If you have told her you don't feel comfortable with her raising her voice on you and she doesn't see it as a problem hence is not making any effort to correct her actions then tell her that you love her but cannot continue with her behaviour (raising her voice at you) -- so, you'd have to quit the relationship.

If she says she'd make an effort to stop raising her voice on you, give her some more chance and watch to see if she's making any effort. If, she just says so and isn't making any effort, just leave to keep your emotional well-being and also your peace.

jaksmillioniar:
Romantic love is mystical and magical — permeating every aspect of mind, body and spirit until you are completely consumed.The intensity of the attraction, the depths of the desire, and the power of the passion are simultaneously exhilarating, intoxicating and terrifying. Tremendous courageis a prerequisite for the awesome vulnerability of opening up your heart, body and soul for love.When that love is not reciprocated or sustained, it can be devastatingly sad, like a death.Like a flower that yearns for the sun until it blossoms completely, until every last petal drops, heartbreak leaves you feeling turned inside out. Not having your love reciprocated or being rejected can trigger a grief response thatmirrors a depressive episode. Symptoms may include difficulty sleeping, changes in appetite, sadness, apathy, hopelessness and sometimes even loss of the will to live.The heartbroken often struggle with feelings of powerlessness; frustration that it’s not within their control to make things theway they want.Many internalize the rejection of a break-up to mean that they are somehow not worthy, not capable of a sustaining relationship, or not lovable on a deeper level. This self-loathing can take root and cause a pessimistic view of the future, igniting panic and despair that love may never be found again.Many people seek therapy to remedy a broken heart.In treatment, we try to understandand analyze our love relationships.Are we recreating old patterns? Filling a void? Addicted to love? Seeking ego validation? Dysfunctional? Delusional? Naive? Insane?Perhaps. Or maybe we are just human and subject to the forces of love.Recovery from heartbreak is much like processing grief, so we go through the following stages:*.Denial(“This can’t be the end, I’m sure he will call.”)*.Anger(“I hate her.”)*.Bargaining(“Maybe if I behaved differently, it would work.”)*.Depression(“I never want to love again so I never feel this pain again.”)*.Acceptance(“It was. And now, it is over.”)

1) Know your love and feelings were real.Just because it didn’t last doesn’t mean it wasn’t real or true. You’re not crazy, foolish, wrong or delusional.
2)Understand love is always a gift.Love is a blessing even if it ends painfully, for heartbreak bears great wisdom.
3) Consider that all things happen and people come into our lives for a reason.Eckhart Tolle says, “Life will give you whatever experience is most helpful for the evolution of yourconsciousness.” A relationship that ends is not a mistake or failure.
4) Stay in the present.Don’t ruminate about the past or second guess your actions. Don’t worry about the future. (“Will he find somebody else? Will that relationship be better?”) Stay out of your head,for that is a dangerous place to go. Practice mindfulness techniques like deep breathing and meditation. Imagine breathing in what you need (strength, hope, energy) and out what you don’t (pain, aches,sadness).
5) Release feelings of anger, hatred and thoughts of revenge.Understand this are all related to ego and cause you more harm than good. Anger exacerbates anxiety and depression, keeps us tethered and prevents us from moving forward. As Nelson Mandela said, “Resentment is like drinking poison and hoping it will kill your enemies.” In a moment of quiet, repeat the mantra, “I forgive and release you and let you go.”
6) Let go of the attachment or connection.Don’t be a whack-a-mole and repeatedly poke your head up for rejection from the object of your affection. As Mark Twain said, “Never allow someone to be your priority while allowing yourself to be their option.” Care enough about yourself to conserve yourenergy for those who deserve it, starting with yourself!
7) Get support. Talk to friends and family who are empathic and kind. Tell them specifically what you need from them. If your friends are tired of your broken record, consider therapy or a support group. Getimmediate help if feeling so depressed you are suicidal.
Know you are lovable.Do not misinterpret the end of a relationship as meaning you aresomehow not enough. Sometimes people aren’t capable of giving us the love weneed and deserve, which is theirissue and not yours. You are exactly as you should be and are perfectly lovable just the way you are.
9) Practice self-love.Recognize masochistic and self-harm behaviors (not eating, substance abuse, risky behaviors, etc.) and nip them in the bud. As Buddha said, “You yourself, as much as anybody inthe entire universe, deserve your love and affection.” Stick to structure and routine and getproper rest, nutrition and exercise. Don’t isolate yourself or your depression will take a deeper hold on you.
10) Know this too shall pass.Putone foot in front of the other and time will heal your wounds. Even if you can’t imagine feeling better or being open to love again, you most certainly will. In my practice, I have been awed and amazed by the resiliency of the human spirit.“The emotion that can break your heart is sometimes the very one that heals it...” — Jakandeola

nice write up. I like Eckhart Tolle and would like to have a conversation with any one who is interested in Eckhart or any spiritual author. you can reach me at 09068448991 or 080137392834

sample042:
I know that the below article will sure motivate one or two people, so it will interest you that's having tough challenges in life to buckle up n be motivated...

“You can’t always change the way things are, but you can change the way you wish to see them. Never stop looking for the brighter side and beyond.”

Always focus on the positive things in life, even if you face challenges and difficulties.

Inspirational sayings, such as this one, remind you that you can choose to think of “brighter” things every minute of every day.

“Do what you can, with what you have, where you are.”

Once you choose to be happy, you’re in a better position to accept your life as it is. Then, you can see clearly what you can do in the circumstances you find yourself in.

No matter how difficult your life is, you will find something positive that you can do to move forward, if you look for it.

“Small opportunities are often the beginning of great enterprises.”

With a positive outlook on life, you’ll recognize and take all the opportunities that are open to you. Don’t worry if they appear to be small opportunities because they can lead to great things.

These words from Demosthenes, the ancient Greek statesman and orator, who lived from 384 BC to 322 BC, are still true today.

“If you can dream it, you can do it.”

Be like Walt Disney and never give up on your dreams. Believe you can achieve them.

“If one advances confidently in the direction of their goals and endeavors to live the life that they have imagined, they’ll meet with success unexpected in common hours.”

Set and achieve goals that will move you in the direction of creating the life you want to live. If you do this consistently, you’ll be surprised by the success you’ll achieve, according to the philosopher and writer, Henry David Thoreau (1817-1862).

“Whatever you can do, or dream you can, begin it. Boldness has genius, power and magic in it. Begin it now.”

The German writer, Johann Wolfgang von Goethe, encourages you to start doing whatever you want to do in life today. The words “power” and “magic” suggest that you’ll see wonderful and unexpected things happen if you start pursuing your dreams.

“Twenty years from now, you will be more disappointed by the things you didn’t do than by the ones you did do. So throw off the bowlines. Sail away from the safe harbour. Catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore. Dream.”

Don’t let fear stop you from pursuing your dreams. Inspirational sayings such as this one from Mark Twain encourage you to move away from your comfort zone, explore the world, and pursue your dreams.

“The journey of life is towards freedom. A bird cannot hold its perch and fly. Neither can we grasp anything and be free.” .

Let go of things you may be clinging onto. These could be people, possessions or a false sense of security. Once you’ve let go of these things, you’ll be free to bring exciting new experiences into your life.

“You have to love yourself because no amount of love from others is sufficient to fill the yearning that your soul requires from you.”

If you always seek love from other people, you’ll always be disappointed because no one knows you the way you know yourself. Only you can recognize your own true needs and meet them.

“You cannot love others unless you love yourself first: how can you give away what you don’t have?”

If you don’t love yourself, then it’s impossible to love anyone else. Many people think they’ll be happy after they meet someone they can love but this is putting things in the wrong order. Love yourself first. Then and only then will you be capable of loving other people.

“This above all: to thine own self be true.”

You can’t love yourself unless you get to know yourself and find out what you truly need and want in life.

In all circumstances, know your true self and be true to yourself, as the great writer William Shakespeare reminds you, so that you can love yourself and move forward in life.

“As soon as you honor the present moment, all unhappiness and struggle dissolve, and life begins to flow with joy and ease.”

Although it’s important to have dreams, it’s also important to focus your full attention on the present moment. If you do this, you’ll live in a state of flow, where you become one with whatever you’re doing, forgetting the passage of time and feeling intense joy.

For almost two years Eckhart Tolle was homeless, jobless, and friendless, yet he spent that time in “a state of the most intense joy” because he focused only on the present moment, forgetting the past and not worrying about the future.

“If you are distressed by anything external, the pain is not due to the thing itself but to your own estimate of it; and this you have the power to revoke at any moment.”

Your mind can play tricks on you. It can dissuade you from doing something by telling you that it’s impossible to achieve. This may not be true but you have no way of knowing unless you refuse to listen to your thoughts and try anyway.

The Roman emperor, Marcus Aurelius, reminds you that you have the power to change your mind about any external situation you find yourself in.

“The men who try to do something and fail are infinitely better than those who try to do nothing and succeed.”

Failure is a part of life and you may face many failures on the road to success. Don’t let failure or the fear of failure stop you from trying to succeed.

“You must accept that you might fail; then, if you do your best and still don’t win, at least you can be satisfied that you’ve tried. If you don’t accept failure as a possibility, you don’t set high goals, you don’t branch out, you don’t try – you don’t take the risk.”

Indeed, the possibility of failure allows you to set the bar higher and, over time, encourages you to achieve greater things.

“Success is a journey not a destination.”

View success as a journey during which you may experience many failures. Enjoy the journey because it is your life. Focus on the present (the journey) rather than the future (the destination) to make the most of your life every day.

In closing, here are three short uplifting quotes that are easy to learn and repeat to yourself when you’re feeling stuck:

“Do it now!”

“Be here now.”

“Count your blessings.”

Let these and other inspirational quotes about life and happiness become part of your daily life. Let inspirational quotes about life and struggles give you the courage to move forward on even the darkest days. Repeat short inspirational quotes to give yourself a quick confidence boost whenever you need it.

nice write up. I like Eckhart Tolle and would like to have a conversation with any one who is interested in Eckhart or any spiritual author. you can reach me at 09068448991 or 080137392834

TundeHashim:
its been a while I did this. Won't like to argue over religion in a public space, but I'll make some passing remarks, so it won't look as if I chickened out. I find 4 points worthy of note, and I'll address them accordingly.

Firstly, you agreed there was (forced conversion) in Christianity's history. Have nothing to say. The point is not contentious.

Secondly, you stated that "it was against the teaching and action of Christ himself". I think I find it difficult to agree. The actual truth was that he was powerless. He wasn't blessed (like moh'd or moses) with a nation where he could exercise absolute control over the people. If he was the head of a town and not a local preacher, the result would have been drastically different. I have so many examples to give, but one that particularly comes to my mind is in the book of Matthew. Mathew 10:14-15 gives us an insight into the mind of ur Christ. He placed a curse on any nation that refuses to "listen" to the words of his disciples (which in actual fact, is Christ words). So if someone who practically has no power can CURSE a country just because they refused to "listen" to his words, what do u think such a person will do if he has a million army at his back? Your guess is as good as mine. (For sake of brevity, I'll keep my opinion short and simple)

Thirdly, you asserted with an air of superiority, that "same can't be said of Mohammed". That's false. There's a quranic verse that emphatically states that "there's no compulsion in religion". So I don't know where u saw yours. It'll be interesting if you bring evidence from the Qur'an which enjoins Muslims to force others to convert. Besides, they were Jews and Christians living in Mohammed's city until the day he died. Furthermore, there's a concept called "dhimmi" in Islamic jurisprudence. I'll wish u make further research on that.

Fourthly(doubt if there's such term ut for the sake of convenience, help me manage it), you said Mohammed's Islam "would have been dead without the sword". Whoa! Thats a fantastic prediction that'll stun the best of mathematicians. How do u arrive at such bogus conclusion? Do u know the first person to convert to Islam? Was the sword put on her ( I doubt if u know the person..although Google could help u out) before she became a Muslim, what about the second, third, fourth, fifth, sixth persons to convert to Islam, did mohd coerce them? Now coming down to Nigeria, how did Islam get to Nigeria, were the Mais in Kanem-Borno Empire coerced to join Islam? What about the Sarakuna (meaning kings) in hausaland. We Fulanis do say we brought Islam to Nigeria, but deep within me, I know that's false. Islam had been in Nigeria prior to the birth of Shehu Dan Fodio (interestingly, his Islamic knowledge came from hausaland). What about in Nupe land, were they forced as well? How did Islam get to Indonesia, Malaysia, Senegal, Mali? Almost all Fulanis are Muslims, where we forced? Who placed the knife on our throats to convert?

Conclusively, I hope to see ur response to this vexing points I've raised but conversely, I'm not intending to reply u with a long post again. I'm a very liberal Muslim, believing that religion should be a personal thing.My human identity supersedes my Islamic identity and that's the main reason I picked your comment, amongst the various daft comments I read. We shouldn't rejoice over calamity that befalls a group because we're all humans. Today it's Uiyghurs, tomorrow it might be Christians.

"My human identity supersedes my Islamic identity" beautiful words Tunde Hashem ....... true words.

TundeHashim:
its been a while I did this. Won't like to argue over religion in a public space, but I'll make some passing remarks, so it won't look as if I chickened out. I find 4 points worthy of note, and I'll address them accordingly.

Firstly, you agreed there was (forced conversion) in Christianity's history. Have nothing to say. The point is not contentious.

Secondly, you stated that "it was against the teaching and action of Christ himself". I think I find it difficult to agree. The actual truth was that he was powerless. He wasn't blessed (like moh'd or moses) with a nation where he could exercise absolute control over the people. If he was the head of a town and not a local preacher, the result would have been drastically different. I have so many examples to give, but one that particularly comes to my mind is in the book of Matthew. Mathew 10:14-15 gives us an insight into the mind of ur Christ. He placed a curse on any nation that refuses to "listen" to the words of his disciples (which in actual fact, is Christ words). So if someone who practically has no power can CURSE a country just because they refused to "listen" to his words, what do u think such a person will do if he has a million army at his back? Your guess is as good as mine. (For sake of brevity, I'll keep my opinion short and simple)

Thirdly, you asserted with an air of superiority, that "same can't be said of Mohammed". That's false. There's a quranic verse that emphatically states that "there's no compulsion in religion". So I don't know where u saw yours. It'll be interesting if you bring evidence from the Qur'an which enjoins Muslims to force others to convert. Besides, they were Jews and Christians living in Mohammed's city until the day he died. Furthermore, there's a concept called "dhimmi" in Islamic jurisprudence. I'll wish u make further research on that.

Fourthly(doubt if there's such term ut for the sake of convenience, help me manage it), you said Mohammed's Islam "would have been dead without the sword". Whoa! Thats a fantastic prediction that'll stun the best of mathematicians. How do u arrive at such bogus conclusion? Do u know the first person to convert to Islam? Was the sword put on her ( I doubt if u know the person..although Google could help u out) before she became a Muslim, what about the second, third, fourth, fifth, sixth persons to convert to Islam, did mohd coerce them? Now coming down to Nigeria, how did Islam get to Nigeria, were the Mais in Kanem-Borno Empire coerced to join Islam? What about the Sarakuna (meaning kings) in hausaland. We Fulanis do say we brought Islam to Nigeria, but deep within me, I know that's false. Islam had been in Nigeria prior to the birth of Shehu Dan Fodio (interestingly, his Islamic knowledge came from hausaland). What about in Nupe land, were they forced as well? How did Islam get to Indonesia, Malaysia, Senegal, Mali? Almost all Fulanis are Muslims, where we forced? Who placed the knife on our throats to convert?

Conclusively, I hope to see ur response to this vexing points I've raised but conversely, I'm not intending to reply u with a long post again. I'm a very liberal Muslim, believing that religion should be a personal thing.My human identity supersedes my Islamic identity and that's the main reason I picked your comment, amongst the various daft comments I read. We shouldn't rejoice over calamity that befalls a group because we're all humans. Today it's Uiyghurs, tomorrow it might be Christians.

"My human identity supersedes my Islamic identity " beautiful words tuned.........true words.