₦airaland Forum

Centrallock:
Ijeoma1187 you must be the nagging type, posting those WhatsApp chats and all is for what exactly? To be pitted i guess, from who? Online user's, nairalandlers? That's pathetic and mind you no marriage is made in heaven, every man has his weaknesses, some cant abuse you but will ridicule you emotionally, some won't ridicule you but cheat on you massively infant no need typing much. But leaving your home will not make you any good based on this issue, secondary am suprised at the type of family you have. How can you father and parents expect you and ask you to come home especially your dad without giving this young man any opportunity to correct his bullshit. Your husband is an emotional idiot who is controlled by his emotions and not his senses, is your dad a saint? Are your brothers saint?, every man has once in a while stepped out of place. Now the only thing i can tell you is if you cant for the sake of your child make peace in your home as the neck of the family then you clearly should not have been in marriage in the first place. And if you eventually pack out your husband will freely adapt to the society not you regardless of what your parents says and brothers they will not be there for your at all time, and once you start giving them responsibilities expect them to complain. Let your brothers allow you to face your challenges at home.
I wish i cant qoute that your immature husband who has given away his power and masculinity for the sake of emotions and insecurities that nigga needs to sound slap.
But i will still write this here so you can see incase you somehow gets to have a glance at this,
Men dont argue with a woman, in arguments women are always 100 and 1% right. Secondary when in marriage any money you give to your woman count it as a loss in other words if you have 400k to give start by giving it bit by bit cause surely demands must come, even you as a man spends more than budgeted sometimes not to talk of women, and for the sake of christ stop abusing your wife nigga, what will abusing her add to you? Do you think you can have abusive words more than her if she decides to engage you on one? Why on earth will you tell you friends shit about your wife can you defend her in the cause of insults from them? Friends are not your family dude, and how ever you wish to handle your marriage always remember misunderstand is guaranteed how you handle it is what makes you a man and earns you respect not your rants and abuses. Know the difference between pride and taking responsibilities. As a man you must know that your wife should be your priority because a happy wife is a happy home. Anything else friends her brothers and father is all distraction focus on your wife.

Well said and thank you very.. but lemme make one thing clear and final.. my parents are happily married and would never want their daughter to be a divorcée.. most times u just have to look beyond what’s happening now and focus on the latter.. do u think we just work up and say “oya pack up” Don’t u think that this abuse, toxic, lack of respect, insecurity, immaturity and childish behavior has been lingering for a long time!? Do u know how many times the said young man has been given the opportunity to clean his mess?? How would u feel if ur sister, daughter or loved one is the subject of discussion among friends every god dam time there is a misunderstanding at their home Like she’s some sort of a property or what?? Do u know what it means for ur spouse ( man or woman) to keep talking down on u until u loose ur self worth, confidence and emotions Have you ever dealt with an indecisive person before?? We can’t be that stupid to want her to leave her home just for mere misunderstanding cos we really don’t care what goes on in her home.. but when u see that things are getting out of hand then u can step in and save a life since the dude doesn’t want to charge of his home. now take a look a the rampant domestic violence we having these days.. it’s not a day or one time thing.. it’s an anger and abuse that has been building for a long time and it only takes a trigger before it blows out of proportion.. now do u say it’s ok to make “ur wife” a subject of mockery with friends?? And she, rather than doing the same resorted to family?? Honestly we want her to be happy, confident, treated with respect and not a hell in a marriage all because of what society will think of her.. for sure we can’t keep giving her money but will definitely set her up financially more in her growing business.. once again, thank y’all and ur sincere advice well noted!

Ijeoma1187:
It wasn’t arranged oooh... in fact I have known him since my university days

And we all had our doubts.. yet she fought, stuck and convinced us to accept him despite numerous decent suitors that came.. and yet this nigga can’t even do same for her.. protect, fight respect and treat her like a wife.. only prefers to abuse her at every slightest opportunity.. my sister now has a long list of book where she calculates every penny and kobo she spends.. made her loose herself confidence and worth.. guy! I swear.. lemme just respect her sanity.. let her heal first..

LadySarah:
Ij, forgive him.
Frm nw on let feeding money be separate from miscellaneous.
Stop reporting him to your family.you humiliate him by doing so.
Both of you go and make peace and delete this thread.

Op, ask for ur wife's forgiveness and put restraint on ur verbal abuse on her. Be a man and learn to speak less.

Ladysarah in as much as I totally support what u said, but y would a responsible, sensible man discuss and digress he’s wife with his friends?? Not even family!!!! Friends for crying out loud!! How would u want her to stand among those friends on the long run.. common u need to listen to one of the audios and then judge for urself.. this abusive and toxic shit has been going on for long and yet my sister kept this all by herself.. only got to hear about it 2 days ago.. which sensible brother will allow this to go on U dey abroad and yet u never call ur “so called wife” on phone u only chat her up... really?? And u know what that means? Well I leave it to ur imagination.. and now he’s here ranting and seeking for cheap moral.. have u ever dealt with an indecisive person before We all have marital issues but for once I have never discussed my marital issues with my family and not even with this my beloved sister talk more of friends.. in fact I fight with my wife almost everyday but never will i talk down on her neither will I make her feel bad.. we should all know our spouses weakness and work on that.. but every little thing this guy go come dey ask people, involving third parties just to feel good.. now I ask u.. would u allow ur siblings to go through such?? Who started this involvement of third parties?? Now he’s ranting and seeking for cheap moral.. honestly he should just keep the energy.. las las scores go count.. one love!

Triniti:
Aboy don’t allow this family to use you like this. You should have shut down the brother the moment he interfered without reaching out to you first. In fact, your wife’s brother is a very stupid guy, I don’t even want to talk about the money ish, you should have called her bluff when she tried to leave. Don’t go about apologizing when you have done nothing wrong

Nwanne no talk Wetin u no sabi.. sustain the moral weh u dey give ooh.. one love!

y’all advising him hope he keeps the energy.
And I pray ur sisters get to marry such indecisive and immature dude like this and may they be in a toxic and abusive marriage like this one. Some one who talks from both sides of his mouth and can’t protect his family like a real husband.
Sheabi dem say make u plank, call the bluff and all.. keep the energy dude! One love!

U wan that airport agbero boi come for u abi?

This stupid boy called airforce... honestly u disgust me!!!!! I see no difference btwn u and bobrisky or whatever he calls him self..i only blame Nairaland for giving you the much needed attention you soo much desire... see mugu weh be agbero airport come dey claim... have seen u countless times at the airport doing agbero work but always coming here to form porsch.. pls get the Bleep off!!!!! Bleep boi!!

That's not simi naa...haba

Dear Nigerians. I think it's high time we as a nation, youth should take our destiny in our own hands right now. Honestly I am writing with some much pain that I do not even know where to start from. These our current bastards ( leaders ) have really taken us for granted and it's time to show them that power really belongs to the people and not some animals ( cabals ). For how long do we wanna suffer like this? For how long are we gonna be like this? Times are hard and only God knows what will become of us when these bastards ( APC ) still remains in power 2019 beyond.Why have we allowed sentiments, religion, tribalisim, greed, becloud our sense of reasoning? Why have we allowed these thiefs to keep looting our brains and human conscience dry? If we all keep putting up this ' I don't care attitude ' and keep morgagin our future just for the crumbs of today, this generation and the next will surely pay for it. I have been prevelige to be outside the shores of Nigeria, and boy! Believe me, you will be amazed to see and experience what a sane country looks like. Almost 90% of Nigeria population is on social media...why don't we use it to our own advantage to reshape and change the history of Nigeria politics starting from 2019. Forget who you are or where you come from.. just know that we are all Nigerians and that is what is most important right now. I won't apportion the blame game anymore cos majority of us all fell for it, but we can still straighten things out come 2019. So it's our collective duty to call on Donald Duke to rise up and redeem us from this shithole before it becomes too late.. let's start a #risedonald#, donate #100 each To his campaign, get him registered to a fresh political party in order to avoid another cabal long story. Why don't we the youth be his cabal? And to clear the air just in case, I have never ever met Donald Duke, it was his transformation and personality during his reign as the governor of cross river endeared him to me and most us can attest to this. Its very obvious the PDP nor APC can not solve the Nigerian problem ever. Fellow Nigerians let us all support the #risedonald# and smile for a greater future!!!! Lala do the needful.

Very stupid and ogbanje show....wonder what guys derive in such nonsense..