Thank you all for all the negative criticism and insults. I don't blame you all, I only blame myself for seeking advice on a forum full of close-minded people. This is the new age, the 21st century and you all need to realize that everything is not black and white. For all that are calling me the devil or whatever, just know that God says "Do Not Judge" or did you never hear that before? No one's sins are greater or less than the other. We are all sinners in different ways, just because I opened up my sin for advice did not warrant such cruel things from people. It baffles me when people wonder why most people don't ask for help when they have a problem...this is the reason why, because of close minded people that only seek to judge and insult. Remember Matthew 7:5. Please forget this thread, I will seek help elsewhere.

I really don't appreciate the bashing of lesbians, we are also human and we have feelings just like heterosexual people.

Is there any way that I can convince my sister in law to let us keep our relationship a secret? I have a lot to lose if I leave my husband to be with his sister but at the same time I don't want to lose my sister in law. I really do love her.

I am planning to abort the baby if I do divorce my husband and I know that homosexuality is outlawed in Nigeria. Me and my sister in law both have American visas, so she says that if I decide to be with her then we can go to America and stay since it is legal there. But the thing is if we move to America then I won't have a job and I will be away from my family which is not what I want but I also want to be with my sister in law.

KingOfNairaland: Please repent of this act. It's bad. Ha! Married woman? This could ruin your marital life ooo

It is easier said than done. I have tried countless times to stop because I did not want to ruin my marriage with my loving husband but I couldn't control how I felt about my sister in law.

ng4am: Nothing person no go hear for nl, babe pls go and commit suicide cos u re a waste to ur parents, your husband and to dis world, bloody lesbian.

PLease tell me what has a lesbian done to you for you to say such a cruel thing. What is it that you people have against lesbians? We are all God's creatures the only thing is that we are different.

D-Explorer:

Young wo(man), let me give you the benefit of doubt. Have you been a lesbo before you got married?

No I haven't been a lesbian before. I have always thought about sleeping with other women but I have never acted out on it because I believed that it was wrong. It wasn't until I met my sister in law that I started to act on my thoughts. She is a lesbian and she taught me that there was nothing wrong with acting on your sexuality.

If you are coming here to tell me that I am lying or this is a fake story then please leave this thread. I asked for advice so as to help make a sound decision. I hate judge mental people. I admit, my life is not perfect and I am sure all you people on NL's life is also not perfect. Everyone has skeletons in their closet but I am getting insulted on this thread because I chose to share mines for advice. God says do not judge, remember that.

frank3.16:


Pls enuf of this disgustin story, u are distabilizing our sense of natural order of things.

Like I said b4, kill ur husband and his baby, burn their bodies with garlic and send them straight to hell.

I don't want to kill my husband, please I am not wicked.

DAY11.:

You are ridiculous and obnoxious.

Please I take offense to your comment. Why would you say such cruel things about me? Have I done anything to hurt you before? All I need is some advice so I can at least make up my mind on a decision. I know that my family will disown me and everyone will talk, that makes it harder for me to leave my husband but at the same time I don't want my sister in law to leave me either. So if you have some advice for me, please kindly give it to me.

sexkillz: Fake user account, fake story. . .

Not a faker user account. I have been reading this forum for a very long time but I have had no reason to post anything except now because I am in dire need of help and advice.

This issue has given me sleepless nights since I got pregnant. I am yet to tell my sister in law because I know she will be very angry. I don't want anything that will hurt her either. I am so in love with her that I don't know if I will be able to live if she was to leave me. I wanted to keep our affair in secret because I don't want to hurt my husband but his sister says she can no longer stand the fact that I am married to someone else and that she is tired of having a secret relationship. She says that if I really love her then I would leave her brother to so as to be with her. She says that if I don't leave him by the end of this year then she will leave me, and I can't allow that. That is why I am in this dilemma, I honestly don't know what to do

I have been married for 2 years now to my wonderful husband. We both come from pretty wealthy families. We had been dating for 1.5 years before deciding to tie the knot. I thought this would be it because I thought that I loved him sooooo much but boy was I wrong. I have gotten to know my husband's side of the family, including his sister. Well I didn't meet the sister till our wedding day because she was doing her masters in Canada through out the time we were dating but flew in to see her brothers wedding. But from the first time me and the sister met there was in instant attraction between us. At first, I couldn't tell what it was, I just knew that I liked the sister and wanted to get to know her better and she felt the same way about me. Since the two years we got married,the sister has finished her masters and now is back home and I have come to love my husband's sister and she says she loves me to. We have had se.x with each other many times and WOW she felt better than any man that I have had se.x with before, including my husband. My husband never suspected what was going on, he just thought that me and his sister really liked each other's company and that is why we spend so much time together. Well now the problem is that I am no longer in love with my husband, I feel trapped in this marriage and I want a divorce so that I can be with my sister in law and also I am 7 weeks pregnant for my husband but I plan on aborting it since I no longer love my husband. My husband does not know about the pregnancy yet and he still loves me a lot and I really don't want to hurt him. So my question is should I divorce my husband and abort the child or should I just stick to my marriage?