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Seeplusplus:
Which one be Global Association of Female Attorneys again?

Why do women like creating useless female bodies inside an already existing body?

You want equality, yet, you're always running to set up needless female body inside an already existing body. Is that low self esteem or acceptance of being subordinates to men?

I won't be surprised if I see association of female ministers or senators.

Very gutter behaviour

All the brotherhood associations that men create have you ever seen women complain. The problem is when women decide to come together. Fragile deck energy like you will always fault it.

ZACHIE:
She is used to it.
That's how she's been flipping her husband back at home. What's a policeman that she cannot toss?

Anyway, she will need extra sheets at the station. To the sheet, add app loans. Because, she go need extra urgent transfers .

I know a mule will say this. Nowhere was it said she’s married. She clearly acted in defense. You should be ashamed of these worthless uniform men that parade all over harassing citizens. The man can be drunk chances of him being an alcoholic is high when real danger comes they flee. Incompetent lots

Obiedun:
If it were to be in Lagos you will see them talking trash upandan. Obi who talks recklessly will even put mouth. They will all keep quiet now

Omo eh your life is extremely sad

mariovito:
So you will just be receiving funds from an account you don't know for two years?

It sounds made up but when I struggled with liver infection I spent everything to get well I lost weight from 72kg to 51kg I was dead broke but somehow I kept receiving 15k and 50k from different accounts.,I went to my bank to report it but it seems the sender answered them and they told me the owner of the account but till date I had no idea who was sending it. After 1yr I recovered I landed a job in with 150k salary and accommodation. The money stopped coming. I suspected it came from my close business partner. I wish him well, I’m married today and since then he cut off from me. I feel that he secretly loved me but never mustered the courage to tell me. Hence the heartbreak. Even when I call him to ask of his health cause he developed kidney failure, he will rush the conversation and end the call. I stopped calling him for some years now because he doesn’t answer my calls or have he responded to my WhatsApp messages.

Life happens, sometimes God sends people to be your angels in struggling times.

The truth is she not not be pregnant but as a virgin or even non virgin, men’s sperm destroys women’s hormone. Give her time to adjust and make sure your sperm is healthy enough not to give her those cramps. Your sperm are the reason why she’s having severe hormonal problems. The only way to fix it is through multivitamin and if she’s pregnant, research multivitamin for yourself too to help her body relax. Men you don’t know how much you people destroy women’s bodies. That’s why you’ll see a slim girl the moment she takes in she blows us. It’s the hormones her body is fighting and trying to adjust. Buy her supplements. Her body might be lacking on so many nutrients as she’s a virgin if you don’t want to lose your baby too. Two of my friends that married a virgin lost thier first pregnancy because of this hormonal issue

muyico:
Hard drugs at work

Keep on justifying wickedness

Procashtips:
Almost 42 years
A freelance/independent consultant
With 2 children (Almost 6 and Almost 4)
Wife working.

Lost it all in bad collaboration, fraudulent investments, bad/wrong investments and also theft.

Got an asset that can give him ₦20m after debts are paid.
How does he bounce back with the above?

Rent is 2m annually
School fees is 300-350k termly.
Feeding ₦150k+ monthly
Others: ₦100k monthly


If you are in his shoes, what are you going to do?

He plans to be responsible for running the house this time around without relying on assistance from the wife to restore sanity/orderliness.

Advice him from the point of financial and career stability,

It’s quite unfortunate you found yourself in this horrid situation.
Moving on, you said You don’t wish to get assistance from the wife. Sir, you’re not a child and you know it and you’re been married for a while and you ought to know that while financial responsibility of the home is mostly handled by men, learn to involve your wife.

I see a man who’s ego is above the roof. As a woman I’m certain some of the terrible investments you made was done against your wife’s advise and now it has backfired and she is using it to talk ill of you but instead of you relearning your ego runs through the roof. We are humans and we make mistakes some can lead us to our early grave but forget about your pride and ego and make peace with your wife.

Come plain to her, tell her the truth. Accept you have failed in the investments you made. Forgive her and ask for her forgiveness. This is not a time for your home to be in mess. It’s time to sit up and put all hands on deck. You have two beautiful kids that are too young to understand life. Let your kids be your motivating factor on the type of life you wish to give them.
Regroup as a couple and have more safe sex. Yes, it helps to reset everything. Buy her nice gift and make peace.

Then go back to the drawing board, if you’re a Christian always pray. I personally believe in prayer. It works in my household. There are times I went into depression and I hated my husband for reasons that are genuinely stupid when I think about it. He didn’t bring me back with shouting and anger, he did it with praying for me always and showing me kindness. The madness in me stopped. It was later figured that I was going through postpartum depression as a new mum.

We understood what was happening and with proper medication I’m doing better than I was.

Your wife is going through stress that she’s not used to before hence show her grace. You have not failed as a man remember this. You’re not a failure and no matter the amount of debt you find yourself, you can still come out of it.

Firstly you have to bring your wife in and ask her what she can bring to the home every month to release some load off your neck. While you go back to your skillet and work twice as hard now.

Cut off every luxury or anything you can live without. Cook at home and save money for takeouts, if you drink please and please stop or rather reduce the quantity to the barest minimum it adds up.

Don’t put your money in another Ponzi scheme that promises huge interest. Better share the money in half and throw it in some govt bond for security landing or mutual fund (about 20%) per annum. It’s small but can secure your capital or you can buy land and let it appreciate in few months then resell.

Go back to what gave you money and add a side hustle to it. Be less available to friends that add no value to your life. Hang out with people that will uplift your spirit and talk to trust worthy people about the debt and see if they can help refer you for job offers or businesses.

And most importantly pray. Start saving little amount every week or day for your children’s school fees so the burden won’t be much when it’s time to pay.
Good luck stranger

Lumig:
If one should dig deep about those clapping for her, it may be that they are either single parents or hopeless singles that are not happy with their co-females having a happy home.
Be-As-I-Be syndrome, more like witchcraft

Calm down boy. Are you saying your father strikes your mother at will and she’s still excited to see him. Wow, this is amazing. I wish your family more striking in future. Learn to draw the line in everything. It was just 2days honeymoon phase son. Honeymoon phase while we don’t have information of what triggered it. Marriage comes with lots of trigger and if the man or woman lacks self control and start hitting the partner the other should leave immediately. It’s nonnegotiable. Most percentage of married dead women is cause by DV from the husband. Most percentage. That is scary.

nedekid:
While one can understand anger from the father and his actions, he may have taken it too far. Arresting the son in law and then encouraging the divorce based on the first conflict was taking it too far. Even if you commit, there is what is called first time offender. Lol eg if someone is caught for drug trafficking, as a first time offender the court is lenient, it is after the second time the full weight of the law descends on the culprit.
In my own case, shortly after marriage, I actually struck my madam once and guess what, she was pregnant. Watin happen, we had and argument and before I know she don tear me slap, howwww?? In which government, omo, I landed a heavy blow. She went to sit on the ground by the balcony and cried the whole day. But guess what, it never happen again. The pikin that was in the belle is now 22 years old. Why did I hit her, I will not ordinarily strike a woman how much more my wife, but I did it to draw a line, if that is what she had seen happen in her parents house where her mother will slap her dad and get away with it, it will not happen in my own home. Now what if she had called her dad who was then a recently retired security oga at the top, he may have reacted as this girls father did, and knowing me, it would have been the end of that marriage.
Did the girls family hear the guys part of the story? What if she acted like that tonto lady by smashing tvs or distroying property and the guy a slapped her to reset her brain draw a red line?
Anyway, from experience, such lady if she does not find a new husband will blame her parents for a failed marriage. When she is lonely, she will blame her father for destroying her marriage, she will say she was young and did not have experience, that her parents should have known better.
Now, don't misunderstand me, I am not saying a wife beater should be tolerated, what I am saying is that it should be observed for some time, if it is recurrent abuse then action should be taken, but not few weeks after marriage when the couple are still adjusting to living together.

This comment tells us you’re an elderly person. Your wife struck you and you struck her back. It’s called tit for tat. It never happened again. The situation here is simple. The husband struck her. Stop cooking up scenarios that she was violent when we don’t have such information. You know A lot of men that lack self control on their wives. I do and I stay far from them my husband stays far from them too.

You don’t sit to tolerate abuse. 2days after wedding. Oga 2days please don’t sit in your space and tell any human what to tolerate or not. 2days and the dude is already getting physical. Just 2days. Listen provoked or not. It’s certain he’s not ready to be a husband. Because as a married man you know that the journey of marriage is two different humans stepping on each other foot trying to find ones ground until we eventually understand one another.

If any man strike my daughter or any woman strike my son. I’ll arrange people that will get extremely physical with them. You can argue but getting physical is where one draws the line.

Lithiumite:
For her father to have had the will to arrest the guy,he most likely wouldn't be a poor man.....but in all,it's wrong,they should have allowed commonsense to prevail......her family has already added to her life issues by helping break her home.......to all those screaming domestic violence,not all men are animals,I once hit my wife out of anger but I still feel sorry till this day.....so many marital issues could be resolved with just a simple sit down.

Are you suggesting anyone should stay in an abusive marriage. We are talking about 2days not 2years to the wedding. Do you know the level of lack of self control for one to lift a finger to slap someone who offended you and then your wife or husband. Most of you are brain 💀 in this comment. Give birth to your daughter and let your son-in-law slap her just 2days after wedding when the honey moon still dey whack everyone. Man you’re not a good person. Perhaps your father should have slapped your mum just 2days after wedding and let’s have it.

Tonitoniton:
DNA or not, most of these ladies are very unfaithful

I know of some cases where a bride to be had sex with her boyfriend a night to her wedding as a parting gift

Just imagine if she took in from that escapade, who do you think will take the responsibility?

You lied and you know it stop the lies it doesn’t make sense we all know but can’t point out the person sleeping around

casualobserver:
I have said it elsewhere that yes we know Nigerian women are unfaithful but I am beginning to think this is a marketing ploy by DNA test centers.

It’s a ploy, don’t ever believe what the dna centers in Nigeria are saying just better go Ghana or Ivory Coast. They make a lot of mistakes too

Dialpad:
May her soul rest in peace , I can imagine the pain and horror she must have been through

I pray those involved be arrested

It’s a boy, did the read the news?

mrvitalis:
When I see comments like this I laugh

It's not maintained not because we lack maintenance culture but because it's a revenue draining project

Most of you don't understand how economy works at all economics should be compulsory

revenue draining as how. If the government rebrand it and market it won't it generate revenue for o the state.

Amotolongbo:
She is still young.
Let’s wait for 5years to see if her story will change 😂

When a man says it you hail him. Continue living in 1521 we have passed you by. Listen eh, what's God for the goose is good for the gander. Make everyone face their battles. No carry anybody wey no be your children go anywhere

abiolert2:
This is their new cash cow, from ibom Air, to cally air, Enugu Air, we will soon see even Edo Air. In as much as the intentions are good, mismanagement of state resources will crumble the whole thing and render it counter productive. Well after each governor's tenure Efcc must catch someone especially when you are in the opposition.
Let me add that no state governor should buy refurbished aircraft for us oh.

can you guys learn to have sense sometimes please

Akalia:
People have lost decorum , self-respect, and shame. Tufiakwa.

Shame kpai you there when the marriage is about to scatter. Save it by all means necessary

jmoore:
Two men? Did he marry men?

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It tells you that the man is a great manipulator. He's a narcissist fool that can't see beyond his fooly

ediko5:
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To the writer of this post, you're genuinely unwell. Do you know that travelling helped cured my depression of years. I'm in a marriage and if I hang out too much with my family I get agitated and overstimulated. I love them to the moon and back but I need that space to be alone and recharge. I go for missionary service but not anymore because of marriage. Marriage will make you mourn some things..leave her to mourn she never said she's regretting her marriage. Hate for the fact it limits her travelling

ucheheart:
You can always adopt children or have children through surrogacy

You don't have sense, how will surrogacy work without a good sperm. I'm sure you don't know the meaning of surrogacy

Exceed15:
Ok, give her an impression there's another woman.(or get one sef ).her brain go reset. No woman likes rival. Stop tormenting yourself.

you're a foolish man, w home breaker. Omo. The number of failures I see in this comment ehh advising this man. All I see I pure self-centredness. No woman ever ever wants to work herself to death. That man clearly doesn't earn enough for the home. This man still doesn't understand why the wife needs financial security from him. He has definitely said things that threatened her security and she's not going to play with it. Y'all are wicked for your foolish advise. Let him go ahead and destroy his home. You know God walks in mysterious ways. Na better and richer husband go marry the wife.

TONYE001:
Why would you want to blame the hospital? Have you heard their side of the story? I do not know of any hospital in Nigeria that would ask for N500,000.00 deposit in an emergency situation like this.

Inasmuch as I feel sad that the man lost his wife, we should not be quick to attack hospitals and health workers. We should listen to the two sides of a tale and make informed decisions.

You're very right, this man is not being honest in any form. He is not being honest.

HonNatasha:
What do we women really want?

Mụmụ man, no woman will type this rubbish question. The man clearly is an addict not having control could lead him to molesting his own daughter one day