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Lilly07:
Good morning

I gained admission to study in a federal university in Nigeria in 2019 but due to ASUU strike I didn't resume until 2021.

During the wait,I decided I wanted to study in Canada.So I applied to Canadian schools before I resumed in the federal university last year.

Before the end of 100level,I applied for my visa in October and due to delay I had to defer to Sept 2022.

My parents said I should continue studying in the federal university pending the time I get my visa.

The issue is I was asked to withdraw from my faculty in school because I didn't get the required points to move to 200 level.
My parents are advising me to change to a lower course that I can't sit at home that it would bring disgrace to them.

Right now, I'm so confused.Should I listen to their advice or wait for my visa and learn skills while waiting

Thank you

moyosore32:
U mean say mk Op no give up on his mom that’s spilling shii all arnd about him and his cousins, mom that’s got all that kinda attitude Op listed.... she even display dem characters with her own kids, I once knew a woman who was always fighting her husband, then one day d man said our son will marry a woman like u, d woman straight away rebuked it saying my son will marry his own wife.. in Yoruba lailai omo mi koni gbe egun elegun, so definitely she knew that she was a bad type and dosent want her son to marry a woman that posess her kinda character... Ghost mode activated if I be Op

Cityboy08:
Good evening everyone


Pls mind my errors it’s my first.


So my mom and I haven’t been on best of terms when I was staying with them, my mom is a kind of person that if it doesn’t go her way or if you don’t do what she wants you are her enemy.

I left owerri march last year to come stay with my parents and since then it’s been hell, my moms urge to control everything that happens in your life is too much if you don’t do it she removes you from the circle of her children,

What do I mean by that let’s assume they don’t have food in the house n you have 5h with you, you go to buy something to eat cause you didn’t eat since morning after coming back from work n my mom sees you she I’ll pick offense won’t talk to you for a week, saying why during you bring the money let her cook for her children, and mind you we are seven boys in the house.

Now to the main part, her younger sister that died 2018 and the husband got married to another lady that ended up maltreating the kids The elder sister which is my cousin was always in battle with her step mom spiritual n physical, she says she wanted to leave the house n come to my moms place in Abuja which the dad was happy s was bout cause he was tired of her.

Her dad called my mom she picked her up n brought her to Abuja to start a new life, fast forward to recently the dad chased her younger brother too out of the house he had to sleep on the street and in the morning we boarded a bus to Abuja for him he came with no cloth or bag just how he was, then after that he and my mom started having issues. Mind you me n my cousin and mom have already started having issues but let’s skip that for now.

The boy is 15 years old, he said he saw my brother peeing on the ground in the toilet which is my younger brother who is also 13 they are age mates, so he said he told him to stop peeing on the ground and pee in the wc that what if another person comes now the toilet wil be smelling then that he (my younger brother started shouting at him), saying it’s his toilet he I’ll pee where he wants to.

So they had an argument and my cousins brother went to report to my mom, my mom started shouting at him that why would he tell him not to pee on the floor that is he mad like that like that, The boy was shocked at he response n said he wants to go back to his house in Lagos where they just chased him out from mind you this was just 3 weeks after he came,

Then my mom started ranting and saying that it’s my cousins that’s eating all of my money in this house mind you I was at work I was ent home,

My cousin didn’t utter a word too she was avoid the trouble that was brewing the, Dad came back the boy told my dad I was crying saying that he wants to go back to his house the next day he boarded the next bus and left till the date of typing this my mom hasent called him a 15yr old boy that lost his mom n took you as his mum,

So back to me from there you could see the trouble at home it got to a point my mom was saying I was sleeping with my cousin which came as a shook to me cause I’m never home anything to just stain my name or get me angry so she planned with my dad and they started telling my cousin to pack her things and leave the house someone that came to you for shelter cause they said her stepmom wanted to kill her my mom got a revelation that was if she goes back she’d die.

My mom played deaf to that one and kept on insisting she should go back and leave her house and being I was already planning to get an apartment for myself December my cousin called her dad her dad sent her half of the rent and we paid n moved in together since we left the house my mom has been calling all my uncles and aunties telling them that I’m sleeping with my sister which is absolutely wrong on all levels spoiling my name here and there, honestly I really couldn’t care much bebut I’m just disappointed is this how a mum should behave, it was from me not going to church on Sunday to her having issues with my dog saying we were too close or I was to close to my dog then to this now pls someone should just analyze this story and render your advice,

Now they are calling me threatening me that they I’ll use police to arrest me n my cousin n send her back to her fathers house not knowing that her dad was the one that sent her part of the payment, I’m not scared of anyone really cause the useless uncles I have haven’t sent me a kobo since my lifetime then they all want to come n start spilling trash now.

Sorry for the epistle if you made it this far I love you.

Update: guys she my mom came to my house this morning just this morning and saw my cousin I didn’t even know why I let her in in the first place, she saw my cousin and started dragging her cloths almost tearing them and making her naked in front of my younger brothers she brought to my house and was shouting chewing a nuisance even went to all my neighbors knocked on their doors and was shouting to them that I’m sleeping with my cousin tho she spoke Igbo or was speaking Igbo and there are calabar people guys pls what kind of life is this I have left their house still they don’t want me to rest, went to report to my dad and all he could say was and so,

I’m thinking of reporting the case to a police station first then next time they come here to cause a nuisance in my apartment they’d be arrested.

Helper1991:
Thank you for seeking for counsel from us. My advice is simple snd direct.
First, if your mum attends a Church, go to the Pastor and report her. Tell the Pastor nothing but the truth, so he can call her for questioning and counsel.
Second, don't abandon your cousin, hold her tight in this fight and keep taking care of her before street boys will start buying her indomie and egg to sleep with her.... It won't be good if she become a prey to boys because of hunger and mistreatment.
Thirdly, if all your effort in resolving this issues with your mum, relocate to another part of Abuja if you can't move to Lagos, then change your phone number for at least three months, if your mum has compassion or conscience she will be looking for way to reconcile with you and your cousin.

Forthly, it seems your mum is outrightly jobless( sorry for calling her names). Because if she was working, she won't be having this time to terrorize your life.

Fifthly, you need to take this matter to God. Pray about it and get clarity on what to do next.... Don't dare arrest your parents, the whole matter will turn against you and their curses may affect you.

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IAMBlesssed:
I don't really understand, do you get attracted to your relatives of opposite sex?

tmoneyu:
Nwanne, if you want to succeed, shun your family, believe and hope in God, bro what u need now is to concentrate, learn skill like tiling, Wall Screeding, painting, there is money in it if u are passionate about it, I am a cab man and I make more than 250k, shun social media, I have a wealthy family but shun them and hustle for my self. Don't ever look for a salary job, it doesn't worth it

EhischemNg:
She is 28years...she has a man as a boyfriend

Broda what is this man doing??

Why do you two have to move in together when the root cause of the problem was the relationship btw both of you... From fry pan to fire (your first mistake).

You moved to a new apartment and still found a way to let your mumci know where you stay (mistake number 2).... What were expecting by moving out when u know the kind of person your mum is

Broda u have been in a relationship for 3years though u are young wat is stopping u from going to see the girls parents with ur parents ( that would first create a diversion from your cousin and kill any thought from your family about you and your cousin for that main time)

Your cousin is 28years yet she doesn't seem to be working or catering for herself well enough...if she was doing something and aiding the house your mumci for no dey complain like ds Bros...

No body would want to marry a 28yrs old lady that doesn't have a plan of her own broda...from the look of thing she is already a liability to u..

She doesn't have friends in other state she could stay with for the main time ehh..is she such a bad person nobody would accommodate her except from her cousin

To be sincere I don't blame your mum so much though she is ....... You and your cousin are grown enough to make decisions dt shouldn't worsen the issue at hand...not the fry pan to fire decision u made by staying together

In a way I am starting to think your gf might even complain about the closeness between you two..

Advise
Your cousin should get her self something tangible to do

She should leave the state or stay far away from you for the main time. Probably she is now so dependent on you dt she don't think about what she can do??

You self, let your gf come around more often and probably get to she her family and introduce her to yours

PlaysNigeria:
I'll tell you something which you might not take, most of our ladies here are problematic and full of drama. And that counts as well mothers too.
I mean, being a mother doesn't count for good morals, it's not an attitude training school. My mum would go to any length to win an argument, even if it's you not being her child anymore.

Johnsown1:
Baba I will advise you to build yourself as a man that you are and leave them with their gossip if only if.

Your doing something useful with your life so that you won't go back to beg for food or money from them.

You will be able to give your your cousin a better life by providing for her, leading her and training her.
Please don't allow devil to use you to hurt your cousin or sleep with her.

Hustle big,save some cash and relocate to a place that they don't know then build yourself and her`s too.

Dammyseyon:
God will see you through bro, I'm in a similar case so I understand exactly how you feel. Your mum is toxic and you should be grateful you are man enough to earn your own income else she could have made life a living hell for you.
My advise is that you should be prayerful cos mothers always have a way of manipulating anything that has to do with their children. Be prayerful and get close to God bro.

RedCentaur:
The heart of man is indeed wicked.

If all you wrote up there is what really transpired, then I really doubt you being the biological son to the woman you claim to be your mother.

You stay put with your cousin and look for something doing for the time being.

But I strongly I advise your female cousin to look for another relative to put up with, you might have a clear mind about helping her and all that but seeing two opposite sex not related directly, living together in the same room or apartment?

Not advisable.

zikter:
Base on your story, you have a very good heart. Try to be careful with your parents, do not fight them, just continue doing the right thing. If it were really comfortable for you, I would have suggested you bring back your aunty's son as well. Just keep with the good deeds, one day your parents will come back to their senses

Clinghton:
I won't advice you to relocate with your cousin, if you can do it alone it would be nice.

Dollarremix:
That's what makes you a man.you have taken your decision no going back back bro stand by it.

Localgrandpa:
Bros your phone no get blocking? Make you block anyone way dey stress you. U sef too send. Ignore them enough they'll find someone else to bug

Vision4God:
@Cityboy08
U need wisdom in dealing with the situation. If you have d capacity to support the home, pls do it with all joy, you will enjoy d blessings sooner/later.
As 4 your cousins & your mum, understanding&pstience is what's needed.

Don't give up on your mum, make her understand her position in the life's of your cousins.

Haakeem:
okay o...till she goes and table his matter at any available radio station.

championship:
Go ghost and stay on low key, don’t pick any calls from ur family members
Just give them time and focus on ur work ,
With time ur mom is gonna be begging you to come back home
Call they young man if 15 years & apologize to him
Always send him money for recharge card
And for ur cousin sister let her also stay low key and not react because it’s family

Deffjam:
It is well...

Dollarremix:
My brother the best thing to do na to avoid them.baba wen d wahala too much for me I leave them relocate to Lagos now na dem dey beg to see me.

salamudeen:
see wetin baba dey call slight chip

just say the screen don crack

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1tb? It would be better if screenshot and post the storage details to confirm ur claims