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MrHandsome2013:
A civil servant that started working when Nigeria was booming in 1970s.

He Worked 12 years being single before getting married.
That 12 years he worked was useless.

He didn’t marry his wife properly. No wedding pic of them as husband and wife.
No house of his own, no property,
No car , nothing.
What did he do with those 12 years.

Is it the remaining 23 years remaining to serve or retire , he will achieve anything being married with responsibilities.

This my unfortunate dad never achieved anything throughout his 35 years of working.
He was busy blaming his wife for putting him in chronic debt,
Now I sat down and began to think that this man was already a failure before he got married.
Because you have use 1/3 of your 35 years as a single man yet no single achievement.

Some men don’t deserve to married.
My dad is an evil man seriously speaking,
He knew he was a devil that has failed and instead of him to go to one seminary school.

He choose to go one village to deceive one illiterate girl to marry so they will bring innocent kid to suffer untold suffering.
Is this not pure witch crafts

Just curious. Was he an alcoholic? Did he womanize?

Now, bro, you need to calm down. You're speaking like an 80-year-old man giving his final confessions on his deathbed. You're in your twenties—or worst case, your thirties. Life hasn't ended. In fact, it's just beginning. You can fix your life. Whatever you think is missing, you can build: confidence, social skills, productivity—it’s all trainable.

And guess what? You've already taken the first and hardest step—acknowledging the problem for what it is and the full ramifications of its impact. The next step is deciding on a plan and starting the work of change. That is life, my friend: Kaizen—constant, incremental improvement.

A little practical advice: compulsive masturbation rarely happens on its own. It's almost always accompanied by porn use. That’s the root you need to dig out. Masturbation is just scratching the itch...but what’s causing the itch?

Start there. Clean up your digital diet. Drop SM. Cut off the triggers. Replace the habit with something active—exercise, journaling, learning a skill. When the urge hits, retreat to your spirit and anchor there. Urges are like waves: they rise, peak, then pass. If you can ride the wave without giving in, you win.

You said, "I missed my purpose."

Brother, listen:
as long as you're breathing, it’s not too late to find it—or build it. You don't need to be perfect to start. You just need to start.

You're not alone. You're not beyond redemption. And you're not done yet. You're just starting.

Let's go! 💪🏿