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alutacontinua: Stinginess is one of the easiest traits to pick up in anybody.
when you meet a giver, you just know it! They give to any-and-everybody in need around them.
when you meet a stingy person too, it's sooooooo easy to pick up.
Except you dated this guy for a month, you should know beyond reasonable doubt if he's actually stingy or not. It's simple! What's his giving attitude to people in need around him? Friends and relatives included, not only you!


You cannot use this one episode to judge, it could be based on a lot of things. Don't throw away a good man irrationally, but I'll never advise you to marry a TESTED, TRUSTED AND CONFIRMED stingy man either.

He is generous to everyone except me. I find it difficult to demand for things. I've been told I need to ask him fo certain things but I feel he should know what to do without me asking

Abrilla: What do people mean by "God fearing man"

He is a man of God. Not a fake pastor

Chaircover I can see you viewing this thread. Please I really do need your advice. Please

lofty900: you are not having any second thoughts otherwise u wouldn't have gone as far as buying the wedding gown. My question is this, why gossip ur man with ur mom and siblings ? must u run to them and complain about every single thing including how much money ur spending on ur wedding ? Be wise, some ladies sponsor their own weddings and nobody will know about it. Ur man is not stingy, but doesn't want to bear the weight of the wedding alone. I'm sure he paid ur bride price and after the whole thing, u will discover that he has spent much more money than u have. Don't spoil the marriage b4 the wedding day. He who has ears let him hear. happy married life

The list of things he is to buy is just 10. The total amount of money requested for other things in the list is about 10K. My parents refused to request for Bride price

MARKone: I know of a man like that, the only difference is that I don't think he is God fearing

Unlike yours, siblings convinced and cajoled the woman to hang on and manage, it's marriage, he will change. Right now, the woman still wishes she had stuck with her initial decision.

I don't see why he should encourage you to buy your own ring, unless he is financially incapable of doing so, or he is suffering from Stingicocus, which unfortunately is incurable. You dated so you should know better.

Madam na you hol yam, hol knife. Like somebody said you can live with it or you jump and pass. But since you guys have set the wedding plan in motion, you can still go ahead and pray he changes.

And I will advice you do not buy that ring, unless he is willing to refund you the money. It really sound weird.

Honestly, right now, I think I'll jump & pass. I've seen so much in my life & I'd prefer to learn from other people's experiences not mine. The fear of what ppeople will say is the least of my concern

rationalmind: The truth is, nothing we say here will prevent you from going ahead to marry him.

You don't know me & what I am capable of doing

I am getting married soon & my husband-to-be has not & does not intend to give me a dime to make some preparations from my end(of course I got my wedding gown & every other thing I need with my money already). My folks are agitated that as a man, he should @ least spend something for his bride even if not much. Just this evening, we agreed to get our rings seperately 'cos we stay very far apart & he was soooo cool with the arrangement suggesting that I should give him a call before making the purchase, with no talk about how he'd refund me the money(for buying my own ring, not his). This, coupled with the fact that I would be responsible for the wedding cakes (60K) has really made my mum & siblings to be sooo pissed off with me for not taking his 'stinginess' up as a serious issue to be dealt with.

Please note that he is a very God-fearing man
His input towards the general aspects of the wedding include:invitation cards, hall decoration, live-band.

Are my mum & siblings overreacting or am I the one blinded by love? I need objective responses please. You could be saving a life. Thank you

Chanchit: They might be on this thread already, cos they must have more than 2 NL accts.

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