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Thank you everyone for your advice. As for Segun, theres mixed signals, i called him 2 weeks ago and he said he still loves me but want to sort his life before he can focus on me. If my heart has its way, it wants a nigerian, Dingani is a loving man, known him for so long and yet cant seem to see myself married to him. I dont want to discard him just yet because i know God's ways are different from ours. @ candylips: Unfortunately my pastor did not say which of the men God wants for me, this is why i am confused. @ Validator: Good advice, but there must be some significance to the prophecy, so i cant just ignore it, more than anythin else that prophecy was of comfort to me, God knew what i was passin through. @Akainzo: I dont want to explain the situation to my pastor because i feel he may use his own judgment to advice me, what do you think? @Pysam: yes i am beautiful, like i said i dont know which of the guys it is,
Please keep the advice coming, thanks again.

Dear Nairaland, please I need advice. I am a naija babe  based in Ireland. I am in love with 2 men. One of the men, Dingani and I have been togeather for 6 years. He lives and work here in Ireland too. The other man a nigerian named Segun I have known for a year. I met Segun on a social networking site, he is studying and living in Sweden.

I love and care about Dingani but I feel marrying a non nigerian is not something I want, since  I will return to naija soon. Segun is a nice guy, we hit it up straight away. We met in person last yr but for a very short time. Communication with Segun  has not always been constant, sometimes he disappears when circumstances are bad for him especially after he lost his father so I didn't have opportunity to know him well. A month ago Segun  told me he could not continue the relationship because all was not well in his life.

After I heard this, I decided to focus all my energy on Dingani who I know loves me, I started pressuring Dingani marry me but he was not so sure because I had been distant to him. This is because I focused  more on my relationship with Segun. Within 2 weeks of Segun telling me he cant continue, I received a prophecy from a pastor in Nigeria. He told me that I have two men in my life and I am confused about which one to marry. I was surprised because me and Segun never discussed marriage but I told the man of God that it is true I have two men in my life. He then told me that both men will want to marry me but for now I must not rush into marriage. That I must wait for God to reveal which one of the men is mine by praying hard, he said I should in fact remove the thought of marriage from my mind for now. I am so confused, does this mean that Segun will come back to my life? Let me add here that the very day I first met Segun online, my church pastor had prayed for all the unmarried women in the church to find their husbands.