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I would like to thank everyone that responded to this thread.

Thank you all. I pray that when you guys need help there will be extensive offers and people to lift y'all up.

God Bless.

@izeek and busta

On the papers issue, his understanding is that if i marry him i would have to come back to naija an live as i am not totally legal. 

@yemivictor
My friend mentioned the film (sliding doors) in reference to the issue at hand because we were wondering what my life would be like if i settled with either guy.

@everyone
thank you all for all your heartfelt responses. I am so grateful for the honest and unbiased contributions which was the main reason i decided to post on this site.

One of my friends said to double date for a short while in order to give GuyB a chance to prove himself. In her words 'don't put all your eggs in one basket'. What are your opinions?

@uspry1

I am a graduate, working and am resident in the UK.

Thanks for the pointers, but I wanted to know what you think.

@ j-girl

I have already started a reationship with Guy A. Just about the time I met Guy B. So this is rather urgent for me to know am not going to make a decision in picking the wrong person.

@ Busta

Yes I am.

@ J-girl

I worry that i may love Guy B as i just met him.

@ Busta

I love Guy A

I am in my mid 20s, I live in Gravesend Kent.

There are two good guys in my life at the moment and I am in a fix. I need your honest opinions please.

Guy A --- We had relations when we were younger but we broke it off. About 4 years ago he made made fresh contact with me but we didn't speak properly till a year ago. We realised that we were now a lot more matured and really strong feelings have developed.

He is in his early 20s
He is based in Nigeria
He is a strong Christian
We are from the same place
I really really really like him a lot
We are in sync on every level
When i think of what i want in a man he is everything I want.

Guy B --- We met a month ago through our friends. I honestly didn't think it was going to be directed towards a possible relationship. Things have kind of escalated rapidly between us. He is where i am at in my life. We are sort of on the same level in terms of progressions in life. He is ready to settle

He is in his late 20s
He is based in UK
He is a strong Christian
We are from different places
I do like him and i can see a future with him
He is geographically accessible to me
He is making something of himself
He is in love with me



Sliding doors ---- If i pick Guy A i will have to wait for about 4-5years for him to finish with university in Nigeria before anything can happen. ( Thats if he leaves uni without meeting another babe and hurting me)

If i pick Guy B am worried that i may not be totally fulfilled in my relationship and in my marriage (which is what this guy is hinting at -- marriage)

I have just agreed to commit to a relationship with Guy A as i feel myself falling in love with him. It was at this time that I met Guy B.  I am really worried, confused and frustrated. This are two good men who (right now) love me and will do anything for me but am not sure whom to go for. Both have also said that they have seen what they want in a woman in me.

The long distance relationship or the the UK one. I realllllly like the Naija guy but I may very likely grow to like the UK guy as he is just new on my block.

What are your opinions?

once is enough. after that I will kill him with a lot of pleasure.