Hopefully bro, hopefully.

Rutherford2019:
This is exactly the same thing I'm suffering
I had many opportunities to Bleep but I was too disciplined,even though some girls did come to lie on my bed I didn't touch them..
Now I'm out of the country, I like traditional lifestyle, so the girls I meet are not my spec
I just want to settle down but no girlfriend
I hope one day go better

Thanks a lot.

aktolly54:
please try as much as possible to talk to girls but most of them go shun you and you will feel discourage ,its part of the game. Most of them will just want to eat your money like I suspect that gift0123 because she want to prey on your naive and chop your money small because people like her have someone but looking for foo.l that will be spending on them. But if she accept NO MONEY NO SEX terms then you can date her. Just talk to girl ,maybe after church service and you spot a girl you like, just walk to her but meeting in church don't mean she is a good girl oooo , a good girl will not bill you unnecessary for 2months of dating, just basic thing will be done for her

Truth is, I have had some advances in the past, these advances have mainly come from opportunists. I didn't fall victim because, I wasn't desperate. I am not desperate now too, but I want to change my status for real this time. You might do that too, perhaps, actively trying to change one's status will create an atmosphere where, one will meet people who might fancy one.

Huracio:
@Op I am like you too..I'm a very shy and introverted guy.I'm 29 with no woman in my life and I'm not desperate about it as I have been also fixated my mind on becoming great...but one thing is that don't ever change yourself for anything, you will surely see a woman that will like you for who you are, women uses various means to be with the man they want. they can do this mostly by initiating conversations with you if this happens the first few times she's seeing you then I think she's yours 80% , you just applied the finish touches to it by also getting along with her.

I am Yoruba.

Pweetyccee:
I have a friend for u but she don't stay in Lagos

What tribe are u

Wow, I thought the funniest guys get the girls, I have been lied to. Maybe we should connect and do couple of challenges together. Let's see who escapes this sinking boat first.

Coldie:
Am in similar boat, mine is even worst am extremely jovial. Am the type that once I step into a place everywhere becomes lively but I have never had a gf in my life before.

I stayed in Nigeria for years no gf, after I moved out of Nigeria my social media is full of messages from girls I knew all those years but never dated me.

Am in a new country same, I am thinking maybe it’s because I am too jovial that’s y, I heard girls don’t like guys who are jovial or smile alot

That won't happen, man. I'm extremely cautious and careful.

mardis:
This one you're mentioning exotic things, making you sound like a big boy. Sha don't go an fall into one ingbeke that will milk you dry.

Thanks a lot bro, you have been more than helpful.

Khd95:
You passed thru school, you didn't allow school to pass thru you, all in the name of I want to make good grades..now you are lamenting

School is the best and surest way to socialize,connect, ,test your wooing skills, bleep, and what not.


It's not bad that you concentrated fully on making good grades, but it's bad that you neglected other aspects of school life.

What you need to do now is first of all, dress well, look cool, smell nice, if you have beards cool, from it well, if not nothing Spoil.

Once this is done, socialize with your fellow guys first, learn how to start conversation and keep it going with your guy man, there won't be any air of awkwardness, unlike when you converse with the opposite sex, I for advise smoke, but that thing isn't for everyone. Build your self confidence first, make your self feel you are the most handsome and coolest guy you have ever seen, no dull your self

Once you have learn how to keep up conversation with your fellow guy man, let am know your predicament, guys are always willing to help fellow guys in situations like this.

Now go out and have fun, learn to enjoy your own company first, you will definitely meet ladies where ever you go, try to maintain eye contact with anyone you fancy, ,flirt with your eyes, let her know you noticed her, if she's into you too, she go dey look your side once once, then cut her one wicked wink and grin.

Girls like men that are confident and bold, one sure way I start conversation with random girls for fun is merely walking up to her and telling her her hair is nice, her nails or cool, or her gown is fire, with a smile.

Except she be ogbanje, she will smile back and say thank you, the rest is history

If you don't mind, we go link up, I know bad places mostly around mainland

[quote author=franklingud post=108332589]Act like your name @OP[/quo te]
courage is for career man, I have always had big ambitions, the problem is transferring it to other aspects.

MufasaLion:
All you need is what you use as moniker. Also, you need to go out more. There are good locations. Maybe I should give you 10 girls.

I don't know what a moniker is. Lol. I don't really know where to go, aside bars and hotels mostly flooded by the categories of babes I'm trying to avoid.

Carchoice:
I wanted to advise you, but when I saw Lekki, I gave up.

Yeah, a lot of people aren't real here, but the truth is, I wouldn't mind go anywhere in Lagos just to get what I want.

webforce:
I think you can start networking in your church group and then neighborhood . Total strangers with fake lived everywhere is not good.

Thank you, I am not active in church, I just take my bag and leave immediately after services, I am trying to avoid any inconveniences that comes with familiarizing oneself with church members, childhood trauma, if you know what I mean.

I am 27 years old, never had a girlfriend or sex (the ones that count, I was molested when I was six by two sisters and it lasted for about 4years.), I had been mainly fixated on trying to hustle my way into greatness, I was a bookworm as a student and didn't bother about relationships in school because I wanted this best results possible, which wasn't the case in the end, but wasn't bad at all. As a result I missed opportunities to learn a thing or two about women, I am extremely introverted and to cap it all up, I am in tech working remotely for a foreign company, as such I am indoors 24/ 7. I tried online dating, it's scammers and hookers all over, whenever I go swimming, the girls I mostly see seem like they sell their bodies for money. I don't have friends, I am extremely lonely despite earning some pretty good dough due to exchange rates and cost of living. I don't really know what to do, I just need a good lady, pretty in her own right, that works as hard as I do, with big aspirations. What can I do people? Is there a spot I can visit for more decent ladies? I stay on the island, lekki axis. I am shy too. �

godlessmind:



Religion is for f00ls like you

You can't shut me up cos as long as you belong to any Religion you are a f00l and a slave to me

Well, that's a simp mindset you've got there, being an atheist or agnost doesn't make you smarter than everyone else, there is no universal truth for things you couldn't possibly prove exist or not; you just choose your truth and respect others' choices, you uncouth oaf.

godlessmind:



Church na Business, Religion is for the f00ls

STFU

ogbonti:
Nigerians and percentage
95% of 36 states is 34.2 States

Hahahaha, so, what makes up 1.8% of a state which is unaccounted for?

Not until this reckless use of percentage put someone in prison, una no go stop using unverified stats... percent this, percent that.... this nonsense is now part of our culture, every idiot calls out percent just to sound intelligent. Nonsense!

1.8 states not 1.8%
Nevertheless, he is saying rubbish. Apparently only approximately two states can which is false.
High level of innumeracy!!

Satan66:
When an afonja woman said she loved me.
I beat her dirty skull!

Wait do you talk trash all the time dumb a**

supereagle:
So Ironic...In Nigeria

Bricklayers = N3,500 daily
Carpenter = N3,500 daily
Labourers. = N2,000 daily
Civil Servants = N600 daily.
Our Senators = N433,000 daily ��‍♂��‍♂��‍♂

Who did this to us?

Where did you get your data from

chrissyade:
Compare Cristiano's achievements at 31 to Messi's at 31
Ronaldo started playing before Messi, about 2 years earlier that's why he has more goals and the difference when compared with amount of games played is not much

When you take their age into consideration messi has more goals and assists.
Just so anyone who wants to argue would know google.com is the url for confirmation and do the math from there

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Why??

Lalalasticalala:
Okay

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Chicagoesontop:
you do well

Thanks

Mr Seun I think this should be in the front page

Things you should never do to have a good life
1. Never debate with religious people.
You will never win, and they will stop being nice to you. So enjoy the free lunches and keep your mouth shut.
2. Do not believe in miraculous success stories.
One of the perks of being successful is that you get to boast about yourself and people still take you seriously. Do not fall in that trap. Success stories are often over romanticized and overdramatized for bagging claps. Take them with a pinch—rather a fist—of salt.

3. Do not take your dental hygiene lightly.
You have 32 teeth, ask a dentist and you'll realize each one can cost you more than their weight in gold. And if that's not enough, try taking a trip to a dentist and spending some quality time on that chair!
4. Do not wonder about the “purpose of life”.
It is a depressing ditch. Believe me, I have spent a lot of time there.
5. Do not update your social media display pics too often.
The identity that you project on social media is always more romantic than your real life. Those hundreds of likes on your display pic may give you a boosted sense of self importance and may feed your need for attention. If you fall in love with your own projection of your facebook life, you know something needs to be changed.
6. Do not make big goals.
Make micro goals and make a system to achieve them continuously. Continuous stream of small achievements can fill you up with confidence and add a lot of value to your daily life. Having big goals is like gambling. Even if you beat all the odds and win big, you still won't be satisfied for long. System of micro goals is like investment, it will slowly but steadily compound into big and more stable wealth of achievements.
7.Do not be overly altruistic.
Helping someone who does not need your help doesn’t do any good. Tying your self worth to your selflessness can practically damage you, and even when your help is appreciated, if it comes too easy every time, it will lose its worth. Be good, be kind, but be slightly selfish.
8.Do not be self-righteous.
Living with too many scruples sucks. Chances are, your views will change with your age. If you define your rights and wrongs too rigidly, you might have to eat them later. Live on axiomatic principles and have a flexible belief system.
9.Do not believe your superiors when they say they are “open to criticism”.
No… they really aren’t. At least not from their subordinates. The healthy criticism that you may like to dispense might not actually be healthy for you.
10.Do not watch romantic movies.
At least not with your partner. It can screw your life. You will be perennially expected to do for free, what actors on screen do for a hefty sum.
11.Do not say “no” very often
There is a lot for you to gain beyond every “yes”. Moreover, saying “no” more than “yes” destroys the gravity of your “no”.
12.Do not skip family gatherings
Even if you have an aunt who always compares you with her kids, even if you have an uncle who can’t help giving you superfluous life advice, even if you have cousins who are more successful than you are, and even if you have never won a debate with your mom (no one has), try to attend family gatherings as far as you can. Think of it as a healthy torture.
13.Never drink bad alcohol. Never drink in bad company. Never drink in bad mood.
These are the three rules of happy drinking. Never drink if any of these conditions are violated. Oh… and never drink alone.
14.Never send a mail without proofreading.
Read it at least once before sending. Watch out for CCs if you are replying to a mail. Pay attention to punctuation and spelling mistakes. Remember, autocorrect is like your friend who never misses a chance to embarrass you.
15.Don’t take yourself too seriously.
Just like everyone else, you don’t matter.

Source: Unknown

I came across an article I'd like to share
Brilliant article must read. Author unknown.

Hope you know about a term named Cobra Effect?

If not, it’s time that you learn about it.

The Cobra Effect is a term in economics. It refers to a situation when an attempted solution to a problem makes the problem worse.

This name was coined based on an incident in old colonial India.

By some reasons, there were too many venomous cobra snakes in Delhi. People were dying due to snake-bites and it became scary for almost everyone to step out of their houses.

The government of the day had to get into action to stop this menace and it offered a silver coin for every dead cobra. The results were great, a large number of snakes were killed for the reward.

Eventually, however, it led to some serious unwanted consequences. After a short-term dip in cobra population, it started going up.

This was because few people began to breed cobras for the income. When the news reached the government, the reward program was scrapped, causing the cobra breeders to set the now-worthless snakes free. As a result, the cobra population further increased. The solution for the problem made the situation even worse.

The unintended consequence for a well-intention-ed idea led to making the problem worst.


Trying a new solution?

or

Planning to tackle an existing problem with a new idea?

Well, it’s time to pause and think about how people would respond to the new idea that may sound great on paper!



Specially the solutions that try to affect how people behave.
There’s always a certain group of people who have a tendency to game the system -intentionally or otherwise.

They have a tendency to take short-term advantage of any situation though that may lead to harm to them & society-at-large only in the long run.

Every solution has consequences and those consequences may lead to certain situations where rather than solving a current problem, you may end up with more complex problems.

Few more examples:
A similar type of incident like increasing cobra-population occurred in Vietnam. The rulers realized that there were too many rats in Hanoi and spread of plague was imminent They created a reward program that paid a prize for each rat killed. To obtain the bounty, people would provide the severed rat tail. After initial success, the officials, however, started noticing rats with no tails. The rat catchers would capture rats, cut off their tails, and then release them back into the sewers so that they could breed and produce more rats, thereby increasing the rat catchers' profits.

As they say the road to hell is paved with good intentions, the similar mistakes are happening around us everyday when the decision -makers fail to take a 360 degree view of all the possible outcomes of an action before implementation.

Nearly 2 years ago, city of Philadelphia in USA passed a "soda tax" -- a US $1 tax on a typical 2-liter bottle of soft-drink- as a "sin tax" in the national war on obesity. But the natives didn’t cut calories as a result of the tax on sweetened drinks, nor there was a shift towards any healthier option. Instead, most of them just drove outside the city to buy the same colas , from stores where they didn’t have to pay the tax. But the poorest paid more as they could not find it affordable to drive out of the city to buy their drinks. In the end , city suffered loss of revenue due to lower sales whereas the lower section society paid more .


The unintended consequence for a well-intentioned idea led to making the problem worst.

Even big & brilliant companies do the same mistake!

It is not that mistakes happen only with the government run programs, there're n numbers of examples in great private companies too where the best & brilliant people lose sight of certain negative outcomes due to the initial magic of seemingly great looking ideas .


The Nano Car - a small car that could never it make it big !

The car once touted as the world’s cheapest, Tata Nano, seems to be running into a dead end as sales and production is down to a trickle. The poor demand has resulted in Tata Motors shutting down the plant in last month.

A car considered as a brilliant product, launched in a segment having a billion dollar opportunity. Hope ran high , the company expected all present and potential two-wheeler owners would shift to Nano.

But they forgot to dwell deeper – a car marketed as ‘the cheapest car’ , created huge initial interest. But it never took off.

Later on, Ratan Tata admitted that the reason for failure of this idea was none other than the term which became synonymous with Nano – “The cheapest car”.

Buying a car in India is associated with social status and prestige; if a person owns a car, he is assumed to be successful and settled. But the word ‘cheap’ in its marketing campaigns spoiled everything.

The company also failed to dwell upon the competition from used-cars. Used cars (2nd hand cars) from other companies , which were much better in quality, space and mileage were available to the same customer -segment at the same or lesser price than Nano .

An intelligent team of people failed to think about the above likely outcomes because it became temporarily blind by the brilliance of such a great idea, by the idea of tapping a billion-dollar opportunity.


Apple turning sour!

In 2017 Apple admitted that it was slowing down the speed of old iPhones as the batteries of those old phones were degrading with the passage of time.To make up on loss of brand image and to saistfy its erstwhile customers, it offered to cut its US $79 battery replacement feed down to US $29 as a way of apologizing.

This lower fee led to more people in 2018 ended up swapping their batteries — instead of upgrading to the latest iPhone models thus affecting new iPhone sales. As iPhone batteries became cheaper and easier to replace, fewer people are shelling out for new iPhones that can now cost up to US $1,449.

On January 2nd this year, Apple revealed that it was expecting a $9 billion loss in revenue due to weak iPhone demand that’s partly caused by more people replacing their batteries, according to a letter issued by CEO Tim Cook addressed to investors.

Slowing down of iPhones sales can be attributed to many external reasons too (better Chines phones, better Apps on Android phones etc ), but strategy of battery-replacement was an internal idea. It would have been handled better if people at top would have thought more about it , if they would have filtered this program from Cobra effect

What's in it for we?
Next time if you or your team has some brilliant idea , get your brilliant guys together in a room and think about the Cobra- effects before implementing that idea.

We can always fine-tune the idea to minimize the negative implications by spending few extra hours/days before rushing to announce it.

think about the Cobra-effects first.

Moderator, it is Nigerians not Nigeria because the money the spend still contributes to the gdp, only this time it is the legal sector.
Nevertheless, a reduction of the cost incurred by Nigerians will most likely channel resources to other productive use wish should increase productivity. As such it is a welcome development

RIP