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[quote author=life_style]What gave her the impression that I will be having se.x with her ? We could just watch movies and play..

And why did her messes decided to show up suddenly on vals day ?[/quote]You didn't mention you have playground in your apartment!

There's no scam here! She's just a smart African sister trying to survive.

[quote author=tpia@]She always makes a point of displaying her nails in his direction, not sure if its intentional or something.

Like defensive or offensive mechanism?

If you touch me without my permission ( ie for the camera), you are gone?

He himself doesnt seem comfortable.[/quote]Exactly!

Please you guys should do us a huge favor KEEP HER OVER THERE we don't want her back. Next we go ship her mom and her sissy husband join!

It would have make more sense if you'd be bold enough say you're the one.

Anyways, I can't really say he is using youyour friend to get over his ex. I think in a few months friendship I don't think the feelings is all that much to move on if what he's offering isn't what you want.

[quote author=Mrs..Chima]LOL@dead brain cos this ho is jealous.

Funny hoes are essential! [/quote]Lol @ essential and this old rag 1kobo btch calling names. Obviously there's a dead rat occupying your empty skull.

Ink calling an attention seeker what she is hurts that much Jealous? lmao

They don't really look happy together! Btw the girl is just there.

[quote author=Mrs..Chima]Jealous mofo.[/quote]What's here to be jealous about? Dead brain lol

biolabee: good one bro

Yeah sir

The apology period is over. I'm gonna be calling her once a day or once every other day.

I realized that talking about this matter all over with her irritates her and she feels pressured just like some of y'all said. Lets just pretend like everything is ok and try as much as possible to have a normal conversation btw we didn't break up or anything.

I love her and all and as well can get any chick I want anyone. So I'm not gonna bother myself anymore.

I will update you guys as we go lol!

Attention seeker

StateOfMind: LOL!

I think there's more to this story than the Op is telling.

@OP this isn't your first time of insulting her is it?

Not really! Maybe I should make out a list of things I've said to her in the past and post it here. Will that help?

biolabee: dude this attuitude of yours sounds defeatist
I thot the plan was to see her (move ur flight from thursday)

Let her with her own mouth say she no wan do na
Why are u begging ceaselessly
have u spoken to the friend in Brazil

I don dey tire o.. e be like say u sef no wan do again

ileobatojo: Lol. No need to keep apologizing. Have you gone to see her? How was your Val's day with her? My suggestion? She asked you what you really want, why not just say all you want and what you are feeling directly from your heart. End with asking her to give you another chance to prove you can both make it work. Then give her time to think about it and get back to you. Send her some flowers and romantic cards during this wait period. If after this, she is still unsure or unwilling to recommit then maybe it's time to say goodbye for now.

The fact that she asked you if that's what you want when you tried to break up suggests she still wants you. If she already had another lover like some are suggesting she would have taken that out when you offered it.

I rescheduled the flight to first week of march which is her birthday. Yeah I know it's far but I've got things to take care of.

When she ask me if that's what I want I said NO. Can you imagine I typed over 40 words on text message to her on valentines day since she wasn't in the country and all I received in reply was "happy Vals babe" wow.

I am not choking her with apologies rather I'm just reassuring her everyday that I've learned my lessons and promise to do better. It's hard knowing out stands in this situation because I don't want to be in a baseless angle.

She told me she wanted a red convertible chevy Camaro
For her up coming birthday, I've made plans on getting it for her as surprise on her birthday but my bro said I shouldn't do it cuz she might think I'm trying to buy her out of the situation.

I just want our sweet communication back. I send bunch of text messages and all I get back will "K, fine, sup, no, what do you mean, what are you trying to say" how annoying could that be.

Oh now she's trying to use this opportunity to be in charge lol. By yelling up my voice on every little thing with me acting like her pu ssy

But one thing I know for sure is, she is not seeing anyone !

Her communication with my family especially my baby bro, mom and my sister was 4/5 but for a while now I don't think the communication is there anymore and I don't want to get them into it.

What does this young woman want?

Ujujoan: Serves you right . . .

Meanie

I wonder how long I've got to apologize. The annoying part is, I don't know where we stand right now. I'm tired of talking about it with all the time. Last time I told her we gotta end this and she busy asking me if that's what I want. I think she's just trying to hear something else from me. I've never apologized to anyone like this in my whole life. Smh

biolabee: Dont look at it like that
She may have gone with friends to have a change of scene
Call her and let her know you would like to see her
If you can change the ticket then do so and try to see her
If there is no change at least you tried ur best

she may come back ready to continue with the relationship

3 years is a lot though... although a failed ccourtship is better than a failed marriage


PS whom did she go to brazil with....

Her friends, I know all 3 of them.

armyofone: now i'm liking your lady, she got 'em
going to Brazil to go cool off 'your i diotic cuss', that's a new generation lady.
Not sit at home crying and wasting tissues

don't forget to carry jollof rice and fried goat meat and shiken go.
Ije ewere

Tu loco walai!

ifyalways: hahahaha.Sorry but serves you right.
You know really,if your babe were to be a confirmed werey girl,she could have replied your sms with something like your mom is an iiidiot but she did not.Thats a plus for her.
Give her time,she might come around but she has sent you a clear message,no messing around with words around her.
All the best.

If she had called my mom out do you think there have been a thread like this from me? No I can't deal with a raze chick. Yes I've really learned my lessons. I can do anything to have her back. If all fails I will take it to mobbed tv and that will be the final move.

ifyalways: @OP, any update :-/
Serves you right kpa kpa, next time you'll look face well before you use certain words on the people you claim to love.

No ma'am, nothing yet. The update is that she went to Brazilian carnival shaking her b0oty while I'm out here losing weight and sleep on how to make things back to normal. I think I'm gonna have to give her a swift space that she needs. I already got airticket to go see her tomorrow but she's not going to be back until Saturday

It's just that 3yrs is not 3 days in a relationship to start all over again with some other stranger. This sucks but I'm giving up already I guess.

I need a website for a small business "Restuarant's n loung" how much$ are we looking at and how long does it take to be done?

How do I upload Vn? I don't have the option from voice memo.

armyofone: Book a flight, buy white fowl and goat, 24 frag roses, 4 different gift card to some nice stores, pledge and sign a promise to cook and run her bath for one year after marriage and the punishment you should get if you break that promise, boxes filled with chocolate, rent a car and have ''I'm sorry and I will never do that again", in cap written on it, tell her the day you say something stewpid again, you are a goner.

Next time R E S P E C T, she is every woman just like Chaka Khan sang.

ifyalways: Sorry but that's a deal breaker for me. No looking back.

I wish you the best @ OP .

Deal breaker really? You never wronged anyone in your life or say anything out of anger? I'm not trying to justify my action but you just don't let everything go off just like that. Be real

dayokanu: This is a good scenario of people who can tame their tongue when they are angry and they say things that they would regret further

That moment of madness is now costing you much more than you bargained for.

Go read what the Holy book said about the tongue.

If any girlfriend or fiancee says any abusive word to me I too would surely re evaluate the relationship

I agree with you, but that's where the imperfection comes in as human beings.

Thanks everyone. Yes she have the right to be mad at me, but after this period I've have realized how bad I've hurt her and I have learned my lessons and absolutely promising her that a thing like that will not happen again. I love her and I just don't want that distance we are creating right now because of that ordeal to ruin what we have going on or set us back.

Like some of you guys said, I don't want to bother further with apologies and at the same time sit back and wait. She told me she wants to think things over and also need to focus on her finals. So I'm leaving her to that. But we all know there's a point where you gotta apologize to someone then get tired give up. One thing I will not do nor advice anyone to do is beg someone to be with them when they don't want to.

Once again thanks all.

I am in a 3 years old long distance relationship New York/Okclahoma. I love my fiancé. When I moved out of state to manage our company's new facility in OKC, she was supposed to transfer to some uni over there but we thought about the setback it might cuz her and decided to hang in there since its only going to take her 3 years to graduate which is this year. We've sacrificed a lot in making it work financially, emotional and other ways.

Just like every other couple or partners we have disagreement and arguments. I've been looking forward to her final year (2013) since forever.

To cut the long story short. Few weeks ago we had a little problem of which I accept being the starter. When she have me an annoying attitude I got mad and texted her with one word(I diot) . I regret that till this moment. I've been apologizing and doing everything just wipe that out but I don't know how that's working. Since then our conversation is not what it used to be. Last week she told me that she don't love me the way she used to love me anymore. It hurts to hear that from the special woman in your life, someone you've planed your life with.

Should keep on trying, do I still stand a chance, what does that mean to our relationship, what does it mean when a woman says that? I love this young woman with all my heart.

My family love her so much especially my mother. She's in her family semester. Should I just sit back and give her the space in other not to interrupt her critical final semester.

Please advice

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