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Op... I can relate with your narrative.
My girlfriend behaved that way for some time too.

It is difficult to tell you not to be worried. But now, you really need to be practical.

She is getting exposed to a whole new world, meeting people and discovering her own self too (beyond the walls of your love and security)

If you love her... You will need to be patient and give her some breathing space.

One thing you have to find out tho is.. If her decision to travel out is entirety hers, or if there is an influence of a 3rd party (you know what i mean).

If there is a 3rd party, then it is best you start rebuilding your own life and finding love again.

But it it was solely her decision, then you can hang on.

But this is what you must do.

1. Don't bug her with excessive long calls. Call her, but don't stay on the phone longer than there is anything meaningful to talk about. If you notice she is becoming uninterested, quickly sumarize the call in a gentle and firm manner, and letting her know you guys will talk again soon.

2. Keep your family out of it. The more your siblings and mum continue to call her, the more in demand she sees herself. And now that you guys aren't flowing well, it could be really irritating to her. To avoid the feeling that she is disrespecting you and your folks, keep them out.

3. Affirm your love to her. In the midst of all the uncertainties, see her for who you know her to be. Before you drop your calls with her, remind her that you love her still, and the distance is not a barrier.

4. Learn to be happy all by yourself. I know you guys have come a long way, but you need to learn the art of emotional independence. Emotions and love are two different things. She might still love you dearly, but he is learning to be emotionally independent. You too, dear op, need to tow that path.
If you detach your emotions and maintain communication, you give each other a 50:50 lifeline. If you do come back close again, you will know that you both choose each other. Else, to your tenth o Israel

Ask her what she intends to do after her program.
I wonder how you didn't plan and discuss this with her before she left. Is she coming back immediately? Will she stay back for a while?
You need to find out.
Then let her know how you are making progress with your own endeavors and what plans you have going forward when she returns..

Intact, Op I can go on but just manage this one.

Shekau & boko haram right now:

Namdi Kanu & IPOB right now:

Odudwa right now:

Arewa youths & Fulani Herdsmen right now:

Dear Nigerian Air force, when you eventually take delivery, remember to rain bullets and bombs on their parades responsibly.

Are you serious?

Who would believe this trash?

Ipob handwriting

Cassava and chukuchuku fall on her

See what little, greedy and wicked minds think.

#Guns and mortars don't kill people. #People with dark and ugly souls kill people

Na by force to do police?

No wonder they call them Nigeria Police Force

alBHAGDADI:
Do you think it is right for facebook to allow every jargon on its site?

As Christians, we all know we are sojourns here and do not expect a comfortable life, neither will the world conform to our standards.

The jargons you are talking about is the standard of the world. And it is impossible for the two standards to mix.

My brother, it is not compulsory for a Christian to use Facebook.

You want Facebook to be conducive for Christians before?

That's why you can filter what appears on your feeds and timeline. That is why you can choose your friends and block or unfriend contacts too.

If that is not enough brother, then follow the Holy Bible's injunction to flee any appearance of evil

I think its time we began breaking free from the mental slavery our colonial masters put us in.

I love her concept. It is unique and bold. She probably didn't go spending a fortune on wedding gown.

I pray my fiancé thinks like this too. We are #Africans.

Eww

Father and son

He doesn't look depressed tho.. With his feeding bottle.. Sorry water bottle..

I tot he was sucking from the bottle

Deziani Allison also spread her tentacles to Dubai too?

I swear, Nigerians don't even know their real enemies..

The people who milking them and stealing from them.

Religion and ethnocentrism has blinded us. We see nothing wrong with corruption and evil as long as our kinsmen are involved.

We need to see beyond the the lines of religion and tribalism if we are to build systems that Forster accountability and transparency of individuals and office holders in position of trust.

Anybody who steals from her people is a thief and a fraudster and thus does not deserve any form of protection from the law.

What form of hate speach is greater than looking the people who put you on a position of trust in the eyes... Seeing their daily struggles, overlooking their challges and taking away all the resources meant for them. That is an insult to their intelligence, trust and mortality.

Let's choose our battles wisely, dear Nigerians. Let drop all our sentiments aside and chase a common enemy and see how everything else falls into place.

Since Buhari returned alive, all the jackals and hyenas are taking dressing.

Unto the next one... IPOB


Lamo

Where is Efe and the 25million sef

Very educative!

IPod and propaganda

Karashika them

Mehn... I pray for the delivrance of their children!

#na drum of food dem go dey cook
Their house maid in on a long thing!

kingreign:
1990 Toyota Carina ii 2.0 GLi 4sp auto lift back.


When i returned from India, I decided to buy a small lift back which I could use to move around. I got myself a brown/gold coloured 1990 model Toyota carina ii 2.0 GLi for 450k, brown seats and brown dashboard, heated side mirrors, heated seats, I had to construct the A/C as there was none. It had alloy wheels and looked good it was a German market carina ii. I bought it, from a woman and took it home. Next day, I started the engine and it roared to life. Pushed the lever to R, the car surged backwards with speed, I slammed the brakes only to hear a groaning sound. Pushed to D, nothing R, nothing. I packed the car there. I travelled again and came back after 2months. I inspected the shafts and noticed balls on the tyre area (that time I was a novice with capital "L" who couldn't handle a spanner). I called a mechanic who checked it and told me shaft is bad, I have to replace both shafts as they were fake elcheapo eltawain shaft. I parted with 12K that day, he came with beljium shaft and installed them. He told me to shift R and D to check if they're working, I depressed the brakes and did that, on releasing the brakes, the flexible brake line on the driver's front tyre bursted. Spilling contents. 3k went out for brake pipes again.

2weeks later, I went to install a CD system LG 1 DIN with pioneer speakers and was feeling funky. I went to Suleja to flex my old babe. coming back, I started hearing a strange noise on the rear driver side tyre. I got to mechanic workshop, tie rod broke. No more steering control tyres were wobbling. 8K to purchase new tie rods, 2k for rubber booths, and 3K for one of the multilink arm on the rear (the previous arm was bent and the previous owner used dunlop slippers cut to act as rubber boot hence the noise and uneven driving).
I was back on the road again. I went to APO to flex with my guys, as per I don show Naija na, night came I was returning home, I couldn't see my front. Hmmm. I managed to get home. Called my mechanic. He said reflectors in Headlamp is faded, we should get another one. 11k for one tokunbo 7k brand new taiwan, I picked 2 tokunbo for 22k. He installed it, it was out of alignment. He adjusted it but it was only slightly brighter than the previous units, he called a re-wire who installed a relay, the headlamp worked at last, I was glad. Hehehehe Night movement started again, lol! Only for rains to come and I discovered no wipers, they were wornout and producing noise. 1,200 naira a pair in front and 300naira for long piece on the rear. Nothing's gonna stop me from 'wakaing'. I discovered the motor started drinking fuel. Chai, called my mecho again, he removed sparkplugs, installed new ones 8K (2k a piece X 4), removed airfilter and bought another one 1500, then bought injector CRC cleaner, cleaned the intake butterfly valves. Poured some in the Vacuum line. Started the car to idle a while, then change oil, 3k oil filter 1k total 4K. Economy improved a bit. But still high consumption. Came back to him, he checked and discovered the Airflowmeter is bad. 15K for belgium part. Finally, it worked. My power windows acts as if they've got a mind of their own when rains come, they may not go up. But I had to manage them, I also found the wires on the power moonroof which was detached (the moonroof was sealed with mechanic's trademark black gum which I peeled off). Suddenly, my steering became stiff. I called my mecho, he said pump is failed. Bought tokumbo pump 7k it worked, I went to AMAC. On the road going, it became stiff again. I called him, he said 'when coming home branch my workshop'. On my way home I was doing 140km/hr on berger-nicon junction expressway, suddenly I slowed down to negotiate katampe bridge, steering locked, slammed the brakes, car swerved off the road, tipped over the bridge and landed face down into the deep gutter below. All the contents in the boot fell inside the passenger cabin. I had seatbelt so i wasn't hurt, I climbed down and called my mechanic. He went to find a hiab truck they said 70k to lift the damn car out of the gutter and place it on the road side. I said NO. I quarrelled with the mechanic, I told him I am no more working with him (beef mode active). Luckily, a blue hiab of FRSC was passing by, I waved him to stop, he helped me freely, I was glad. Someone came, with a knife, cut my rear seatbelt and used it as a tow rope tied to his car and towed mine to another mechanic shop. Headlamp broken, grille broken, front driver side suspension broken, brake cable cut, bumper broken, windscreen developed a line from top to bottom, fenders bent, transaxle broken, steering bad. Over 100K to replace them, new strut bought and yet it failed a week later due to a leak thus giving out the pressurized fluid, I opted for tokumbo struts 12k. I was foolishly determined and no one's gonna let me down. I got on the way from AMAC and drove to go see my babe in Bida poly smiley I never knew it was gonna be another epic wrong move filled the tank up and fired, on highspeed in excess of 160km/hr on kubwa-zuba expressway. Damn speed was sweet
I was dusting all other cars on the road when suddenly I hit a pothole (Suleja, Lapai, to Bida was pothole infested then, I don't know of now) suddenly, my suspension gave way again, but I was not deterred, I must love up. Suddenly, a pre-facelift Honda Accord EOD (2003-2005) swept past, this act bruised my ego, in trying to catch up, the driver suddenly stepped on his brake and a petrol truck was coming ahead, I hit another pothole, my brakepad flew out, this gave me no room to maneuver, I rear ended that car and it was totaled. The boot, to the rear passenger was deformed badly. My front end again went bad. Another crack on my new windscreen, broken headlamp, broken grille, bumper. Suddenly another lorry from behind side swiped my Right side, a piece of sharp metal from the truck sank into my car's rear quarter slicing the metallic body work all thru the rear door area. the alhaji came out and looked at his car, looked at mine, and told me to go repair mine, he'll fix his. shocked smiley I was shocked and happy. I continued my mumu journey to Bida poly, stopped at the gate, called the babe, she say she was busy, can't attend to me. chai!

Ego bruised again, I kuku enter my kabu kabu jalopy, manage enter zuba, police check point. Them men in black wanted to start their story again. I vex tell them say make dem leave me, I need to go rest joor. Out of pity one of them met others and they let me go with my jalopy. Got to my old mechanic, he said, 'you don come again with your wahala'? I no fit answer. We fixed the car, 80K went from my pocket. Toks bumper (blue colour), toks struts, toks headlamps, toks grille, brake lines, pads, calipers, booster, disc and master (remember my brake pad fell off, I had to ride the car like that). welding and panelbeating the rear quarter and door area sliced thru. Immediately I fixed it, I put it up for sale, some dudes came, paid 300k cash, took it and travelled lol, wahala removed finally grin When they got to their destination, they started calling me. Fear no gree let me pick I finally summoned courage to pick after many missed calls from them only for them to tell me I don't know what I sold to them for such a cheap amount. If only I knew, I won't had sold it so cheaply. Mumu people

Mehn, because of that car I learn mechanic by force, and all the chukuwdi, nonso and spareparts dealers for kubwa and zuba come know me as customer.

I posted this when I was using minimums moniker here:
https://www.nairaland.com/150189/worst-car-youve-driven-been#30719947

I swear... This is darn hilarious!

Making an example out of them

95% of civil servernts and 99% of public office holders in Nigeria need to be fired this way too..

What fuckrey is this??

A high profile phsyco just escaped from haba left.

Can't believe I wasted my data watching that b.shit

Nice one

But has the church council banned it? Or this pronouncement is law by itself?

Nice one

Lol

VeraNathaniel:
Hahahaha..what do u expect? She's made for life!

I tell you!

Gold digging mission completed.

This one na person wife so o

Wow...

So what should we do now?

Come and bribe him?