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I sincerely dnt know what advise to give. Im sure someone here can help.

Derz a friend who is 33years old. She is tired of being single and wants to settledwn. She kind of likes a friend who has been nice to her for couple of years. According to her, she told d guy dat she wanted to think clearly so needed a distraction from guys around her. Meanwhile she likes dis friend n just wanted to date him n build something togeda.
To cut d very long story short, dey av been togeda for about 3 months now. The guy is very caring. Watever she asks, he does it for her but the only problem is that he barely calls. Wen she complained abt being the only one in d relationship that calls, he made it clear that he was still in pain and mourning his late girlfriend and wasnt ready for a relationship. He reminded her that he was only a distraction as she suggested.
Now her question.

1)should she leave him? But considering the fact that he kinds of care abt her and she loves him.

2)should she ignore his not calling n play along mayb oneday he will love her?

Abeg help our sister wit advise. I barely know what to say.

How much?

Offpoint:
My advice is, if it's less than 2/3 days ago you had sex, go get Postinor2 to prevent any pregnancy and if it's more than that... God help you it should be your safe period.


Next thing is going for medical check up, do some STD test, and if you're OK... Desist from endangering yourself.

Ok. Tnx.
But why is it so difficult to get a guy to date without sex these days?

Offpoint:
Be specific, that's the only way I can help.

How many days, weeks, months or years?

Less than a month

Oluromantic:
Are you ready to be a young single mother? Better flush out the sperm. When d pregnancy comes, he'll disappear.

You suspended him a long time so excitement couldn't make him think of protection or pulling out. There's a psychic behind that but that's not what is necessary for now.

Go and flush it out until he tells you he needs a baby with his mouth and you've met his family orelse you're on your own

Ok

Offpoint:
And please desist from unprotected sex, if you no fit ho body... wear raincoat.

And no be every relationship person supposed OPEN LEGS


How old is the relationship?

We just started.

dominique:
Sorry, we're not in his mind so we can give you an answer. It's either he wants a child or he wants to transfer STD(s) to you

Ok

Offpoint:
Please don't 'WALK AWAY'

RUN AWAY

Ok

[color=#000099][/color]I guess I should walk away before getting hurt then.

Offpoint:
lol....

He has been asking you out for a long time now, then boom! you accept and next thing is unprotected sex.

Someone you don't know his medical status or history.

And you're worried about a child instead of your health status.

We are architect of our doom.

Sorry to break it up to you, he's gonna keep banging you and when he's done or tired.... that's the end of the 'relationsex'

:DOk tnx

Offpoint:
lol....

He has been asking you out for a long time now, then boom! you accept and next thing is unprotected sex.

Someone you don't know his medical status or history.

And you're worried about a child instead of your health status.

We are architect of our doom.

Sorry to break it up to you, he's gonna keep banging you and when he's done or tired.... that's the end of the 'relationsex'

okirewaju:
How can we read his mind when we are not the one that ejaculated?

Ok. I though its easy for guys to know what their fellow guys r up to

I finally said yes to a guy who has been asking me out for a long time now. I wasnt expecting it, but we had an unprotected sex. He went as far as ejaculating in me. When I asked why, he had no answer to give.
Please guys, what do you think he wants?
I didn't want to be too direct to him. He may lie. I just want to know so I can be on guard.