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Bobodee09:
I really missed my bachelor days.....every weekend was pure enjoyments for me.

Have decided to take care of myself more .

Bobodee09:
My actual problem is fear of the unknown and unforseen expenses.

For instance last year March my daughter just came back from school and by night she got really sick.
In just 6days we spent over 200k on hospital bills.

I don't have people to run to for help, infact I hardly even ask anyone for help...so I can't afford to be financially stranded.

So that my fear which limits me alot but I think I need to put it aside now.

GloriousGbola:
wetin man go do?

go for meeting with danfo and enter meeting room sweating and smelling?
move pikin to gofamint school?
exchange camry for starlet?

Bobodee09:
Is so bad that has a married man you can't even buy yourself new wears.

Throughout last year I couldn't get myself a new set of jeans trouser even tho I needed it badly despite having the money.
All the money I made last year 90% when into paying bills and household expenses.
It so crazy how you has a man you will have over 200k in your acc and you be scared to even buy yourself something of 10k cos of fear of the unknown.
In all of this my wife and kids still has many clothes they haven't worn I paid for you.

Last weekend my wife bought herself over 10 new shirt and when I saw it I reminded her how I couldn't even buy myself new jean....she told me nah me no wan buy nah.
It really hurt me cos whatever money I make the family expenses come first before my own personal needs but it isn't same for women.

I just feel marriage is design for men to suffer honestly.
People just taking from you and no one really care about what you need.

Bobodee09:
This advise goes especially to married men and men in general.

Don't put yourself under unnecessary pressure or take up loans to maintain a certain lifestyle.

I just lost an area senior bros this morning, the news didn't come as shock cos he has been in the hospital for a while and his BP refused to come down.

He is man in his late 40's married with 4 kids. This man was under alot of pressure to meet end means, he took up too many loans just to maintain his living standards to please his family.

The last time I visited him in general I also checked my BP and it was very high, I was also under pressure myself to meet target.
When I got home I promised myself I wont die young to please anyone.
I will do my best and leave the rest cos at the end no one really care all they want to do is take from you as a man.

Married men enjoy yourself, take care of yourself, buy what you want. You can't be working everyday and be suffering to please your wife and kids.

The men who die young are the ones who always labour and don't take care of themselves, you see men who only provide what they have and take care of themselves they live longer.

We are in this mess together trust me....those people you think are doing better have alot of loans on their neck. So don't let anyone push you by comparing you to them.

If what you provide isnt enough or appreciated tell your wife to also provide or take her leave.

drsibz66:
How are they the strongest team when they have played more extra game over Liverpool and still trailing on points. Remember they have all played the same teams ... arsenal isn't playing in Italy so there isn't that excuse of saying arsenal plays tougher teams....

So for now they aren't the strongest team in the league ... period.

marlow1962:
It's important to have a good road network, but after the road, what next?
I'm not castigating them, but why do the government seem to focused more on roads more than other crucial sectors?

Nnamdipapa:
These people dey learn work, go check Cece Winans and co.

It is a huge industry.

Nnamdipapa:
Gospel music is not about praise and worship bur serious business. The worship angle is emotional manipulations at best.

PressMyButton:
That landmark owner thinks he's smart but he's not at all, he wants to act like a Mafia boss but he's still a learner. Going to different states with shorelines and then bribing the Governors to grant his access to the land. I think his lawyer will educate him that All shorelines in the country belongs to the federal government, most importantly, 250m of the shorelines automatically belongs to the FG.
With the greed in his eyes, I do not have any pity for him, I only pity the stakeholders that have invested their money in his business, the banks that borrowed him money knows how to get back their money if he enters trouble with those state governors.

marlow1962:
It's another day to glorify construction of roads, while neglecting the important issue.

tolexy007:
Trump my man

femi4:
The draw looks like a loss

mcjohny:
Chelsea under pressure to perform tonight

eepeepook:
That's the thing with moneymakers; they learn to make more money. Poor people sit and complain, blaming everyone else for their financial shortcoming.

TimeManager:
The least we can do is to appreciate these new military chiefs and in particular, Mallam Nuhu Ribadu. They are putting in the efforts 24/7. This news scares me, I must confess.


-Kiss the truth!

JimohMomoh:
You just wasted precious time typing rubbish. No sense in the long write-up.

Azazyel:
Arteta and Arsenal are useless! Go and look at the scoreline. Nothing for gunners. There's nothing hard about them. They have just put you to shame

Azazyel:
You're so funny. Are you truly watching this game? You didn't notice that the United players are not playing to their full strength abi. If united had played what they are playing right now, Dem for collect wotowoto from Liverpool. One more thing, Arsenal cannot win anything this season and even the next. They are just playing fancy football with no icing on the cake

GiftofGod77:
Yes Boss...because no matter where you are in life try to live under what you can afford. This does not mean living malnourished or in penury or poverty but living moderately and choosing the simple healthy and fun life. This will enable some savings to be made no matter how small. As the savings grow we learn different businesses or ventures well and then we can remove a small fraction of our savings to just try and see. If it works we learn more and increase our investments gradually. Over the upcoming years it will grow then we can make further investments in fixed or more viable assets for our old age and even our seeds whether born now or unborn.

dheolexaone:
Except if you are looking for attention but if not, with 500k as a single guy on a monthly basis. You can say it's nothing when it equates to your high standard of living which from what I read so far it is, but when you maintain a low key life... You will be comfortable.

Let's start with rent... Where are you living and how much do you spend yearly when you can afford less.
Utility bills... How well do you manage your utilities,.light in band A etc. use Ur brain.
Transport... Going out with car on a daily as a big boy won't help you save. Use your brain.
Food... Do you patronise eateries all the time, learn how to start cooking or let someone cook for you and refrigerate all to save for later.
Dorime... How well do you do dorime and unnecessary spending ... Calculate it's all from your salary.

No matter how I count them all, if you don't live beyond the 500k, you will still complain when given 1.5m salary cuz your needs will increase as well.
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I earn 500k as a wife and my husband earns 200k.
I support in rent, pay school fees as they don't attend most expensive schools but have the best training from myself and the dad to back them up academically. Cook without waiting for money from my husband and don't ever complain at any time. We are here to help each other not a liability to one another.
I solely subscribe for entertainment at home with unlimited data and I am still able to save up to 250-300k monthly after paying my mum salary and helping some family members for the month.
I have a car but only drive when it's important for me and us as a family.

In all, nobody can help you spend your money. Your wants needs to be worked on.
Shalom.

harjay1986:
That means you buy food every time, if possible find way to cook your own meal, it will reduce to some extent, I earn 300k with three kids and my wife, after every every I still save like 100k every month

Armaggedon:
yea... security situation is terrible now. My comment was to explain that the Priest's criticism wasn't in good faith. It was stable under Ngige,Obiano but wasn't under Obi.

Armaggedon:
Obiano appointed Obidimma's brother SA and they were singing his praises despite the corruption during obiano's tenure. Today soludo has suddenly turned bad after drawing a fine line between church and government.

Nigeria is a country where anything happens. If this one was prosecuted for crush that resulted to the death of about 50 people in his prayer ground, he would've truly learnt some lessons about accountability.

jmichael259:
We lived near his sister and her family (Jehovah's Witnesses) in Owerri during his tenure as IGP.
That's how it is for Egbema people. They collect stipends and appointments based on any of the state (Rivers or Imo) wey belle face at the moment. Left to me, Dem be indigenes of both states after all No be dem tell una to demarcate their community with imaginary line of state border.

rapheal5:
I understand you, but you should know that to make a better country the cleaning must start from the top not the other way round where only the masses feel the heat, while the polithiefcians still lives comfortably.....