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CanineOfJackal:
away untimely will be standing at your door then.



If you stick to your ARV then you have nothing to fear about untimely death and also your mental state determines if you will be healthy. Don't sacrifice it for marital infidelity

Thanks for the candid advice. I really appreciate.

cocolacec:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7cEZxzQOnF0#fauxfullscreen

Thanks, I'll download the video.

edoman2016:
Is she aware you are HIV positive before you get married to her?

Yes, my wife is aware I am cos I told her everything.

NwanyiAwkaetiti:
You will invite problems to your family if you take her offer. Keep believing in God, he maketh a way where there seem to be no way.

Blend banana, egg, full cream and a tablespoon of baking soda. You both should take that to increase your chances. Your medications might have lowered your sperm count.

Thanks.

mimimile93:
Op that's a leech.

She wants to trapped you down.

The moment she gives you a child, I pity you wife. She's the one that will pay the ultimate price.

Have you heard stories of a woman who was unable to conceived she brought her friend to come and bore a baby for her husband?

The end part wasn't good.
There was problem in the house.


Op forget this woman.

Secondly your wife has no womb.
Courtesy to abortions.

My advice is, I'd say adopt a child but it seems u want ur own blood.

Divorce your wife and marry a young girl that can bear you children..

Thanks so much for sharing the experience.

CanineOfJackal:
I need to know if you told the Nurse your status before I will advise you

No, I never did

Adasun:
come again?

Fixed sir

dexcira:
how sure are u that if she becomes pregnant that it is yours? Afterall u and your wife are OK. Please leave that nurse, she has her own plans. U guys can adopt please discuss with your wife if u feel u can't wait any longer

Thanks so much. I really appreciate.

Adasun:
and she didn't get her's through sex?


Or u think women get pregnant using rain water?

Hello, you should have asked for explanations

If you are on HIV Medications regularly, the possibility of infecting someone else becomes slim.

Adasun:
how come?

I got mine when I was 6 years through a blood transfusion.

Olalan:
OP if your story is true the old nurse is plainly a selfish, wayward and wicked woman to have proposed such to you..... To even think your wife would be regarding her as one big aunty who's interested in her getting a baby.

I already thought about that too. Thanks for the advice.

donstan18:
that when you seems to be promiscuous man with your attitude of looking for a woman to take in for you without consulting your wife or divorcing legally?

I am not a promiscous nor flirting guy. I am honest. Thanks for the advice.

edoman2016:
Is your wife also HIV positive?

No. She's not.

I need a wider reach and advice. Mod pls help move to the appropriate section.

madone:
You better run back to ur wife. Leave that old nurse alone. She needs a man u need a child. I think both of u are blind folded with ur desires. Have u asked yourself after the child what next? You be married to two women? Or divorce ur wife. Dont do it guy. Go meet ur wife cos sheis young and nothing is wrong with u both. Dont help God perform the miracle

Thanks for the advice. I really appreciate.

Lalasticlala.

Mod pls help push to front page.

Dear Nairaland, I had to create this new account to narrate my story as I am in a dilemma. I would be sincere with you guys as I want an honest advice

I am a guy of 27years of age. I and my wife have been married for the past 3 years without any issue. We have been to several teaching hospitals, tradomedical houses and other with no pregnancy yet. We've been told we are both okay but yet no solution in sight.

I myself have been infected with the HIV virus since I was 6 years through a blood transfusions. For over 20years now, I have been living with the HIV virus though I started my arv few years back. My HIV status was what prompted me to get married as I believe anything could happen and I need to father a kid since I have been living with the virus for over 20years.

In the process of getting a solution, we met a nurse who referred us to a teaching hospital, at the end of it, there's nothing than to keep trusting God.

The nurse who referred us to the teaching hospital is a single mom in her early 40s but Divorced with a girl of 15years. Myself and my wife finally got along with the nurse and we became like families. Anytime I am coming back from work, I would branch at her house to see her, give her some money and also play with her and the daughter.

To cut the story short, before she referred us to the teaching hospital, I told her how I have spent lots of money trying to find a solution to I and my wife problems and all the stress I have gone through.

I also asked her how she became a single mother which she explained to me that the father of her daughter became irresponsible, physical abuses and won't take care of her and the daughter and to make it worst, the man is married to another woman who just gave birth to a twins , so she herself isn't interested and they already divorced.

After few months of getting to know her and the daughter as she is now close to I and my wife. I told her I want to get a lady to bore a child for me though I love my wife and won't divorced her , it also doesn't stop me from loving my her and performing my responsibilities as a husband.

Two weeks later, The nurse called and told me she would like to bore a child for me. I was Surprised and I asked her why? She said she noticed all I have been doing to ensure my wife get pregnant but not yielding any result. She said she's 40 plus now and so would like to bore a child for me. I don't know whether to accept or decline the proposal. If I should accept I know I would have to be there for her and the daughter too. All I need is for me to have a child as I believe I my age and health get deteriorated as long as I live with the virus.


Please note that I am not leaving my wife or divorcing her.

If I should , what do you think I can do?

If no, what do you advise?

The age difference?

Family?

Thanks