They couldn't pity the poor pregnant animal...
RIP

ednut1:
Fornication is a sin. D mom is right

Oga pls did u read were I fell sick and needed some one around... Its not always about sex pls, thank you.

ecstasy357:


You're free to do one of the following;

You pay her bride price and have her live with you. But since the parents said you should wait, then you should wait.

If waiting is an issue cause of s3x, then you should know that s3x will always be an issue even when you're married. Your wife won't always be available 24/7.

If s3x ain't the issue, then make her see reasons why you guys should marry now and not later (don't use s3x as a reason), that's if you have a good reason. Talk to your own parents bout it first before taking this step.

S3x is never the issue bro thanks. Like I said she sneaks out to see me but for a very short time.

Truth is its difficult to trust a girl completely if u barely see her.

If its just friendship distance wudnt be a problem but this is someone u r trying understand well if truly u can spend ur entire life with. So the distance jst puts d relationship under pressure most times.

I seriously considering paying d dowry and waiting for her to finish skool before the marriage proper, if things will change for gud. As per d restrictions the mum is giving her.

Lonestar124:
I will not exonerate her mother, she is protecting her daughter.......my friend got married to her wife when she was still in school.

If you loved her, pay her dowry sharp sharp.

Yea sure

Xaos:


Taking a page out of your book — what about her?

What about those period she fell ill and needed someone to cook and care for her? Where you there at her home attending to the woman you intend to marry?

Ofcourse I do go to her place a lot, she stays with d parents

Ekez:
So if she no come ur house una no go see . Ok continue

No na... Sometimes I need dat home treat...like when I got ill and needed some one to cook and stuffs...Remember this is some one I intend to settle with so such boundaries shudnt be encouraged.

Guys,

I need your advise, I have a very serious relationship with a final year students... She made sure I met her parents and they all got acquainted with me especially the Dad, we both thought it will be easier for us to hang out afterwards but the Mum is too strict.. The Dad spends less time at home and usually gives us go ahead but the Mum insists she can't let her daughter go to a man's house.

Fine, I haven't paid her bride price yet cuz they insisted she must finish school but can't I see her at all till then?? Seems so awkward.....By the way, last time she sneaked out to see me for about a week they made her so uncomfortable with the monitoring...even the few other days too she hangs out with me, we don't get relaxed cuz the mom cud need her anytime.

She schools in a private university and am working in the South making it too difficult for us to see during school sessions.

So the whole distance the Mum is creating bothers me a lot cuz sincerely the relationship is shaky due to the number of male folks I notice she has weneva I get to see her because I notice her attention has reduced. And for us guys, you know we can't really ascertain what a girl is doing if u dont spend a good number of hours or days with her. You can't help dat little jealously when it has to do with a woman u intend to settle down with.

How do I handle this guys?...Matured minds alone pls.

MistaBabz:
An elderly man is telling to apply for this UAS stuff but me I'm smelling scam. Although he is working with them, but I no trust him cause he may be part of the syndicate. He said their form is N3,000 but of recent someone told me that after paying for the application form they later paid again N6,000 to collect appointment letter which stated $5,000 per annum as renumeration(which is another scam in disguise) & thereafter they will be going to Abuja for training of which I believe that they will again be asked to pay some token again for the training. That's my bone of contention at the moment but I'll be following up with him till the end of the procedure to ascertain the genuineness of this UAS stuff before I apply that's if it is genuine

OK thanks much.

Any update from them, cuz they have sent messages again inviting people for induction??

shampooh:
nobody compels you to pay just go there listen to the induction then make a choice but its real bro did mine on friday

OK nice..

Please update us, have you started working with them yet or does the appointment letter have date of resumption?

MistaBabz:
Someone did his training/induction on Thursday 17/08/2017 & he said it was a success. And there wasn't any pay attached cause it was stated free training/induction in his appointment letter

OK but had the person started working with them...pls can you find out and update us, thanks much

Pinkieblue:


Mine is on the 31st ..... Did u go for yours How was it

Mine is next month 8th, pls tell us your experience, still indecisive weda it's legit

philipjohnson:
I just got a text from UAS now to come for induction/placement letter on 15.01.2018 by 7:30am. Initially I thought someone submitted my CV on my behalf until I recalled I applied since 28th June 2017.
There is no harm in trying, I will be going there on Monday.
The question is have they fully started operation?
Best of luck guys

Please what's was your experience? Have you started work yet... And are they legit. I applied too last year.
See my msg I just got below:
YOU ARE INVITED TO INDUCTION/COLLECTION OF PLACEMENT LETTER AT UAS ON 8-02-18 AT NO 6 UBIAJA STREET,OPP GARKI OLD MKT ABUJA BY 10AM ENQ 081 5969 4497

pedrilo:
dnt kid urself. Such happened to me b4. The guy is now her bf

U can imagine..... Damn it!!!

FiringSquad:
hahahahaha....u scared u'll lose her

Most likely mehnnnnn

jimbson:


Y did u hack into her Whatsapp Account? It's what u see is what u get.. U don't trust her from the onset bros..

Didn't hack in her WhatsApp bro, was helping her out with sm other stuffs wen d guys msgs started coming in, followed by strings of his calls....she tried to avoid them so I smelt smthng fishy and dats how it blew up, cuz I insisted she must pick d calls and stop pretending

TheSuperNerd:
Oh you are welcome man.

So now, it is the messages you discovered on her phone chats that is now making you worry. Hmmmm....

She was not heavily flirtatious... okay. But just slightly. Okay.

So it looks like whatever she sends to you like her pics for instance, she also tends to send all to the other guy. I wanna ask, is it really everything she shares with you via pics or more that she sends to the other guy?

Because if she doesn't send all then it could mean that at least she reserves some exclusives just for you. But if she sends all and it is quite obvious then maybe she is enjoying the other guy's attention too.

Telling him she will make a meal for him is just talk. I don't think that should bother you. My main issue is with whether, for instance now.... she takes a pic of herself in very sultry clothes that exposes her boobs or beautiful laps and sends to you. Does she send same explicitly sensual pic to the guy? Be honest.


And about when you talk about the future. Try to bring it up again after some time like next week perhaps. Then watch keenly her reactions to them and how enthusiastic she could be. But be careful, if she is having a hard time then like having her periods or is sick or is not just doing okay... then don't expect an enthusiastic response from her.
Be sensitive to the timing of when next you bring up talks about your future with her.


About her defense for chatting this guy up, she says there is no way she will or can see the guy right? Is that what she is saying? because I want to really get this.

But see ehn my bottomline advice is partly based on your answer to my italicised question.

The advice is a strong one, thnks...

OK lemmi keep it short, she doesn't send d exposed pics to him from d ones i saw o...

And yes, she said so dat she there is nothing between them and as such she can neva meet him....meanwhile d guy kips professing luv for her and all in d chat and she was appreciating them

TheSuperNerd:
If it is until marriage that you can vouch for her then I am afraid the commitment bond between you two is not strong enough.

Before you enter this institution called marriage you must know to a fine extent the woman you are walking into this institution with. The trust must be there so that you both can have something strong to stand on because I tell you a truth Sir, "You won't always trust the one you love, but you will always love the one you trust."

In Love, Trust is a central ingredient. Without Trust, which goes to say without being sure of where her heart lies then you may end up marrying a woman who will just have feelings for you but still cheat on you.


And you say "before" she showed a love where she loved you with almost everything but can't be so sure now. Then you mention conversations. What conversations if I may ask? Why do those conversations shock you? Was she being heavily flirtatious?
Was it online conversation?


And my last question was simple. It has nothing to do with diseases or pregnancy. I asked if she is doing anything to suggest that her emotional attention may be shifting to another man thus making you feel uneasy or jealous.


And speaking of future goals together. When last did you two even have a deep discussion about it? Does she still feel enthusiastic about the future with you? These are things you should know and be certain of because marriage is not for people who have no trust in each other. Such unions will always crumble. Always.

Thnks for the trust/love lesson's, I think i actually did trust her per say until d msgs.
Can't tell all details buh will point out a few, she wasnt heavily flirtatious buh slightly, for e.g. all d pix she sent me, she sent them to d other guy too...even a meal she made smtym and snapped to me, she did same for the guy and told him he shudnt worry dat she will mk it for him after he complimented her....and so on...so tell me those arent harmful to our relationship?
Then I can't tell her level of enthusiasm (based on dis discovery) bout d future again but we do talk bout it smtyms.
Wat marvels most is dat in her defense, she says they r jst talking and claims she can't neva see d guy, u can imagine...

FiringSquad:
...dont ever make her sense that you're jealous at all,dont just make it seem like a big deal to you,and stop caring much,reduce the number of times you call her,whatever it is you do much,reduce,once in a while get annoyed at her,or fake it,trust me,dem dey like this kind drama

Hmmmmmmm

TheSuperNerd:
Okay then. Good. You are both boyfriend and Girlfriend in a romantic relationship.

So, can you vouch for her commitment to you? Can you say for sure that she loves you with everything? Has she shown you any sign for you to think that her closeness to or friendship with certain male folks could spell doom for you both?

I can't vouch for her cuz we ain't married yet bro, buh before now I cud say dat she loved me with almost evrythng buh after seeing those conversations I was shocked.
Then no romantic relationship with any other guy wouldn't spell doom for us, cuz she cud get infected, pregnant or worse...and she knows we both hv future goals to settle

TheSuperNerd:
Come out clean and tell us.

Are you both in a relationship or you are still in the "hoping-to-be" stage?

If she is not in a relationship with you, then I see nothing wrong with her also being as close to other guys. And hey! by "does all to show she loves you" are you sure this is not her just being nice and good-natured to you because most men will almost always see every good gesture from a lady as green lights or a possible sign of something more.

Look, don't go getting yourself killed emotionally over some girl you are not even in a relationship with. Unless there is a commitment between you two, then I say you got no right to be concerned. She can be as familiar as she wants. Deal with it.

Dude, am dating her, she is not jst anybody...

Fussbot:
Lol do you want to marry her? If no, there is no reason to be angry.
Even though I know as a guy, we are egoistic and don't like anyone get near a girl we like. Even if we won't marry her.

She clearly wants you to know there are guys waiting to pick her anytime. Which is true by the way. But she knows also none can be like you. She loves you and would like to keep you. But she doesn't want you to think she has loved up to the extent she can't do without you.Hence the flirting with guys. She is the one insecure not you. She wanted you to react this way nothing more. Talking about it wld make her do more trust me.

If you want something serious with her though, tell her to stop or u'd break up.

Hmmm, thanks

aurxtino:
Forget it bro, ladies would always be ladies, my own babe openly told me to cheat on her if I want to , can you imagine hahaha

Mehnnnn dats a strong one

cerowo:

Then it means she aren't bothered if you are affectd or not.
If possible why don't cut her off, cause it seems she's interested with the other guy

Really wish she accepted that. Would have been much easier for me to move on if I need to.

cerowo:

Then why don't sit her down nd talk sense into her

I did dat thanks.
Jst observed she still went back to it, dats y it baffles me

xrisdgreat:
obviously,deres a problem..talk 2 her abwt it,tell her u dont like it.

if it where to be u dats doin that,hope she'l b fine about it.

Thanks...did dat some tym ago and she stopped.
Probably bcus i was around.
Surprisedly she is still doing it discreetly

FiringSquad:
dont do that mahn!...thats when she'll do more either to piss you off or make you to jealous,stand up and be in charge,there are many other ways you could send that message....

Exactly, dats y am here...other ways like??

sekxyqueen:

was that what she told you,you just fabricate such intuitive just to lament on


there are still girls that role with guys and still have nothing to do with them in terms of emotional attachment. .

though I wouldn't advice a lady in relationship to be rolling with numerous guys cos at one point in time...the tendency of going out of the initial lane will be high...

just be sure of the kinda things they discuss and the type of places that intersect and all whatnot...


do not be led by hallucinations anyway..

Fabrication - Nope
Hallucinations - Not even close

Thanks but I intercepted their deep conversations, the only missing part is their MEETing...but wen I mean deep it was deep, if they havnt met before they will definitely meet sooner

cerowo:
It may surprise you that they are jst friends and nothing attached....
But wait o, is she your galfriend or yr friend that's caring and u think she's showing u greenlight?
Be sure.

My real bae.....as in point 1.....no second.
And trust me their conversation is deeper than jst frnds

ubunja:
if she loves you but insists on keeping others then demote yourself to the level of others and still stay on good books with her.
there is no point in paying to be with someone who others get to be with for free.

Thinking if dat too but will being her second -class citizen make me feel better?? It doesn't feel like it will

sekxyqueen:
free yourself from such disastrous mind set..

I think you are just acting so insecure

Hmmmm, don't think dis is insecurity thanks....how do u explain sm other person expressing affectionate feelings to your spouse and she kips absorbing them and roll along wit d person?....is dat supposed to b overlooked

moshood521:
guy jst cut ur hope in 2...
dats mah kinda advice

Hmmm,...very sad most possible option at d moment...might even ruin us mehnnn

AlexCk:


It's possible they are just buddies, it's possible there's nothing going on with them too, guess u have to trust her bro, she's entitled to have friends sha,
U can always communicate, or tease her about her 'familiar friend', to find out things.

May the force be with you

Thnks...but Would hv thought of 'just buddies' too, not until I accidentally bombed into some of their conversations ....dats wen her sincerity became questionable