and till it happens to you, it will be unbelieveable

I'm new to this but so glad I came across this website, it's so frustrating having something on your mind and not being able to spill, but now I can

Ok, it starts with me having my son at 16 and his nearly 10 now.  I have not been married/had a serious relationship  since and I fear this is because I have a child.  I have been in relationships but they never lead anywhere (partly due to me aswell as I have issues opening up and letting my guard down).  As I am now, I haven't been in a relationship for almost 2yrs.

Is it me or am I right in thinking that nigerian men generally don't want to settle down with a woman who has a kid? I have no contact with my son's dad and it's always been me and my son so I sometimes can't always be going out on dates/bars because I have responsibilities.  I did date someone on/off for 5yrs (the only guy my son ever saw me with and we never kissed/touched each other in front  of him which made it also difficult for both of us)and after we broke up in a such a bad way, he actually admitted to one of my friends that he was going to eventually marry me (not that I wanted to, I did not find him physically attractive but we got on so well that we just got so close) which gave me hope, but he could have just said that for the sake of it.

I work hard to provide for me and my son but it would be really good just to have someone to have an adult conversation with or even how my day at work was/how I am. 

Can any guys shed light?

It is possible, My aunt married a guy that was not her class in no sense at all.

She only used to date guys that called themselves 'big boys' (nice car,home etc)but they were the worse and she knew it. It was pure luck if these 'big boys' didn't have women all over london/nigeria.

Sorry, to get back to poor guys, basically, my aunty and this guy are now married with 2 beautiful children,nice house/car,he looks really good and you would not believe where he came from just a couple of years ago and just to add, he is a wonderful man who I have so much respect for (I hope to find a hubby like that one day, if it means me marrying a guy who doesn;t have much then so be it - happiness and respect is all I ask.)

I hope it was ok for me to reply to this, I am new and have no idea how this works.

Thanks.
Bye Bleep