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Beync: I always tell single girls if a man doesn't like u, no matter how hard you try to please him you'l end up hurting yourself. If a man truly loves you, he will do the neccesary things before he'll want to live with you.

Hmmm, just when i thought i found her

sanb: Längste Zeit, wie Sie tun? Hoffe, du bist gut ...

Yeah, i'm good but ich bin nicht lächeln sie, bee.

SniperInADiaper: truckpusher himself is comical.. Only thing real about him is his foul mouth.

Oh goodness, I never wanted to read this. This post is wicked

smothly:

Lets meet, a saturday is good. You say?

pheyikemi: By now u shd knw ds thread is for non-gays, so bug off.

Hilarious thread. Even the name is comical, truckpusher

ikekings: Nna eh oga why you wan spoil show for us now?


@topic desperation most of them are in a hurry to answer “MRS” ...

Why would a guy and a lady live together when they are not tied by official papers or religious vows? There are so many reasons and it’s unfortunate that it has become a norm in the society and also a major reason for several relationship break-up. We shouldn't be too quick to justify this trend as being in LOVE, since love itself comes with regrets when certain orders are not observed. Right here, in few minutes, I'm going to take you through the dangers of cohabitation.

IT REDUCES YOUR SELF-WORTH
No matter how many times your partner says he/she can never be bored of you and probably want to spend the rest of his/her life with you, such words could be better experienced in marriage than having a taste before marriage. What you have to understand is that, most beautiful and well crafted words could be sponsored by emotions, and emotions do fade away at the face of reality. The reality is that you both are not married, and if by personal decision you chose to become his acting-wife, your well-kept value would be altered and your self-worth would be reduced to that of his kid-sisters or even a common maid. It's as serious as that!

BEING ENGAGED IS NOT BEING MARRIED
Now, this is one of several sensitive sides of a relationship. He gave you a ring and all-of-a-sudden you think you are now his wife, no! Lessons of life have taught us that not all engaged status advances into married. Two love-birds could be engaged for a year, two, three or even seven years without a plan for marriage or may not marry after all. How would the young man be motivated to make it official when you're unofficially leaving with him?

IT'S A SHAME TO CULTURE AND TRADITION
No matter how irrelevant we have made culture look like, no matter how our tradition has rapidly dwindled to give the 'modern-life' a face, it has no doubt upheld our morals and ethics. In some families, culture is still highly regarded. Culture and tradition could say: "stay in your home. The man will come there and ask your parents for permission to have you with him forever". . . and you say: "the 'old-way' is no life; I'm watching my biological clock". Care is needful because when the regret comes, you probably going to be watching your menopause clock as a result of your hastened decision.

IT MAKES YOU THE REGULAR PERSON
It's natural for two people to get tired of themselves. That's why we spice-up our relationships by doing some romantic things. Even if you gets tired of one-another, why not leave that till after you are married when a little 'fight and kiss' would spice it up again? No matter how much you'd love to see your partner, when it becomes regular, then forget the "i miss you" part of your relationship and it could be boring beyond repair especially if the foundation of your relationship is built on cohabitation.

It’s unfortunate that the society sees nothing wrong in cohabiting as it has become a common practice all over the world. A large number of relationships do not survive after cohabitation. It has in no way serve as a benefit to marriages especially if you are someone that desires a good wedding and a comfortable home. The major bond cohabitation establishes between two lovers is mostly sexual and there could be several regrets in the process – broken promises, unexpected and painful disappointment, since you have given your all to the relationship. There is no win-win situation in cohabiting, the victim has always been the female gender since it’s like the guy had had it all. The present practice of cohabitation has been abused. Apart from the fact that it reduces your value, you are practically working in the home as a wife that you are not. Even if you are consoling yourself that you are engaged, at least you are not married. A weekend over could be a better idea but not your total submission into the hands of a man that is still free to chose another without any regret. Don’t make this mistake in your relationship, you can always make it healthy and free from troubles. There are some mistakes you won’t be able to correct, read 16 Raw Truths Ladies Must Know . So, be careful and be wise as well. Till you read from me again, Happy Living!


SOURCE - http://www.coachdexplorer.com/2013/04/the-dangers-of-cohabitation.html

[quote author=gbaky_floor]You want to be a bad because of girls?

Why not spend that energy on something useful: invent something, be the Bill Gates of Nigeria and see if girls won't be crawling all over you.

The men that get all the girls aren't the bad ones but the powerful and brilliant ones.

Take Seun as an example I don't think he's a bad boy but the fact his site is the most visited and renowned in Nigeria gives him power. I am sure he would have lots of women panting for him by now.

If he had spent his energy chasing women(if he's into women): most women no go send am jare.[/quote]Oh goodness, heaven knows i like sermon.

After i wrote How to Save a Dying Relationship i got a facebook message on this sensitive area i didn't mention but I'm making it open for general wisdom.

The message goes,

"pls hide my name. I have been dating this guy for almost a year now and the highest cash i could remember given me was 1k. I do everything by myself though i made complains but he hasn't changed. I don't know, maybe because he thinks i'm ok? I have always been an independent lady and begging for stuffs is what i can't do but i fear for us, i'm scared of marriage to such a man. I don't know if he will go on like that or maybe i put a stop to it now. Please advise me"

SOURCE

After reading that, i was more concern about spending in a relationship. It could be said that when a guy spends too much, ladies sees him as a 'maga'. . . when a lady ask too much, guys sees her as a 'pest'. . . How have you balanced this? How do you handle financial issues in your relationship?

amyg: , so we can't save it abi?

That's if you promise to be a good girl

amyg: D-ex,wen r we gonna save ours?

I was reliably informed that you ran away with a broke lad

Congrats Xynerise, my greetings to Skydeep.

I know you have tried making this relationship work. I know you have compromised a lot just to hold it together. I know it’s been some months now that everything has changed and you still can’t imagine this happening: not to you. I know how bad you feel; you wish this would not happen; you wish it could be as beautiful as it was from the start. I know your friends think you two are having the best of time; hmm, I wish they knew! It never started this way: he was everything you ever wished for in a man, yeah I know: she was the kind of lady mama won’t say no to. Friend, I feel your pain, but I won’t sympathize with you. Too many times we give up on our relationships when there are valid options untouched. We quickly assume meeting new people is a potent way of discarding the old folks. The point is: getting into a new relationship is a true evidence of you wasting a good part of your life and months with the wrong person. It's also good you know that it's more difficult to build a new relationship than saving an existing one if all options are still valid. Most times in a dying relationship, whoever wants to take-a-bow is the same person to save the relationship. At the point of displeasure, anger or regular misunderstanding, there will always be a million-plus-one reason to leave our partners. But from experience, sensitive decisions should NOT be taken in such moods: they aren't always the best. I'm aware that you have made moves to keep that relationship alive yet it looks like you are burning the oceans. Now, it's time you rest your mind and let’s have a discussion on what you should do.

LOWER THE BAR
Every man or woman in a relationship sure has a standard even before getting into it. It could be the nature of his job or what should be her highest educational certificate or his marital status or even her physical attributes; height, shape, size etc. Maybe you still don't understand, I’m actually making references to what you want and who you want as a partner. Despite that, there are some people we grow in love with; those people we never gave a chance but sure make a wonderful partner. In all honesty, you can NOT have all you desire in your partner. If you've heard ladies say - I've got the best man in the world! Or men say - my wife is awesome! It's not like the man or woman has no fault, those words are just making imperfect people perfect. You just can't have all your desires, there will always be a minus somewhere, and if it’s not a critical part of your relationship: something related to domestic violence and whatnot, you should lower the bar.

Oh, she snores and every night you're restless. Oh, he comes home late, Oh she doesn't call, whatever the minus of your partner that has so caught your attention and in-return, influencing your decisions or reaction toward him/her, it's time you save your dying relationship by managing it or ignoring it if possible. It doesn't make you a fool; it only activates your partner’s conscience to a point of unrest.

EXPECT LESS
Nagging is always the end-point of this. She goes to work just as you do, you came back expecting your food to be hot and ready, but she just started cooking, young man, expect less! He just got his salary and there are 1001 home needs demanding attention, young woman, expect less! Get this clear, any relationship with too many expectations from both partners will get boring. Maybe, you're in the kitchen doing the cleaning and cooking and you think he should come over and help with the dishes, but there he is, glued to the TV set . . . LOL. It could be tiring but expect less! In a relationship where expectations are not met, it could be better communicated but NOT emphasized upon, hence, it would be seen as a subject to discuss at every time – now, that’s trouble!

GIVE YOUR PARTNER A SPACE
Yeah, sometimes we need to allow our partners go clubbing with friends. You don't have to be around him except he insists. Sometimes, allow her hang out with her friends too. Seeing you both hanging around each other all the time sometimes isn't attraction but being clueless of a better romantic way to get at it. To save a dying relationship, once-a-while, you both could practice ‘married-but-doing-single’ if you trust each other so well.

TRY SOMETHING NEW
Let me be blunt here! A dying relationship sure has a boring routine. It could be a change of vacation spot, eatery, wears, hair-do, weekend plans and lots more. These things come with a good measure of freshness. It might be the same thing you do but a different location, a different way, or you could make a complete change just to try something entirely different. Be aware that regular things could be boring and if I know that what I’m going to be seeing on your hair; as your hair-do, every weekend is the same style, now that's boredom! Discuss with your spouse/partner, try out varieties; something not usual and that could be what your relationship needs to survive.

DO THINGS TOGETHER
There are certain things that should NOT be altered and be observed as regular as possible. Like:

* Dinner together
* Bathing together
* Watching a movie together
* In the kitchen together (remember that's a supposed women's territory, it's romantic to see a man there)
* Go in the same car while she drives, and let her drop you off.

In a relationship, there are some mistakes you can't just explain, read 14 regular mistakes singles make, hence, the relationship begins to lose value. As important as the above-listed are, they could be easily ignored. No doubt, they are powerful, powerful enough to save any dying relationship. Please reflect on them, make the right adjustment and watch your relationship survive. Watch it grow stronger than the first day you-both met. Hence, you got me to thank later. LOL. Happy Living!

http://www.coachdexplorer.com/2013/06/how-to-save-dying-relationship.html

190: una nor really get work do


smh

Na every 2hours dem dey open your cage?

The thread is now open. . . Thank you viewers

ifihearam: D explorer na wa ooo,where u dey since na?
i nor come dey understand you again sef.

@abpato

are you a kegite member?
can i see your pishure?
guess you know who IFIHEARAM is na

Maximum salute, i dey duty

An interview without restrictions. . .we getting at it.