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Lolz. Its always 'follow come"

Odunharry:
same to ladies

Lolz. Its not an arguable fact.

xest:
Not really dear, but ur man, i mean husband has at least 60% of say in ur affairs let mi not b selfish.

Well when am married no qwalms. Cos I know av gotta be submissive.




But being single nko? Dey keep telling u to thread carefully. Kilode?




U r single u can't focus, u get married one selfish man trys to impede ur Growth. Its too much biko.

Odunharry:
easier ke??
we have stopped accepting the blame.. we ain't AKON To put the blame on

Lolz. And we r learning to take responsibility of our actions. Afterall wen u give gal belle com run leave am, nor be d gal alone dey carry shame for headv

utenwuson:
yeah on d real term it is! men don't see a carrier woman as a good home keeper. ur dad was absolutely right unless u want 2 b a single 'carrier' lady for a long time! which is isn't bad though depends on wat u program for ur life! most guys tend to marry a woman they could av dominion upon, so avin a master will limit d marriegable numbers!

Hmmmmmm. Why must men want to dominate in everything. Its Their right to be d head I agree should be respectful; no wahala




So? Y can't we. Just develop ourselves without giving a thought on wot d next guy'll say or think?

QueenValerie:
Great topic Op

Tanks dear

Odunharry:
same for ladies ..why is it you people never take responsibility for ur actions and anything that happens? ladies find a way of shifting the blame to guys.

Hehehehhehehhehehehe. U know its easier dat way. Lolz.

darlingtonIIV:
Lol. It's not all guys babe. I totally like girls that are independent, down to earth and really focused. These kind of girls turn me on personally. And i hardly call girls names. I guess i'm really easy to please.

Dats so lovely




Thank God av grabbed u. Lolz

Odunharry:
And women are insatiable? And the butterfly keep jumping from one man's bed to another Abi?

If only u guys will keep ur bedrooms locked and just ZIP UP

xest:
My dear it depends on the angle u r looking at it. First n foremost a lady shouldn't depend on her boy friend,u girls are fond of that. Its like one day, i asked a girl to buy mi a bottle of coke,her response was irritating and a graduate for that matter.Hear her "Why will I buy u a coke,am a woman u r d one that is meant to buy for me" shooooo! I just wash her dt day n d rest was history. Now on the issue of marriage, it solely depends on the husband. Like me my wife cannot work in a bank period. If u hv such husband n he stops u doesn't mk him insecure or blackmail dear. For wat men wants frm women,i think its mutual. Every man wants a woman just as every woman needs a man in her life. We want u ppl for happiness n woman wants us for Protection.

Well I must say dat gal is archaic. Personally I make Sure I outsmart a guy everytime to pay bills. Be it T fare or others. It makes me feel better and removes dat feeling of Kindda owing or wanting to payback. And wen Eva I knnow am not boxed Up, I look for reasons not to honour an outing or date.




As for independence av seen many guys dat frown and call gals names. Even my dad told me wen I wanted to buy my masters form to be careful dat such stuff aint good for a single lady as it would drive guys away and I was like WTF!!!!





It jus Kindda made me sad. is it dat our lives indirectly revolve round men n wat dey want?

wristbangle:
It depends on what a particular guy want. Only confused, immature and chronic rational guys actually crave for 100 percent perfect lady

Wooooow. It feels good to hear such comments from a guy. Really.

Greekgoddess:
Nd later dey will say women r confused, we don't know what we want

While dey r ones dat don't know what dey want

D day a man will be able to state wat he wants in a relationship will be d day relationships will start taking a new turn for the better

Seriously dear. They are all Oliver twists



they'll have a humble moral wife dat they asked not to work at home buh keep lusting over an over bleached painted butterfly in d office called secretary calling her smart n presentable. Meanwhile someone else dating dat butterfly secretary is Going to d village to look for A wife.

U can only like d person's Voice and Humour. And love goes beyond those

Decker:
Of course, men dislike women who are too dependent on them. Ladies who would only take from you but would have nothing else to offer, asides their bodies. Ladies who see you as a living, breathing and walking wallet to deep their thirsty fingers in any time they want, just to satisfy their foolish greed.

We hate ladies who lack the drive and desire to work hard for their own financial success, so that when you get into a relationship with them, it won't be a replica of a parasitic relationship where one partner gains at the expense of other.

But the idea that guys do all those things you mentioned to independent women, or view them in such a way, is very wrong, and is a case of hasty generalization.

A man who is wise and confident and who knows his worth, would never feel threatened by a woman who is financially independent. He would never be afraid to go into a relationship with her.

It's only a man who is insecure that would feel threatened by a woman who is financially independent.
A real man would cherish such woman. He would appreciate her and value her worth.

And to answer your question about what men want: Men want a woman who understands her role as a friend, wife and mother. A woman who acts as a help to her man, both financially and otherwise. A woman who is open to new ideas, and willing to try out new stuff for the betterment of the relationship. A woman who has a vast wealth of knowledge and who can engage intelligently in various kinds of discussions, not just some asinine, empty headed bimbo.

A woman who is smart enough to be able to render advise and proffer solutions to issues especially at times when her man is short of ideas. A woman who possesses good character, both in the home and outside the home. A woman who values her family and would never sacrifice it's unity and peace for anything.

This is woooow. I wish every guy will think like this

shegxi:
@op, this discussion will continue to surface until we come to realise dat it is nt a man vs woman but an individual matter. People are shaped by dere believe system, choices, experiences and environment.

Buh u agree there are guys that insult young single independent ladies right?

Greekgoddess:
I really don't know

Abi ooh.



And such comments are rampant here on NL

younghartz:
Depending on d lady

How does it depend on the lady?

Both of them compliment each other

Yesterday during the interview, a discussion came up by tosynetoomuch and another guy(forgotten his moniker) and I was amazed even the guys noticed this problem.


My question goes thus;




Why is it that when a girl is totally dependent on a guy, guys tag her a cheap slut, gold digger and all sort of names. And when a girl is Kindda focused and is independent. Working and taking good care of herself guys still come up with names for her saying all sort of things. It gets even worse if she's married. The insecure husband Kindda forces, threatens or blackmails her to quit her job





All these got me wondering. people keep saying its hard to please a woman but for a man its near impossible.





What do you guys really want from a lady?






primeministerr





Andycruiz






Naijaboiy







Wristbangle







STFUareyouGod







Obiorathesubtle









Goodheart02







DarlingtonIIV


(please come and give us light)

obiorathesubtle:
well, believe it!

You don't have any problem tho.. You're a female, it's the males that should be worried.

Dats serious


So irritatingly disgusting #if there's anything like dat.




Well, I guess I shuld be grateful then.

softappless:
no never heard of it

Lolz.


No offence intended.

I dey com first.

Dey hardly value wot dey have. Its always all about power for dey

softappless:
how is this romantic?

#1 Cos its in d romance section



#2 sarcasm. Ever heard of dat word?

Woow. So romantic.





Tanks op