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This is truly sad and painful. May God console her parents.

Streetinvestor2:
Tinubu is on betting on rigging. He will be shocked in 2027 that Nigerians will resist it even with their blood.

Empty chest beating as usual!

One "Emir", a thug, is hiding inside Osun State government House— that’s shameful.

Gentlesoul2021:
Good day N'Lander

I need genuine opinions on a relationship dilemma.

My younger sister is 31 years old. She's highly educated with a master's degree, works with an NGO as a Programme Coordinator and Mental Health Counselor, and is also a skilled fashion designer with equipment worth over ₦2 million. She's hardworking, focused, and has consistently supported our family. Her job has taken her across different states, exposing her to diverse experiences and opportunities. Above all, she's deeply committed to her Christian faith.

She recently met a fellow church brother who has expressed serious interest in marrying her. However, he left school after Primary Six and works as a traditional window louvre fabricator. While there's absolutely nothing wrong with learning a trade, he has had opportunities to upgrade his skills to modern aluminium fabrication but hasn't pursued them. Instead, he seems more interested in becoming a pastor or working in a church, though he currently has no clear or realistic path to achieving that.

Another concern is the family dynamic. My mother and the young man's mother serve in the same church unit. On several occasions, whenever he goes out for a job, his mother would call him back or redirect him for other errands, and she would even mention these things to my mother. This has given us the impression that she relies heavily on him, raising concerns about the level of responsibility he already carries within his family and how that might affect his future marriage.

My mother strongly opposes the relationship, believing the gap in education, career progression, ambition, life direction, and even family expectations is too significant. I understand her concerns and tend to agree, but it also raises an important question.

Can love alone sustain a marriage when there's such a wide difference in education, ambition, exposure, career growth, and family responsibilities? Or should long-term compatibility, shared vision, emotional maturity, and the ability to build a stable future together carry more weight than love?

I'd genuinely appreciate respectful and honest opinions from both married and unmarried people. Please keep the discussion civil and objective—this isn't about looking down on anyone because of their educational background or occupation, but about understanding what truly makes a marriage work in the long run.

Does your sister love this man? If she does, you and your mum should leave her alone! She is already 31—time is not on her side.
The fact that the man is not educated does not make him disabled or incapable. He may not have a white-collar job, but he is not unemployed.
The choice is your sister's to make. You and your mum should leave her alone. Or do you want to marry her yourselves?

Na the wife be that, ba? Hmmm... these Gen Zs, or whatever they call them, though.
The two of them—husband and wife—are supposed to be living under the roofs of their respective parents' houses.

Funny enough, I just wonder what kind of upbringing or values these two are going to pass on to their child.

CertifiedGee:
Sorry my response may be long, but it's based on my own personal experience with both cars as I have used the Camry before and I drive the Accord now.
I am using the 05 Honda Accord (EOD) 2.4l engine which is exactly the same engine 06/07 (D/C) uses and I can tell you that the Honda is way cheaper to maintain than the Camry. Complete engine and gear of the Honda is not even up to 1m (930k and it definitely will go lower if I decide to swap the one I'm removing from the Accord which should be at least 150k to 200k deduction, so do the maths), but the gearbox of the Camry alone is over 1m, engine is also over 1m as well. Fuel efficiency is the same, both the 4 cylinder and V6 of both, then, the Accord has a better performance than the Camry. The Camry 4 cylinder is notorious for oil shortage. Some might say the Camry is stronger, but I do not agree to it 100%. I traveled from Idiroko, agun state to Eleko, Lagos state 3 weeks ago, just as I got to Owode (like 40 minutes into the journey) , I noticed my gear slipping, but I ignored it, drove it like that for over 2 hrs to Eleko, only for me to reach my destination and saw I had not even a single drop of transmission oil again when a friend wanted to go drop his babe and gear wasn't loading again. I left the car alone till the next day to cool down, bought the Honda original ATF, put it and at the first attempt, it engaged without issues till date. I'm not sure the Camry can be that forgiving (later got to discover that ATF was leaking from the shaft and a #3500 seal was what got it fixed).
The only advantage I can really point to is that the Camry has a higher resale value than the Accord, but every other thing, speed, balance, comfort and maintenance, and more driver friendly, the Accord come out top. Do I need to say the Accord has less fake parts than the Camry and it's less of a thief magnet than the Camry. Both the Camry and Accord of that year are notorious for power steering issue, but with less than 90k (brand new) or around 40k (to refix the damaged one), you can fix that of the Honda, and you need around 160k for the Camry if not more.
I know some will always say Honda dey pull leg anyhow and I can tell you for free that it's a very big fat lie because it won't just pull without prior notice of more than a week sef, so once you hear a strange noise, attend to it ASAP, especially when it's coming from the leg area to avoid pulling.
I know some Toyota fan boys will come for me because the won't bother to reach the area I said it's my personal opinion and it's coming from my own PERSONAL experience with both cars.

You've said it all— so aptly put.

ElevationD:
Abeg bros, with all these grammar and hyping, Seun Kuti resemble “well-trained fighter” for your eye.

When birds dey gather for meeting, wetin concern labalaba inside? Labalaba na bird?

Ogbeni, I never said Seun Kuti was a trained fighter, nor did I hype him in any way. There's a clear difference between making a conditional comparison and stating a fact. Show me anywhere in my post where I said Seun was a trained fighter.
My statement was conditional: "a trained fighter with Seun's physique..." is not the same as "Seun is a trained fighter." Man, work on your comprehension—it's basic.

Go back and read my post again. This time, read it slowly so you can understand what was actually written. Saying, "If Seun were a trained fighter..." is completely different from saying, "Seun is a trained fighter." Na basic English, nah!

frog12:
Canada no suppose be there at all.
na poor team.

Just leave that Canada; Morocco will teach them an unforgettable lesson of their lives.

Israel they hate, but they love the jihadists—South Africa is a terrible country.

Black Africans they despise, yet they worship anything from outside Africa— White especially.

South Africans are Afrophobians! You deport Africans from Nigeria, Ghana, Zimbabwe, Malawi, and other African countries, yet you appoint an Asian man from Pakistan as your Minister of Education— what an insecure people!

Indeed, Africans must "gooorr bek to deir kantry"!

marlow1962:
Tinubu kingdom flooded keh, fake news everywhere.

Tinubu's kingdom we have seen— show us your father's village!

If you still support Peter Obi as a Yoruba man or Yoruba woman, and you intend to vote for him in the next election, you need to urgently report to the nearest psychiatric facility for a mental evaluation—you must be sick!

Obi is nothing but a tribal project. He has nothing to offer. Isn't he the same Obi who (mis)ruled Anambra? Oh... I laugh! These Obi supporters would support the devil himself as long as he is from their ethnic group.

Hate or love Baba Pastor Adeboye, Tinubu will govern Nigeria for two full terms—eight years. Fuuulish people: when Buhari was in power, the Fulani were their enemies then. Today, it is the Yoruba because Tinubu is the President. How do you expect to govern Nigeria when everyone is your enemy?

Obi will never rule Nigeria—it's sealed.

I'm a proud "Ronu."

Fight no be by size o!

A well-trained and experienced fighter with Seun's body frame can easily defeat an inexperienced man with VDM's physique. Take it or leave it, VDM's muscles will become totally useless when he's up against a skilled fighter—a boxer, taekwondo practitioner, judoka, or any other trained martial artist.

A well-trained fighter,with Seun's phsique, who knows where and how to strike, can incapacitate a much bigger VDM within seconds.

Folks, no be by size o!

I knew this match would be so dull— not disappointed!

I'm afraid the xenophobic guys will win. The Canadian team isn't that good, and they're not physically strong either. I wish it were Colombia the Banana Boys were facing tonight. That would have been the end of the road for them.

At least two African countries will be in the quarter finals. Semi final is however not guaranteed.

frankson1:
Israel has never 'dealt brutally' on Iran because they can't. It's only weak Lebanon and Gaza children, old men and women.

One-on-one, Israel would erase Iran. You really think wars are won by firing missiles blindly in every direction, don't you? Just imagine a situation in which Israel began attacking Iran's major cities without regard for civilian lives or infrastructure, just as the IRGC is doing. Trust me, you and your fellow supporters of the Ayatollahs would be crying blue murder in no time. Israel has the capability to strike Iran's major cities with devastating effect. Pray it never comes to that.

Eventually, the whole world will come to realise that Iran is the real aggressor—a regime of fanatics that desires nothing but bloodshed and destruction. Now that the Ayatollahs have recognised the strategic importance of the Strait of Hormuz, they intend to use it to hold the world hostage. It is only a matter of time before the Strait of Hormuz comes under the control of an international coalition led by the United States. The Iranian regime is evil—that is the truth.

Hezzyluv:
Congratulations...

But, I no dey familia with him.

He features mostly in Yoruba films.

fuckingAyaya:
Those that called ESN a terrorist organizations for trying to protect the lives of the eastern people, how far hope say he don clear like DStv? Something the wise men saw in 1966 is what the sophisticated brother's are seeing in 2026 😂😂😂😂.

Everybody go get sense for the country las las!

Wetin this one dey talk?! Dude, this thread is not about cannibalism— face front!

Just wait until this same girl enters/finds her way to Lagos— she'll begin to claim more polished even than the famous "Kiwi" polish!

Eeku ( Rat) and Fufu,or is it semovita? Rara o,I don't want! They can as well keep their daughter— I won't be a member of a bizarre family. That's a bizarre food right there!

Any non Yoruba contesting for any elective post in Lagos is just wasting his time— you will hear from us.

America,the only country in the Word where genuine freedom exists. Truly, uncle Sam's country is the God's own country.

God bless America.
God bless Israel.
God bless Nigeria.
God bless Yorubaland.

Igbo Amaka!

When it comes to football,Ronaldo is a man,but Messi is a god. Messi is the god of Football— no one comes any close,not even Ronaldo.

Someone somewhere knows exactly what happened.

Mr. Trump, the sooner you realise that confronting and defeating Iran is the only viable way forward, the better for you and your administration. You cannot have any workable deal with the Iranian regime—it simply will not work. Those people seem singularly focused on destroying Israel and imposing their ideology on the rest of the world. That is why they are sponsoring and supporting terrorism across various parts of the world.

One thing is certain: Israel will see its confrontation with Iran through to the end—it is only a matter of time. Mr. Trump, you may continue seeking a deal with Iran, but Israel will ultimately do what it believes is necessary when the time comes.

I stand with Israel forever, and it does not matter if the whole world stands against her. Whoever hates Israel, may God judge; whoever fights the chosen people of Judah, may Jehovah contend with them.
With or without America's support, Israel shall endure. Iran will be humbled, Lebanon's aggressors will be defeated, and every axis of evil will ultimately be brought to ruin.

God bless Israel, and may He bless all those who love and stand with her.