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You don't deserve an explanation but you need to be educated (I won't waste my precious time to do you that favour cos your nature of thinking is that irritating type common with a certain demographic).

You're clearly the type that believes women 'invite' and 'greenlight' harrassment. You can save that cheap logic for your kind.

greatwhite:
This is just one side of the story. Would love to read the guys side. I would not blame the dude just yet. You said he started calling & messaging you some months ago. Between 2013 and 2016 no communication ba? He just woke up one day and said you are his new project? For a married man to chase you the way you described. You must have flashed some green light. I didn't see that part in your story. You knew he was married but you encouraged him with your reverse psychology. When you went trough his fb, were you really looking for a reason not to do him?

Even though the dude is a coconut head. You story get K leg.

True words! Their promiscuity and persistence is next to none. They can give you 10 missed calls in 2 minutes

Oh Lord guide your single daughters o especially from the ones that deny their wife and claim to be single

vani86:
It is normal, even someone I thought was a friend who is married went after my gf. Been avoiding me ever since when she burst his bubble and told me. Happens all d time. If you hang with married men, I swear they are more promiscuous then single guys

The last message where I wrote a lot was just after a call where he was insisting the prewedding photo was just a 'mini intro' for a wedding that didnt happen and it irritated me that someone will go to that extent and indirectly deny a wife - a woman that is toiling to keep a home together. It's annoying.

emusmithy:
You seem to be the one typing more...that means to me;
It seems you're already falling for his "lies".
Or
Why would you apologize to a "married man" if you were on calls?

Are you single?

Note to start: I know there are very awesome faithful married men out there. I am not bashing all men in this!

Usually when I suspect a guy is married or in a serious relationship, I just go silent on him and ignore his advances till he notices I am not interested but I had a funny encounter with one and it all just exploded few minutes ago. I met this guy for the first time around 2013 at a meeting. Somehow I recall those meetings included greetings like 'how is madam and the children'. We never had any informal convo but these past few months, he has been calling and sending me messages like he is about to die or something. I told my friends and they believe he is single because of his approach and consistency. Anyway, I told him point blank that I know he is married and I needed him to stop the games. Of cos he denied it and said he wants us to get serious and that if not for me ignoring him all this while, we should be doing our intro this December. LMAOOO! Of cos through all our chats I constantly say it clearly....'but you are married'.

Being off work today and with plenty time on my hand, I decided to put an end to this. I got on his Facebook (luckily I can view all his photos on facebook without being his friend on there), did a screenshot and sent him some of his photo in which he was clearly wearing his wedding band. Oga denied it and said one was a 'fashion ring' and the other way a key holder

I looked up his surname on his friendslist on facebook and stumbled on someone that is probably his brother. Scrolled through this relatives page and just like a minute and I landed on prewedding photo including a congratulatory message from his relative. I sent the photo to him and asked for an explanation (cos in the usual manner of lying, there is always and explanation). Oga said it was a mini intro for a wedding that never happened


So I just need to ask the unfaithful married men (or their friends):
- Why do you guys have to deny the existence of your wife just because you want to get with a girl?

And for my beautiful single ladies:
- Share your experience with desperate married men that won't take NO
- When a guy asks you out, do you only relly on his words or check on your own if he is really available?

Married women:
- What will you do if you discovered your husband is living single?

It seems we women have dropped the bar so low that we manager whatever these men throw our way. Some married women are really just in it for the accommodation cos the husband thing is not even a good father to their kids.

What makes me even more irritated is that most people out there believe that single girls deliberately go after this married man. I know loads of single girls like myself that tirelessly and consciously do all things possible to push away these married men.



Photo 1 - Whatsapp chat
Photo 2 - Wedding ring he called key holder and fashion ring
Photo 3 - Prewedding pics with Congratulatory message on his wedding from a relative