teemy:

Good. What they like to see is a remorseful face. It is up to t=you to ensure that remorse is real in your heart to avoid a repeat. Wishing you the best dear.

thanks I appreciate.

byvan03:



He is not a child, he is old enough to take responsibility. Please don't let him take you to any quack, it's likely that this type of irresponsible fellow will take you to a quack. One thing is established, you want your baby, do you know his parents? Be careful with him this period, desperation can make people do fool*ish things including trying to hurt you to hide his sins. Someone needs to know, someone close enough to protect you. Anyone close enough?

I know his sister but his parent aren't based in lag.

Oma307:
Didn't he use condom

I swear I didn't plan to have sex with him dat day,so I didn't even bother to ask him about condom.But I was so unlucky,just my first time and I got pregnant.

byvan03:
Whatever you do, don't end up on a quack 's table so you don't ruin your entire world over a pregnancy. How old is this your boo?

26yrs.

teemy:

A paternity test does not lie. Also try seeing your clergyman before talking to mum.

thanks,i already told my mum sis that I'm coming to see her 2morrow.

Gbyte:


My dear,
there is not smiling about this situation, but for us to have a conclusion, lets analyze whats on ground? How wealthy are you parent? Are they that comfortable enough to take care of the baby in a way that it won't affect your own life that much ? As for your boyfriend, the truth is many teenagers and youths (male) are afraid of having a baby, especially when they are not financially stable, from the looks of things your boyfriend is probably still been fed at home, and you are probably still in school also.

I would not tell you to abort and i won't tell you to keep the baby, but my dear, abortion is not as bad as it seems, many people would say you are killing a baby, I would say you are saving a life, especially if the pregnancy is still in its early stage. Many if not all of the people advising you to keep the baby would NEVER marry someone else's baby mama, so you get to face that for the rest of your life, even those that would marry a baby mama, their parents would give them headaches, plus, what the baby would go through growing up, this is only if your family is still struggling to train you and your siblings.

But sit, think through about it, a lady with a child gets stigmatized out there, yes, they'd love and kiss your baby, but ask them how many of them would marry a lady with another man's child, how many of us would approve of our son or brother coming with a lady who already has a child for someone else. All these things are what you need think through. So my dear, the decision is yours to take, but its better to save this baby from some experience, especially of not having a father and having a struggling mother, than to have the baby to please people and then live with that for the rest of your life. My dear, trust me, if your family is struggling, you'd have days you'd just sit in your room with your baby crying because you cannot provide for the child and there would be no husband to comfort you, and you'd wish you have done something different. But like I said, the choice is your.
If i'm asked, i would say, if your family is not struggling in taking care of you, talk to your parent about it, they'd most like tell you to keep the baby and they would love their grand child and support you, but if they are struggling think twice. Poverty na bastard, it makes people think in weird ways, thoughts like, "we are still struggling to feed ourselves and then we have this one to deal with also" would come to their head once in a while[font=Lucida Sans Unicode][/font]

That the main problem,its only my mum and she is still struggling.

Code45:
I hope everything later sort out peacefully.

I Pray

akankemi1:
since u ve ruled out abortion...grow up. u won't be d first person in dis situation. u ve to be strong

I think I will involve my mum sis.
Thanks.

Code45:
The girl is dumb. Who have first sex at her age without protection when you ain't married?

I know,i made a mistake.

Mintayo:
The earlier young peeps understand that bf and gf relationship is a scam the better.
Don't date someone who you are not willing to be committed to and who is not willing to be committed to you.
Op you should have thought about your action before you agreed to having sex with this your scam bf, now you have to dance to the music alone.
Yiu had better involve your parents and keep the kid.

thanks.

Speechless3:
Liar, you are trying to get help my foot. Go ahead and deceive those you can.

Thank you.

Speechless3:
Why do i have a feeling that the Op has forged a story to discourage girls from having sex

You think am reading something else into this crap tale? Pls who cries for fp in situations like this

why would I forged a story like this?
I'm trying to get help and you are saying another thing.

Mhizkel:
Build up courage and tell your mom about it. She won't kill you, but be prepared to face any sort of treatment from her cos you brought this upon your self.
Keep the baby and stay away from that boyfriend of yours. He doesn't wish you well, he values your life not.

Wish you a safe delivery

Thanks.

Decker:


Every mother warns her daughter about getting pregnant out-of- wedlock, but that doesn't mean they will disown her if she does. Your mother loves you and you are her daughter, she won't send you out of the house just because you got pregnant.
You just have to tell her.

The fact that the guy is trying to deny you is enough reason why you should tell your parents. They will take on the issue and know how to handle it better.

If you eventually abort the pregnancy and something happens, the same guy would still deny you.
So it's best you tell your parents.

Thanks.

thorpido:
What do you want to do with front page?
You're blaming your boyfriend?Was it not consensual?Rather than listen to your parents and follow their leading and counsel,you decided to go your way and now you can face your parents.

Tell your parents or get a relative tell them.Heaven won't fall,you won't be the first to have such an experience.You will just have to bear the consequences and make the best of your situation.

you can insult me but I already realised my mistake.

Laveda:

You need to try, summon courage and tell her...
You don't expect her to be happy over this, or what's your plan?
Abortion?
Think about the risk behind it, what if something goes wrong in the process?
Babe you've gotta do this....its hard I know, really hard time for you... just try okay?

maybe I will involve her sister.Thanks.

HateU2:
Sorry sis. It's gonna be a hard decision but u have to keep the baby. 4get about what the people will say, it's just gonna be for some months and u will have ur baby 4eva

Thanks.

sseunth:
is condom now expensive or there is no more contraceptive pill?

tell ur parent, u have no choice.....

dont worry, let me become the president of nigeria i will legALLISE ABORTION CUS OF PEOPLE like you. but as for now......THOU SHALL NOT ABORT

you can condemm me but everyone make's mistake.

Laveda:
Your first time and he got you pregnant? That's sad

But girl, before now, I know you've known lil things about sex and all, you aren't a kid 21 no be beans,
You should have asked from friends before going into this, and your silly boyfriend? He's wicked, wasted the whole spërm inside you without giving you advice...

I don't believe in all these spiritual whatever,it doesn't work
You have to talk to your mum at this stage, I know she's gonna yell, sure its normal. You didn't use your head tell her about every thing, what if you die in the process of abortion? That's gonna be sad, see your mum as a friend right now, only she can help you..and your boyfriend? Knowing him was the worst mistake you made in life....

Decker will help you better

My mum will never accept me,I'm scared right now.

Decker:
It's always advisable that if you want to engage in premarital sex, you should endeavor to use protection always. Asides preventing you from getting pregnant it also protects against STDs.
It was your first sex and the smart thing would have been for both you and the guy to use protection, but you didn't and now you are facing the consequences.

I am going to be honest with you. It's not right to abort children. It's religiously and morally wrong. It's murder and it's not right.
Asides for the fact that abortion is wrong, it can also be detrimental to the health of the lady and sometimes it could be fatal. So I won't advice you to abort the pregnancy. Besides this isn't a decision you should take on your own.

You just gonna have to tell your parents. That's the best thing. They are not going to kill you. They would scold you and probably punish you, but they still love you and have your interest at heart. Talk to your mum. Present the matter to her in a mature way, and be prepared for what would come after that. She would get mad and angry and emotional, but after a day or two, she would come along. She is a woman like you. If after you present the matter to your parents and they insist you abort it, then you have no choice. You aren't going to raise the child alone. But I don't think they would. I don't think any parent would want their child to abort a pregnancy.
If they tell you to keep it, I am sure they would proffer ideas and solutions on how you would go about the whole pregnancy issue including sorting things out with the guy who impregnated you.

You made a mistake, I get it. Everyone makes mistakes at some point in their lives, what's important is that we all learn from these mistakes. Don't worry, it's all right. Everything is okay.

You are just 21 and you have your whole life in front of you. Don't let this discourage you in anyway. It's just a little set back, but don't let it stand as a hindrance to you striving to achieve your dreams and goals in life.

It's alright.

Decker I appreciate but my mum has been warning me since about pregnancy,the main problem now is the guy is threatening to deny me and pregnancy if I don't abort it.

Pls I need advice,i just had to create a new account to avoid embrassment.
I'm 21yrs old and I had sex for the first time 1month ago,i was feeling sick so I decided to visit the doctor only to discover that i am pregnant.

I told my boyfriend and he suggested abortion..the problem is I don't want to abort the baby cos of fear.I kept my since till one ago because of different Phrophecy concerning pregnancy I must not abort if I do I will die.
I told my boyfriend everything but he insist I abort it if not he is going to abandon me to my fate.
My mum will kill me,society will crucify me,i have cried and cried,i don't know what to do.

Some guys are wicked upon all the promise of love.
I would have kept my virginity if I had known.