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Romance › Re: Would You Be Heart-broken If Your Current Partner Says 'it Is Over'? by dmcdad: 3:31pm On Aug 06, 2013

miccodb: partner in ?

Love or a relationship as you may see it... Even in marriage as the case may be

Romance › Re: Would You Be Heart-broken If Your Current Partner Says 'it Is Over'? by dmcdad: 2:53pm On Aug 06, 2013

haitto99: my guy no hope o, if you dnt hv d looks pls have d cash and vice versa

Lolzzz

Technology Market › Re: 3 Iphone 4 For Quick Sale... Very Cheap Indeed!!! by dmcdad(op): 1:36pm On Aug 06, 2013

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Romance › Re: Double Egde Betrayal The Story Of My Life! by dmcdad: 1:29pm On Aug 06, 2013

peciouslove: I agree with u. its so confusing cos of the web of issues which include:

1) My loving wife committed adultery without any reason according to her
2) This shameful act was done with my trusted friend,inlaw, and confidant
3) My sis is also involved in this issue cos her husband and my wife have betrayed her.

This becomes complicated. the most annoying thing is also that both my wife and her accompliance are insisting that they have no reason to do this and its not natural cos they dont undastand how it happened.I find it funny when people blame devil or unatural and the excuse for misguided behaviour

You might just want the storm to get calm first... And ask your wife in a mild and non-judgemental manner. To tell you why she had to hurt you this much.

Romance › Re: Double Egde Betrayal The Story Of My Life! by dmcdad: 1:18pm On Aug 06, 2013

^^^^Yeah you are right bruv... Honestly I didn't take cognizance of his sister. Like the above poster stated, you owe your sister the truth. Irrespective of what you are gonna take as your next line of action, you have to open up to your sister too. Cause as it is, the both of you are in the same boat.

Please try to handle this with care and caution and employ your sister to do same so as not to break both homes altogether.

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Romance › Re: .. by dmcdad: 12:28pm On Aug 06, 2013

Harbosede02: fnx 4 d advice..he didn't end it,i did,and i ad 2 cos d relationship ad no meanin 2 me again,hez far away..couldn't cope wif d distance

And yet you still can't move on?

Romance › Re: Double Egde Betrayal The Story Of My Life! by dmcdad: 12:26pm On Aug 06, 2013

peciouslove: thnks for your honest advice. One very painful thing is also that twice they had sex in the same building i was too without really suspecting! we spend weekend in each others house including last weekend. they actually confessed to me that i was sleeping in the sitting room, my younger sis was in the room,the children are in there room, the betrayals were in the bathroom committing adultery!

Chai! I know it's very hard to accept this cause of the pains it brings along with it. The thought alone can bring about depression. But yet, you have to be strong as a man.

I would also like you to sit your wife down and ask her why she did all these to you? Just tell her to be sincere with you, that you wanna know what went wrong that made her to indulge in such without thinking about what the both of you share... I know it's hard but try to know where it all went wrong.

Romance › Re: Double Dating Aka Cheating Act In Relationships by dmcdad: 12:18pm On Aug 06, 2013

^^^^ Lmao...

Romance › Re: .. by dmcdad: 12:12pm On Aug 06, 2013

sexymoma: My Dude just told me he is no more interested two weeks after he got me an android phone and some other goodies.
He told me he want to trace his way back spiritually... Lol
I guess he is tired of me... Here i am single again and lonely again.
you can also narrate your stories here....

Sorry oooooo.

He might really wanna trace his way back for real. I guess you were kinda a stumbling block to his spiritual growth. Who knows...

Anywayz, you are single doesn't necessarily mean you should be feeling lonely...

Romance › Re: .. by dmcdad: 12:09pm On Aug 06, 2013

Harbosede02: Sowi gurl...me n my ex broke up 2months ago,and it feels lyk itz yesterday it happened..itz painful and itz pretty hard 4 me 2 move on even if he has..

Ehya... sorry to hear that. Just take your time gurl. And try also to put him away for good. Sometimes it might not be easy but you have to try as much as you can to discard his thoughts in your head.

But what did you do for him to end it? Did he give any meaningful reason for wanting out?

Romance › Re: Are You A Mumu For Love? by dmcdad: 12:05pm On Aug 06, 2013

Chai! Nothing person no go see for NL

Romance › Re: Is No Sex B4 Marriage Possible With D Present Economic Hardship In D Country?. by dmcdad: 11:53am On Aug 06, 2013

[quote author=uj_sizzle]I made my intial post in response to your question. You might want to refer back to it.

My stance is pretty obvious. The economy has nothing to do with pre-marital sex as far as spirituality is concerned. Morality on the other hand is quite subjective to individual interpretation; however in my opinion, pre-marital sex has still got nothing to do with the economic situation when morality(by my standard) is concerned.[/quote]Gbam! That's all I need.

Romance › Re: Is No Sex B4 Marriage Possible With D Present Economic Hardship In D Country?. by dmcdad: 11:02am On Aug 06, 2013

[quote author=uj_sizzle]I think we should stick to our actual discussion, which is sex in general and not pre-marital or post-marital sex.

For your question, No. At what time sex is engaged in IMO is mostly dependent on morality and spirituality or just mere urge *shrug*[/quote]You seem to forget the purpose of this thread which is centred on "pre-marital sex owing to economic instability".

Anywayz, since you do believe that it is dependent on two fundamental values: morality and spirituality, what is your honest opinion as regards the subject in-line with your moral and spiritual belief?

Romance › Re: Is No Sex B4 Marriage Possible With D Present Economic Hardship In D Country?. by dmcdad: 10:05am On Aug 06, 2013

[quote author=uj_sizzle]Let me correct the interpretation you have of his assertion. He wasn't referiring to the Nation's economic state, but to an Individual's economic state.
That said, i quite agree with him to an extent. If you stopped limiting the scope of your study to the average Nigerian, you'd understand why.
For some people, intimacy is somewhat an escape from the reality of their situation-the poor. Nigerians as much as the Europeans like to indulge, the only difference being that the latter seem better educated on birth control with an added advantage of availability than the former. Nigerians on the other hand also seem to have moved their interest to religion as a reality escape route. sadly, the Marxists have something to say about this i think.

We're kinda derailing from the actual topic-which is senseless btw.[/quote]I wanna ask you this and it's a yes or no thing okay?
Do you agree that an individual's economic state is enough to indulge him/her in pre-marital sex?

Just a YES or NO would suffice... No need to eluciate on your point.

Romance › Re: Is No Sex B4 Marriage Possible With D Present Economic Hardship In D Country?. by dmcdad: 10:05am On Aug 06, 2013

Romance › Re: Would You Be Heart-broken If Your Current Partner Says 'it Is Over'? by dmcdad: 9:59am On Aug 06, 2013

Princess zoe: Why do you always like calling yourself negative names? Such names are self imposed curses. There is power in spoken words. Even if you are passing through such situations, the Bible says "be STILL and know that i am God". You are very handsome the way you are. You are unique, fearfully and wonderfully made. You are one of the varieties of God. Some women are praying to have someone like you as a husband and the father of their children. Drop the low self esteem and self pity ideology. Please cultivate the habit of using postive qualifications on yourself. And never forget to say prayers, include fasting if you can, to cancel all these negative names you have given to yourself which may affect in future or may be the reason why somethings are far off you.

Ahh! I only say those things jokingly. It seems you have noticed me on that. Lol. But seriously, I just use it to play and all that. I know all you are saying and I thank you for it. It's just that I like to play around with such sometimes. Like I told a friend who said he was gonna expose me since we are facebook friends, it's all jokes and nothing more. Me low self esteem kè, I have never seen that thing or that being that can intimidate me. I am too blessed and too endowed by God to be intimidated by anything or anyone.

So, be rest assured it's all jokes okay? I guess I have to stop it though. Thanks for your concern anywayz. I appreciate.

Romance › Re: Double Dating Aka Cheating Act In Relationships by dmcdad: 9:52am On Aug 06, 2013

Princess zoe: My brother could you be so kind to explain to me why you said they are not the same?

They are two different things... double-date means two couples going on a date (you know a couple is consist of two people). So invariably, it's a date in which two couples participate. For example, you go on a date with your partner along with your friend and her partner. That's what double-date means. People are just using the phrase mis-appropriately. While of course you know cheating is something very much different to this. Capiché?

Romance › Re: Is No Sex B4 Marriage Possible With D Present Economic Hardship In D Country?. by dmcdad: 9:41am On Aug 06, 2013

[quote author=uj_sizzle]Thomas Malthus seemed to think that the economic state had a direct relationship with how often people have sex.
ie, the poorer you are, the more suceptible you are to have sex and vice versa. Apparently that's why the poor guys have more children.[/quote]I don’t agree with him... Do Nigerians cherish sex as much as the people in the western world, America for example? Are you saying we are better of than them economically, strategically or....? Maybe you would give a good explanation why the people of Sodom and Gomorrah were so immoral even to inventing homosexualism. Probably because their economy was at low ebb? Hmm?

Infact, ler me ask you: do you believe his assertion?

Romance › Re: What Would You Do If Your Wife Leaves You For... by dmcdad: 9:35am On Aug 06, 2013

Princess zoe: My brother am sure you read this message well before posting. Never you use the name of your Lord in vain.

And I am sure you have the mind to think in all directions and not just one so as to discern whatever point I might be trying to pass even though I did pass it jokingly. And always try to keep an open mind to whatever that comes to the fore, because you might be missing something fundamental out of ignorance caused by being biased.

Good day.

Romance › Re: Double Egde Betrayal The Story Of My Life! by dmcdad: 9:26am On Aug 06, 2013

Dang! This is highly lugubrious. I know you must be in sixes and sevens at this juncture, completely gaga.

To be sincere with you, you are just not sharp at all. You are always with this guy whenever they exchange SMSs and you never noticed anything? And you were even blind from noticing from your wife too? Gosh! you know try at all. Anywayz, this is not about you.

I will view this the way I would react to it if I were in your shoes. Firstly, don’t have any beef sort of with the guy in question. Talk to him like nothing happened, but not lengthy anywayz, maybe greetings and the likes but make sure you guys are always on talking terms. Yet, you need to stay the heck away from him for life. Avoid his company when possible and make sure you are just limited to exchanging greetings with him to maintain the distance.

Secondly, if not for the fear of God, I would never have anything to do with a woman who is so strong-hearted as to hurt me. But, for the love and fear of God, there is always a re-think. So, my advice as regards your wife is; forgive her, but I know one thing is certain, your relationship with her can never be as strong as it were before now, at least for the time being. It is not easy to condone such from a partner especially when you are the kind that would never do that to her, it is something that would be very difficult to take as your life at this point in time would have taken a different turn. Even at that, I would enjoin you to tread carefully and approach this matter with caution while taking cognizance of the love and forgiveness of the almighty God.

I know you have been hit hard and as such, it takes the grace of God to overcome this quandary. Please, be merciful to her. Alot of peeps on here would be quick to tell you to dump her asś bla bla bla, but in reality they fail to recognise the oath people take when they pledge their love for eachother "for better or for worse" when they get married. Do you think that phrase is only applicable in financial or economic situations alone? Nope! It applies to cases such as this too. Its an oath you took in the presence of God and you must fulfil it come what may. That is why divorce is never an option for me because of my ideology towards marriage and also guided by my level of morality, ethics and spirituality.

Forgive her, I know the mark will be engraved for long, but try to fight the thought and gradually let it die a natural death. With time, the trust you have towards her can be rebuilt, although that will take much conviction. At this juncture, she will have alot to prove to you. And one thing you need to take into knowledge is, don't give her whatever suspicious look towards anything. If she wants to go somewhere all alone or she wants to do something that doesn't require the both of you in it, free her and don't give her the impression that you are suspicious of every move she makes (even if you actually do). I tell you bruv, unless she is a devil, she would never hurt you in such a way anymore. You know why? Because she is human with a conscience and and would live with that guilt of betraying your love and trust once. I think it would place her in good stead never to do anything that is slightly related to cheating.

All the best brah... I pray God gives you the right mind to bear this gruesome and excruciating pain, and to also help you to hearken to my words. Remember! I gave this to you the way I would treat it myself if I were in your position, in total consideration of my values and the way I handle situations. So, you might choose to do it some other way you deem it fit.

Have a blissful day.

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Romance › Re: Sending Children To Get You Condom: Your View by dmcdad: 8:30am On Aug 06, 2013

It's wrong.... I sometimes wonder why peeps feel kinda ashamed, scared, guilty in getting condoms when they ain't even considerate about what they wanna use it for. If you know you must have sex and you know it's your right or whatever, then I propose you go get it for yourself and make sure you spell it out clearly not encrypting the word "condom". I know of some peeps who goes to the pharmacy and ask the chemist to give them "that stuff" and the chemist will understandably package a Condom for em... Sometimes I wonder; why not say the words in a deciphered manner since you know what you wanna use it for isn't against values such as moral, ethical or spiritual.

Romance › Re: Would You Be Heart-broken If Your Current Partner Says 'it Is Over'? by dmcdad: 8:19am On Aug 06, 2013

haitto99: heartbroken is goin to be an understatement.....bt with d looks n cash....moving on wont be a problem

How about peeps like me with ugly and broke asśes... Are you saying no hope for us? Lol

Romance › Re: Would You Be Heart-broken If Your Current Partner Says 'it Is Over'? by dmcdad: 8:17am On Aug 06, 2013

^^^^ Is it an interview? Just asking anywayz

Romance › Re: What Would You Do If Your Wife Leaves You For... by dmcdad: 8:12am On Aug 06, 2013

Tosinville: man, did you really read that post at all?

Yeah... Check on it and you would discover I already made a post before you did with good compression of the subject. I just don't see the reason for killing oneself after such loss... Wetin don lost, don lost. Abi u no know?

Romance › Re: How Did You Meet Your Current Spouse or Partner? by dmcdad: 2:42am On Aug 06, 2013

SniperInADiaper: Dmcdad has her

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ifekayodee: I've recharged 100,do i need to send anything to any code or I shud go ahead and connect with the #100 on the sim..plz get back to me bro..really appreciate!

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Phones › Re: Airtel BIS Now UNLIMITED!!! by dmcdad(op): 10:03pm On Aug 05, 2013

ifekayodee: I've recharged 100,do i need to send anything to any code or I shud go ahead and connect with the #100 on the sim..plz get back to me bro..really appreciate!

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Romance › Re: Married Men That Still Visit Roadside Brothels by dmcdad: 9:56pm On Aug 05, 2013*

Cashio: That same old usual fufu everyday..why won't one seek for a change of diet?

Does that mean that the real idea of marriage should be defeated because you don't wanna watch just a station forever? That's a wrong mentality bruv... And that's the way most men think. It's just a way to justify their actions, yet it doesn't make it right.

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Romance › Re: How Did You Meet Your Current Spouse or Partner? by dmcdad: 9:29pm On Aug 05, 2013

bikini babe: if u r married lemme ask u, can u tell ur wife d last tin u can do for her will b to pamper her?

Romance › Re: How Did You Meet Your Current Spouse or Partner? by dmcdad: 9:28pm On Aug 05, 2013

bikini babe: if u r married lemme ask u, can u tell ur wife d last tin u can do for her will b to pamper her?

Never! The Bible says two come together to become one. If I can't pamper my wife, it also means I can't pamper myself. But as far as I can pamper myself by giving myself treats and all that, I would definitely do the same with her... Its a constant and not something that I can bargain.

Romance › Re: How Did You Meet Your Current Spouse or Partner? by dmcdad: 9:00pm On Aug 05, 2013

SniperInADiaper: Back off. She is taken.

I guess she doesn't want the one I am ready to offer....

Romance › Re: How Did You Meet Your Current Spouse or Partner? by dmcdad: 8:57pm On Aug 05, 2013

SniperInADiaper: Back off. She is taken.

I guess she doesn't want the one I am ready ti offer....

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