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[color=#770077][/color] thankyou for all the advice. I have to say I have searched a long time for a site like this. I keep sooooooooooo much inside because I live in a big city and have been here for 2 years and don't have people to talk to because I have sheltered myself so much I know noone but my boyfriend and his friends that actually aided in him cheating on by so imagine. But I thankyou for this forum.

[color=#770077][/color] I am feeling a little down at this time and I kniow it is a self esteem issue. I am a dark skin woman in my 30's and of course things aren't like they use to be. Since I can remember I was always ridiculed growing up about my features and skin tone which of course caused me to withdrawl from society and rebel. I built a wall around myself so no one could hurt me. As I got older and got out on my own Icame into my own and became attractive. Not because I was a natural beauty though it was because I had a brick house shape. Fast forward to the present I live in a city where your appearance is everything. I am so tired of having to wear makeup and hair to try to keep up. Not that it helps if I am not wearing something hot. You would be amazed at how people treat you when they deam you as not good enough. I can't just put on a t-shirt and sweats and pin my hair up and go I have to work at it and I'm just at the age now where it affects me so much some days I dread going out of the house. My boyfriend even asked me one day do other men ever try to come at you? I asked him why and he replied because when we together I don,t really ever see men try to check you out, like when me amd my x would go out men would come at her if they did not know we were together. ( and let me say this both of the x's that I have met are not attractive by societies standards but they are light skinned.) Anyway I just would like some words of wisdom.

You tired but not fed up when we are tired we lay down and rest only to get a boost of energy to tackle another chore, but when we are fed up we stop change direction and move on. So when you get fed up you will know exactly what to do.

I am somewhat in the same situation. I do not agree with this I tell my mate that I am not comfortable with that because no matter how much we use the word platonic it is not so. In reality that opens the door for decete.[color=#770077][/color]