₦airaland Forum

Jfyzee:
When you cannot bring yourself to do something base on your limited knowledge and someone else comes on to do that same thing and get praised. Will you consider it a failure or a great thing..?

So the question you should ask yourself is.. Will you consider Joseph the carpenter a great man for marrying a woman like Mary who was a virgin but was pregnant for an unknown..? (so to speak).
[b]
So young man, give it a deep thought and find your answer.[/b]your Analysis is the dumbest so because pushing drugs in Saudi Arabia is dangerous and Alot of people don't try it even the strongest of drug cartels don't try it me go mumu do am does it mean I'm a "legend" or I'm "great" ? Is that your definition of greatness? Knowninly taking avoidable dumb risks that others avoid? Lol so if the stock market is really crashing and I still invest huge money in it I'm "great" sorry but that sounds just too dumb too dumb , leave that Bible analysis because the single mothers are impregnated by randy irresponsible men they chose not holy Spirit.

joyfullyjoyous:
Love conquers all including status.

correctguy0900:
Don't have children then. Because ur mum also chose u over ur dad. way it is. Learn..

Liftedhands:
Every man will become second, third, fourth, fifth place! depending on the number of kids he father's in his woman's life once kids are involved. No wife places her husband above her children! NONE.


The only time a man remains number one is during courtship and before children starts coming
So don't deceive yourself, every man will eventually become second place after his children whether biological or adopted

franchasng:
Most single mothers come with too many baggage.

How many rich single mothers will be willing to date or marry a broke or financially struggling single guy None!

Single mothers be looking for financially successful guys to cater for them and their child.

Its unfortunate that some men don't have sense; they allow ladies to use them all in the name of romantic love that does not exist.


Most successful or rich single mothers will never agree to remarry and when they decide to date or marry, they always target only rich or successful guys, why Because to them its all about taking care of their child and themselves not even about romance they deceive guys into believing. Most single mothers will not even see you as a guy if you are not doing well financially, so they are not looking for love or romance but for a care taker and provider for them and their child.

Since ladies want to coerce guys into dating and marrying single mothers, may we ask ladies why rich single mother's don't marry broke or average guys but will rather be waiting for the rich guys to date or marry

Guys need to wise up, to ladies it is money, survival before romance but to sex and emotionally starved men, its always about sec and romance first which is why ladies use guys a lot to achieve their selfish life goals.

Don't allow yourself to be used, don't be fooled, ladies only bring out what you guys mistake as love only when they know the money is there.


So op @yazga why don't rich single mothers date and marry broke guys Can you tell us more please

Jfyzee:
Men who go the extra mile to do things beyond the ordinary, are always considered to be great. and not those who do the normal things which a sisi like you belong.



Who are you to judge others in the first place..? Is it because the girl or woman in question is not your sister or daughter..? You think most of the suppose baby mamas are not wise to also abort their babies..?

If not for randy men out there do you think some of these women want to be single with a child..? However, have you thought of women who may have lost their husbands to accident or illness while they are pregnant for their first or second child..? Don't these women deserve to be happy again if they should find another man..?

If you're to be God and these women should pray to you for another man in their lives, won't you grant their prayers..? Or you gonna send animals (Gorillas and Donkeys) to them as husband.

It is people like you with this shallow thinking and mentality that would have talked Joseph out from marrying Mary, the woman who gave birth to Jesus. You would have made him lose his blessings from God, but thank God they weren't in Africa.

Kindly grow up and change that shallow mentality and pray non of your daughters or sisters becomes a victim of what you condemn.


PEACE

eallstar:
Wait a minute am not in support of him,
But does single mothers don't deserve to have husband in life again because of their past mistakes?
They are people's sister 4 crying out, ur sister or anybody can fall victim, so they don't deserve love in this entire world again because they are single mothers?
Is it not men like u dat turn them to single mothers in the first place?
Let me ask you a question ( no offence )
If ur sister or any female family of yours fell victim,
Does she not deserve love in life again?
She should be single forever?

ozonechrome:
I tried so hard not to reply you.

I don't know the type of single mums you've met. I need you to understand that not all single mums are broke or will even consider dating you with all your singleness.

You also need to understand you ain't a reward to anyone.

I understand you are young with your line of thoughts.
I'll just advise you that in life be very open-minded.

molybdenum0012:
Lol... What is biggie there. Make una sit there dey debate I cannot do this I cannot do that. In the next 50 years, some of us here may be no more.

Life is too short than to engage in irrelivant argument. Each one has his or her reason for taking a certain decision in life. There are no rules at all.


Meanwhile, I will soon be getting married to my Yankee single mother.... She is the sweetest woman I have ever met. I love you baby....

Bridget95:
love could make a man overlook your concern s.Most single moms are victims of deciet.

PoliteActivist:
Gerald Ford, Bill Clinton, Barak Obama, all their step fathers married their single mothers

Fvckmoderators:
These jambites bashing single mums have a myopic view about life. As for me I don't discriminate, happiness and peace of mind is what I cherish. Some single mums are far more mature than single ladies. The one I am dating presently is a rare spec. Would you prefer her she aborts? To each his own, my last exes caused me depression, and so far presently I met someone who is v3ry understanding.

Ugosample:
your first paragraph tho

It is the culture of encouraging men to be irresponsible that is to blame for the shithole behaviour prevalent in NiggerArea.
Assuming men are mandated to pay child support for their "irresponsible act of getting a lady preheat that they are no married to" for example

all these talk won't even be popping up in the first place

I wonder wfy people think it's okay for a single dad to be not responsible for his child
it's just weird how people think in Nigeria

Awol1:
He has three security agents accompanying him.

Is that what you call freedom?

notoriousbabe:
says who?some young guys like them old

AwkaetitiBabe:
Mind you it's the man that is contacting the lady so if you wanna twist it, it will be the lady disturbing my boyfriend.... Personally I wouldn't lose sleep over anything as long as I'm aware of that's going on. If he decides to go back, tor. I'm simply fatalistic.

victorian:
Im not a coward .

Nigerian men are naturally egotistic from birth.

Shooting my shots on a guy im dying for ? Is like youve made the guy , God already

So nah. I will pass

Few weeks back a cute young guy said hi to me, i looked at him grudingly. In my mind , im like yea yea hes cute and so?
With a scowl on my face i replied and walked away hastily. I didnt want him to notice i like him. Lol
Then two days rain fell heavily , i was stuck at a filling station close to house . And i bumped into him again. I was like oh Lord! Whats he doing here ?
Then he was like , why do i look broody ? Because of the rain ? I looked at him and said yea. He then asked do i want to buy anything? I looked at him again , then looked away then i i said yea.
He was like , he can get those things for me and what do i want to buy? I was like hmm foodstuffs . He smiled and replied is it frozen chicken?or turkey or fish? Tomatoes? Tell.me.i can help instead of you entering the rain walking round the market without umbrella. I have a bike i can get them and im not scared of the rain. His friends stared at him in shock!

I said ok fine.sighs
Take this money, buy frozen chicken. Tomatoes, pepper equal amount, onions and power oil . He smiled he took the money and off he went with his bike . He came back 30mins with everything i want .

I was so touched , i said eeyah , such a nice chap and he smiled then drove off .

Well he has won a lil bit of my heart. hes kind and supportive , cool

Smiles, but i will never shoot any shot! Never!!!!!!!!!!!


I cant just imagine a guy i fancy , saying No to me!

A whole me! The lovely Princess of a certain kingdom in the south south region! Hell no!

DaBogu:
Reminds me of when I was hanging out with this guy for a while, we were so cool that he would get me lunch when I least expect, on my free days, he would take me to the movies and all. We connected on a whole different level. Everyone around me thought he was “the one” but Oga now said, “ahh, I had no idea I was leading you on, I just felt you were my gee, I’m not ready for anything serious ”, gee kee you dia. I wanted to die. I lost appetite totally, was so broken. Guy dropped me off, on my way sef I off wig, what’s the point of looking fine

AwkaetitiBabe:
The op was the one pumping her for information. He know she cannot go back to the said ex so why get worked up? Some men think because you dating them, they should be your alpha and omega, things don't work like that. This Op girlfriend might simply be on contact with d said ex because of her brother's admission. And if she cut ties now, I know say this Op no go fit run d admission thing for her brother o.
The op should guard his insecurities.

NkayStory:
Bye.

NkayStory:
It is not a blackmail because many of you rate your mothers over and above your fathers even on Nairaland...There are more irresponsible fathers than Mothers in Nigeria,that is not in dispute..

Well you can decide to mal-treat the mother of your children cos you feel you can get away with it now..I wont be the one to pay for it later,you will.

NkayStory:
Your assertions are as meaningless and useless as used toilet tissue...You can use your mouth to pack poo and anus to eat..none of my business..

Just take your smell away from my mentions and quit polluting this space.

NkayStory:
The joke is on you Nigerian fathers and would-be Nigerian fathers supporting tnis ...Your children are watching

.they will simply abandon you to rot away in your old ages while they face their mum alone..We see that happening all the time.

You wont be young,virile and strong forever..

spiceadole:
Typical of what my father would do.
I was a teenager when I vowed I will work hard and be able to afford stuff I need without a man.
When I saw the way my father quickly collected things he bought for my mum whenever they had any quarrel.
At the slightest thing,he would seize her phone, stop her from driving his car,stop her from eating even after giving her money to cook..He would carry her food with the plate and dispose in the waste bin.
The one that broke the horses back was when he set her box of clothes on fire..because he bought the clothes.

My parents marriage was painful to witness
But I learnt a very important lesson.
Thank God for me today.
Car that I bought as a spinster..A man is going to beat up his ex wife and collect a car of 2 years...
Women,please leave what society says and work hard.
Make money and be contented with what you can afford.
Personally,Gifts never freak me.
I believe anything I didn't buy by myself can be collected from me tomorrow.

GrabHisBalls:
The answer you seek is within your written words. On the average, which of the parent do you think is readily available to aid a child's grooming? Mother/father? Let me help you. It's the mother. Note: I am not in any way saying a child can't be attached to his/her father, they do, but they're mostly drawn towards the mother. You men are rarely available. Is it when you're even too busy to give your wife attention that you'll give a child your full attention. Let's not argue on this one abeg, it's no propaganda. The cases you pulled up do exist, but rare. Even in courts, have you ever wondered why kids are usually given to the mothers except in cases where it's established that the mother is a bad influence?

GrabHisBalls:
So, you're saying in essence that if you set up a business for your wife and your marriage fails along the line with kids, you would demand for the money the shop is worth or demand she locks it up.

Is evident from the comments how the average Nigerian guy reasons. Y'all need wisdom.

GrabHisBalls:
So, you're teaching them on how not to be taken advantage of by fighting their mother and creating a public scene. You're the smartest man alive.

Hope you also know kids are more attracted to their mothers than fathers? I'm sure we won't argue on that one. Goodluck with "advising them not to be taken advantage of" in such manners.