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In civilized places, human lives are not exchanged for cheap things like phones

Every dog must be accountable for its pooh

Every driver should first look under the car each morning. I lost my engine because i failed to do that and drove away with my oil tank nut removed

I like him but he needs to grow up fashion wise.

He still dresses like a teenager. Hope he doesn't end up like charly boy

Not all women were born for marriage......but the solution is as simple as ABCD

A) See them......
B) chop them......
C) clean your mouth.....
D) marry the decent ones.....

This is what I do when I am stopped on the highway by a stranger.

I slow down, roll my glass down and smile gently to the person. Afterwards, I roll my glass back up and voom!

Nobody can be trusted in this world again o

The guy with his hand on the mother's shoulder should ask the mother who his father is. Its certainly not Ojukwu

I am shocked that nigerians do not appreciate the generosity of this man. He is a shining example of how the youth should use their wealth.

I never said anything about his source of wealth because it's not my business

Life is like the hourglass. Eventually, each grain will pass through. None will remain but when is what we dont know.

Its wise not to forget that you will eventually die one day!

Far thee well all those departed earlier.

Adieu!

You now know?

The problem with Nnamdu Kanu is that his ambition is borne of of selfish gratification. He claims to be fighting for the people but his actions clearly show that he is after his own gains.

Nigeria indeed needs to divide but it's not people like Kanu that can bring that.

Thats inhumane. Being a rapist does not make the person less human so that we treat them like animals.

A better punishment will be to lock the rapist up after a trial. Imprisonment is not an easy punishment as many think.

This punishment is just barbaric

Mine

FORT WALTON BEACH, Fla. – Calling 911 to report a stolen bag of cocaine probably wasn't the best idea for a self-described Florida drug dealer.

But Okaloosa Sheriff's officials wrote on Facebook that 32-year-old David Blackmon did just that on Sunday morning.

The post says Blackmon called 911 to report a robbery in Fort Walton Beach. Blackmon told the responding deputy that someone entered his car and took $50 and about a quarter ounce of cocaine from the center console.

The report says the deputy spotted some cocaine and a crack rock on the console and a crack pipe on the floorboard by the driver's side door.

Blackmon is charged with possession of cocaine and resisting arrest without violence. He was released from jail on Tuesday, but records don't list a lawyer.

http://www.foxnews.com/us/2017/07/19/self-described-drug-dealer-calls-911-reports-stolen-cocaine.html

Thank you South Africa

Love never gets lost. I am back with Z and i am so grateful for the opportunity. I love you Salormay

She is saying that because american and British jails are like nigerian 3 star hotels.

Lets see her reaction when kirikiri is the only option

Its really pathetic when the politicians steal from the poor and turn back to expect praise when they return crumbs.

We shall overcome

Rooney is too cold towards the guy

Well there is an update....

I managed to get in touch with Z after some persistency. I showed her some messages from X which proved that we are indeed done. With regards to Y, I confessed that she is an albatross on my neck and cant seem to get her off. I however promised her that now that Y's blackmail has been exposed, I can shut the door on Y's face.

I didn't get any encouraging response from Z but I believe that she will think about it. I sensed she still have strong feelings for me. Despite the obvious disappointment because of my initial lies, she still seems to adore me.

I love her to a fault.

Not sure what Aisha told Rebecca Akuffo Addo in the last picture. She seems scared. Did she confess to her that her husband wont return?

Bibi294:
Op, you put yourself in the mess... Just give her little time to heal

Just trying that but its not easy one bit. She told me she needs space so I am doing my best to give her just that. Just scared I may end up without her but its my fault and my mess

I created this account ID because I need to share this. I am not seeking advise but I hope many can learn from my foolishness and cowardice. This is a long story so please bear with me, i dont even know why i am posting here but i need to get this out there.

Ok, im going to go back to 2014.

I met someone via online dating in November and thought that she was the one for me. lets call her X for ease. We embarked on a journey and entered into a relationship. In just a few short months we ran into problems and decided to take some time out. To me this felt more like a break-up, i was upset. Anyway this break lasted about six months.

shortly into this break (mere weeks) i met someone else, i wasnt head over heals with this new girl, lets call her Y but she offered an emotioonal and physical outlet after the break, she quickly helped me begin to heal from X.

After about three months X and i began to talk again, we talked about the relationship we had and what went wrong. It became apparent that we had feelings for each other and we decided that we should take things slowly. Straight away, i told Y that i still had feelings for X and we were looking to reconcile.

Now, Y wasnt particularly happy about this but she stayed around. even after X and I became a couple again, she stayed around believing that things would fall apart and that her and i were meant to be. I accepted this but i did say to Y that as soon as X and i became intimate then she would have to go.

Eventually, around October 2015 this happened, I told Y that we had to end it, she fought hard and i pushed her away. now, Y took this badly, constantly harrassing me with emotional blackmail, i was her best friend and she coouldnt live without me etc. I crumbled and Y became a part of my life again - initially as a friend but that developed into a FWB type of thing. the intimate oppertunities between X and i were few and far between (twice between oct-jan).

Fast forward to Janurary, things became difficult between X and myself, eventually this led to a conversation via email which essentially showed how incompatable we were. we put things on hold in the way of having remaining to be a couple but we talked to see if we could make any headway.
During this time Y remained in my life, knowing everything - i even turned to her for advice on messaged id received from X and so on.

Feburary comes, I am visiting Y and i get some messages from X (she didnt know of Y at the time). I confided in Y, as a friend as the messages were doing my head in.

Now it gets complicated...

Y, decided, in a drunken state to message X and say something similar to "leave him alone, hes mine and i love him" after a brief exchange, X realised who she was refering to.

this of course split X and myself up for a second time, in a nutshell, Y got what she wanted.

a month or so passes and X comes back on the secene. we talked and i explained who Y was. i wasnt truthful, i told her that after Y's antics i was having nothing more to do with her. X and I chatted and met a few times, slowly talking of a possible very slow reconcilliaton but we were more like friends.

during this period, i knew that i did NOT want to be with Y. trying to tell her was difficult, after cutting her off she would play on me emotionally, sometimes indicating potential suicide. I was weak more times than i can imagine over the past 18 months. It has been a continious yo-yo of push away, give in, make out, push away.

Knowing i didnt want Y, i told her that i was still seeing X in the hope she would just get bored.....

This is where, just over a year ago Z comes into the picture. Z, i can honestly say has been the love of my life but here we have a problem...

X,Y and now Z ----- what a mess!

I continued to chat to X, and met for lunch a couple of times, not ever getting overly close, but i think the impression to her was that we were in a very young, slow relationship

Y, was still resisting being pushed away and i was weak.

Z, at the time knew nothing of this. Z did ask if i was talking to X, i replied with "no".

the relationship between Z and i grew at an alarming rate, and i loved everything about us, as did she, it was clear to everyone we adored each other - but i had this horror story going on in the background.

It is entirely my fault, i couldve simply told X i had moved on but i didnt, at this point i believed her and i were platonic friends.

Y was more difficult , she was like a weight hanging around my neck but i didnt want her, yet i was still sleeping with her.

This continued for about a month after meeting Z. when i realised it was Z i wanted to be with i told Y and pushed her away.
Some weeks later, Y managed to pull up the facebook details of Z and messaged me. i got a message something like "this is HER isnt it!!"

This message brought on sheer panic, how she found out ive no idea, i thought i had removed all contacts who knew her from my facebook but someone mustve sent her the details.
I fell for it!! i folded to Y's game, i contacted her and entered into dialogue. this took me back to square one with Y.

this goes on, the cycle repeats, push away, give in and on a few occations sex.
This time though, i felt blackmailed, after knowing what she did between X and myself (breaking us up) i was terrified she would do the same between Z and myself, i tried to appease her.

All behind poor Z's back

Fast forward to Feb this year. I had moved and had pushed away Y, feeling more comfortable as Y did not know where i lived... wrong!

In feb, i began getting messages from Y, things like "im here, come and meet me" i recognised where "here was" as she sent a picture..... i was with Z at the time and trying to hide all of this.

I never met with Y, but it was at this point i decided i had to tell Z of Y.

I didnt go into the juicy details, i simply said that i have "a stalker", "i spent a few weeks with her before meeting you" and so on.

Z's reply was "ok, thank you for telling me, are you still talking to her?" my reply...

"No"

This was not true... i was still talking to her, i was doing so to try and keep her from interfering with the relationship Z and i had built.

she asked a couple of times since then, each time because she had seen something on my phone when i was flicking through it, a chat window for example. Each time i said "no" quickly changing the subject.

Ok, so lets get to a little over a month ago, I had pushed Y away and hadnt responded to her for around 3 weeks.

then it happened..

Y reveals herself.

but not only to Z but also to X too!

X thinks she is in a fledgling relationship
Z is deeply in love with me
Y is a lunatic stalker who could never give me up.


So, all three compare notes, Z is devastated, not talking to me for around a week.
I finally get the oppertunity to meet with Z for a couple of hours. Able to talk to her and immediately discredit X's claim.
Showing Y as exactly who she is and how she has behaved.

This settled Z a little, to the point we were talking. I convinced her that everything was not as she was told, despite not telling her the whole "nitty-gritty" of my dealings with Y.

the problem is now, ive broken her trust, despite wanting to be with me, she has concluded that she doesnt ever see herself being able to trust me nad as such she has given up on any possibility of reconcilliation.

Ive pleaded with her and suggested a number of strategies that we can use so she can try to learn to trust me again, things like tracking software on my mobile and so on.

Z isnt having it, She isnt too worried about what she was told by either X or Y, what she is bothered about is that i deceived her.

she finally cut all contact a week ago and i am at a loss of what i can do to convince her that, now everything is out there in teh open, there are no more secrets that i am hiding, we can have a fresh start and have a life even better than the last "amazing" (her words). Z has said we had a great year a number of times over the last month (when she would talk to me) but in the next breath she says that she cant help but think it was all a sham.

So, ive messed up the best thing that had ever happened to me, all because i didnt have the bravery to push my past in the past.

Theres no contact now at all. anyone that knows us as a couple know how happy we were together, some believe that we will get back together and that Z doesnt "want" to split up but believe that Z feels that she has no choice but to. Z as said that she has forgiven me and that she feels better since we have spoken about thinigs but she thinks that i am still lying to myself. I am not but because i give reasons for my actions (protecting us from Y and platonic friends with X) i am just coming up with excuses.

Z had, in the past massive trust issues, it took her years to begin dating after being let down by her ex and ive just put her back all those years. I hate myself right now.

I know, given the chance NOTHING like this would happen again, ive told her as much but its clear that she doesnt believe me, after all why would she? ive lied to her this whole year!!

There is noone to blame for this mess except for me, i take full responsibility for loosing the most precious, wonderful person im my life.

Gutted, Only time will tell now but i dont see any way back, especially as there is ZERO contact.