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Women only have a certain amount of tolerance for their partner making mistakes and doing various things that they find annoying or unattractive. Sadly, some men don’t get the hints women drop when she wants those mistakes to be remedied. Instead of relying on those hints, it may be time to step back and take a look at what you’re doing in your relationship.

In this list, I’ll veer away from the more obvious mistakes like being abusive or being
An outright jerk. Instead, I’ll be discussing some seemingly normal things men do that ultimately drive a woman away.
Mistakes men often make in relationships
If your relationship isn’t going as smoothly as you had hoped, it may be because you’re
Committing one of these 7 common relationship mistakes.

#1 Being a man-baby. She doesn’t want to be in a relationship with an overgrown child. She
Wants someone who can make decisions, take the initiative, and be in control. We are seeing more and more that the modern man is becoming weak, passive, and unassertive. If you are always trying to please her, always asking what she wants to do, and generally
Placing her atop a pedestal to worship her, I have news for you. She resents it!
That is what nearly every guy who is trying to get into her pants does. He kisses butt, and pretends that he is just trying to be nice to her. Of course, we all know what he wants, and he will never get it by being her servant. Women do not want an emotionally unstable
Weakling of a boyfriend. They want to be with someone whom they respect, are equal with
*not babysitting*, and has a backbone. It’s important to have your own point of view. It’s okay to sometimes disagree on certain things, and to have your own interests and desires.
You do not need your girlfriend’s permission to think. You should be your own man first, and her boyfriend second. Not the other way around!

#2 Neglecting personal growth. Too many guys give up on themselves as soon as they get into
a long-term relationship. They stop trying to be better, stop looking after themselves, and settle
into a life of mediocrity and comfort because they’ve already found someone who will
accept them for who they are. You’re not looking after yourself and growing as a person to meet women. You’re doing it for yourself. You should have enough self-respect
to give a crap about how you present yourself to the world. A lack of growth, drive, and focus
in a man’s life will soon lead to unhappiness, and more likely, self-medicating with alcohol
and crappy TV. Self-improvement is an ongoing personal
Challenge. Don’t let the comfort of being in a relationship stop you from growing into a better person.


#3 Forgetting your friends. Of course, you will spend less time with them, and you probably won’t go crawling the bars trying to pick up women, but it shouldn’t fundamentally change who you are. Your friends are still your friends, and if you do not have a life outside of
your relationship, you’re just keeping yourself caged in with your girlfriend. Your friends were there for you at the start, and if things go belly up, they will be there for you at the end, so long as you haven’t pushed them all away! That might seem like an overly pragmatic view, but it’s the reality. The majority of relationships you get into do not see through to happily ever after. That’s why it’s important to maintain a social circle outside of your relationship. Catching the game or having a couple of beers with friends is a good way to get out of the house and have a male friendship group. There are certain things that, as a guy, you want to be able to talk to other guys about, not to mention the general benefits of male bonding and friendship. Let’s be honest, you don’t like it when your friends change for a new relationship and abandon their buddies, so don’t do it to them either!


#4 Giving up on your dreams. As mentioned in point 2, life doesn’t *or at least shouldn’t* end as soon as you get into a serious relationship. You should be happy inside and outside of your relationship. Both parties should have meaning to their life that extends beyond each other. This means chasing your dreams and living your life. No matter how dedicated you are to your
Partner, you should still have a goal that extends beyond the confines of your relationship. Enriching your own life also helps to enrich the relationship you have with your girlfriend, as it’s a way to share new knowledge and experiences with each other. Just think about it: Wouldn’t your girlfriend be so much happier to be with a man who works towards reaching his dream, as opposed to a man who seems to only be living his life for her?


#5 Obsessing over her. There was life before your girlfriend, and there is life beyond your girlfriend. I’m sure she is great and lovely and sweet and all that good stuff. That’s why you’re with her, right? But no matter how tempting it is to spend all your time with her, you should take a step back and see if you’re starting to smother her with too much attention.
Derailing your entire life to cater to her may seem sweet, but that’s only if you’re characters in a rom-com. Real women will start to resent it if you’re no longer giving her space. And she’ll think you’re downright crazy if you drop everything you have going in your life just for her sake!


#6 Being overly jealous. A little jealousy from time to time is actually healthy, but being untrusting and controlling is neither romantic nor desirable. If you always want to read her phone or follow her around for fear that she’s paying attention to some other guy, this is indicative of a deep trust issue. Your girlfriend may then start to wonder what she could have done to merit your obsessive jealousy. Insecurity is a common culprit in men who are very jealous. When you’re insecure, you feel like this wonderful woman, whom you love and desire, might just find someone who’s better than you. You need to realize that she chose you, and unless she’s giving you a reason to doubt her fidelity, you must not let your insecurity and jealousy get the better of you.


#7 Getting stuck in a romantic rut . While you can’t always maintain the same level of
excitement that you had at the start of your relationship, it’s still important to try to mix things up and do new things together. If you don’t at least try, you’ll only end up focusing on the mundane, everyday routines that pass for a “good time” together. Sex can become monotonous, date nights can feel like a chore, and even your favorite activity together can lose its edge. In the end, this can make your girlfriend feel like she’s stuck in a relationship that has lost its spark.
Even though, as a man, you’re not solely responsible for keeping the excitement alive in your relationship, your girlfriend may secretly be hoping that you’d suddenly whisk her away on a surprise road trip or carry her off to a romantic home cooked dinner, complete with candles and jazz tunes. A little bit of spontaneity will do wonders for your relationship, so never skip the chance to insert it into your lives!

These 7 mistakes are far from the only ones that men make in relationships, but they are some of the biggest and most important. If you don’t start working on remedying these mistakes, you may soon find yourself alone and single!

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Most of us probably would be having same problem as the right amount of sugar to be consumed daily for healthy living. so guys the floor is open WHAT IS THE RIGHT AMOUNT OF SUGAR TO BE CONSUMED DAILY?
Thank You.

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but mind you private business establishment are all founded on risk. and being addicted to success is a bad habit...(just saying)
I brought up this topic to help millions asking. this question. That's why we need factual and concrete analysis to put this. issue to rest!!!
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Some ladies can be pathetic. All you need to say to get them to spread their legs is marriage. Once some of them hear the word marriage the iron doors of her thighs bound with flaming chains will miraculously be unlocked. Don't some of you have shame and self respect? You see a lady in a beautiful relationship throw it away because a guy she hasn't known for a week mentioned marriage to her. You see her running around excitedly like a girl who just found out the wonderful powers of the pen!s. Is it that all you care about is marriage? You don't care about who it is you're married to? All you want is to be addressed as a "Mrs". If you're part of such ladies then your head no correct. Don't you have self respect? That is why you see girls crying after break up that their ex promised them marriage. Their anger isn't that they lost someone they love but that they missed marriage. Guys have known the trick and will keep mentioning marriage and sampling your wet cores. Don't get it twisted Men aren't fools, they know ladies who are with them for love, those who are there for money or sex and those there just because they feel they are old enough for marriage. They will keep testing you and will keep marrying someone else because desperation is like a cologne, you can perceive it from miles away. Grow up, let the word marriage stop ruling you.!!

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Please this story isn’t about me ,a female shared it and I decided to share here.. I have been married to my hubby for 8 years and we are blessed with 4 boys which I had vaginally. After my last boy, my marriage went from bad to worse, as in, getting my hubby’s attention over the years has been very difficult. To have s#x with him is even on ‘appointment’ basis. The rate at which my marriage was going, I knew that if I didn’t do something about it, it would move from worse to worst. I sought the advice of one of my very close friends and she told me what to do. As funny as this sounds, it was working very well and I don’t want what I am doing to end. I got a new phone and sim card, then opened new accounts on all the social media, putting all my best body parts as the display/profile picture, especially on facebook, whatsapp and bbm. I then sent a friend request to my husband. The silly man did not waste any time in accepting my requests. At first, he played hard to get but I still relented. Because my identity is not revealed to him, I went back to being the way I used to be with him that made him fall in love with me. I flirted with him badly, and he keeps falling more and more. NHW, you won’t believe I send pictures of my p&%**y to him every morning and if you see how excited he gets. Can you imagine, he does not recognize ‘it’! The relationship has been going on strong for 6 months. In that 6 months, if you know how much he has sent to me. He has been begging to see my face, but I know that if I try that…the relationship will be over. Back as his wife, his attention to me has greatly waned but he has been very polite and somewhat ‘nice’. He now locks his phone, as if… NHW, I would rather have my hubby as a boyfriend than a husband. What do you think? Should I continue or should I stop?

A man came back from work and met his wife making love with another man on their matrimonial bed, without shouting or beating any of them, he went to the sitting room, switched on the televison and sat quietly listening to the news. A few minutes later, the man got dressed, came to the sitting room and said to the husband “I am sorry”, before he would say any more words, the husband said, “Don’t worry, stuff like this happens”, the man left, but the wife did not come out of the room. Tired of watching television, the husband switched off the television, went into the room, met the wife crying, without saying a word to her or asking about the incident, he went straight to bed and slept. In the morning, the husband woke up and saw the lifeless body of the wife. She committed suiccide while he was sleeping. The husband was arrested and sentenced to 20 years imprisonment for murder. Question: Who’s unfair in this ? The Law ……….. The Wife ……….. The Husband ……… The Man ……….. Please give a reason for your answer.

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I know we have got many graduates here, and even undergraduates like me.

I just want us to share the techniques of how we read and understand, mostly during our exam periods.

Do we jot stuffs in class and read later..or we just cram and download during exams (this is common among the ladies). There are lots of ways most most us tends to read during exams.

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Information they say is power getting to have little and timely ideas about certain issues would help in overcoming these issues.

Here are 4 things you need to know in order to define the difference between positive affirmations and negative bullsh*t, and how you unknowingly set yourself up to fail.

1. You believe there’s a magic answer for all the problems in your life.
This thing so many of us do, where we bury our heads somewhere and not discuss real life issues that need to be improved upon, is absurd. What we think and how we conduct ourselves impacts ours lives. Is that the universe? Or is it simply cause and effect?
Just because we complain about something or express one or two negative thoughts doesn’t mean all will come to fruition. If that were the case, we’d all be bazillionaires with perfect bodies and relationships.
If thoughts had the magic of a genie in a bottle, our enemies would be suffering (unless their wishes were granted first) and our lives would be perfect.

2. You create negative things with negative thinking.
Guilty as charged: I’m guilty of telling my friends and family, “Careful; don’t put that out into the universe.”
My intention isn’t to avoid the negative topic; it’s only to make them aware that thoughts are things, and to not get sucked into a negative abyss.

3. You don’t deal with life; and therefore, you don’t truly live.
Discuss away and then reset. We have to deal with real life. We have to air out the demons of the day to resolve our issues. Your universe, your vessel, needs to let go to move forward and toward success.

4. You don’t listen to the most powerful person in your universe: YOU.
Oh, the mantras: “I’m a love magnet,” “Money comes easily” are great, but without work, drive, and dedication, no money is going to fall from the sky. Without putting yourself out there, love isn’t going to come knocking on your front door.
The universe is as powerful as we make it, people! Deal with the real, move up, move on, and stop relying on a power outside of the most powerful being: YOU.

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Ever gone on a date with a guy and it goes so well that you think, “This is it. He’s the one”? Turns out, you’re not “the one” to him. He’s not even looking for “the one”; he’s just looking for a casual hookup with no commitment.
You wish you knew this before you agreed to a second, third, and fourth date, plus an introduction to your friends and your three dogs.
So how can you avoid this type of guy?

Women’s Health Magazine gives us 5 ways to determine whether or not he’s worth your time:

1. He’s not in a rush to spend time with you.
According to psychologist and dating Coach Jennifer B. Rhodes, a guy who seems too eager to spend time with you may be more interested in hooking up than hanging out. And when he loses interest, you can bet you’ll never see or hear from him again.
A guy who’s genuinely interested in you will take his time, and be respectful of your time and availability.
To determine which one he is, Rhodes says that if he reaches out to you too early, ask him to wait and see if he does, or runs the other way.

2. He texts and calls back within a day.
An interested guy will respond to your texts within 24 hours, and if you ask him to call you, he will, says Rhodes. If he takes longer than 3 days, he may only be looking for something more casual, not a commitment.

3. He can have deep conversations with you.
Two days after the first meeting, if your conversations go beyond the discussion of the newest episode of Game of Thrones, he’s interested in a commitment, Rhodes says.
Conversations about family, your childhood, and religious beliefs are just a few of the serious topics you can both go on and on about. If he’s uncomfortable talking about himself and his background, he’s not looking for anything serious.

4. He doesn’t talk about how awful his ex was.
Venting about an ex or denying responsibility for a breakup can mean two things: 1) he’s not over her, and 2) he’s not mature enough to handle a relationship.
Judy Rosenberg, a clinical psychologist and dating coach, says that a guy who bad-mouths his ex might be very bad at communication, which is vital in any healthy relationship.

5. He has healthy relationships with family and friends.
Rosenberg says that a guy who maintains healthy family relationships and friendships is a guy capable of a healthy romantic relationship. Even caring for a pet signifies his readiness for a commitment.
Within two days, ask him how often he spends time with his family or friends. Rosenberg also says that if many of his friends are in committed relationships, there’s a high chance he’s looking for one, too.
So, before you jump into anything with a guy, make sure he’s ready to commit to you, not just string you along for the ride.



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Got this important. information thought it wise to share it on here...
According to a Pennsylvania State University study, these are the top 10 reasons why women divorce:
1. Infidelity
2. Incompatible
3. Drinking/Drug Use
4. Grew Apart
5. Personality problems
6. Lack of communication
7. Physical or mental abuse
8. Loss of love
9. Not meeting family obligations
10. Employment problems
Surprisingly financial problems was thirteenth on the list, which goes to show you that fighting over money all the time (or lack of money) is NOT one of the primary causes of divorce.

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. And just a little reminder, someone in the bible days died because of this type of thing.
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