All these doctors should shut up and get to work. The government initial offer was fair enough. It's now getting worse and stale.

Yes, we do have helping tips. Just be aware that you can learn anything before marriage but you learn everything in marriage.

@MrKings. That's a good one you have. . .and you both seeing every month does help. LDR works for the matured. . .those prepared and ready to hook their partner forever. . .those two that sees eachother as their 'last bus-stop'. . .hence, they 'invest' in the relationship whichever way. It's nice you trust her 100% and it's also nice she's worth it.

mrking3: I'm Still Single bro!!

. . .and you've been on LDR for 6years?

mrking3: [b][/b]the only thing that keeps distance relationship going is TRUST, commitment and communication. I've been in Distance Relationship with my partner for over SIX years now! And I've really had no reason to regret coz it works for us! Truth is you don't even need a third party's input on most of your relationship matters! Only you both can make it work! If you don't have mutual Trust for each other I don't see the need to remain in the relationship

Sure you're married and she's not. I agree on your 3keys but not to someone that still thinks she's got options.

Blaqsmith: That u have all the former governors support doesn't guarantee u a success.learn from the concluded Ekiti election.Ayo Fayose walloped four (if not five) former governors (including the incumbent),about 7seven senators,unknown figures of the Member of the lower house,16serving members of the House of Assembly and many cabinet members.Election in Nigeria has gone far from Godfatherism...Osun people will decide on 9, not Oyinlola!

I think there's something you don't know. Ekiti people voted past and loud achievements along with sentiments. . .that works for Fayose. It was about personality/character. They never voted against Fayemi because of the bigwigs, infact they like Fayemi but the Fayose memories lives on. What happened in Ekiti is never the same with Osun.

hopebd: comment if u wanna comment

Since you want me to comment. . .how old are you?

And you need matured advise?

Adorayble: Thank U my Darling,well said!

You're welcome dear.

Jambsupport: n wots dat supposed to mean?

A compliment!

Jambsupport: wow. xo xperienced. wot else do u knw abt women?

Oh thanks!
What else? Maybe they stalk more than men.

onyaigo: you should know better sir,,,why would you come to a conclusion just from 4 cases,,,,,smh shaaa..

Well, those cases came from individual characters that went through the same tough experience. Some won, some got broken. . .hence, my conclusion Miss

Nothing wrong! The problem is always with the parents. If they can understand your decision and you're ok with the situation, go ahead and discuss issues. . .like, how, when and where the boy/girl's father or mother would see his/her child. . .all that settled, go for it.

Another issue is whether the lady/guy is still emotionally attached to his/her babymama/father.

Also, if the child all grown up, does he/she like you. . .so many areas to watch but It's no harm marrying a single parent. Dig in your thoughts, consider these areas and when you're sure of what you're going into, just dive in!

4, 5, 6, 9 simply does it.

It's unfortunate that some men are beasts while some ladies are fools. Except for a rape case, every other was a mutual agreement!

Most of these single parents become one when they were teens. . .blame it on their parents. . .lack of good sex education. . .urge to explore. . .peer pressure. . .whatever might have.

I'm presently on the case of a 14years old girl, she got impregnated by a neighbour. The beast knew what has happened, locked up his room and disappeared. All through the months, i was told he didn't show up. The girl gave birth some weeks ago and last Sunday, i had to leave my office for her to breast feed the innocent baby and when she was done. . .i asked her some questions. I found out that:

1) You never can be too sure of your girl/boy-child esp teens.

2) There are always signs that such would happen which the parents/guardian refused to respond to.

3) Most parents thinks sex education is exposing the child or maybe it's unholy to discuss.

4) A teenager will do whatsoever he/she would do even if you break his/her head to put words in there but if you emphasize on the damage, it could help in decision making.

That girl's case, made it the 4th of similar cases. In all, i came to a conclusion that being a single parent is a choice, it's not a matter of how life is unfair or how life is not a bed of roses.

If you blame the guy for disappearing, why did you give in? If you laments that he promised you marriage, why not wait till then or better still use proper protection. There's nothing like "we only tried it the first time". . .as long as the dude pours it in, it's 75% chance of getting pregnant except on a well calculated menses period which i believe most women are not even sure about. Outside wedlock, it's not the route to walk. . .almost everything in your life stops except you're extra-determined.

haryomikun:
Don't tink so... Actually the peple U̶̲̥̅̊ should be attacking are those who call her 'Ibo' not 'Anambra'

As long as she's an ambassador to Spain, she's a Nigerian!

It's just pure ignorance or intentional display of folly for anyone to think otherwise.

mmsen:

The devil? Lol. So god can't even protect his own house...

It looks more like someone taking advantage of peculiar visual tastes to make money.

Yeah, you're right! That god can't protect his own house. . .only this God can. Thank me later!

Dorrobucci: Hey! Guys what i need is an advice. Am in a critical situation nw

Clown, what kind of advise do you want? You opened your eyes, had sex without protection, preggy a girl and you're saying you don't want to be a father? Are you that dumb? How old are you?

disturbedhubby:

I wish there are concrete evidence to convict me I would be happy to be accused. I have a feeling that she does not believe I am innocent because other people have told her that no man can be free of sexual escapades despite all evidence to my innocence.

Oh, you just made yourself a suspect there. Even if that's your belief, you'd keep it to yourself. Women, mostly married ones can be one routed. . .only few re-considers your words to see the sincerity and innocence in it. On your part, stop whatever makes her doubt you. . .why wanting to take bread and akara to another lady's house in the first place? Ogbeni, don't disturb madam's mind again and let your ways be pure before her, with time trust could build up again. Be good!

disturbedhubby: My thread title is not a joke even it seems funny. Right now she is threatening with divorce because of this issue.

The genesis of this matter started 2 years ago when I got a new job. At this new place I met a female colleague that became good friends with. Truly we admired each other but I am married and I made it plain to her that I love my wife and have no interest in an affair. She has never tried to seduce me either. My wife knew about my closeness to this lady and has spoken to her on phone several times and in fact they have meant twice. A few weeks ago my wife and I started buying akara and bread on the way to work. We'll eat in the car as we go to work and then the rest I take to my office. My colleagues and I join to eat it and because it is quite nice they ask me to buy for them. This my female colleague one day gave me money to buy for her which I did and brought to the office only to discover she wasn't around. I bbm'ed her and she said she was ill. I felt bad because she gave me money and I didn't want it to waste so I offered to take it to her and she said no need.

Now I hardly delete my messages because I believe I have nothing to hide neither is my phone passworded. My wife saw the chat while going through my phone and raised fire and brimstone. I couldn't believe it. Despite all my assurances and explanation she still insists that I am having an affair with my colleague.

Guys help me o! I don tire for this kind of suspicions. What more can I say to convince her?

Bro, you've always been giving her reasons not to trust you. No woman would wake up one day and all of a sudden develop distrust for her man. There are more things you did with that lady that she knew even when you claim not wanting to have an affair. Finish your one-sided story ogbeni.

patemy: You meet a guy and he asks you out and you accept and the first day you visit him at HOME he makes sexual advances do you take it as a normal thing or do you get pissed off and does it change your perception of the guy ?

He's right then!

I got the making amends part. . .apart from the love they shared, that could be one major reason of his hope and pains.

Noneroone: kudos to Bianca, another Anambra daugther (by marriage) representing well.

Another tribal bigot. What stops you from calling her a Nigerian.

tatiana009:

I was simply correcting the impression you gave earlier which made it seem as if women paying half the bills would be a new thing. It's not in all homes that it's just a phase, there are homes where from the beginning the wife earns more and takes care of a higher percentage of the bills and it remains like that. As for the topic, this issue has been over flogged, the dynamics of every marriage is different so let each couple decide on how they want to run things. If you're a woman who believes in equality simply marry a man who believes in the same ad vice versa.

The point remain, my impression was sponsored by the subject. Now, if that happens in a home as you've said and i agreed, it's never a decision made because of equal gender right in the home. Again, what kind of man would want his woman to pay higher bills because she earns more than him and as well want it to "remain like that" in the home. . .bro, do you know what you're saying?

ammyluv2002: I understand your point....I sugguest you find a way to still love her like that cause if that's the way she has chosen to worship her God, it won't be fair for you to start cheating on her. I know guys have areas that gets them attracted to ladies but you don't really have a choice here rather you should support her and makke her feel loved.

Btw, thatz why is always good to fall in love with the someone from the inside and not because of the physical apperance cause you may get married to a queen today and by tomorrow her beauty is gone. We should be able to still love those we claim we love even if the person turns out to be a skeleton tomorrow, just take a clue from a mother's love to her child or even God's love to His children. Love should be unconditional. @OP, pls don't get me wrong o...I'm not making reference to you, just saying generally

At bolded!

tatiana009:

Actually that already applies in a lot of homes, a lot of women pay half the bills. In fact in some homes women pay a higher percentage of the bills. We have more home these days where the wife is te primary breadwinner.

In as much as i agree with you, that was never sponsored by a claim of being equal in the home. . .just a phase they're going through you know.

Here comes the problem! Since she has gone through 'the same' process that made her man, then the man should recorgnize the equality? That's wrong! I think we shouldn't forget the culture that brought us here, the values that our woman seem to modify now. There's no theory that should support a woman not being submissive to her man. . .no theory should support gender equality in the home. That could be in the social sphere but not as a wife in the home. I've once said, if a woman claim to be equal to me as a 'modern wife'. . .it's simple, i will also share the bills into two equal part, she pays just as much as i pay. Now, what kind of a woman would want that in marriage.

You see, we can talk about gender equality outside there but when it comes to making a home and a lasting one in view, it doesn't apply. Responsible men wants no slave as a wife, some want no uneducated gender as a woman but claiming to have the same measure of rights with me? You'd better marry the process that made you think you're equal to me.

Na-ah! These traits shouldn't be ascribed to a good relationship. Anyone in this kind must be suffering.

Tefo1759: N Ladies please don't seek revenge !

LOL. This one got me cracked up. You scared of a lady's bite?