I would have called this a letter but it’s really not one. It’s my heartily expression of the realities and exposure of some factual stands that may or may not be seen by these men.

I’ve asked questions over-time and the best answers I’ve gotten came from these bosses. Most of which were excuses and self-justification. The blame has always been on the woman and the way it seem now, it’s wisdom for any woman to look beyond the beautiful-nothings and glamour that surrounds being tagged a “Mrs” and focus more on the personality she’s about to commit herself unto. It’s wisdom for any woman to look out for any violence traits in her man and it’s more wisdom for you not to be deceived about a man changing after marriage. It may get worse! Many of these men are out there and many women had fallen prey. The truth is simple but hard. What makes you a man over a woman is not in the muscles in your hands but the muscles in your brain. (BBM: 2A4AF80E) And if you are not matured at heart to deal with the inconsistencies of women; which we surely do know they have, why not stay off looking out for one or even thinking of marriage. Now, this is a societal emergency! Regardless of the law threat guiding various countries, men like this could either remain the same or be hardened after a jail experience. They could only be a refined walking beast waiting for the next unfortunate lady. Hence, jail is no helper, rehab is same. From findings, most of these men don’t really like the beast they have become, many hate to imagine what they have done after been easily provoked. Hence, I came about how to manage domestic violence in your relationship. No matter the vocab-term that has glorified this terrible act; be it a psycho or having bipolar disorder, these men have got a soft-spot that can be appeased. Though it’s unfortunate that this write-up is no babysitter, as some back-in-time questions need answers. To those men that uses their woman to train for a heavyweight boxing contest and those karate masters, were you asked if you’d wanted to marry her in whatever religion you believed in? Did you respond affirmative or made any declaration similar to. . .

“I, (put your name) take you (put the name of the one you now beat) as my lawfully wedded wife, to have and to hold, to love, cherish, and PROTECT, in sickness and in wealth, for richer or poorer, for better or for worse, and forsaking all others, keeping myself only unto you, until death do us part?”

How does that sound to you now, BOSS? Sweet or Sour? How fake was the answer you gave that day? You know you would have said “I DON’T” and the ceremony would have ended right there. But you went ahead and took the marriage vows, confirming you as a man, man enough to be a husband to a woman you’re soon to beat.

Did I missed a line or was I wrong? Why so soon have you forgotten the “I ACCEPTs”. . .“I WILLs” and “I Dos” you said on that lovely day with a deep grin on your face like a kid that has got a new toy? Or you probably didn't go through that process since she delivered herself so cheaply into your dangerous hands?


Yeah, I know you've got excuses. I know there would always be reasons, reasons strong enough to make you beat a woman? Has she changed? She now nags? Huh? Tell me more! Of what kind of man would your next generation be if you can allow a woman to bring you to that point of hitting her? Or maybe I just don’t get it; maybe I still don’t understand your plight, maybe, just maybe! Maybe I don’t have a ring on, maybe I’m not experienced, maybe having a wife is a mistake, and maybe having the kids see you throw punches at their mother is a KKB show. Just maybe! Maybe you could survive a minute with Klitschko, maybe the poor woman’s punch could weigh 50kg, maybe I’d see you running for your life, maybe you’d stand and face her. Just maybe! Maybe when next you hear people say a woman is a weaker vessel and what you have before you is a beautiful face, smart head, intelligent mind but a strong puncher, maybe you’d asked the Biblical Peter for its right meaning as it’s now not to your advantage.

You probably started with hitting your sisters; you became so superior and unquestionable. No wonder I called you a BOSS and not a husband. Truly, I wrote how to manage domestic violence in a relationship , it was actually for those men that HATES what they do; what they have suddenly become, those that need help and want to get better. But to you, each beating session is an additional STAR to your ego, and now that you've become a 7 STAR GENERAL, how would you handle a broken woman? Wisdom is far from you; your brain is dead to know that a broken woman and also a wife is a dangerous woman too. You made her who she is BOSS, you can’t have her back in total. She’s now hardened and aggressive, but yet, you still want a nice and lovely woman? How easier would it be to burn the oceans. Now your loss, BOSS. You just lost! Just unfortunate it’s not yours alone, because you have denied a responsible man out there the privilege of meeting a lovely woman. You just unleashed a broken woman into the society and when she says she doesn't need a man in her life, or she says all men are the same, that’s one good lady gone!

Can you please live with a man? Or are you scared of the gay law? Oh, you sure can relocate. Of course, you don’t deserve any woman? Can you just find a permanent home in jail? Having you in our society is a red alert. What kind of kids would you raise? What generation are you breeding? Though I have chosen to call you a BOSS, always do the opposite of whatever could make you hit her and be a HUSBAND; a good FATHER. Remember, what makes you a man over a woman is not in the muscles in your hands but the muscles in your brain. I’m sorry this content was no babysitter! I just couldn't ignore the societal cry for more fathers, rather than sperm donors.


ORIGINAL SOURCE: http://www.coachdexplorer.com/2015/02/from-my-heart-to-those-men-that-beats.html

Interesting!
The boy must be an artist in the making.

UjSizzle:
@CoachDX thanks so much for your input

You're welcome!

Hey Uju, having read your post, i would ask any beginner to bookmark this thread.

Let me add few points.

1) Your subdomain /domain must NOT necessary be your name.
I see this as a trend but it's really not working for so new blogger. I believe if you had built your first name and last name or sobriquet as a brand somehow on the public space that's when it would ring at every eyecontact. So many new bloggers using their name would have done better with a domain or subdomain that gives people a clue about what your blog is all about.

2) You could be blogging on the popular but the wrong niche.
I've also seen alot of bloggers doing entertainment now with no real content. Regardless of who you model after, you should have an identity. Your blog must be known for something different. I actually started blogging in 09 which i later sold in 012. Yes, you can be successful doing the wrong thing. Infact, i knew entertainment wasn't for me even though it could give quick fame and the niche was young and growing on the blogsphere. Now, it's fully grown, find your voice as said by Uju.

3) Work your content.
The newbreed of blogger are just plainly lazy and even the supposed old folks. Until now, I've an article on the eagles online (i think they have a newspaper brand) that was never credited to my blog and another on Pastor Bisi Adewale's Blog that has not been duly credited. That's was just a mention amongst hundreds of blogs and websites that i've their links as evidence. This may look strange, i surf the web for my articles, i write some established webmasters if credit is not found on the article but spare the ..com/ . hungry bloggers.

You see, in Nigeria, we have too many lazy bloggers. Most of them don't have passion for what niche they are running, hence, they adopt the widely used but shameful "copy and paste" system, and that wouldn't have been really shameful if they would give you credit and not claim ownership. The real writers are so few.

4) There's NO money in blogging.
That may sound strange, but it's true. For those young bloggers that thinks they could start bidding 1 million for a dress within a year of blogging are jokers. Though i blog part-time, what keeps me going until now is not my niche but natural inspiration i get to write under the niche. I could remember the first advert space i sold was almost to a year i renewed my blogging side. After then, i waited some months before another.

5) How to get traffic.
This' why so many bloggers misbehave. They would lie, post their link anywhere even irrelevant places, display links claiming that someone just releases a nude picture of his girlfriend, all for traffic.

The surest way to get a good and lasting traffic is via search engine. That's the simple truth and so many copy and paste blogger will never survive this. So, to the real writers, even if alexa says you're so backward, your steady traffic is sure from search engines. The number one rule for SEO is quality contents. The search engine robots/crawlers have their minds, they pick most genuine contents, rank them before finding the keyword density of your title and whether you also have it on your first line or use it more on your article. That's to say, no matter the high competition for your chosen keyword, if your article was made by you, you have a chance.

Let me stop here. I'm not an aclaimed pro-blogger but, i've experimented with blogs even my new blog is an experiment of how social media and seo helps blog traffic and so far it has moved from 10m to 7m and now at 4m. Even at that adverts (not majorly from Nigerians) will come if you're a real writer. Well, I believe anyone that likes experimenting from nothing like me would try it. It's fun not magic.

JideTheBlogger:
Awesome. Sharing this to my 9k plus friends n followers on facebook now.....

Please do with due credit. Thank you!

raumdeuter:
Now let Koro release his own professional achievement before politics.

This guy told us of his excellence in secondary school, university and even in professional exams like ican.

Koro the mic is over to you

What will he say? That guy is a glorified tout. He's not operating near that pedigree. Maybe Jimi Agbaje, then we are talking.

andromida:
Ladies this, ladies that. Take it easy.

Is this the new way of saying FTC because I doubt if you read the content. (For MEN inclusive)

From the writer of 24 Elders' Word of Wisdom for MEN in Relationships

24 Elders Words of Wisdom for LADIES in Relationships

• My daughter, don’t cause a separation between your man and his siblings; it could be dangerous for you when they finally speak with one voice.

• My daughter, I know that some of you girls don’t wish to marry a man whose mother is still alive, don’t ever think like that, if you do, well, I think your son’s wife-to-be should start wishing you're dead now.

• My daughter, listen to me, when I married your father, he was as tiny as his salary but I chose to grow with him and today, those cars out there are some of the results of what we started so little, together, and we’re proud looking at them.

• My daughter, there is this thing i see happening in your time, some of you girls now get pregnant before the wedding day, well, it never happened in our time because no matter what, we never opened our laps before the wedding .

• My daughter, well, yes, I once locked up the cloth of your father because I got to my limit of patience and that was the only thing I could do, but one thing I haven’t said was that we settled the issue that same day and that was the last time I tried that.

• My daughter, look up there. That’s the wedding picture of your father and I, look at him smiling, I know you’ve seen it many times but what you did not know is that your father was angry before taking that picture, I hope you find a man whose anger doesn’t last till the next day .

• My daughter, when your father was riding a bicycle, I was always happy to hop on it and ride with him, not because I didn’t see those men in their little cars but because my eyes also saw those men trekking to their farms.

• My daughter, if you and your husband eat a little food with love, you both would be satisfied. Times are not always the same; support him in every phase he’s passing through.

• My daughter, don’t ever close your laps to your husband in bed , the day he paid your dowry was the day you lost your will to do so, don’t be stiff and try to satisfy him even if you were angry with him.

• My daughter, a man would respect you and be more proud of you if you’re learned and not totally dependent on him. Strive to make your own money and while you're at it, be humble.

• My daughter, under the cocoa tree that I did meet with your father was open and good enough for our discussions, yes; it was open and good enough if you understand what I meant.

• My daughter, in our time, we had sexy legs and firm boobs to show our men , in fact, we had the finest ones, yet, when we dress, we cover those parts of our body, not because we were not civilized as you people would call it, but because we know that the eyes of men are hungry, many of them would only come, touch and go their way.

• My daughter, there is this thing you girls now practice, they say it’s feminism. Well, you can prove to be equal to a man in the society but please, not in your marriage because at my old age, I don’t want to start counting your husbands.

• My daughter, marriage is not a Rehabilitation Centre, if he’s not good enough for you before marriage, nothing he does would be good enough after marriage.

• My daughter, you can see I still wear my night gown , yes, because to my husband; your father, I still want to look sexy. So, take good care of your body, look good for your man and don’t look like a grandma after giving birth.

• My daughter, I’m your mother and still, I'm not interested in you coming to me always if anything goes wrong with your husband. Though nowadays I see some mothers controlling the homes of their sons and daughters, I would only say; shame on them!

• My daughter, for you to have a peaceful home and well-trained children, have one voice with your husband, join him to say NO when he’s saying NO before the kids but later when you both are alone, you can plead with him for a YES, if not, the children will see a loophole to misbehave, either to you or their father. Receive the full Diary of the Elder's Words of Wisdom, Join "24EldersWords" on BBM: 2A4AF80E.

• My daughter, if you chose to live together with a man that you’re yet to be married to , and you are complaining that he never propose to you, oh, he already did. Whatever he said that made you start living with him was his proposal.

• My daughter, your generation does not see any pride in been a virgin before marriage, it’s a shame! Your father met me a virgin and he brought more yams to my parents and up till today, he’s still proud of me when we discuss in that direction.

• My daughter, I know that no man out there is complete, but when you are looking for your tall, slim, fair and handsome, if he’s a woman-beater, please, go for the short, fat, dark and ugly that will give you the respect you deserve as a woman.

• My daughter, know, learn and respect the culture and lifestyle of whoever you chose to marry . In some part of Africa, you knee down to greet your man’s parents while in some part outside Africa; you can even call them by their first name and ask for a handshake. Whatever they believe in, if you’ve chosen him, believe it with him also.

• My daughter, don’t ever try to date a married man, whether his excuse was that he doesn’t find happiness with his wife or he would have married you if he had met you first, if you ever try it, I curse you already.

• My daughter, when I say over 57 years of marriage it wasn’t that I did not see any reason to leave your father, I saw a lot of them but I bear his faults, i forgave him to stay married.

• My daughter, these are part of the wisdom i have gathered over the years, and If I had taken my time to tell you all these, and your marriage doesn’t last like that of your father and I, then I had wished I never gave birth to you.



ORIGINAL SOURCE:
http://www.coachdexplorer.com/2014/12/24-elders-words-of-wisdom-for-ladies-in.html

The pain of a widow! No one truly can fill his space. The Lord will continue to be your strength Stella.

In Nigeria, women with children would claim to be married to their children, some would possibly not have any man interested in them since they've got kid(s). . .it's a problem with culture, but outside Nigeria, these women easily finds a man. On dating sites, even the woman of 80yrs still wants a man.

Even those dresses they are wearing is an assault on its own.

datalossvictim1:


Yes! Afros do not show a persons actual hair length.

That's nice. I like natural hair.

joelenesleek:
I'll cover and protect it with hairnet.

LOL. I can see you are serious.
Ok, which of them do you want; Peruvian or Cambodian or both?

spykid014:
Natural hair. Relaxed though.

Yeah, shows it. It's pretty!

joelenesleek:
nah, it's removable and can be resold as well.

That means you won't be wearing that to sleep on bed, what's when I appreciate your beauty the most. I'm not convinced!

datalossvictim1:


Thanks! Yeah I do or I put them in twists or braids..

Sure that's long enough to do braids?

Atk01:
Mine.

Got a nice one!

joelenesleek:
No one knows about the plot of land, but if you buy me the hair I'll be sampling your plot of land and if you are from the east and have a greedy uncle, he won't trespass or sell it since I have it on my head.

And if I die and they ask you to cut off your hair, my money just got wasted.
Biko, let me buy my plot of land. LOL

datalossvictim1:
Don't steal my picture

My fro

Really nice! Do you still wear it this way?

joelenesleek:
, but it doesn't mean you won't buy me Peruvian and cambodian hairs

LOL. As if you knew what made me happy. That's like a plot of land at Ifo in my account.

Larrey:
My natural hair

Really looks it! Pretty hair.

joelenesleek:
actually, it's very soft to comb and I can comb with a tail comb. That's what surprises even my hair stylist about my hair. Thanks to God almighty, grandma and my mom.

Impressive!

pinkycute:
My natural hair


And I look 80s

Nice hair! And that styling goes with your face shape.

ivyy:




Me i don't do anything special o, its just genes. Infact I don't leave it on. Many people wld say if they had my type of hair they wld leave it on forever. But I honestly can't.


Am very proud of my hair though

You mean you don't leave it for too long?

joelenesleek:
The first was after a fruitless effort to roll and set it, thsecond was styling it as a college kid during a play, the third was on my birthday - my friends planned pouring water on me so I decided to make the hair in the afternoon. Virgin though.

That's a thick forest you're wearing. Extreme beauty if it's a virgin. Really nice! Just wondering the pain when you comb.

akinsadeez:


the hair alone

Yeye!

temian:
My hair

I like your hair.

VivyGift:


It is


Believe it

Pretty nice!

akinsadeez:


back view of the hair or face or what?

What's on your mind?

Dymondgurl:
My friend's hair. I just left the low cut crew so its, you know, small.....

Wow! Got any treatment in particular?

ivyy:




Na its just really full

That's a huge one! Are you working on the length?

ajebuter:
Thiese are my pix with my natural hair.

So don't think we are hairless when we wear wig or fix weave on.

At least I'm not hairless.

I have full,and medium lenght black hair.

I be ajebo! Lol

Seeing more of your face than your hair. Wouldn't mind if you have a back view.