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Traay:
💯 for you.. keyword spice it up at Citroen19digit

you are spot on, i think most men too have problem, some of em after getting married, they drop all their bad boys game and they become conservative in the other room. brr tear that puccay up, trust me women love crazzzzy dudes.

Easy to say when you have not paid school fees and hospital bills, if not you would know that one drop of sperm equals to double bills.

Dtruthspeaker:
Now i understand, threads like this https://www.nairaland.com/8600512/signs-she-wants-second-round#138341826 deceive us into thinking that our partners will forever be like this, keeping us thinking that they would enjoy sex with us till death.

Meanwhile, they will expire and leave us hungry and unsatisfied as they now hate participating

This is true. All these sex talks make it seem like it would always be like that. Nothing warns you that it gets to a time that she would not want you visiting her over the same thing that she wants which all these talks hammer in all the time

Reduce masturbation, control masturbation but you will die and find yourself in a worser place if you don't masturbate

Porn is not good when you are not married but if you are married and you want to stay faithful, porn has a lot to teach

SixSeven:
I read that response. Trust me, if you let her know she has a competition today, all these things will change. That one I am sure of

Ah! bros, i no do oo. You see me and hell, i no do again. I have already had all the hells i needed growing up so right now I only need the peace and quiet and goodness I presently have to continue forever. So, i would not do anything to change my winning configuration. Which is why I told her that if she is tired she should go. Me, i no dey go near another woman. Mbanu

Ah thank God I am not working in an office (and now I see why I was always very uncomfortable with either me or my wife working in an office) for now I see that the mini skirt hot super intelligent, capable and beautiful secretary or colleague whether married or not will now be a target.

I pity husbands and wives working in office, it would be extremely difficult for you people to stay faithful

And so, now is the time for me to see whether i have truly learnt from my guys who went side chicking. I see all their troubles and hells and disasters, i think, i will just stick to masturbation till my dick cuts. At least, it would be pleasurable vasectomy after all Nigerian hospitals prevent us from doing vasectomy.

Flowing from the lessons i am learning about marriage and sex and all the information gotten from commenters in my threads, now I have seen another thing that hits us husbands in our marriages.

Now flowing from my last thread
https://www.nairaland.com/8607331/never-marry-not-rich-small and my experience this afternoon, it has just hit me big time another reason why we husbands cheat, no, scratch that, have sex with another woman, for, for today i just experienced a very great and strong need to leave my wife alone and go out to get satisfaction from another woman.

And now I appreciate that, that same tiredness will still fall on the second woman, so reason will dictate that i should not try to have only one woman most especially as I am not even trying to sololize her, so she is free to be unavailable, hence reason immediately tells me that i am free to have women in the waiting.

And so, now I see how amd why a faithful devoted may go straight from there to a man with a string of girl/women sex friends.

Or, if my wife had a sister, cousin or friend too close who has been calling me since but I was ignoring, tomorrow, if I still feel like this i just might answer their call or may even make the call myself.

SixSeven:
I am personally not a fan of anything unnatural but why I suggested the toy was because while it is important to satisfy her, you cannot give what you don't have or let me put it this way, you can't give more than you can supply to her and if she's not satisfied with your last comment above, then it's not really you. The toys are addictive and no man can match that machine power, he will simply die. For example you say she comes but you are still worried about that look. Could it just be you over analyzing the look? Are you projecting fear? Are you responsible for her fantasy? If a man imagines a woman with big bum bum and his wife doesn't have it, he will blame her when he should own up to his unrealistic fantasy. See, I understand your topic and I know men go through it. It's funny because initially, the virgin women are not interested in sex and the child birth makes it worse, then all of a sudden they start to want it more especially around their 30s and I am only writing from personal research and experience. Female libido and sexual satisfaction can fluctuate and often increase with age. Many women have lower orgasm frequency and sexual satisfaction early in sexual life, especially at first intercourse, compared with men. This is well-documented in sex research and contributes to the idea that early sexual experiences can be less pleasurable. With experience, she wants to explore more. Studies attribute this to better sexual knowledge and confidence, less fear, shame, or pain (she's already used to the ritual), more stable partner (you are in a marriage) and less anxiety about pregnancies. The missing part is communication here. It's not how big your tool is, it's how you use it to make her feel wholesome. The same women who can take different horse power will complain that the thing is too big. You are not responsible for her fantasy but I believe she deserves wholesome sex but if you are not sure and it's just by the look, I think it's all in your head.

If you read my response to Spencer who has said what you just said, you would see that i give her orgasms to the point that she tells me to stop.

However, i have just today discovered what one of the problem is, which is that we men have a higher libido over our wives and our wives cannot keep up.

I met her last night and i still wanted another action this afternoon and started but stopped because of I saw she was tired even though we were resting at home and watching movies.

And that is where I saw after discussing with her that she is silently complaining that I always want to enter her.

And this has made me appreciate even more why husbands cheat and I will now raise a thread on it for further enlightenment and clarification

SixSeven:
He should buy a intimacy gadget. Money cannot buy satisfaction.

Where you not shocked when one woman threw away her toy?

The toys do not solve it. They too expire.

SpencerForbes:
It’s clear from what you're saying that you really love your wife. Have you sat her down to talk about how you can satisfy her better? Maybe try doing the things she loved before kids—reigniting those old memories to spark that connection. You could even suggest incorporating toys during sex instead of her thinking of someone else. I’ve heard there are options out there with some serious size that you guys could look into together.

I'm guessing you're still relatively young, since the older generation didn't usually stress these things. Just make sure you aren't the type of guy who just jumps in, gets his, and then falls asleep. She’s putting in the work with Kegels and everything, so what’s your contribution? Are you working on your stamina or trying to level up your skills?

I think she just needs to be surprised. Switch up your routine, take her out, and get her things—at the end of the day, she’s the mother of your kids and she deserves to be happy. In my experience, a happy woman is much more likely to be passionate. Of course, if she’s just set on cheating regardless, then there isn't much you can do, but it's worth the effort.

This is where I tell you that she orgasms everytime we meet and she tells me to stop even. I even aensure that she orgasms at least 3 times before i stop. Yet, that look. That same look that i saw in the married women who were trying to draw me to enter them, hence my investigation and this present findings that we husbands expire and our wives are also hungry for ofe nsala.

So, it is nothing i did wrong just a natural phenomena that we thought only happens to us alone

marlow1962:
If you like be the richest man and have the fatest gbola, you will still get cheated on. Only 10% of men around the world get married to a responsible woman.

To say the truth, see, chioma and before before Regina Nwoko, a wife will try not to cheat if you are rich, but if you are poor, she even has reasons to leave you.

I think the 10% are those who are lucky to be both mr super Nackson and rich. These are the ones that even their former girlfriends of 60yrs ago are still calling him trying to seduce him.

People like us, can never have it in our lives

SenecaTheYonger:
You are the first man to say the truth about this stuff. I've spend almost twenty years on the internet reading all marital problems and no one has ever confessed to how big their wife gets after childbirth. So kudos to you.

But like all things, there's actually a solution. You can advice your wife to do kegel. It's a simple exercise where she squeeze her hole repeatedly. Maybe two hundred reps and above. It tightens women up very well.

Most prostitutes do this every day, it's why they're able to land a husband quickly, even after their insane body count. That's why you cannot convince some men that their wives used to do hookup.

That is why I am speaking for i was suspecting it . For check it, most cheating starts after child birth, but they always bend it to one issue or the other and so, i could not investigate the issue.

Now my wife wife was nicely put back together, (the male doctor who birthed my first child happily told me so himself and of course i must drop) it was so. But i noticed the first change, which is now she began enjoying sex where before I was slightly wondering if truly she was. So, now after child birth, i saw that she was now really loving sex and even initiated it where before, it was always me who started it.

It was the birth of my second child that i noticed that she became deeper and looser.

So she Kegeled and it was ok for me for i expected changes after child birth but i suspected that the kegel was covering up a deeper issue.

Now, i know that kegel cannot solve the deep issue. It only solves the wide issue and so, while I am satisfied, there is no way that she can be satisfied. Hence the long thing issue.

Then on top of the long thingness we now have the expiration issue/egusi issue.

And, now, i know that this is another reason why men cheat for i felt it when she got wider. That was the first time i understood why men cheat. I could see this issue was coming so i felt like running away to another woman knowing that it could make things better, even though I did not what things.

But now, i know that it is to avoid expiration, that is why we feel cheating is right.

However, we have all seen the hell that cheating brings so, i did not take it and now it has brought to this junction.

Now, i understand that we cheat first to prevent the wife from cheating, for we instinctively know that she must go out to have her satisfaction.

And it is because of this child birth.

Now, i suspect that this is the reason why some say that they don't want children and yet they are the same ones who are ready to adopt or do surrogacy. I have always wondered why they said this but now I am 80% sure that it is because they know that all i am going through is what must happen

SpencerForbes:
This is actually pretty interesting; I’m definitely picking up a lot from your experience. So, what’s the move now? Are you just going to let her get away with cheating and try to justify it, or are you planning to level up your game to see if you can reignite that spark?

I don get new spec now. If the babe like sex pass everything, na red flag be that o. 😂

You know, men always feel that they have a situation where cheating is justified and looking at all the scenarios of a woman's own it appears she had none.

But I always had a feeling that she too has one and i think i once saw a woman get it, (i saw one case here years ago were one or two guys were arguing that she was justified but i was still thinking on it)

So, now it is a new area for me and do I do not have any plan on it

And you know, as men too have confessed that they are tired of eating only egusi, clearly, i am seeing that she too is tired of me. And one of my pains is that i have been suspecting this since i read about women cheating. I kept saying in my mind that they do this because they too are tired of their men. But the stories always point it to the other areas.

And not even one wife has said it.

So, there is no move i can make to spark her plugs again. I am dead and expired.

Now every other man is better than me. If any guy goes near her, sparks start flying, and you we all have experienced it too, but I have always wondered what caused it. Now i know that it is the same i don't want to eat only egusi

Cum4me:
Bro I learnt so much from your write up. Now I understand why so many confession site are flooded with married women cheating.

Yeah! That shii bothered me since the first time i read it in ebony, hints and better lover magazines only for me to see it happen in my neighbourhood and that even i was going to be one of the guys who was going to lay with a married woman. So, i already decided I was not going to marry only to meet a virgin and I thought the outcome would be different. And now, she is heading to be like the women i ran from.

No one reported how the changes occurs they just say and he/she changed.

Namaster:
A lot of WRONG assumptions in this article.

Your d1ck could be the size of Burj Khalifa and it WON'T stop your wife/gf from cheating on you with a man with 5 inches.

WEALTH is also NOT enough to guarantee the faithfulness of ANY woman.
We have heard COUNTLESS stories of the wives of rich men FORKING the driver or gateman.

Also, you do NOT need to endure pain forever.
IF you feel UNHAPPY in your marriage, get a DIVORCE.

You do NOT have to wait until your wife brings home a BARSTHERD for you to raise.

Lastly, you need to understand that there is NO WAY to be sure of the fidelity of ANY woman.

You CANNOT control what she does with her vagina.

The ONLY thing you can control is YOUR actions after she does something you do NOT like with it.

I agree but if you watched how the thing rolled out and you can see that she truly was innocent in them all it feels like divorcing her would be wrong exactly how we men go out and return and the marriage still continues

LIVINGICONREBOR:
This is a fallacy of hasty generalisation.🥱

How?
For you to say this it means you too knew of these things.

JapaToDNext:
There is a saying when you have a taste of sin, u want more of it

Cheating can never be the solution to that marriage, the day any of you kukere outside, that marriage is over, because you will crave for more, more and more and yet still feel empty

Try and cure your spouse conji, no other way

This is where the lies in marriage start for those married earlier make it seem like once you are married you are immune to cheating and that everyone who cheats, is just an irresponsible person

My wife thought so, but I was sceptical about it as i have watched many responsible persons both males and females conduct themselves faithfully in their marriage till it happened.

But they never tell us how or why it happened. I can see that even the cheatee does not know how it happened. Nevertheless, one or two signs were there.

And somehow, those marriages continue.

In all truth, if she goes satisfying herself i think it is justified cheating for in truth as we men have said, if it was us who was unsatisfied nothing will stop us from going outside. And we expect to come back and our marriage continue

So, i feel that in truth she should go have her fill and that the marriage should not break because of it.

It's just that I am just seeing and learning why it must break because there is no way that she can come back after meeting a guy Bryon. And she loves big, tall guys like him. I actually told her that I noticed that she shakes when big fine guys come near her when she was a virgin but she dismissed it. So, its quite painful to see that i was right after all now that obviously she can now take big things

Dtruthspeaker:
Guy, you dey observe oo, are you an astronomer?

When i saw the way I was attracted to married women and they were attracted to me, i knew there was a problem for i knew that my thing is small yet these married women with their xray eyes were still trying to magnet me. So, I never wanted to marry till the wife came with her virginity and I thought my virginity plan was problem proof...

Until after the kids were born and then all the signs i saw in those married women started coming out on her. And now, the thing i feared and hated the most has finally started coming out

Wealthyonos:
Nawa ooo. The woman in this article is gone for good. I can't please her, I won't even bother to try.

My feelings precisely.

dettolgel:
If you are not a single dad or mom do not marry a single mom or dad. You are more likely to have a genuine and peaceful relationship with a widowr or widow than with a single mom or single dad. E get why their partner ran away, even if they were the one that called it off. It is evidence that their decision making skill get k leg .

I pray you bounce back soon.

If I may ask what happened to all your lesson gigs?

A widow is supposed to have a child na

To wealthyonos.

I don't know why they are banning my replies

Even if i put leg, she cannot be satisfied by me. We can not feel it, she needs 2 things,

1) a different man with his different thing and spirit.

And

2) a long thing.

Now, for number 1) i now see what happens to married women and why we men really love to have meet them.

Now, i know that it is because they are very very hungry for any man. Every man that is not their husband is very sweet and exciting whether he has a small thing or not.

And so they must enjoy him and he too must enjoy her because the whole package and experience is very new and electrifying.

And that is why there is always a strong attraction for married women.

And if the guy has a long one, then number 1 and 2 is automatically fulfilled .

Then, say bye bye to your wife because she must fall in love with him for he is her true first. She cannot help it, she just must.

That is why you see girls did not really answer in the thread https://www.nairaland.com/8592186/girl-ever-truly-forget-guy whether they never forget the guy who disvirgined them on the thread

Now, i know as i have been suspecting all along, It is not about who disvirgined her but about who gbenshed her till she scattered in love for him. That is the true first boyfriend they can never forget

So, here is a bad side for marrying a virgin, for there is no rest until she goes through all these experiences.

So, brother, i have to face it, i have expired in her hand like a battery. I can no longer start her engine again.

As, i told her, now I understand why husbands cheat. I believe this is what happens to them.

If only married men had spoken, i would have preferred not to marry or at least marry with a plan

YoungBlackRico:
So your wife is cheating?

Not yet. But i see her dissatisfaction and struggle

kiddaz:
Lol... This one still dey assume. Na so one say she won take me out to the beach one day. I'm not asking you out nor Am i interested in 4kn you. She fine and set sha but I don't do neighborhs. I dey my own dey when she came to my apartment with a bottle of Hennessy and a suggestion we go to the beach. Wetin concern me, shebi it's to enjoy. She has a serious boyfriend and a sugar daddy. So she probably took that bottle from one of them she no go buy am even though she can. We got there I bought Cana and coke for her to mix it. We smoked drank and ordered food. Later BBQ and more Cana. Babe began saying how she's not expensive to date as some guys may think blah blah blah... How She 4kd a guy after he spent "just" 250k on her blah blah blah... In my mind I just dey laugh her. So you believe say me like this even dey interested in you talk more spend to 4k you? When the first bill came I didn't have enough cash so she gave me that look like you no want spend money on me make we 4ck? Me I don't like holding cash but cards and when I'm stepping out I hold like 5 different bank cards. So I paid for it with my card and re ordered Glenn 15 years more coke for her and some BBQ... Truth is I like her nature but that money talk and her sexual behaviour abi wtv will I call it is scary even for me as a guy. Lots of girls feel their company is a favour to you. Imagine this one is talking rubbish up there with thier leech mentality. Later dem go begin cry to Jesus, Mohammed and ancestors for help

So you still spent even you did not fvkc? She still win small na!

Wealthyonos:
I cannot relate. You mean you took your time to write this? So what are you insinuating? Make we nor marry? Abi make we go do surgery make the gbola big? Find your own priorities and stop this nonsense

At least you now know what to expect in marriage

If i had known all these, at least one or two plans would have been made before i marry but now, am in pains looking at how and why my wife has to go get satisfaction

ErnestNc:
I know bro. I fvcked up. I learnt the hard way.

Bro, everyone has their own fvkc up. Don't mind these unhappy souls. They may also have been people who have experienced same and unlike you who got out, they are still running up and down this January looking for school fees to for their own single mom girlfriend

Thanks for sharing, it would certainly help others