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mrcelebrity1:
Guy, I feel your pains but I must be very honest with you that I am going through worse your situation. just please be calm and try to learn how to make yourself happy first, your life and your happiness first before anyone else.... My wife has not spoken to me for weeks because she demanded for huge amount that i do not even have, despite the fact that she knew i'm just recovering from sickness..

..... Bros God no go shame us..... It is well

fof1:
DID YOU PUSH HER DOWN OR NOT? OUT OF ANGER OR FRUSTRATION? IF U DID, U ERRED BADLY. PLS APOLOGISE IMMEDIATELY AND PROMISE URSELF TO BE MORE RESPONSIBLE IN HANDLING UR ANGER. BUT WHERE U DID NOT,AND SHE LIED AGAINST YOU. THAT IS A DANGEROUS WOMAN IN D MAKING, AVOID HER PLS. U ARE NOT YET MARRIED, SO RETRACE UR STEPS,PLS.

.... I have never and will never go physical against a woman. I didn't push her down

Ybaby:
Anyone that prays the man that impregnates thier daughter will give her 700N to cook soup - raise your hand let me say Amen!

A kilo of Titus is N1100. If she buys half kilo for N550 she will buy rodo N100 and use the ogbono at home, then cook it for free for a man who has not paid a single dowry on her head and yet used her womb to bring his lineage forth. Her labour is N50

E ti mad but no one to tell you.

You are a manipulator how can you drop 700 for food and still say you had a hardworking day? Hardwork picking beans or what? Baba arrange yourself biko... hardworking men will never drop N700.


she has over given to you that is you are indebted to her. You need to stop playing the victim and go get some money.... baba hustle! You now have a child to look after and let me remind you she is not your wife: she does not owe you any sacrificial love because thier is no contract.


1 problem here: she is not your wife

2 problem here: your income needs to be increased ASAP.

Waiting for you people' s amen and any silly girl who is sleeping with a man who can barely look after himself - do you want to scatter his life ?

..... I have a job that i work till 11am,how else do you want me to hustle?? And with which time??

Apination:
Simply send her to her parents since they didn't give you wife to marry. Send upkeep for your child monthly since she's obviously not ready to face life squarely. She's not prepared to be a wife or support you, but if you really did push her or went physical with her, better stop.

..... I vowed never to lay my hands on any woman because i won't tolerate it if anyone lays hands on my sisters,mum or daughters.... So i NEVER get physical with her no matter how provoked i am

placeofallure:
I always try to imagine how somebody will be content staying at home, doing nothing, unproductive! It's always somehow, with which body will I take live day kain lifestyle?

You are part of your problem, I believe in due process, you didn't go it the normal way. What's baby mama when she can be a wife? Maybe it's that mentality that's causing her to misbehave. She wan chop anything she fit chop before she waka.
I see a wife helping her man to build a formidable dynasty, a financial fortress. Not disgusting babymamas! Some wives can be deal breakers too o!

@ dangerousdaddy, What's done is done. Maybe you missed those red flags while you both were without a baby. Your decision to be there for your daughter is good. The lady? She's cantankerous. It takes lotta restraint not to send such women to Igbobi wards.

A male colleague once told me he doesn't hide anything from his woman. As he collects his pay he surrenders everything to her. If she wants to spend it all in one day, it's left to her. They both suffer the consequences.

While I'm not advocating that you surrender your all to her, Let your "wife" know your financial standing. Let her know you have loans you're servicing. Let her know she can't have everything she desires especially as she's not contributing anything, educate her on needs and wants, then If after it all she's still unwise, please let her go. She's never gonna change. Whatever you have, ensure you send it for your baby's upkeep. She shouldn't suffer for the mess the adults are making. It's bad enough that she's not growing up in a normal home.

Next time dangerousdaddy, look before you leap.

..... Thanks alot..... I'm learning the very hard way

merieam16:
Oga go and do the needful, even if its as little as only the bride pride.Its obvious that ur mother in law is nt happy with u and its nt a good sign

..... My biggest fear about that is... If she can be like this when we are not married, who knows what she will do when we are married??

Raalsalghul:
I blame you Op:
For dating and impregnating a jobless girl.
When they tell young men to calm down, they won't listen.

bros u won't understand

muller101:
checking the op's moniker.

.... What happened to it sir. I'm a regular user of naira land even though i only registered 2 days ago. My nick was inspired by the love i have for my little girl.... I would go any length to protect her from the ills of this present day society. Just like a lion is dangerous when protecting his cubs, that's how i am when protecting my daughter

merieam16:
I feel ur pain bro buh wat exactly do u want us to do

.... A little advise from experienced people will go a very long way because i feel lost, frustrated and confused all at the same time

merieam16:
I feel ur pain bro buh wat exactly do u want us to do

.... A little advise from experienced people will go a very long way because i feel lost, frustrated and confused all at the same time

Good evening people. Please don't mind my English. My post is actually out of pains and frustration and i may not type with the correct words.

I'm a 31 years old guy. I'm actually very bad with spending because when i have money, whoever asks from me gets. I am under alot of pressure lately especially from those around me. I am the 1st child of my parents and have so many responsibilities.

I got my girlfriend pregnant and she moved in with me. My parents were never there for me so i vowed i was going to be there for my kids. Hence i do all i can to make sure my daughter and her mum are OK.

The girl in question is a torn in my flesh. Totally different from when we were dating without a child. Nowadays, as soon as i get my salary, she wants to buy this, she wants to buy that even though she knows i receive less than a 100k and i have multiple loans i am paying back because we moved out of our old apartment due to space constraints especially after she delivered.

Whenever i don't have money, there is never a happy moment in my home. But if i come home and bring money, we become very good friends. She wants to live a good life which is not wrong but I feel when she knows how i am managing, she ought to understand and bear with me.

The last straw that broke the camel's back was, i was yet to be paid, i had 700 with me. I gave her to make some food because we had the basic food stuff in the house.... Rice, beans, ogbono, spaghetti, garri, Egusi.... Palm oil. So basically all she had to buy was fish or something to put inside the food.

I came home after a hard day at work and met an empty kitchen. When I asked for my food, she asked me what i expected her to cook with 700 naira. I got so mad and left the house but since it was late (it was close to midnight), i decided to come back. In my anger, i started asking her why she's treating me badly. And the next thing is, she called her mum to say I'm fighting with her and that i pushed her to the ground. Her mum replied and said that if anything happens to her daughter, she would hold me responsible. That she didn't give me a wife......

Now I feel i should just end everything and let's go our separate ways before it becomes a case of domestic violence. I never want to see my child grow up to see me fighting with her mum always and being unhappy. I believe a child that grows up in an unhappy home is always at a disadvantage. Please help me guys. I am in pains.

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