CyberWolf:
Follow Ubunja and read his threads so you will learn the tricks on how to handle your woman, you refused. Everyday you come here to whine like a sissy.. Grow some damn balls and send her away to go live with the person always picking her up. Don’t allow anyone to be the source of your happiness, you alone should be the source of your own happiness. Gather some balls and tell her your rules and regulations, tell her that lots of ladies and on queue to take her position if she is not ready to abide by your rules. Get another girl by the side as a buffer because this ladies are unpredictable.

arki:


Don't always apologize pls. It's neva a man's traits. U called up wot u are getting. She nw take u for granted cos on her mind. "He will always apologize". U hv to man up an take charge of urself and relationship. Be the one calling the shots not her. The girl I'm dating is a typical of ur gf. But trust me, I manipulated her into submission. Be the " I don't give a hoot" type of a guy, then come bk and thank me later. Make her choose between u and d guy, cos no guy comes close to a lady for nothing.

BecaciaBarbie:

Don't let these nairalanders men who probably just got duped by some girl out there fool you or give you advice relating to their own personal issues. I like how you were able to point out the fact that you messed up, as people rarely do that... they try to play victims all the time. Truth is, you are the genesis of this whole emotional wreck, as you never showed seriousness in the relationship judging from your post. Truth is, she was fast like very fast... Something most of us wished we did when we saw the signs. I guess she loves her heart too much to accommodate any kind of heart break so she had to bolt out to prevent future heart wahala.

What you need to do if you truly love this girl is to work on your trust issues by gaining her trust back as you've really messed that up. No lady needs a man who flirts about online, openly at that...shows you got no respect for her and she means nothing to you... If you could do such publicly, then your private dealings should be really really scary.

I think you need to apologize and gain her trust back, hopefully this isn't too late.

austyn0:
Kids isn't really the word to use here, even adults make mistakes.
Thing is, some men fail to understand what is needed from them to make their woman stay on and true.

islandmoon:


Yahoo is not a job my friend!! what kind of job do you do indoor all day when your girl friend is at work?

islandmoon:
Op! you are a jobless weak man, convert her to bushmeat and find another girl, start drilling yourself before she return home today, immediately she step in , tell her to go and shower and move to the bedroom with her hands up facing the wall in her birthday suit. join her later and nack sense to her head! tell her she wont be going to work tomorrow because you must nack sense to her head at all cost or she pack out of your house to that Uber driver house, thank me later

austyn0:


Great piece, very nice...

BUT....

You are making it sound like the guy is the only person to be faulted. Yes, he broke the trust and should be faulted for not telling the shawty abou the colleague that visited, no sane woman would not think negative. The second story of joking on an article isn't worth excogitating on because the same way I would be okay with my shoddie befriending other guys, provided she isn't laying with them, she too should be able to trust that I won't cheat on her.. The major problem here is, the dude mentioned he has been apologizing like he killed the one person that could save Nigeria from its damnation, yet she stood her ground and went all the way to find his substitute. A girl that is bent on revenge,,tell me sweetheart, what is left to be fixed and how is it gonna' be fixed??

ImaIma1:
The idea of living together should not be encouraged.

Why did you allow a colleague that you know she isn't comfortable with visit when you were not around?

If it were the other way around, most guys would have said she slept with the guy. But as it is you...a guy, it is fine.

She obviously has trust issues especially as you have not given her prior reasons to distrust you.

Constant relation with the other guy is bound to spark up something. That's the way women are. She might not sleep with him but she will get emotionally attached.

Has she given you reasons in the past for you not to trust her now? If she hasn't and you believe you guys can still be together, you both should talk before ending things

ImaIma1:
The idea of living together should not be encouraged.

Why did you allow a colleague that you know she isn't comfortable with visit when you were not around?

If it were the other way around, most guys would have said she slept with the guy. But as it is you...a guy, it is fine.

She obviously has trust issues especially as you have not given her prior reasons to distrust you.

Constant relation with the other guy is bound to spark up something. That's the way women are. She might not sleep with him but she will get emotionally attached.

Has she given you reasons in the past for you not to trust her now? If she hasn't and you believe you guys can still be together, you both should talk before ending things

Margy:
OP!

I am going to write a few things for you!
First do not, I repeat do not listen to most advise you see above.. some people are broken and speak out of their brokenness! They never say anything good.

I do not believe in judging a case from one side, if only I hear her part of the story, then I'll advice accordingly!

But, from this single story of yours, why on earth will you destroy the trust you both built for 3 years in a twinkling of an eye!

First, you invited a female colleague to your house, and never deem it fit to tell the one you love forehand? You broke trust,
Secondly, you commented on a post you are available, that means you don't appreciate and value the woman you have!

No girl, no girl will take this likely, it takes time to build trust but this trust can be destroyed in seconds. You broke the trust. Now, she'll never forget!.. some thing in her will keep telling her to act fast. I am not surprise she already found someone taking her to work! Trust me, she is trying to find solace! She might not even like that dude.
I guess, this is the only time she has defaulted...
Now, you fix it. Fix what you've broken! Make your ways straight, value her and stop trying to compare her!. Tell her everything, nothing is hidden under this earth. If after 3years because a man picks her up you want to breakup with her!!! Then you are sailing on a wrong boat.

Read my lips: There is no good girl out there! Mould the one you have, stick to her.... las las..na the same anatomy all girls have and na the same werey all girls have it all depends how you press the button.

That girl loves you! Fix this

UyaiIncomparabl:


It's not bad that you were honest. But you see, most women cannot condone the truth, so what do you do? You give them a lie or you just keep shut! What you don't know won't kill you. Telling her about your colleague was your greatest undoing. But then, only you understands the dynamics of your relationship. Steer it to the direction you desire. Leave the hateful advices you read on here. Most of them are effeminate and nothing to write home about. They possibly are passing through your same ordeal but come online to act like a macho.

I'll always advise partners in a relationship to take note of their temperaments and tolerance levels. Your girlfriend is predominantly Melancholic. She has an unforgiving spirit and will likely always want to revenge. As much as I hate to say this, but do not always be honest with her. Filter out some truths. This will save you lots of heartaches. That doesn't mean you shouldn't be upright, in summary, continue being faithful.

As for the guy she's falling head over heels for, I think you have to give her an ultimatum to choose between you and him. For the fact she stays with you under your roof spells doom and heartache. If she still doesn't yield, for peace's sake, please let her leave. Life's not that hard. Que sera sera!

tosyne2much:
I'm sorry to say that you're a weakling bro

A lady is staying under your roof yet she has the enfrontery to be doing this nonsense and still rubbing it on your face. Your girlfriend is flirting with men using "payback" as a lame excuse.. Who does that?

You have to man up and be strict, and you should let her abide by your rules, if she can't make she waka abeg.

Anyway, I'm not really surprised about her behaviour because MOST ladies are programmed that way. Money brings out that rude, disloyal and pompous traits that have been hiding inside almost every Nigerian lady

OKOATA:
Bro let me tell you my story, I will soon open a thread on it soon. My best friend had sex with my fiance. My point is that I threw the two fuckers out of my life like the trash they are. Once you start giving a girl the I can't do without you attitude she will take advantage of you. I haven't been in any relationship for about a year now and am so at peace with myself. That girl is manipulating you psychological and you need to get hold of yourself or you get into a nervous wreck down. You are the master of your faith and the captain of your soul. Look for a lady that will benefit your life not energy drainers.

tosyne2much:
I'm sorry to say that you're a weakling bro

A lady is staying under your roof yet she has the enfrontery to be doing this nonsense and still rubbing it on your face. Your girlfriend is flirting with men using "payback" as a lame excuse.. Who does that?

You have to man up and be strict, and you should let her abide by your rules, if she can't make she waka abeg.

Anyway, I'm not really surprised about her behaviour because MOST ladies are programmed that way. Money brings out that rude, disloyal and pompous traits that have been hiding inside almost every Nigerian lady

Triniti:
Are you sure you have a pair down there? I mean in between your damn legs? Yes a pair of balls, do you have any? You gave a woman the key to your happiness? Now she’s gone with the key, what else would you do now? Jump into the lagoon? The type of effeminate guys we have these days parading as men is quite appalling. Grow some balls, move on with your life if she’s not ready for a relationship with you

OKOATA:
I wanted to abuse you but I know that feeling when you are in love with a hoe. You are to blame for all this, You are too open minded to a woman and that's what killing you. Must you tell a woman that your work mate came visiting? Tell her to pack out to be with her new guy. She's staying in your home and you are condoning this. Bro you are a weakling I swear. You should be in control, don't beg a woman. Woman will always take advantage of you when you beg them in situations like this. Women like men that are in control. Be in control of your relationship and please what's with the I haven't cheated on her for the past 3 years. So you mean you never see girls for instamessage, stop dulling yourself Mr

Celestial777:
What can you use to keep a woman ?
A woman can only be kept if she want to be kept. That is the simple reason .Now if we all here devise a way for you to keep her fine you will succeed but have it in mind that she will also do kpekus connections outside. That is just it. The other man that pick her up every morning is her darling. No doubt, if you check well the man may even be married as well.
She just want a show off...at her work place that man will be known as her bf.
Okay busrt ur head. Tell her u gonna visit her at her work place.
She will not want that because u will just spoil show.
Zero ur mind and move on . I am not saying you should leave her.
Play along but my friend u will do a lot mistake by getting married to her.
Don't reason the number of years you guys have been together. That will be ur undoing.

psalmsmiles:
DUDE, IF YOU REALLY LOVE THIS LADY THEN YOU SHOULD PLAY A DEAF EAR TO WHAT THOSE GUYS ABOVE ME ARE SAYING.
SHE'S YOUR WOMAN, YOU KNOW HER AND THO SHE MIGHT BE ACTING FUNNY, IT'S STILL NOT TOO LATE. YOU CAN HAVE A HEARTY DISCUSSION WITH HER. LET HER KNOW WHAT'S REALLY GOING ON. ABOUT HOW STRAIGT 4WARD U'VE BEEN WITH HER THE WHOLE TIME AND EXPECT HER TO BE TRUE TO YOU IN RETURN. APOLOGIZE TO HER ALL OVER AGAIN.. HER RESPONSE AND REACTION AFTERWARDS TILL THE NEXT FEWS DAYS WILL DETERMINE WHETHER SHE STILL LOVES YOU OR NOT.
COMMUNICATION IS KEY IN EVERY RELATIONSHIP



PEACE!

stupidity:
stop ranting bros.


She’s gone sour already. Nothing you can do about it. Either you act like she’s co habiting with you for the mean time and careless about her excess’s. Or kindly ask her to leave to have your sanity back.

This is why I smoke weed, act funny to me, I roll one, before I drag 4 puff I’m already with about 10 strippers in my head.

Edited: stop being too nice to ladies. When you too nice to them, believe me they take it for granted.

2dice01:
you should have keep it low

Act like everything is cool
Hack her phone

Get to know if she is cheating or not then that is game over
You won't even have open this thread

Generalnomercy:
BROS, YOU MAKES THE GIRL FEEL EXTREMELY IMPORTANT WHICH SHOULD NOT BE SO.


SECONDLY, THAT LADY IS THE VERY TOXIC TYPE. SHE ALWAYS BELIEVES THAT AN EYE FOR AN EYE, VERY UNFORGIVING.

IS THAT THE KIND OF PERSON WHO YOU WANT TO SPEND THE REST OF YOUR LIFE WITH?

AS SHE LIVES UNDER YOUR ROOF, ANY CHEATING SHE DOES WILL DEFINITELY AFFECT YOU.


LEAVE HER ALONE, FACE YOUR LIFE AND BE A BETTER PERSON FINANCIALLY AND IN OTHER ASPECTS...


THE NEW GUY WILL BARTER HER SOON AND SHE WOULD WANT TO COME BACK, BUT MAKE SURE YOU SHUT YOUR DOORS.


LET HER GOOOOOOOOO.

2dice01:
you shouldn't have broken up with her like that


She is likely not going anywhere.. She will be waiting for your next move too

olowolayemoh:
It's certain this will later cheat on u if u probably get married and u have a similar issue that that happened now, geez....I hate girls that will make me to beg and beg in relationship, see, dump that motherfucker and move on with ur life, unless you re weak guy to do so.....chai I even hate weak guy like u self,

2dice01:
Young man you jump into conclusion easily


So what exactly do you want now..
Be a fucking man and standby your word

Is she still staying with you?

Randy100:
Since you ended the relationship, be a man and stand by it.

PORNeliusHUBson:
Move on! U dnt deserve ha, vice versa. Let her go! Becus a gal visited u, she said she'll do bck. That gal may b receivin díck bhind ur back.

donstan18:


C'mon Shurup!! What's wrong with you guys?

You gave who the key to your happiness?

You started what she's confidently doing and you are complaining.

You ended the relationship and because she didn't give a damn, you are complaining.

You indirectly gave her the reason to do what she's has been longing to do. Yes, you did.

My advice for you is to know that no one is irreplaceable when it comes to relationships.

You can always get a better person. Don't force yourself on her because you are not in the position to apologise in this issue.

She should, and if she refuses to, then move on.

Obinnau:
Na you cause am op. No be her fault. You gave her the excuse she needed. The truth is that most people are insecure and a little opening from you can tip them towards that edge