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Re: Should I Breakup With My Girlfriend Due To Old Flames? by justine94(m): 12:00pm On Aug 06, 2019
Its not dat they contact each other much..the reason for now is becos of the brodas admisn per say and the guy uses dat a meduim to keep in touch with her..he calls her at anytime..even dou not frequently..so i wont say they are still in contact..anytime he calls her she often tell me about it..but i know he discusses their past with her aside the broda admisiion stuff..i know deep down she still feels soft spots 4 him even though she tells me she loves me and she cant go back to him..i still know she still does have soft spot for him in which deep down she cant deny it..even though she says no...what broke the whole scenario.was wen she told me she called her ex to check on him and also tell or ask him about the brodas admision...the first told him she called to check on him..later she den said about the brodas admission..her matter just tire me
doris4u:

U have dated ur gal for 3 years and she is still in contact with her ex, hmmm the truth is that she still has a thing for her ex, am a lady . I know wat am saying.
By now considering the length of time u guys have dated , she is not supposed to be in contact with her ex for any reason.
It's better u pull out little by little if u can for your own sanity.
Only God knows if they are already sleeping with each other behind your back.
Re: Should I Breakup With My Girlfriend Due To Old Flames? by justine94(m): 12:05pm On Aug 06, 2019
You have a big point here though..but its more dan just the brodas admission..i can see it ..she often tells me anytime he ex calls her .he tells her things about her sef dat he saw in a dream bla bla..and dat she belvs him..dat wen dey wr dating den..any dream he had den often comes to pass..its just too much drama
Simplep:
Op you need patience since you said the reason they are communicating is because of her brother's admission, let the boy get admission and if they still communicate often after that then you can worry,chill for now

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Re: Should I Breakup With My Girlfriend Due To Old Flames? by justine94(m): 12:11pm On Aug 06, 2019
Bro..she knows her love her..but i just feel one way or d oda she feels ds level of guilt or Regret or i wd say Fear ..on d part her ex did notin wrong b4 dey parted ways...so shes tryin to pacify him..
Trizyd:


Yeah, if you truly want to make the relationship work, just do better, action speaks better than voice, I don't buy the idea of discussing how you feel about your girlfriend's ex with her. NEVER EVER SHOW YOUR WOMAN YOU ARE INSECURE. Women love strong and confident men.. Just show how you love her and how you will never share her with another man.. Good luck bro.
Re: Should I Breakup With My Girlfriend Due To Old Flames? by Chukapage(m): 12:19pm On Aug 06, 2019
AwkaetitiBabe:
The op was the one pumping her for information. He know she cannot go back to the said ex so why get worked up? Some men think because you dating them, they should be your alpha and omega, things don't work like that. This Op girlfriend might simply be on contact with d said ex because of her brother's admission. And if she cut ties now, I know say this Op no go fit run d admission thing for her brother o.
The op should guard his insecurities.
you sef won't you be insecure when your man is always contacting his ex frequently for one thing or the other? Op is human ,he is feeling insecure there is nothing "Men" about it don't try to "Genderize" it..Op trust your instincts ,guts and intiuiton believe me bro when your instincts start telling you something is wrong something is wrong!

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Re: Should I Breakup With My Girlfriend Due To Old Flames? by Sundrus: 12:27pm On Aug 06, 2019
doris4u:
grin calm down and advice the dude na
the guy don already make up him mind. Him only dey find opinion way dey similar to him own so dat him conacience no go too judge am. angry

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Re: Should I Breakup With My Girlfriend Due To Old Flames? by justine94(m): 12:31pm On Aug 06, 2019
Thanks for undastanding bro..my guts has aws got me going..it happened to me ind past..love clouded my judgement..i know she loves me..but i know she hasnt gotten over her Ex..even though she has moved on.and for d fact still contacts her..makes it easier for him to relate wit her
Chukapage:
you sef won't you be insecure when your man is always contacting his ex frequently for one thing or the other? Op is human ,he is feeling insecure there is nothing "Men" about it don't try to "Genderize" it..Op trust your instincts ,guts and intiuiton believe me bro when your instincts start telling you something is wrong something is wrong!

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Re: Should I Breakup With My Girlfriend Due To Old Flames? by justine94(m): 12:39pm On Aug 06, 2019
Bro i swear ..i don date close to God forgive me 20 diff girls..but ds one is diff lik very diff from others..she complements alot of things about me ..shes soft and knows how to love a man with evrtin she got both financially and otherwise..she practically the few of girls i dated den that can spend 10k for just eating for both of us which she will pay for..funny enough i still owe her 15k like ds .well doesnt even ask abt it anyway.she has many postives and very lil flaws to point at..its just this ex issues dat often brings prblm btw us.my mind is if i decide to get married today i wont tink twice abt taking her to d altar...i dont knw wat to do..i dont want to loose her because gurls lk dat are hard to come by..very hard..but i dnt want to tink with my heart but wt my head..
Sundrus:
the guy don already make up him mind. Him only dey find opinion way dey similar to him own so dat him conacience no go too judge am. angry

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Re: Should I Breakup With My Girlfriend Due To Old Flames? by bigx(m): 1:27pm On Aug 06, 2019
FLEE!

She has no iota of respect from you and is probably and would still cheat on you with him.
Re: Should I Breakup With My Girlfriend Due To Old Flames? by Teejazz1(m): 1:27pm On Aug 06, 2019
They are still going to Bleep each other believe it or not. That's how married women that cheat started.

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Re: Should I Breakup With My Girlfriend Due To Old Flames? by netflicks(m): 1:28pm On Aug 06, 2019
This is a personal issue tell us about the country pls
Re: Should I Breakup With My Girlfriend Due To Old Flames? by GeneralPula: 1:28pm On Aug 06, 2019
shocked
Re: Should I Breakup With My Girlfriend Due To Old Flames? by lilmax(m): 1:29pm On Aug 06, 2019
you're dating a KID


dump her immediately, you're better and you deserve more than her, she's not done with hoeing



and please if she comes back to you later in life, knack her till she bleeds then do away with her

as for that idiot boy wey still dey call am,
he won't enjoy her at all


know your worth

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Re: Should I Breakup With My Girlfriend Due To Old Flames? by luminouz(m): 1:29pm On Aug 06, 2019
No...she just has a soft spot for her ex...

Please,let her leave her life...don't be so insecure and a sissy...she is not cheating on you at all. She so much loves you,I have confirmed it myself. She is just checking on ex as a good girl she is....


E go soon clear for your eye...oponu omo... undecided

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Re: Should I Breakup With My Girlfriend Due To Old Flames? by hidee20(m): 1:31pm On Aug 06, 2019
justine94:
Ending a 3 year old aint easy..just want to know of am doing the right tin by calling it off

Do you mean this has been going on for 3 years or it just started recently?.

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Re: Should I Breakup With My Girlfriend Due To Old Flames? by lilmax(m): 1:32pm On Aug 06, 2019
Simplep:
Op you need patience since you said the reason they are communicating is because of her brother's admission, let the boy get admission and if they still communicate often after that then you can worry,chill for now
@op this post is useless like a used tissue
Re: Should I Breakup With My Girlfriend Due To Old Flames? by donprinyo(m): 1:32pm On Aug 06, 2019
Bro, go find work and keep urself busy. Also, make out time blow her mind with love and care and always make sure dat she cums at least twice a week.
Re: Should I Breakup With My Girlfriend Due To Old Flames? by Preshoma: 1:32pm On Aug 06, 2019
drips8:
You should quit the relationship if you feel insecure
For person wey him never marry sef.
Your peace of mind is very important
Re: Should I Breakup With My Girlfriend Due To Old Flames? by maxiuc(m): 1:33pm On Aug 06, 2019
I dey find money ooooooo


No be woman
Re: Should I Breakup With My Girlfriend Due To Old Flames? by tigerclaws: 1:33pm On Aug 06, 2019
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GeneralPula:
shocked
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Re: Should I Breakup With My Girlfriend Due To Old Flames? by SoNature(m): 1:34pm On Aug 06, 2019
clive2u:
Give her an ultimatum. Frequent talking to ur ex or me. Don't just tell her to stop kpata kpata or she'll do it In ur back. Let her reduce it.


I hate it wen a girl keeps praising her ex in my presence, when I use to date sha

I don't know why I hate giving people ultimatimus.
Perhaps I hate to give people the impression that they cannot do without me.
If I were in his shoes, I would quietly walk away.
Re: Should I Breakup With My Girlfriend Due To Old Flames? by Forreellinc: 1:34pm On Aug 06, 2019
grin give am belle na, that way she can't get back with her ex
Re: Should I Breakup With My Girlfriend Due To Old Flames? by Deepthoughts: 1:35pm On Aug 06, 2019
justine94:
My Gf of Almost 3 years, her Ex still calls her anytime he likes even though not Frequently, she once told me she felt bad about him that he did nothing to her, she so much believe him to an extent he calls her to tell her things that he Dreamt about her life.

She says most of his Dreams comes to Past while they were Dating then. When she went back to school, she told me he called her to come see him but she declined.

I know she loves me very much, she has proven it to me beyond any reasonable doubt but she still has a Soft Spots for her Ex.

Its making us have issues most times. Of recent i saw a dialled log of her ex on her phone. She said she wanted to check on him. It weakened me alot.

But she said it was nothing, even though the ex is actually helping her kid bro for his admission. She claims she only called to tell him that the brother has written his PUME exams...

When i look at her, I have this feeling she still have a soft spot for her ex..i told her can she see her ex call and not pick it up, she could not ansa. I asked her if she still loves him, she could not ansa, she only tell me she cant go back to him, that she loves me..

I know she won't go back to him, but i know this to be sure she still have a Soft spots for her ex..and her ex knows this very well, so he calls her anytime he likes knowing fully well he knows how to talk to her for her to listen.

Anything he tells her she believes him, notwithstanding, anytime he calls her ,she tells me that he called her, am just confused.. I have already told her i cant continue again becuase i cant continue to hurt my self....

Please i need advice
Guy,just summon the courage to walk out of that relationship,tell the girl to go give her ex a second chance while you move on,if you really want a peace of mind and to avoid sorrowful stories tomorrow.

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Re: Should I Breakup With My Girlfriend Due To Old Flames? by Heineken(m): 1:35pm On Aug 06, 2019
Lol ex things. That girl must cheat. Sure

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Re: Should I Breakup With My Girlfriend Due To Old Flames? by chelsea1116(m): 1:35pm On Aug 06, 2019
I hope you have made money my guy.
Right now i dey hustle o..that girl you dey talk if i hustle well fly back to naija e fit be me she go follow.
My guy put money in your mind now. Weda she dey Bleep d ex or not so far u dey collect ur own turn.
LOVE WILL BREAK UR HEART WITOUT MONEY.
HUSTLE NWANNE.
LEGIT HUSTLE O, I NO FOLLOW 4 ANY ILLEGAL HUSTLE.

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Re: Should I Breakup With My Girlfriend Due To Old Flames? by deltateam: 1:35pm On Aug 06, 2019
justine94:
My Gf of Almost 3 years, her Ex still calls her anytime he likes even though not Frequently, she once told me she felt bad about him that he did nothing to her, she so much believe him to an extent he calls her to tell her things that he Dreamt about her life.

She says most of his Dreams comes to Past while they were Dsating then. When she went back to school, she told me he called her to come see him but she declined.

I know she loves me very much, she has proven it to me beyond any reasonable doubt but she still has a Soft Spots for her Ex.

Its making us have issues most times. Of recent i saw a dialled log of her ex on her phone. She said she wanted to check on him. It weakened me alot.

But she said it was nothing, even though the ex is actually helping her kid bro for his admission. She claims she only called to tell him that the brother has written his PUME exams...

When i look at her, I have this feeling she still have a soft spot for her ex..i told her can she see her ex call and not pick it up, she could not ansa. I asked her if she still loves him, she could not ansa, she only tell me she cant go back to him, that she loves me..

I know she won't go back to him, but i know this to be sure she still have a Soft spots for her ex..and her ex knows this very well, so he calls her anytime he likes knowing fully well he knows how to talk to her for her to listen.

Anything he tells her she believes him, notwithstanding, anytime he calls her ,she tells me that he called her, am just confused.. I have already told her i cant continue again becuase i cant continue to hurt my self....

Please i need advice

This is the mistake guys make. When a girl is still having spots for her ex. Let her go. If you like rush and marry her but las las you will rush out.

Someone in Nairaland made this same mistake. Are you next?

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Re: Should I Breakup With My Girlfriend Due To Old Flames? by Jokerman(m): 1:37pm On Aug 06, 2019
Give her a strict warning my guy
Re: Should I Breakup With My Girlfriend Due To Old Flames? by Fragility6: 1:38pm On Aug 06, 2019
AwkaetitiBabe:
The op was the one pumping her for information. He know she cannot go back to the said ex so why get worked up? Some men think because you dating them, they should be your alpha and omega, things don't work like that. This Op girlfriend might simply be on contact with d said ex because of her brother's admission. And if she cut ties now, I know say this Op no go fit run d admission thing for her brother o.
The op should guard his insecurities.
The way some of you ladies talk at times eh. Una no dey wan dey fair wen e relates to una fellow lady. If it was the opposite sex maintaining contact with his ex for whatever reasons una go call us all sort of names.

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Re: Should I Breakup With My Girlfriend Due To Old Flames? by Korllami007: 1:38pm On Aug 06, 2019
If your girlfriend keeps contacting her ex and you go ahead and marry her, I can bet with my two balls that you will father someone else children. Because of the soft spot she has for her ex, some days before your marriage she will check on him and before you know, ex don drop sperm for sperm depot and you will just be doing top up during honeymoon. There is something you don't know, which is every woman ex still has spare key to their p..sy.
The way you narrate your story it sounds like she will be easy to open legs for her ex. I hope she hasn't been visiting her ex. If yes,

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Re: Should I Breakup With My Girlfriend Due To Old Flames? by Angelfrost(m): 1:38pm On Aug 06, 2019
justine94:
Its not that i feel insecure..she has no plans of going back to him..but she listens to him Nd i dont like it

Yet you don't feel insecure... Keep contradicting and deceiving yourself. I pity your overall health, and state of mind if you marry that lady. As long as her ex breathes and lives, she will never stop thinking about him (If not fantasizing too)... This means if she isn't already playing games with him, it's because you haven't provided her the reason to, and as fickle as ladies go, it will eventually happen, even in marriage.

Bottom line, any one (male or female) who still does what your girl is currently doing with her ex, has not gotten over the old relationship, and if you are familiar with the notorious "Okafor's Law", you would do well to move on to a more serious chick. Thank you.

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Re: Should I Breakup With My Girlfriend Due To Old Flames? by Bizibi(m): 1:39pm On Aug 06, 2019
AwkaetitiBabe:
The op was the one pumping her for information. He know she cannot go back to the said ex so why get worked up? Some men think because you dating them, they should be your alpha and omega, things don't work like that. This Op girlfriend might simply be on contact with d said ex because of her brother's admission. And if she cut ties now, I know say this Op no go fit run d admission thing for her brother o.
The op should guard his insecurities.
that girl will go back to her ex later, I have seen cases like this and I've experience such but my ex is married with a kid and she is looking for ways to come back.if a person can't call it quit completely,the person will go back.....

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