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Politics / Re: Would You Believe IBB Achieved All These As Nigeria's Military Head Of State? by Divinerace(m): 9:04pm On Aug 28, 2023 |
What of the 4 refineries built by the military gvrnt, the so called messianic civilian gvrnt can not mentain I pray that the junta's shud take over Nigerian gvrnt by fire by force 2 Likes |
Politics / Re: Buhari Is Better Than Tinubu – Nigerians Cry Out As Rising Cost Of Living Bites by Divinerace(m): 6:25am On Aug 06, 2023 |
Apc means: poverty to people, by the people and to the ppl. 12 Likes |
Religion / Re: Deliverance For All by Divinerace(m): 5:10pm On Jul 16, 2023 |
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Religion / Re: Deliverance For All by Divinerace(m): 6:26am On Jul 16, 2023 |
Salvation2:May I ask you a question sir Is forex trading not gamebling If it is so! Doesn't it contradict ur christian belives Am asking bcus, I'm also into this stuff. As a Christian I don't knw if it is biblical You answer is needed Sir, to enlighten a fellow beliver |
Foreign Affairs / Re: Ukraine's Bid To Join NATO Is Premature - Joe Biden by Divinerace(m): 7:54pm On Jul 09, 2023 |
Are u sure? 2 Likes |
Romance / Re: Lazy Man Don Quote Bible by Divinerace(m): 4:44am On Jul 09, 2023 |
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Religion / Re: My Journey to The Spirit World And How God Delivered Me by Divinerace(m): 4:33am On Jul 08, 2023 |
Salvation2 com and update ur thread now |
Celebrities / Re: Davido Sends Strong Message To Those Accusing Him by Divinerace(m): 7:30pm On Jul 05, 2023 |
More grace to ur manhood 2 Likes 1 Share |
Politics / Re: Presidential Spokesperson Since 1999 by Divinerace(m): 11:41pm On Jul 03, 2023 |
Nairaland / General / Re: At Your Age, What's Your Biggest Regret In Life by Divinerace(m): 7:48pm On Jun 27, 2023 |
Sports / Re: See The Moment Man City Lifted The 2022/ 2023 CL Trophy (photos) by Divinerace(m): 5:23am On Jun 11, 2023 |
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Politics / Re: Who Is Winning In Kaduna Governorship Election? by Divinerace(m): 6:06pm On Mar 19, 2023 |
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Politics / Re: Don’t Mislead Nigerians, You Did Not Win – Tinubu Fires Back At Peter Obi by Divinerace(m): 10:25pm On Mar 02, 2023 |
Nothing is hiding under the sun! The truth will surely resurface in the court of justice.,.And then what happened to abioia will happen to tinubu .. winnin the election but not ascending to the throne |
Politics / Re: I Told Obi He Can't Win - Soludo Congratulates Tinubu by Divinerace(m): 10:15pm On Mar 02, 2023 |
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Politics / Re: Atiku Wins 18 LGA Announced In Osun by Divinerace(m): 3:48pm On Feb 26, 2023 |
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Politics / Re: Individuals Working For Atiku In Buhari Govt – Fani-kayode by Divinerace(m): 5:38pm On Jan 29, 2023 |
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Family / Re: SUREHOME MARRIAGE SEMINAR | October Edition by Divinerace(m): 7:01pm On Oct 30, 2022 |
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Family / What It Really Means To Be Happy by Divinerace(m): 10:04pm On Jan 29, 2022 |
Happiness is an inside job. Don’t assign anyone else that much power over your life.” ~Mandy Hale Everyone wants to be happy, but not many people contemplate whether or not they really are. Some of us feel too privileged to not be happy, while others don’t want to face the possibility that we might not be. Here are nine truths about happiness to help you think a little more deeply about what it really means. 1. It isn’t a feeling; it’s a relationship to life. To be human means that we experience a range of emotions. If you were to look at a grid and see a line in the shape of a wave it would be an accurate representation of the human experience. We shouldn’t be operating as an even, straight line. That’s what I’d call a robot or someone numbed out. Human beings experience emotions in response to life circumstances. That means sometimes you’re going to feel happy, sad, and all the other emotions in between. Embrace it. True happiness is not a state; it’s the way we relate to our lives. If we’re rooted in unconditional love for ourselves, the world around us transforms. We have the ability to express gratitude for all experiences in life. We’re able to sit with difficult emotions without denying ourselves love. We’re able to be with ourselves and with the world in a way that shapes our overall perception of our lives to one of love and gratitude. This is the path to happiness. 2. It requires a willingness to know the truth. I once felt guilty for not being happy. I felt like I had no right not to be happy. After all, I was born into a loving family, I was fed, I was loved, and I was educated. I had so much more than so many people on this planet. And then I woke up the truth that I was, in fact, not happy, and to deny that didn’t change the truth. I realized that my relationship to myself was the source of my unhappiness. I lived under the illusion that I loved myself by avoiding contemplating whether or not I did. I was able to see that I couldn’t actually be happy until I learned to love myself as I am. We have to wake up to our own underlying truths. Anything you’re lying to yourself about is holding you back from true happiness. 3. You have to be willing to feel pain. True happiness isn’t the expression of happy chemicals floating through our brains. True happiness comes from the willingness to face ourselves. Only through some of my most painful experiences have I come to live in true happiness. When I was willing to sit in the despair of my lost love, when I was willing to face the truth that I had become numb from feeling, and when I did the difficult work of healing I came out the other side. Sometimes I felt lighter, but always with a deeper understanding of who I am. 4. It has nothing to do with whether or not people like you.
 Doesn’t it feel great when people like you? It’s like the high school experience I always dreamed of. As I got older and more comfortable with myself, I seemed to attract amazing people into my life. I loved them and they loved me. And then someone slipped through the cracks, and I experienced someone not liking me again. It stings, right? No one likes not being liked. But it also wasn’t my problem. As long as you’re good with who you are deep down and as long as you’re facing yourself each day, it’s not your problem if someone else doesn’t like you. It’s their problem, because more often than not people are reflecting their relationship to themselves. When someone doesn’t like you it doesn’t threaten your happiness. Your happiness is yours. It’s your relationship to yourself and your own life. What another person thinks about you can sting, but it doesn’t have to change how you feel about yourself. 5. It’s what most people are pretending to be. Comparing yourself to anyone else is not only futile but also irrelevant. Your concern should be to uncover your own truth and live according to that. When you try to be like someone else, you are trying to live according to what you think it means to be happy like them. And the unfortunate truth is that most people are pretending to be happy. They may gloat about their successes or perceived achievements. But true happiness is a vibration that is undeniable and needs no proving. 6. You can’t look for it anywhere outside of yourself. You will never find true happiness if you take out a flashlight and start searching. There is not one single thing outside of ourselves this will cultivate true happiness. Nothing. Not another human being whether it be a partner, parent, or child. The only place true happiness can emerge from is through the self. We can experience moments of joy and bliss in relationship to other human beings, but true happiness is a result of your connection to your own truth. Once you’ve awakened to that, all of your relationships will be more vibrant. 7. It’s what babies see when they look in the mirror.
 I have six younger siblings. Years ago, I remember my three year old sister looking at herself in the mirror. When I asked her if she thought she was beautiful, her eyes lit up as she looked at herself, and without a doubt, without hesitation, she said yes. Children are not yet tainted by the judgments of our world. They see that beauty is not physical, that it’s an essence. They look at themselves without judgment. It’s the same relationship to self we now have to cultivate. We have to learn to let go of the judgments of others in order to see the truth of who we are: that we are, in fact, that same beautiful baby. 8. You can’t buy it, drink it, or recycle it. True happiness is not a book you can read, lipstick you can wear, or act you can do. It’s almost ineffable. It’s most definitely not any of the things our culture has attempted to brainwash us into believing it is. It’s something you have to discover for yourself. It’s something you have to be willing to work hard to uncover. A good place to start would be to let go of all of the ideas that things and ideas are what will bring you to true happiness. 9. True happiness reveals itself through love. In our moments of great deliberation we have two choices: love or fear. Love is not often the easy choice. Love can challenge us. It can make us feel uneasy. Love can actually elicit deep pain. Fear is the easy escape route. It’s the choice to express anger instead of vulnerability. It’s the choice to hide instead of face the pain. It’s the decision to push someone away instead of embrace them. True happiness will always be at arm’s distance when you choose fear. Choosing love, especially when it’s difficult, is the path to accessing true happiness. True happiness is an unwavering connection to your own truth. It’s is a connection to the soul, to the deepest part of ourselves that screams out for us to listen. You always have the choice to align yourself with it because your soul is always communicating with you. It’s happening now as you read this. Are you listening www.tinybuddha.com 1 Like 2 Shares |
Business / Re: How Do People Make So Much Money From Malaysia by Divinerace(m): 3:49pm On Jan 16, 2022 |
Juju things Op. What u don't know, is above you!!!! 1 Like |
Business / Re: Africa’s Billionaire, Aliko Dangote Gains N177 Billion In 2021 by Divinerace(m): 8:05pm On Jan 10, 2022 |
The rich are getting richer while the poor are getting poorer |
Career / Re: The Most Difficult Age For Any Man In Nigeria.. "24-29" by Divinerace(m): 5:06am On Jan 03, 2022 |
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Career / The Most Difficult Age For Any Man In Nigeria.. "24-29" by Divinerace(m): 10:27pm On Jan 02, 2022 |
The most difficult age for any man born in Nigeria should be between 24 and 29 years, the pressure to be something, to be someone is so immense. When you look around you everyone seems to be doing something for themselves, people seem to be living a life you only dream of. You have applied for jobs and the results have been more disappointing than Yakubu Aiyegbeni goal miss at the world cup. Sadly this is the age when most guys lose it, the age when if not careful one is consumed by alcohol or drugs, because the disappointments become too much and you find alternative ways to face reality. Worse is when a few people you studied with have been lucky enough to land jobs, soon your circle of friends gets thinner – mostly they don’t even cut you out but you will be real with yourself and cut yourself off. I mean what will you do when you are in a WhatsApp group of friends and they are discussing about last week’s trip in Dubai and planning another trip South Africa while you are not sure of what your next meal would be? Most times you follow the conversation silently, all alone like a cross on the grave. Soon you realize this is no longer your kind of crowd because the more you keep around the more the pressure to be something, takes a toll on you. You know when stories about house parties come up and you act deaf because you don’t know where an extra 5 guys would fit in your house. Have you ever sat in a group of people discussing the new iPhone on the market or how British Airways offers poo services and you can feel your heart whisper to you “boss this is chest pain hour, can we just go and find a group that talks about GMAT, SHLn Dragnet, jobberman or job vacancies sites“. But you sit there as these people are lost in their lifestyle conversations, you are like a secretary taking minutes in meeting. You are totally forgotten like one of a woman’s breasts during pre-intimacy. Once in a while one of the friends will turn and ask if you need another drink and you wonder if you should just say No and head home, but head home to do what? So you grudgingly drop in the comment “I will have just one last one“ Lie. But after a few years of job hunting, you are now ready to take anything even if is to smell a rich man’s farts as long as it pays , so you end up as an office messenger in one blue chip company in town. To imagine that 4-5 years of studying and getting a degree is now reduced to picking and dropping off letters and if you are not doing that, you are being sent for cheap lunch by the employees when they are broke and they can’t order with fast food. This is when conversations about where people schooled start, you go silent for it’s no longer of any use to say you also reached University, it doesn’t matter – you have resorted to surviving. Once in while you will bump into your now well to do classmates, they would offer you lunch, but not even eating the meals at Eko Hotel or Sheraton will make you feel better about yourself, because in your mind you wish instead they would give you the 30k and you sort your meals for the next 5 weeks. As it is the norm you will have photos taken, and uploaded on Facebook, but always it’s your face that would look the odd one out – not even the best filters can hide a face which has suffered the city's dust and sun but survives on boiled beans. The worst mistake you can do during this period is to try and date – there is nothing that a person going through such times can offer in terms of love. How are you going to do evening romantic walks when you are tired from walking delivering letters in offices around town? What are you going to tell your lady when she says she wants to go for relaxation at the bar, pool or love garden sites that are in town? That your financial religion doesn’t allow it or what? This is the age when you sit back and watch as the ladies you would want to date are dating or getting married to guys 10 years older than you. And you can’t blame them – it’s only that your life seems to be progressing slower than their goals in life. Most of the ladies you meet during this period, if you are lucky will be patient with you till you hit 28, and if by then your life is still in disarray like Leicester city's performance in the EPL then my friend be prepared for a walk out. But then this is the age when you learn a lot of about life, if you can hack through this stage of life the only hard moment in your life would be when you lose your parents - that’s if you are still lucky enough to have them. This stage teaches you a lot about perseverance, about appreciating the small wins you have each day, it teaches you something about friendship, love, career growth and personal responsibility. This is always your rise or fall moment depending on the choices you make. How you live your life in the 30’s is determined by how you handled your life in this phase. Do not Give up. Do not Be Depressed. remain focused and create a Strategy. Be consistent, you must Surely Win. 12 Likes 2 Shares |
Career / The Power Of Information by Divinerace(m): 10:11pm On Jan 02, 2022 |
THE POWER OF INFORMATION. Every great destiny thrives on the platform of information. Being informed is not just knowing something but possessing a working knowledge about that thing. John chapter 6:6. God will not tell you all you need to know, He will only use what you know to generate your change. Information is any form of NEWS that influences your action. Information infuses motivation and motivation provokes action and this motion is what is required to arrive at your destination. If you lack information your vision will lack motion. What Fuel is to a car, is what information is to destiny. How far you will go in life is determined by the level of information you are operating with. There are many big dreams today that may never see the light of the day until adequate information is acquired. Power is not the principal thing. Wisdom is the principal thing. Proverbs 4:7 and 8. It is information that begets wisdom. It is your depth of understanding in your particular field of calling that determines how outstanding you will become. God answers prayers by not always doing what you ask but by showing you what you need to do to get your miracle. Jeremiah 33:3. The news you access is what influences the events of your life. Romans 12:1-2. Someone had said; SOW A THOUGHT AND YOU WILL REAP AN ACT, SOW AN ACT YOU REAP A HABIT, SOW A HABIT YOU REAP A CHARACTER, SOW A CHARACTER YOU REAP A DESTINY. THOUGHTS ARE VERY POWERFUL. Lack of adequate information is what makes people to give up too easily. You need information, not just information but current adequate information. Information is the currency of destiny that determines your purchasing power in the market of life. God will give you a dream but He will leave you to go and find the information that drives it. Please take responsibility of reading and re-reading, study, study and study, make researches.The difference between success and failure is information, the difference between poverty and prosperity is information, information is the difference between slavery and royalty, information is the difference that makes the difference. You need information to be free from frustration. Therefore don't stop learning. Until your mind is renewed, your life can not be transformed, until there is a change within, there cannot be change without. Unfortunately for many, learning stops when they graduate from school. Abraham Lincoln said; "I don't think much of a man who is more wiser yesterday than he is today. You are making it in Jesus Precious name 1 Like |
Career / Why People Get Mad When You Achieve Success by Divinerace(m): 9:57pm On Jan 02, 2022 |
Addicted 2 Success Addicted 2 Success SUCCESS ADVICEHere’s Why People Get Mad When You Achieve SuccessPublished 1 month ago on Nov 25, 2021 By Reniel Anca Image Credit: Unsplash SHARE TWEET There’s no denying that success comes in different “shapes and sizes”. You could be successful financially, romantically, or health-wise. And if you’ve always found yourself to be advantaged in some way, then you must already know that some people feel a little envy towards you, (and may want to take what you have), but you can understand where they are coming from. However, what is perplexing is when the people you’ve always known suddenly become jealous when you begin to win or shine more. And when you think about it, the logical conclusion would be “they should be happy for me now that I’ve achieved success”, but this is not the case at all times and that’s the harsh reality of life. But why? Why Do People Resent Your Success? The thing about success is that it creates a huge – and very noticeable – gap. There is a big difference between someone making $10,000 monthly, and someone doing $1 million monthly. There is a huge difference between a single person and someone who is (not just dating but) married. There is a major difference between someone who is obese and a supermodel. And so on. And that gap brings about a lot of awkward feelings – even for those who still wish you well. Success (in any endeavor) is by nature hard to reach, and achieving it automatically places you in a higher position – no matter how humble or friendly you might be. If it were easy, then everyone would have achieved it. And, since it might be something other people in your industry want but can’t get to, it makes sense that they feel a bit distant from you (as they feel like you are now above them), which breeds envy. Envy is a desire for something someone else has that you do not have. Not everyone would feel envious about you – especially if they do not value, or want what you have. For instance, getting a Ph.D. may cause fellow students to feel a bit envious, but it won’t faze an athlete – because having a Phd. is not a milestone or something they wanted to have in the first place. But, on the other hand, even people who do not need nor want what you have may still feel jealous over your success; not necessarily because you have succeeded, but because you have become “successful”. You see, jealousy comes when they don’t want you to keep what you already have. A friend may begin to feel jealous because you now get to hang out more with other people (who are now in your new “higher” league) and less with him/her. Family may feel jealous that you left the small town for a big city. And unhealthy friends may feel jealous that you now look more fit and visit the gym more often whilst spending less and less time in the bar and McDonalds… Whether envy or jealous, they all happen because of your success, and they can’t be helped by those feeling them. In fact, if someone denies feeling a bit of those – i.e. if they deny not feeling a bit jealous or envious – chances are that they are lying to your face. Jealousy and envy are as natural as laughter and anger. The issues only arise when they get out of control. “There are two types of people who will tell you that you cannot make a difference in this world: those who are afraid to try and those who are afraid you will succeed.” – Ray Goforth Not Everyone Is Happy About Your Success Toxic levels of envy and jealousy can be very, very destructive; so you should watch out for those. Jealousy or envy is popularly referred to as the “green-eyed monster” because it actually feels like another being emerging from inside. It takes a lot of self-control and the proper mindset to conquer the green monster. It takes a greater level of personal development to transmute envy and jealousy into inspiration and drive. There is a famous saying which goes, “There are two ways to build the tallest building in town: Build a taller building, or tear down all the other buildings around it.”. While most people would allow their jealousy to just seethe within them without doing anything (because of the law and their inability), few would go out of their way to rain on your parade, throw you under the bus or crash the party altogether. They may try to downplay your success, push your buttons, spread rumors about you, connive, betray, and sabotage you; as well as attempt to punish you by withdrawing from or ghosting you. The result of all these is often messy. So, how do you deal with it? How Do You Deal With Someone Who Is Jealous Of You? Experiencing jealousy and envy are common in life – especially for those who are always looking to improve their lives – hence it is crucial that you know how to deal with jealous people (especially if they are family, friends, or colleagues). Below are some very simple things you can do that helped me deal with envious people: Empathize: Accept that it is a natural response that most people can’t help. Don’t feel disappointed by their jealousy. Understand and empathize with them. Don’t Take It Personal: If they might have said or done something out of jealousy, it is important to realize that it is not about you; rather it is about them – and their own insecurities. Don’t Apologize: Don’t feel bad for succeeding. It is a good thing to succeed. Success is the best thing you can do for yourself and the world. If someone is lagging behind, it’s not your fault they’re behind. They are the ones who need to put in the work and level up, who need to transmute their jealousy and envy, who need to strive to succeed because you have proven to them that it is possible. Don’t Attack: In most cases, the envious or jealous person cannot do much to you if you don’t dwell on them. They would try to trigger you, but you are better off ignoring them. Encourage Them: You can become the bigger person by sincerely encouraging them – this is particularly importa nt if the people who are jealous of you are under your leadership. You want to make friends, not foes. So when next you see someone acting out of envy or jealousy, don’t be quick to think they hate you. It is just one of those awkward things that comes with achieving success. It is just one of those things that make success interesting. It is just a spice to life. https://addicted2success.com 1 Like |
Business / Re: Forex Trade Alerts: Season 21 by Divinerace(m): 4:36pm On Jun 29, 2021 |
I need person who will show me how to build a robot on forex trading and I'll pay him. |
Health / Re: . by Divinerace(m): 1:33am On Oct 26, 2019 |
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Health / Re: . by Divinerace(m): 1:22am On Oct 26, 2019 |
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Health / Re: . by Divinerace(m): 1:11am On Oct 26, 2019 |
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Health / Re: . by Divinerace(m): 6:18pm On Oct 22, 2019 |
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Health / Re: . by Divinerace(m): 7:24pm On Oct 20, 2019 |
Wish2Die:i've-pass-through-this-ur-problem:-my-own-was-much-that-l-could'nt-come-out-of-my-house-for-complete-two-yrs...........but-there-is-a-solution-to-every-problem. 1 Like |
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