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Thanks vronnie.

I have nothing against Nigerians or Nigeria and maybe one day I will visit the country again and see the country how I originally intended to see it. I mostly saw 4 walls, either the house i stayed or the hospitals. I never stated I was angry with Nigerians to whoever wrote that.

Yes, my family, relatives and friends did have the opportunity to meet him and thought what a gentleman! A man with a heart of gold.Even til this day some relatives cannot believe we have seperated as they thought he was a wonderful, well mannered chap. I never told them the nitty gritty but it is an example of what an impact this guy had on others.
If it was just a relationship gone bad I would have been over it by now. It was my first and only experience with a nigerian man. I'm  obviously sharing this because I have not heard or seen anybody operate in this way.Yes of course there are worse cases i'm sure. Murderers etc. And yes I will get over it. Also this particular person did not just hurt myself only (me the worst case though being his wife), he manipulated,used and abused emotionally people around us. It seems when people catch on what he is doing and he can no longer cover up, he will assassinate the persons character to make it look as if it is them
that are evil doers.

Thanks for comments first of all.

Yes we did date (obviously not long enough), and he was a perfect gentleman.  Well mannered, well spoken, wanted children,caring, extremely faithful etc. After marriage and kids there was an instant end to romance, I was constantly accused of being unfaithful when i was obviously at home all the time and he was the one not coming home.Control freak, yes he was! Constantly checking me emails,listening in on phone calls, i wasn't allowed to talk to mutual friends and any new friends i made were never good enough. At home he was constantly in a bad mood except when friends were visiting then he was extremely sweet to me. He would only hold my hand or pay for me when we were in company of others but behind closed doors he was a demon. I was not allowed to visit friends homes with him, yet he would go alone, as he kept saying they may put poison in our food or drinks. Apparently it occurs often in nigeria. (??)
Yes i did choose to stay with him only until i had the strength to get out of the situation & that was soon after the birth of 2nd babyAfterall I was mostly with him when i was pregnant and it's tough enough dealing with that alone especially without any support.
The story is not bs as someone said.  why would it be, did i say he had 3 heads and a tail?
Yes lots of white serial killers in westernised countries but I heard there are evil sensless murders too in your country , human sacrifices for bizarre rituals, Unless that's not true and was told that .Perhaps another tactic to keep me at home.
I just asked whether my situation was common as I'm starting to hear it is typical of Igbo men to do that, even from nigerians here abroad.
Yes i am trying to move on after much couselling as it is not ONLY financial loss but some pyschological damage. Even though seperated he still tries his rubbish on me such as stalking me or trying to find out where i live or using kids to pump information about me.
There is now a court restraining order on him.

To MP007, that's right, what is it with all the anger

I am a white lady who married a nigerian man whom i thought was in love with me as i was with him. I soon after became  pregnant and so I went to nigeria with him to marry him. This was the beginning of my life being turned upside down. I supported him financially, started a business for jhim and literally paid for everything for the 2 years we lived in Nigeria.In return he , spent ALL my money on drinking,parties and  women (which i found out much later)   .He bashed me, tried to choke me when i asked why our bank acct was emptying so fast.Our business failed due to his neglect. He lied constantly and still deceives people in a way I never thought could be possible. Each time i gave up on him he would sweet talk me back to him, apologising and using any excuse to justify his disgusting behaviour. I stupidly then sponsored him to my country still supporting him financially until with the help of my family,we set him up with a good job so he could have the opportunity to be a man and support me and our now 2 children. Instead, he treated us like garbage and became extremely stingy which the salary he called HIS money. I am now seperated from this beast and even other nigerians living in my country cannot believe his behaviour and no longer have anything to do with him. I am still shocked and really can't believe I could have fallen for this man. I had everything going for me prior to meeting him. Good job, travelling the world, I was extremely happy person and I was very attractive. Is this a common story, is this typical behaviour from nigerian men abroad? I still can't comprehend it and would appreciate honest comments.