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I'm so sorry I've been absent here the season has brought up many emergencies so I've been very busy. I really thank everyone that contributed to the thread. I appreciate your efforts.

just so some things are clear, I'm not cohabiting with her. she came to spend a three weeks break with me (she just finished service).
Also, d going physical thing is this girlish hitting thing you know not like beating me ooo...lol

I've talked to her also in very strong terms. She actually stumbled upon this thread and she has up'd her game much to my pleasure. They say attack is sometimes the best defence.

Thanks y'all....gracias

I've tried talking...it mostly ends up in a stale mate....u know all dat defensive s.hit. she's quite fun to be around with when she's not pissing one off...but I've been serious doubts.

They say love is blind but marriage opens it up. I don't want to have a failed marriage later in life as this my girlfriend cum fiancee is really bringing out the beast in me and I think it's time we called it quits.
I don't want it to seem like I'm over reacting to some things that's why I'm bringing it here for advice because I'm really starting to loose it.

1. When we first started dating, she was pretty cool headed (or maybe she was pretending), and more shapely than she is now. Now she eats every thing she lays her eyes on, she's developed too much belly fat and even looks older than her age. A little caution from me to her and she goes on the defensive. She maybe derives pleasure in making me angry and I've got a temper I try to control. Nothing is too weighty for her so say. At times when we have a disagreement, she makes annoying references to my mother and she wants to be a daughter in law to this same person?

2. She expects me to do everything in the house for her from arranging the house to cooking to and expects me to do it with joy. Yes I can cook, and I don't mind assisting her in the kitchen, but it becomes annoying when she always wants me to cook when she's around and doing nothing. Is this what I'm going to face when we finally get married?? Leaving like a bachelor in my fuk!n marital home? Worse is she never fails to mention she's not my house wife...so maybe when we get married, she would say she's not my slave.

3. Hygiene, and in terms of neatness, she turns me d fuc.k down. Dropping her Bleep!n stained pads all over my house during her period or in my waste bin . Now as a medical practitioner, those things hardly irritate me but what should be done ought to be done and rightly too. I've tried talking to her but there are things a guy doesn't need to tell you if you are a mature lady. If she can't handle herself during her period, what would she teach our daughters when they get to that age? At times during sex, the smell is a turn off but I'm so careful not to hurt her feelings that I don't even tell her.

4. She tends to nag a lot until things go her way. That is my greatest turn off ; she knows it, yet she does it during these sessions she at times goes physical and expects me to lump it. There are times I get so mad I just go out so as not to loose it. I'm strictly against beating women but she's really leading me down that path and I think it doesn't need to degenerate to that extent before we go our separate ways.

These are just some of the things she does and most times when I imagine life with her due to all these her attitude, I get scared.
Or could the fault be with me? Could it be I'm expecting too much from her? Could it be my standards are too high and need to reduce?
Please advise me cos I'm seriously at a loss on what to do again with her and I'm writing with anger shaking every part of my body. I love her but that's not enough for me to condone every thing she does.