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Romance / Re: Dear Virgins; Nobody Cares About Your Virginity. by Demure1: 6:59am On Jul 31, 2018 |
Elder001: Oh am so sorry if I pissed you off, don't be vexed okay. You made a post and I thought differring opinions were allowed and any one could comment. I felt you were someone I could chip in one or two comments for because we had both agreed on a different post before relating to marriage. But rather you seem so combative, extremely rude and on the defense. Would gladly avoid your post next time don't worry, sorry once again . Was my husband a virgin?, no, though he wasn't, he was celibate. My big brother is an ardent christain those types people call spirikoko and was a virgin till marriage. All his exes got upset because he wouldnt sleep with them, called him derogatory names and broke it off and he eventually got married to a woman who wasn't a virgin, they have three kids now. So it happens. Have a nice day Sir. 1 Like 1 Share |
Romance / Re: Dear Virgins; Nobody Cares About Your Virginity. by Demure1: 1:46am On Jul 31, 2018 |
Elder001: Sir , Remember me?, if not kindly check my previous posts on sharing of house chores in marriage for am sure you would see how helpful my hubby is. I got married at 29 and a virgin. I had my first kiss on the day of my wedding and to say am blessed with my marriage is an understatement. Hubby was celibate for some years, we did christian courtship so he thought I was also celibate. Most people think virgins do suffer and they have it bad in marriages because they don't come out to brag about their lives but that's bull. They shout who virgin help, When we got back from our honeymoon hubby got me a sport car an upgrade from my former ride, a month later I got a house in a choice area. Plus other things i wont be mentioning here so i won't be decoded. Not focused on the material possession because I had enough financial sustenance before I got married. Alas he worships the ground I walk on, he spoils me silly and talks good care of me in every areas, cooks for me, got me a driver though i drive. . He treats me like an egg and says all the time "i respect you" I admire your strength because e no easy at 29. Mr elder, leave virgins alone, if you dont value them there are enough people out there who admire them same way there are men who don't like virgins. You dont have to write an epistle on it if you truly dont care.Live and let live. 1 Like 1 Share |
Family / Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by Demure1: 2:13pm On Jul 15, 2018 |
JAMESOJAY: If the same happen to your daughter when she gets married what would you say?, when her husband tells her to write only his name on the document of the house she built ehn? |
Family / Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by Demure1: 2:09pm On Jul 15, 2018 |
proffemi: Gberudani, I am happily married read my previous posts to get a better view of my marriage. Are you married ?, because if you are also responsibly married you would know that if the table were turned and she used her own resources to help her family there's no way the man will put only her name on the document like he is imposing right now. She said joint the man refused and said he wants only his name there and am sure no sensible person will agree to that rubbish. 1 Like |
Family / Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by Demure1: 12:53pm On Jul 15, 2018 |
jadyclem: Yes they had plans but he went and used his money to build a house for his family like she doesn't have parents too abi?. |
Family / Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by Demure1: 12:48pm On Jul 15, 2018 |
wittyt98: Thank you ooo, I don't understand why a woman cant own properties simply because she married. I am married and my properties are in my name, have not seen the person that will tell me to change it to my husband's name. His properties are in his name too and everyone is happy. I don't even understand the whole rationale behind putting his name and giving him joint ownership when it's your house, only your name deserves to be on the document. Haba You claim you are thinking about the kids then why is he not also thinking about them too and threatening divorce is he not their father or you gave birth to them alone?. 1 Like |
Family / Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by Demure1: 12:36pm On Jul 15, 2018 |
Eketem: Don't mind her, my mum left my dad with five kids she had no job, no house, didn't even know where to start from but she took us all. Look at where we are today , God is really good for we never imagined we will be as prosperous as we are now, we give Glory to God's name. Here is a woman who has a job, a house, and just three kids not five and am sure she also has a car and is living comfortably. 3 Likes |
Career / Re: Lady Who Just Got A Job Reveals What Happens To Her Each Time She Gets Home by Demure1: 3:05pm On Jun 06, 2018 |
Daboomb: Learn how to engage in constructive arguments without using derogatory words,. I said "archaic" cause thats my own worldview in terms of traditional gender roles. This isn't someone whinning, this is me saying not everyone restricts themselves to a role. It may not be same to you, then fine but understand your type of marriage isn't everyone's type too. While growing up i Was told to washed cars while my big brothers did nothing, and they were called to cook while i did nothing. My parents only called on who they have in sight and in proximity to them. If they see you, they call you, simple. It helped me and my siblings in life because we weren't restricted to those roles. While in school I could change my bulb or fixed the socket all these my friends couldn't do. You keep saying competition would arise when roles aren't defined, maybe in a marriage where both parties refuses to see each other as a team and true love and respect for each other is lacking. That's why we are called to selflessness in marriage, when you know you are working for and not against yourselves, you won't even notice who imputed more. Yes sometimes I work more and sometimes my husband works more depending on who gets home early, has night shifts,who has more projects, and travels etc and sometimes it's equal but nobody is whinning. If he gets home first he prepare dinner doesn't take juice and snacks while waiting for me to get back to fix something up. When i get home first i also prepare the meals, Now for me and some out there that's marriage. We don't necessarily need to have the same worldview. We don't have the same upbringing, lifestyles, exposure etc. You kept mentioning alakija, that has plethora of cooks, and only cook together with enough cooks at her beck and call when she is around, which is once in a while . She doesn't cook 365 days and when she does" sometimes", she does it with her cooks and she is never alone in the kitchen like most women. Damaged goods, rabbits? Like really?, watch your languages please, counter arguments with points not insult. There was no where I insulted you or spoke to you brashly, well sorry I spoke to you. Have a nice day. 1 Like 1 Share |
Career / Re: Lady Who Just Got A Job Reveals What Happens To Her Each Time She Gets Home by Demure1: 10:01pm On Jun 05, 2018 |
BiggyB242: No you are wrong a lot of men do that here. Even your so called Nigerian men . it's hilarious seeing them bending over backwards tolerating what they never would from their Nigerian wives. That's why I understood where @Elder001 was coming from. He wasn't kissing anyone's behind just saying the obvious truth.. 1 Like |
Career / Re: Lady Who Just Got A Job Reveals What Happens To Her Each Time She Gets Home by Demure1: 9:26pm On Jun 05, 2018 |
Daboomb: I also laugh knowing fully well you are wrong, i am well aware of the reasons behind that, and none were inclusive out of the reasons you stated. For Honestly that is really not one of the reasons why women live longer than men. Mind you i speak with facts, for i did a few research for my projects on that while i was in school, and my profession grants me enough access to conduct more research on most of these men and you failed to mention the root causes. You just reiterated our points on why you men should stop using the word "help" while you appear in the kitchen once in a blue moon. It's a shared benefit, isnt it?, so you not doing her a favour but yourself. Yes but yet different organisations exists and different ways of running it also exists, coupled with different form of leadership styles . Hence the reason I stand with the egalitarian marriage, which is what I saw my parent marriage as and they still together after 40 years same with the marriages of my elder brothers and sisters. I remember how Dad and mom woke up early, prayed, then prepared us for school while dad prepared breakfast, mom bathed all the kids, ironed our uniform, both dropped us off at school. Either Dad mopped and mom washed or dad cooked and mom mopped. Dad also did grocery shopping countless times or they went together. Till we grew up they always helped one another and that's what I know as marriage, a partnership. If you want the cooking to be done solely by your wife, get you a woman who has the same archaic mentality as yourself without berating others who don't. [color=#990000][/color 3 Likes 1 Share |
Career / Re: Lady Who Just Got A Job Reveals What Happens To Her Each Time She Gets Home by Demure1: 9:05pm On Jun 05, 2018 |
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Career / Re: Lady Who Just Got A Job Reveals What Happens To Her Each Time She Gets Home by Demure1: 6:33pm On Jun 05, 2018 |
tartarus: Thank you oo, I laugh when I hear women age faster than men, please what do most men expect?, she goes to work same as you comes back home while you relax with football, she is in the kitchen cooking till God knows when, you devour the meal by this time you already in bed waiting to pound her life out, then she goes to the kitchen to clean up, wakes up before you to prepare the meal and the children for school and its an ongoing cycle. To crown it all you still expect her to look like a Barbie doll. Before you come for me I wash cars, change the bulb, take out the trash and what not. There's nothing like helping her out since you eat out of the meal so you doing no one a favour. 2 Likes 1 Share |
Romance / Re: My Experience With A Single Mother I wanted to marry. by Demure1: 3:36pm On Jun 03, 2018 |
1x2x3: I didn't read through because I didn't want to be biased and base my own comments off another person's advice. No, you cant blame me, thats why its good to always write a detailed summary for i only wrote my comment from what I deduced from the little bits you laid out from your first write up. She told you not to travel not once but thrice, well that's wrong, for in any relationship autonomy is essential , you dont own whoever you are with and they deserve to have a life in and outside of that union. They don't stop living simply because they are dating you. Since you do listen to her courtesy demands she does the same, I said all that cause I thought it was one-sided and mainly from your end . You have left the relationship well good for you, wish you the best in your next. 1 Like |
Romance / Re: My Experience With A Single Mother I wanted to marry. by Demure1: 3:04pm On Jun 03, 2018 |
[color=#770077][/color] 1x2x3: You are very controlling, she is not your wife yet, so how dare you object to her travelling?. You can't control a human being like yourself unless one with low self esteem, even your kids you don't control them, how much more an adult like yourself. Oh , I guess it is because she is a female you automatically expect her to be subservient. You claim to be a christain brother but your reasoning and way of behaving is archaic. You haven't proposed to her yet, still you feel you deserve the contacts of every member of her family while you were simply being a boyfriend. Did it ever occur to you that your woman is an extrovert she kept on trying to spice your relationship up and also encouraged you to be a bit social but you locked up claiming "am an introvert". she was on leave and decided to make good use of it by travelling but you refused her going like you have a right, so she could be with your "introverted self" to put it mildly, as you claim. If you were that interesting and fun to be with she would want to spend every second with you, trust me. You kept reiterating on how you are introverted no you are a simply boring individual, who is also rigid and wants every lady to bend to your whims, You are the problem here. Besides there's nothing wrong with the lady you guys are just not compatible. 2 Likes |
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