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I know most men will agree that so many women claim to be “good women”. The reality is, only a handful truly fit the mold of being the woman a man truly needs and desires. There are several things that can be pointed out as to why they are not ready and why they continuously find themselves single. So here are the Top 12 Reasons “Good Women” Are Single.

1. Because You Have A Bad Attitude!

You may not like to hear that, but this issue is very real for some women. I’m not trying to be disrespectful in any way, but I want to make my point very clear. You have so many women that walk around with a nasty, stuck up attitude and they have the audacity to wonder why they struggle with finding the right man. Some of them will attempt to cover it up by proclaiming to be a “diva”, too “classy”, or that they are just speaking their mind. In reality you just have a bad attitude. Some people might say, well I see plenty of women like that married or in relationships. Don’t be fooled, she wasn’t completely showing that side in the beginning, why? Because she was being deceptive with hiding it. Either way, being a negative person isn’t going to help you find love. Most of the men may still go after you for sex, but if you learn to fix that attitude then you will start to attract the right kind of man in your life.

2. You Blame Men For Everything

That is why some of you are still single. You refuse to make yourself accountable for your actions. Everything is a man’s fault, and according to you, once they “act right” then you will have no problem falling in line. First off, I agree that men have contributed so much to the issues in relationships and women in general. We as men do have a responsibility to step up and do better. The thing is, if you aren’t willing to “step up” as well, then we will continue to have an issue, and you will continue to find yourself by yourself.

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At the end of the day, you control how you handle things. If you are not prepared to look in the mirror then you will never realize the flaws you have and that need improvement. So next time you want to put it all on men, check yourself, and accept that you have a choice to do better and truly be one of the “good women” out there.



3. You Think Your Looks Will Carry You Through Life

Ok so you’re beautiful and have a nice body, great! Problem is, if a man talks to you and finds out that there is nothing else to you then why would he bother wanting to make you his woman. He will still want sex (sex is always an option for men) but that’s it. Men may be more superficial than women, but most of us still want a woman who has some kind of personality. Make yourself a more well-rounded fun individual and more men will want to make you their own.

4. You Are A Gold Digger

Ok maybe you aren’t exactly on that level, but you have made how much he makes your top priority. You are so caught up in dollar signs that you overlook the things that are truly important to having and maintaining a relationship. Realize that most men are not rich, so right there you immediately make it harder for yourself to find the right guy.

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Even if a guy has money, if he sees that’s what you are mainly about he won’t take you seriously. I’m not saying date broke men, but I am saying that money should not be your main motivator. Have better priorities and you will find yourself in better relationships.

5. You Don’t Keep Yourself Up

Not that you have to get your nails and hair done every 2 weeks (though some of us do like that) but you can’t always look raggedy either. I mean damn, some of you ladies just put no real effort into how you look. Not everyone has the same style, but good hygiene and health should be a goal for all. Most of us want our woman to look good. As I stated earlier we men are a bit more superficial than women, so to grab and keep our attention you need to be mindful of how you present yourself. You know where you can improve your look, so get started on it if you want to increase your chances of going from being one of the single “good women” to one of the taken “good women”.

6. Sex Has Been Your Downfall!

I personally believe it is best to wait, but the reality is that most of us have or will engage in sex before we are married. As a woman if you chose to do that, then understand that your “skills” or lack thereof will impact a man’s willingness to make you his woman. Unfortunately a lot of women think they are good but really the experience was nothing to talk about. Women are quick to talk about a man’s performance while neglecting the fact that they could use a lot of improvement as well.

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It doesn’t take as much to please most men sexually, so be more open to ways you can improve if you choose to take that route (best to just wait).

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Source:http://www.don9ja.com/2017/04/28/the-main-reasons-why-good-women-are-single/

Why women cry during s*x: When you imagine having s*x that you’re totally into, crying probably isn’t part of the picture.
But sometimes when you’re in the middle of doing the deed, your emotions take over and you suddenly find tears leaking out of your eyes. You might feel surprised depending on the situation, but being overcome with feelings during the act is actually pretty normal, even when you actively want to have s*x.

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Here, 7 women show as much by sharing the reasons they’ve cried during s*x.
Some are heartbreaking while others are incredibly sweet, but all of them prove that there’s absolutely nothing wrong with getting emotional during that. Sometimes, you’ve just got to let it out.

1. Because of confusing an*l s*x-induced feelings.
“I was having anal thing with my boyfriend of two years. We were slightly tipsy after a few glasses of wine, and it was only the second or third time we’d tried it.

A few minutes in, I burst into tears, and not from pain. I started crying because I wasn’t sure if I felt degraded or not, and if I did feel degraded, then I was actually enjoying it.

It was a strange feeling, and I was shocked by my own tears. My boyfriend immediately wrapped me in his arms and asked if I was OK. I said yes and started laughing, so he joined in. Needless to say, the mood was somewhat ruined, but I can confirm there have been no tears since.” —Thea C., 21

2. Because her partner cheated.
“One morning, a woman slid into my Instagram DMs and told me she and my ‘boyfriend’—I use that term loosely—had been sleeping

together and dating each other for a couple months.
I didn’t sleep with him for over a month after I found out, and the first time I did, I began to cry shortly after we began.

I was thinking about him with the other woman and the qualities she had that I didn’t. We broke up about a week after that incident
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The crying made me realize this guy hurt me to my core. I’d wondered throughout our year-long courtship whether or not he really cared for me. At the moment I started crying, I said to myself, ‘Nope he doesn’t.’”—Talisha H., 28

4. Because of a surprise breakup.

“It was senior year of college, and my then-boyfriend and I hadn’t talked about graduation at all. He was walking me to a meeting I was attending, and all of a sudden he told me he wasn’t sure if he loved me enough to date me forever.

I had no idea he had doubts, and I started uncontrollably sobbing in the middle of the meeting. Later on, he came over to my place and started kissing my bre@sts, clearly wanting to have s3x, and I started crying again.


I knew we weren’t going to be together, and I loved him so much. At some point, I stopped crying, and we finished doing that thing. It’s OK now, though. I’m so not attracted to him, I’d rather get intimate with a comforter.” —Monica T., 25

5. Because of physical pain and emotional frustration.
“I suffer from v@g!nismus, a condition where penetrative interc0urse is painful. I was having s*x with my boyfriend and experiencing pain and discomfort when I started crying.
Not from the physical pain, but from the complications and frustrations that came along with the experience that was supposed to be magical and pleasant.

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While my partner was experiencing those very feelings, I was simultaneously conflicted, in pain, and unhappy. I couldn’t help killing the mood with some tears. When he noticed, he was alarmed and rushed to comfort me, trying his best to understand what it was I was feeling. This, to me, felt most intimate of all.” —Sarah L., 23

6. Because it was really, truly over.
“A year after my ex and I mutually broke up, we were having s*x. We did everything we used to do, but we knew it would be the last time.

I broke up into tears. It was pretty obvious from my side—I have always been touchy with emotional stuff. He asked me for the reason behind my tears, but I was silent. He asked again, and I kept on with my closed lips. He then understood my silence and broke into tears himself.” —Anukriti

7. Because it was time to go back to long-distance dating.

“My boyfriend and I are in a long-distance relationship, and we had just gotten back home from our first trip abroad.

The vacation really cemented how head over heels I was for him, and being together for over a week was like a dream.
When we landed in my Midwest city, we were going to spend one last night together before he headed back to the West Coast and we wouldn’t see each other for weeks.

As we had s3x, I was honestly overwhelmed by how much I loved him and how much I didn’t want him to leave, so I started crying.
I tried to keep it subtle, but he realized. At first he was scared he hurt me, but when I explained, he wiped my tears away and comforted me.

Then we continued on having amazing stuff. Swoon.” —Kimberly C

Source:http://www.don9ja.com/2017/04/11/7-reasons-why-women-cry-during-sx-1-is-nothing-but-the-truth-must-see/

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1.Understand your woman

Many men today don’t take time to figure what it is that their ladies really want. They assume sex is like a pair of socks or face cap or all such items that have the ‘one size fits all’ tag. Wrong! For you to score those awesome points in bed, you need to know your lady in and out. Take time to ask her about things that turn her on and find fun ways to make these things come alive.


There are different strokes for different folks. Some ladies get turned on by listening to Rock Music, others get turned on by having mild liquor, chocolate and stuff. Some others are turned on by beards and facial hair, others by the smell of male cologne and bla bla. The onus is on you to discover her deepest fantasies and go right on to make those happen.

2.MouthAction IS MAGICALMAGICAL

Men should master the act of giving their women a proper good sexual feeling by giving ‘the head’. Bite gently, lick softly, and penetrate the honey pot with the tongue if you desire to get the bell in her head ringing.

3.FOCUS ON HER BOOBS

However good your sex game is the moment you forget to stimulate your woman’s breasts and nipples, you stand to lose out on the core of things. Take your time to work her body, let your hands and tongue be active as crazy. Even when you get under and penetrate, still maintain contact with the lofty pair of boobs; cup them, squeeze mildly and tickle the nipples and be sure to get her to a faster, bigger orgasm.


4.TALK DIRTY RAW & DIRTY WITH HER

I doubt this requires any explanations for all the grown folks out there. If in doubt, take a few shots of your favorite liquor and let things take a natural order…

5.FIND AND TICKLE HER center of gravity

Doggy style is your best bet to hitting her center of gravity. But then again there’s a new approach to this: Get her to lower herself on her elbows instead of her palms, then thrust in with gentle strokes initially; and then work it into a faster, rhythmic penetration. As you get into her like this, you are certain to hit and stimulate the center of gravity.

6.GENTLY BITE HER EAR AND NECK


Her ears and the neck regions beneath them can be super sensitive, so if you know how to nibble on these parts you are sure to get her extra in the zone, and on your way to a great orgasm.

7.TAKE THE LEAD

Many men don’t understand that the phrase ‘ladies first’ doesn’t apply in all aspects of life, especially in between the sheets. This is Africa, how do you expect a lady to make the first move when as a society we have all the many stereotypes within us? Not gonna happen! You don’t want the impression that your woman is a LovePeddler, neither does she want to come off as one; so the simple thing is get in the driver’s seat and steer the vessel. Easy as ABC!


Women like to be pampered, forget all that feminism talk you hear on twitter but they really intend for their men to take ABSOLUTE control of things, especially in bed. So, initiate the idea; make the first moves, put your mouth here and there, take her hands and slide them in and out of places, unbutton this, unzip that and boom! You already know.

8.TEASE HER BEFORE THE REAL DEAL

It is often said that the anticipation of something is better than actually getting it. Think of when you were saving for your first car, your first gold necklace, your first trip abroad and all that stuff. Do you remember how it felt as you neared your target? Do you remember how it made you sleepless during the night till you finally achieved it and it didn’t mean so much anymore? Exactly. That’s how sex also feels. In truth, chances are many guys will never be able to get their ladies into great, multiple orgasms. But then again the feeling of getting her mind build into pleasurable fantasies can be really great for you and could serve as a catalyst for great sex.

9.BE PRESENT & EXPLORE POSITIONS

Don’t just take off her clothes and do the pedestrian stuff every other day. Nah. In popular Twitter parlance, not every time do missionary, sometimes have quickie in the kitchen or in the car with seat reclined, AC and windows up. Banging!

10.READ THIS ALL OVER AGAIN

Now, go out there and have an amazeball ‘sexperience’. Also, if you know anything we have omitted here, feel free to drop us a comment or two. Enjoy!

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1. Watch an er*tic French soft-P0*n movie. You may not understand the language but the actions will speak for themselves…
2. Ask him to give you a sensual massage – with a twist. Use aromatherapy oil but leave it in the fridge overnight so when he applies it to your skin it’ll feel extra-sensitive and tingly.


3. Play out your striptease fantasy – wear anything with buttons or zips and slooowlyundress (keep your heels on). Edge very close to him but don’t let him touch you. It’ll either make you laugh or make you both very hot. Either way, great s*x will follow.

4. Pour honey, melted chocolate or Nutella on all your sensitive erogenous spots (br**sts, neck, stomach, thighs, lips). Blindfold him, and get him to lick you all over your body until he finds the sweet surprise. (*Obvious disclaimer here about checking temperatures of melted things before applying to body*).

5. When he’s going down on you, let him work from below. You sit on all fours, and have him lie underneath you on his back – giving you oral from a different angle will create all sorts of new sensations.


6. Scream as loud as you possibly can while you’re getting it on – it’ll rev you both up – and it’ll definitely turn him on, knowing that his pleasure skills are working.
http://www.don9ja.com/2017/04/05/6-super-sexy-naughty-things-you-need-to-try-in-bed-tonight/

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With the times changing, not getting married until you reach thirty seems to be the new norm. The times when people got married in their early twenties are long gone apparently. The societal pressure of getting married fizzling out gradually is undoubtedly a boon, no denying that. But, there are more than one reasons why getting married early is not such a bad decision after all. While waiting till you’re well settled before you marry makes total sense, tying the knot earlier has its own benefits. Breaking the common myth that tying the knot early puts a full stop to your life, here are 11 reasons why it is actually a good decision.

1. First things first, there is no perfect time. Marriage is a big decision and you will still be as clueless when you are forty as you are right now. There will never come a time when you feel you’re ‘ready for it’. Waiting for it will only make you lose out on what you could have right now. If you’ve found the right person already, maybe, it is time to take the plunge.

2. When you marry early, there is no pressure to have kids anytime in the near future. The first few years of the marriage can be spent in bliss without any undue pressure about bearing children since there is a long way to go before your wife’s body clock starts ticking. You can travel all you want and live life ‘young’ – just the way you want to. Marrying in your late twenties takes away that liberty.

3. Admit it or not, your twenties are the most exciting years of your life. Once gone, it never comes back. You want your significant other to be a part of that glorious phase in your life too. Getting married early opens up a whole new world for the couple where they discover a hundred new firsts every day, together. Your first overseas trip, your first day at that dream job, the day you buy your first car – you want it to experience with the woman you love, don’t you?

4. Needless to say, honeymoons are much more fun when you’re young. You can go out partying and get sloshed, you can set out on a day long trek, you don’t have to constantly worry about ‘acting your age’ – it is like going out on a trip with your ‘girlfriend’ all over again. It is edgy and exciting. You don’t want to be one of those boring couples who have no capacity left for alcohol and no enthusiasm for anything else either!

5. Remember how your dad carried you around on his shoulders all the time when you were a kid and how he was your first best friend? Every man wants to give his kids the same childhood. You want to be the one who teaches your son how to play Cricket and his daughter, how to ride a bicycle. You want to be their superhero. And, that can’t happen when you’re a middle aged man with a paunch who is diagnosed with a new ailment every day. You want to be the ‘young dad’ your kids love to play with!


6. Making a career, looking after a whole house, providing your family with the best of everything is no easy feat. Having to fend for your kids even after you retire from your job makes it worse. You don’t want to be struggling all your life. Your kids should ideally be old enough to look after themselves by the time you retire for the sake of financial stability of the household, and that is highly unlikely when you get married anytime after thirty.

7. You’re more adaptable and adjusting when you’re young. There are more chances of your marriage working when you’re tolerant and understanding towards each other. Once you’re already well settled and have figured out everything on your own, it gets difficult for you to make compromises and for someone else to adjust with you.

8. When you marry, you come of age. You become responsible at a considerably young age, which not just reflects in your married life, but even in your career. You no longer live a paycheque to paycheque life. Your savings get a huge kick-start. The decisions you make are no longer short-sighted and you learn how to deal with even the most difficult situations in life. What’s more? You have a constant support by your side all that while.

9. Early twenties is the time when you come the closest to yourself and get drawn the farthest from your family. Marriage revives that bond. You begin to attend family dinners without having to compromise on those drunken nights with friends. You’re as close to your family as you’re connected with your best friends. That not only makes you realize the importance of your parents, but also strengthens you emotionally.

10.Younger parents are cooler parents. Not only would you be a better father to your kids, they will trust you as the parent who ‘understands them’. The emotional gap between a father and a child bridges much faster and you become their friends.

Source:http://www.don9ja.com/2017/03/29/10-reasons-why-getting-married-early-is-the-best-decision/

It’s not just the love you feel — it’s the openness with which you share it, and in what ways you show up to express it. Here are ten ways you can tell that you have found someone who really knows how to love you.

1. They will love you without condition.

Real love comes without any expectations. You don’t have anything to prove, nothing to win. Yes, at the beginning of a love affair, you’re trying to entice and impress each other, but as time goes on there’s no need to perform in order to make love last.

2. They will listen — really listen.

This is a big one. Real listening means that you throw your own agenda out the window and really absorb what the person is saying, without judgment. It’s not always easy to do, but truly loving someone means being able to be there for them through thick and thin, and being a good, empathetic confidant.


3. They will love you for who you are, not an idealized version of what they want a partner to be.

The day I realized that my husband will never remember to do certain things without a reminder or two (or three), I felt my love deepen for him a little. It sounds counter-intuitive, but when I realized that I couldn’t change him — and just needed to find a way to work with who he was — I could appreciate all the things he could do for me and our family. It helps that he will happily do housework, but just can’t remember to do it on his own.

4. They will give you space.

At the beginning of a relationship, it’s normal to be inseparable, to want to do every last thing together. But there comes a point where each partner needs some space. When and how this happens varies from person to person and one relationship to another.

But since real love means letting your partner be his or herself, you need to respect your partner’s need for independence and the autonomy to sometimes do things withoutwithout you.

5. They will fight for you.


When you’re having a down-and-out day, your partner will be the first one to remind you how incredibly awesome you are. Your partner will be your biggest defender against conflicts with others. They will remind you of the strength you forgot you had, and give you the fighting words when you’re too upset to find them yourself.

6. They will hang on during the storms.

Conflicts in relationships are natural, but when left to fester they can destroy relationships. Fighting is normal, and healthy. Fights are opportunities to work through stuff. But someone who truly loves you will never stay angry. He or she will work through the anger to get to the other side — that other side being a deeper understanding and mutual respect.

7. They will admit when they’re being a jerk.

Someone who never admits when he or she has made a mistake isn’t going to be able to love authentically. Loving means being vulnerable, and owning it when you’ve been a bona fide schmuck.

8. They will call you out on your bullsh*t.

My husband knows me well and isn’t afraid to tell me when my “baggage” is rearing its ugly head. In the moment, I want to strangle him, but ultimately, I love him for calling me out on my crap (and, of course, loving me anyway)


9. They will make you feel beautiful.

In our 22 years together, we’ve gone from being fresh-faced teenagers to exhausted parents pushing 40. But I STILL can’t change my clothes in front of my husband without him getting all oogly-eyed and silly. Now that’s love.

10. They will make you feel safe.

It goes without saying that a partner who’s physically or verbally abusive needs to be kicked to the curb. But all partners should give you a sense of safety. Usually it’s a pretty intuitive thing. You just know when you can trust someone, and this is solidified when they demonstrate that trust to you throughout the relationship.

Source:http://www.don9ja.com/2017/03/26/10-ways-the-right-person-will-love-you/

A busty lady is like every other lady, but guys never see her as every other lady.

A busty lady gets guy’s attention too easily, and she can’t present herself as a platonic friend.


She is very limited to the kind of clothes she can wear if she doesn’t want to be called a whoooree

She can’t go into lots of sports like running, jumping, swimming if she doesn’t want all eyes on her.

She can’t receive gifts from guys without the guy wanting goodies from her.

She can’t easily establish platonic relationship with guys, they will want to have sex with her or smooch her bust.

She can’t hug to avoid making the guy Hot

She can’t sleep face down to avoid pains and falling of boobs

She hates her body and is usually shy and ashamed of her big bust

She doesn’t like the fact that they are too big while other girls pray they have more.


Why do guys always feel the urge to squeeze it, what exactly is responsible for this,
what is that force that’s pushing a guy to want to touch it,
even when we know its just fat and flesh and muscle that’s in it?

Why do guy’s eye always wander around that area?

I am saying these from the perception of a guy.

If u are a busty lady, tell us what you go through.

Source:http://www.don9ja.com/2017/03/11/the-pains-of-a-busty-lady/

For your own safety, make sure you avoid doing these three things anytime you finish having s*x.

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A Gynecologist Leslie E. F. Page, M.D. Women’s Health has revealed in details the three things you should never do after s*x for your own safefysafefy

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“When the vaginal tissues have been lubricated, swollen, and rubbed against during intercourse, it changes how that tissue reacts to the environment. Primarily, you run a much greater risk of infection.” Leslie said.
According to The Sun, here are the three things to Leslie enumerated you must avoid after having s*x.
1. Soaping up
While you may feel the need to ‘freshen’ up after doing the deed – make sure you don’t use soap.
Lathering up your nether-regions will soapy products can cause irritation and you may even experience an allergic reaction.

“The vagina is a self-cleaning organ, and needs to be treated very, very gently—if you wouldn’t put it in your mouth, you shouldn’t put it in or around your v*gina,” adds Leslie.
If you do feel the need to wash – just use water.
2. Getting in a hot tub
Enjoying a post-coital soak in a hot tub may sound like an enjoyable, romantic experience – but it’s bad news for your lady bits.
“When your vulva swells in response to $exual stimulation, it reveals the opening of the v*gina, which means you have a greater chance of infection,” said Leslie.

READ ALSO 10 Things You Should Never Post On Facebook About Your Relationship

“If you’re in a hot tub with your partner, that means you’re exposed to the bacteria on his skin and anus.”
3. Not weeing
Going for a wee after s*x isn’t just an old wives’ tale – it really is important.
Popping to the loo helps to clear away any bacteria that may have been pushed into your vagina mid-bonk.
Bacteria is bad news as it can lead to bladder infections – so try and nip to the loo within an hour after having s*x.

Source:http://www.don9ja.com/2017/03/20/2620/

It might have been a huge blow-up where you and your partner both said awful, hurtful words. It could have been a slow-building tension that brought coldness and distance. The effects are the same… your relationship feels like it has collapsed. The strong foundation of trust, communication, respect, and even love has been shaken and feels destroyed.

You might be very upset, not sleeping or eating well and fearful about your future. You may also be feeling justified about what you’ve said or done. After all, your partner did something awful!

When your relationship has fallen apart, try this:
1. Be honest with yourself about what happened.

The first thing we recommend you do after a relationship collapse is to assess the state of your union. If your mind is racing ahead to what you think the future might hold or to what you guess your partner will do next, stop. If you’re replaying in your mind your version of what went down between you two, stop. Slow down your thinking and, instead, get very clear about literally what happened.

This is going to be your biased perspective, so be as choosy as you can about what you believe is true. Think about what was actually said and the actions that really happened. Go with observations and verifiable information when at all possible.

If, for example, you’re “sure” about your partners intentions or feelings, ask yourself if you really know this. Keep returning to what was said, what was done, and how you feel about it.

2. Be honest with yourself about what’s in your best interest.

Next, we invite you to consider the wisdom of repairing your relationship. We do NOT think that people should throw away a perfectly good relationship just because mistakes (even big mistakes) were made or an argument happened.

But, we also know how important it is to make conscious choices about one’s life…this includes the conscious choice to stay in or to leave a relationship.

Think about what is in your best interest. Think about where you stand right now with your partner and also about where you want to go in the future. Remind yourself that you deserve to have the relationship you truly want.

It’s also helpful to review what you know about your partner’s actions and stated intentions.

For instance, if your partner had an affair, get clear about whether or not the affair has actually ended. If it hasn’t, do you have any indication that your mate is planning to stop cheating? If he or she has vowed to end the affair but has done nothing to follow through, consider that as well.

The decision to stay in or leave a relationship is yours to make.

3. Be willing to own your role.

You’ve probably heard the saying that it takes “two to tango.” As uncomfortable as it is to admit, this is almost always true. What your partner said or did may have been a huge betrayal, but there is probably a role you also played in the relationship collapse. With gentleness and self-love, try to determine what your role was and is.

This isn’t about you taking the blame or being the only one at fault for what happened. That’s not helpful either! This is about you owning the part in your relationship that contributed to the collapse.


This might have been your tendency to say “yes” even when you mean “no.” This may be your habit of jumping to conclusions or to shutting down and withdrawing when things got tense. Find out what your role is and ask yourself if you are willing to make some changes.

4. Take your next best step.

The advice we’ve given you so far has all been what we call “advance work.” This is vital if you truly want to repair the damage of the relationship collapse. It is rarely a wise idea to rush to any action without taking some amount of time to get clear within yourself about where you stand, what your role is, and what is beneficial for you.

When couples have the same argument or they break up and reunite over and over again, it’s often because neither of them has done the advance work. They are merely repeatedly reacting to one another and building up even more hostility and pain. As you do the advance work we’ve recommended, you’re going to begin to know what is your next best step.

This might not be an action or decision that you are necessarily happy or comfortable with, but it will feel certain and right for you. Your next best step might be to offer your partner a heartfelt apology, to set a firm boundary, or to seek help from a professional.


Whatever it is, take your next step and keep checking in with yourself as you take another and another. This is the way to rebuild trust and connection and to re-discover your love for one another.

Source:http://www.don9ja.com/2017/02/24/things-to-do-went-your-relationship-has-fallen-apart/[url]

When a relationship comes to an end, the process of healing and moving on hopefully begins. The person you’re trying to let go of may be a recent part of your love life or an old flame. Now comes the task of wiping the slate clean, so you’ll be ready when a new partner enters your life.

Here are 15 practices that will help you leave the past behind:

1. Keep a realistic perspective of the person. Everyone has strengths and weaknesses, and every relationship has good and bad times. Acknowledging both assures you that your old love was not, in fact, ideal.

2. Clean your emotional house. Honestly inventory the strong feelings left over–pain, anger, regret–and then take time to heal. Proven techniques for doing that abound. Find the ones that make sense to you and get to work.

3. Clean your physical house. You might still have reminders of the relationship you’re trying to leave behind — photographs, mementos, and letters. Boxing them up can have a cleansing effect, a signal to your subconscious mind that a new beginning is underway.

4. Burn the bridge completely. If you know the relationship with your ex is truly over, then there’s nothing to gain from trying to be “just friends” or other variations. The best break is a clean break.

5. Watch your language. Meaning, watch how much you talk about your old relationship. The more your ex’s name comes out of your mouth, the more that person stays in your thoughts.

6. Close anything left open-ended. Whether they left your life weeks ago or years ago, you might have things you still need to say, amends you need to make, items you should have returned, or feelings you want to convey. Bring closure by taking care of what you need to.

7. Turn off the instant replay. Your mind can get stuck reliving the past, either adding fuel to your smoldering anger or romanticizing your memories. Either way, remember that you have sole possession of the remote control and can choose to direct your thoughts elsewhere.

8. Get involved in new activities. The process of leaving an old love behind is helped greatly by finding new pursuits that bring you joy, especially those that connect you with interesting people.


9. Resist the urge to follow the person via social media. Yes, of course you want to know what they’re up to! But if you really want to get that person out of your head, don’t fill it with current images and updates.

10. Tighten your ship. Let the breakup be an opportunity for honest self-assessment — so you’re that much better prepared for your next relationship. Are you a little too controlling? Argumentative? Clingy? Now’s the time to deal with it.

11. Forgive your ex. Holding a grudge ties you to the past, keeping you psychologically connected to the person and experiences you are trying to put behind you. Let it go — and set yourself free.

12. Forgive yourself. It’s just as likely you’ve said and done things yourself along the way you are not proud of — and equally important to put them behind you.


13. Practice gratitude. One time-honored way to move on from the past is to replace negative thoughts with positive ones. Like magic, the words “I am thankful for …” will empower you to step forward.

14. Activate your support group. Enlist trusted friends and family to your cause, people who will inspire excitement about the future.

15. Expect new love to appear at any moment. Looking ahead with anticipation will help you stop looking back with longing. Romance can appear anywhere, anytime. Your job is to be fresh and ready when it does — not stuck in the past.

Source:http://www.don9ja.com/2017/02/24/15-ways-to-get-an-old-love-out-of-your-head/

Setting emotional boundaries is the key to a healthy relationship, but it isn’t always easy to do when you’re so focused on another person’s needs and wants. To make sure you’re still taking care of yourself, follow these essential pieces of boundary-setting advice from three “SuperSoul” guests who have learned the hard way.


1. Say “no” ― without offering explanations or excuses.
As television producer Shonda Rhimes puts it, “’No’ is a complete sentence.” Though many of us are wired to run through reasons why we can’t, won’t or don’t want to do something, Rhimes says she has learned that we are not required to defend our “nicehood.”

2. Don’t let people that don’t matter too much matter too much.When it comes to making decisions ― large or small ― there’s always this universal fact no matter what you decide: You won’t please everyone. That’s why best-selling author Wes Moore suggests not letting people who don’t matter, matter. “The decision that you make is not going to impact them, nor [should] anything they do … impact you,” he says.


3. Don’t make someone else’s “crazy” about you.
In her childhood, life coach Iyanla Vanzant believed her grandmother’s meanness was somehow all about Iyanla herself ― and many of us have a tendency take on other people’s problems like this, she says. Don’t get swept away by someone else’s story. “You’ve got your own stuff to handle,” Iyanla says. “You don’t have to take on anybody else’s.”


Source:http://www.don9ja.com/2017/03/01/3-boundaries-you-must-set-in-your-relationships/

Apart from the fact that it makes people uncomfortable around you, having body odour can be a sign of serious medical problem.

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Body odour comes in all smells – whether it be pungent from that garlic mayonnaise you lathered over your sandwich at lunch or lovely from that spritz of perfume.
Sometimes they are pleasant, and more often than not they are not so nice.
However, while we may think odours are a natural part of life, here are five that could point to something a bit more sinister.
1. Smelly feet could be a sign of Athlete’s Foot
If you can’t stand the smell of your feet when you take off your sneakers or any of your shoes, this is not a good sign.
A fungal infection may to be blame for the rancidity. If the smell is coupled with dry skin around your toes along with redness and blisters, you may have athlete’s foot.
This odour would be caused by a combination of bacteria and fungus eroding into the webs between your toes. If ignored, the skin between your toe webs become excessively soft and an easier point for bacteria to enter.
2. If your urine smells particularly strong this could be due to a UTI
If you have never experienced a UTI, count yourself lucky. UTIs are decidedly the worst.
A UTI happens when bacteria gets into your bladder through your urethra and multiplies, causing the lining of your urinary tract to swell up.
The symptoms that follow are constant urges to urinate, pelvic pain and a burning sensation when you pee. Their pee also has a stronger smell.
While UTIs are more common in women than men, both $exes can get them. When you do get a UTI you need to see a doctor right away as it could lead to a kidney infection or be a sign of kidney stones or diabetes.
3. If your breath smells fruity, this may be a symptom of Diabetes
When your body runs low on insulin, causing your blood sugar to spike this can cause diabetic ketoacidosis, a complication of diabetes.
The reason for the fruity breath is because the body cannot create the energy it needs to function properly and so it begins to break down the fatty acids to use as fuel. This causes acidic chemicals called ketones to build up in your blood and one of these acids – acetone – can cause the fruity smell of your breath.
4. Lactose Intolerance may be the reason why your poop smells
Lactose intolerance occurs when someone has the decreased ability to digest lactose – a sugar found in dairy products – because their small intestine doesn’t produce enough of an enzyme called lactase.
An estimated 65% of people have trouble digesting dairy according to the US National Institute of Health and this can cause smelly gas and poop along with stomach cramping, nausea and diarrhoea.
5. Bad breath? You might have Sleep Apnea
If you consistently brush you teeth, yet your morning breath is still something to beheld, you may have undiagnosed sleep apnea. This is a disorder that can cause you to sporadically stop and start breathing while you sleep.
Symptoms of sleep apnea include loud, persistent snoring, waking up with a sore throat, stopping breathing followed by a gasping sensation and lack of energy during the day.
Because of the dry, sore throat, this can allow bacteria to breed and when specific strains of bacteria multiply, they produce a smell akin to a rotten egg.

Source:http://www.don9ja.com/2017/02/11/five-5-body-odours-that-could-be-a-sign-of-a-serious-medical-issue-warning/

Everybody always claims to be in a relationship but the truth is..some people are confused where their own will lead them to, what does the future hold for both of them. The girl sometimes out of fear, keeps her relationship open because she doesnt trust if her boy friend will actually end up marrying her especially when she loves him. So long your boy friend is not a pretender, I think these hints below may really help you a bit or to an extent if your boy friend has really come to stay or hit-and-run type.

1. SEX IS NOT A PRIORITY:
If your boy friend meets you as a virgin and never disturbs or pressures you over having sex with you or giving him your virginity, it means he has really come to stay. Initially, you told him you wont have sex till marriage even when you didnt mean it but just to try him yet his love for you never for one day changes, instead he encourages you..i think its an evidence that he loves you as a wife. If he meets you when you are no longer a virgin and can stay with you in same room for 2 or 3 days without being all about sex if you are the type that visits and stays for some days or doesnt demand sex whenever you come if you are the type that visits on a daily bases, I think its enough to believe that he wants not just sex but your company also.


2. HE SPENDS MORE ON YOUR EDUCATION:
He may not really be a rich guy but when it comes to your education, he will have money and spend it on it even when he doesnt spend much on you like that often. He sees you worthy to invest on to secure your future because he also sees it as his own future. Even as a rich guy, you notice he spends more on your education than other things about you. This is because he wants you not just to look good only but also to be somebody tomorrow and for him no to have any reason not to marry you.

3. HE SEEMS VERY JEALOUS:
His jealousness is not that he doesnt trust you. He trusts you, he just doesnt want others to tell you what he tells you or others to feel what he feels for you. He doesnt want to have this imagination that someone will be sleeping with or touching his wife. He sees you as his wife already even when you are not and you know someone feels hurts when someone sleeps with his wife.

4. HE TRIES TO KNOW MORE ABOUT YOUR FAMILY:
He always asks about your family, he tries to know how many brothers and sisters you have, what they do, how many are married and how many are single. What your parents do..its not as if he wants to know how rich or poor your family is, he is only trying to have the picture of the kind of family he wants or wishes to marry from.


5. HE HIDES NOTHING FROM YOU:
The reason why he hides nothing from you is because he believes that whatever he hides from you that you will definitely know when he marries you, so what does he gain in hiding something you will stil know tomorrow. He tells you what he likes and finds out what you like too. He tells you his life styles, his bad habits, things he can never do without and so on. He also tells you what he does for a living, sometimes he waits for you to ask in other to know if you would ask because he cant just start telling you unless you ask to avoid seeing him as someone who brags.

6. HE TRIES TO CHANGE CERTAIN THINGS ABOUT YOU:
Nobody has ever met someone and liked or loved everything about the person. He will always try to change the ones he feels he can change even though they say you should not try to change someone but in this case, he wants to be happy with his marriage. When he changes the ones he can change about you, he will start learning on how to adjust, live and cope with the ones he cant change. Its because of this trying to change certain things about you that sometimes your relationship with him seems to exprience ups and downs but at the end, peace, understanding and joy will come into existence.

7. HE SEEMS NOT TO SPEND MUCH ON YOU:
To you, you will think he doesnt spend much on you. We all know that there are guys that when they see a girl and wish to sleep with her, they will spend so much on her to get her to the extent that you will say..wow!..what a cheerful person. In his mind, he spends because he has a mission and once the mission is accomplished, he leaves or stops spending, some girls will understand or have exprienced this. There is no guy that will be dating a girl he wants to marry and just be spending on her like a fool, any guy who does that has a mission. When a guy who loves and wishes to marry you is dating you, he will be moderate on spending. This is because he will like to find out if all you want is his money or love and he cant find the answer by spending extravagantly on you. He will keep it slow, moderate and steady. He also believes that the more he saves now, the better he takes care of you tomorrow as his wife which is more important.

8. HE TRIES TO KNOW ALL ABOUT YOU:
Knowing all about you ranges from knowing what you like most, what you like doing most, what you like eating most, your favourite colour, your favourite food, your weak point, what gets you angry, what makes you happy, how you see and understand things, how you handle things when angered, how many children you like to have as a wife and so on. He is not being too inquisitive, he is only trying to know if he can cope with your type or not because marrying someone is not like dating somene. If he has no plan for future with you, he wont care t know some of these things.


9. HE ADORES HOW YOU ARE:
He adores how you are presently and will also adore how you will be in future especially when you tell him that your mum used to be slim and now she is fat..meaning that you may be fat too and he stil doesnt see it as anything. He tries to make your relationship attain that peak comfort level in which both of you will know and appreciate everything about each other.

10. HE LETS YOU KNOW WHEN YOU OFFEND HIM:
He wont bear grudges for you or keep records of what you do to him. When you offend him, he will let you know by reacting to it and make you understand that he doesnt like what you did. Its not like he is hot-tempered, he just wants you to understand and for you to try not to repeat it. Someone who doesnt have any intention of marrying you will say whats his business with what you do when you offend him afterall, is he going to marry you but someone who wishes to marry you will try to prevent such from happening next time and the only way to do that is by letting you know when you offend him. A hit and run type never feels offended, he will always be saying..its just a matter of time.

Source:http://www.don9ja.com/2017/02/16/10-signs-to-know-if-your-boy-friend-wishes-to-marry-you/

How can I express love on valentine day.
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How can I express love on valentine day.
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Lately, your relationship has felt rocky, at best. You’re “not sure where this is going.” Before you break it off with your significant other, ask yourself the following questions:

1. Am I just angry?

Before you make a decision to end things, make sure you’re initiating a breakup for the right reasons. Don’t impulsively call it quits. Slow down and evaluate: Is this decision purely an emotional one? Wait until you’re calm and can carefully weigh your breakup motivation. It’s easy to give up when you’re exhausted or in the middle of unresolved conflict.

2. Can we work it out?

Can you two work it out? Also important, do you want to work it out? Is there anything about this relationship that’s worth salvaging? Even if you’re still unsure about your commitment to the relationship, try to pursue healthy conflict resolution. Talk about your concerns, voice your needs, and apologize for your role in the current situation. Listen to your partner and respect how he/she is feeling.

If you can resolve — or at least calmly address — conflict, you can better assess the future direction of your relationship. You might discover that you’re both still willing to fight for each other and give the relationship another chance. (But even if you still end things, at least it’s not in the middle of a fight.)

3. Am I jumping to conclusions?

When times get tough, it’s easy for the mind to drift to fantasyland. Don’t get caught up in the “grass is greener” games, concluding that life will be better once you re-enter the land of singleness. Don’t assume your current state of unhappiness is solely the fault of the relationship. (What happens if you break up and you’re still unsatisfied?) Nor should you leap to conclusions about the relationship just because a friend’s doomed relationship had a few parallels to yours. Try to take things at face value, not jumping ahead, exaggerating situations, or daydreaming your conflicts away.

4. Did I communicate openly about what I need?

If you initiate a breakup, will it catch your significant other off-guard? Don’t let a breakup spill from pent-up bitterness and resentment. Let the “Should we break up?” question motivate you to talk openly about your needs, desires and concerns. Instead of blaming your partner for your restlessness, communicate that you’re itching for adventure. Instead of just secretly wishing for change, you might end up pursuing the things you love with your loved one’s enthusiastic support. Choose communication over cutting him/her off. Communicating transparently with your partner might kick-start a healthier relationship; in the least, it will contribute to a deeper understanding of what’s really causing the relationship’s breakdown.

5. How will my world change when we split?

Before you break up with your partner, prepare yourself for what’s next. Things will change. Your housing situation may get complicated. Your social life will change significantly, both in how you spend your time and in whom you spend it with. Your daily routine will no longer be routine. While the fear of change or the unknown shouldn’t stop you from leaving an unhealthy relationship, ending things before you’ve considered the first few steps pre-breakup can make a sad situation even more stressful and overwhelming.

6. Will I regret ending the relationship?

As you’re considering the consequences of breaking up, ask yourself if ending the relationship will be something you’ll ultimately regret. Deep down, do you believe you’re giving up too quickly? Do you still believe, deep down, that he’s “the one”? No one wants a “one that got away.”

It should be noted that regret is not the same things as “feeling bad.” Of course you’ll hate to hurt your partner’s feelings, and will be sad to end something you once hoped would last a lifetime. Regret, however, is painful disappointment in yourself for missing out on something that could have been good. It makes moving forward difficult.

7. Is initiating a breakup just playing a game?

If you’re secretly hoping that a breakup — or even just a threat of a breakup — will bring the two of you closer together, it won’t. Don’t play games with either of your hearts. If you want things to get better, assert yourself and invest time and energy in the relationship. Never use the threat of a breakup as a tool to initiate change.

8. Is anyone influencing my decision to end the relationship?

Who in your life is on Team Breakup? Are there friends or family members pushing you toward this decision? Evaluate their motives — they may have identified relationship red flags that shouldn’t be ignored, or they may have selfish, unhealthy reasons for pushing you toward a split — and make sure that you’re at peace with your decision, regardless of outside influences.

9. Have I given this relationship my best shot?

A relationship will fail eventually if you’re not all in. Don’t blame your partner for the crumbling of a romance if you haven’t given your best to the relationship. If you’re hesitant to say goodbye, try throwing yourself back into the union, full throttle. If you still care, don’t let love fizzle without a fight.

Source:http://www.don9ja.com/2017/02/02/before-the-breakup-9-questions-to-ask-yourself/

If you are a single woman over 40, I have a question for you: When you look at yourself today, are you the same person you were in your 20s or 30s? Have many of your priorities changed? Has experience taught you new life skills and shifted your perspective on things you previously held as absolute truths?

And what about when it comes to dating and relationships? Have you updated your “checklist” for the 55-year-old men you are dating; choosing not to judge them like you did 35 year olds? Have you learned that your worth is far more than whether a man wants you, and that you are okay with yourself; whether or not you have a partner?

If you’re like me, the answer is probably a resounding “yes” to these questions. You’ve probably opened your mind to new ideas, and perhaps closed your mind to others. You’ve learned life skills that have brought you success, both at work and at home.

In fact, you’re probably feeling damn smart at this point in your life. And you should! You have achieved a lot, and gained a ton of knowledge and skills over the years. Together, this has rendered you one wise woman.

Well, like us, men change and evolve. I can hear you shout, “I know that!” (I’m even tempted to throw a “duh” in here.) But in my work as a Dating and Relationship Coach for Women over 40, I often help women who say they know this, yet still tend to make assumptions about men based on stereotypes and expectations that originated in their teenage years and lingered.

Like you, men in midlife and beyond have experienced, matured and created good lives for themselves and these men can make fantastic partners. Yes, there are some outliers, just like there are women dating like they are still in their 20s. But if you make the mistake of assuming all men are childish, it’s likely the grown-up good guys are going to pass you by.

Here are three common misconceptions about men that are based on when we were dating boys:

1. Grown-up men do not chase.

Even if they once were, they no longer see the value and have dumped it as a hobby. Why? First, the woman-to-man ratio is now in their favor and they don’t have to compete like they did in their 20s. Also, their hormones have mellowed and they have broadened their vision of themselves; reducing the need (and sometimes ability) to rack up sexual conquests.

Finally, the grown-up men who have achieved success in life know how to how to get what they want. If they think you are unattainable, uninterested or you don’t have space for them in your life they will move on. They won’t waste their time on something (or someone) they can’t win.

What does this mean for you, the single woman in her 40s, 50s or beyond trying to connect with a good man? It means when you meet someone you are interested in, you need to let him know! It’s not about being aggressive — like asking him out or jumping into bed with him. It’s simply about giving him a clear signal that, if he asks, you will say yes. Tell him you very much look forward to talking with him again sometime. Tell him that you had a great time and would like to do it again. Compliment him. Receive graciously. These are all ways to show clear interest.

The old idea of “the rules” and making him chase you not only doesn’t fly with grown-up dating, it turns off the smart, commitment-minded men you are probably trying to meet. These men are not into playing games or climbing your wall of “I dare you.” They just want to meet a nice woman, have an easy time getting to know her and hopefully meet a wonderful partner to share the rest of a great life.

2. Grown-up men are willing to communicate.

Like you, they have many years of professional and personal circumstances that required them to develop effective communication skills. You can talk to men and they will talk back; and even listen! This is good news. You can be open, honest and direct without playing games. Tell him what you want, what you don’t want (in a kind way) and your true feelings. There is still the question of timing, and effective communication with the opposite sex requires a special language. (That is a whole other story for another time.) But chances are that he won’t run away like the mute scaredy cats you dated twenty years ago.


Grown-up men want to know they can make you happy. If you don’t make them guess how, and are willing to cut out the drama of unjustified disappointment…you will likely find your life changing with all the men around you. So tell them how to make you happy, and if they like you they will do it, get it or create it! And if not, they (or you) will move on. Either way, you win!

3. Grown-up men would rather be alone than with the wrong woman.

In our 20s and 30s we are looking for someone with whom we can create our life. Now we are looking for someone to enhance what we already have created. We are looking for a good fit, not potential. Just like you, these guys have figured out that their life is just fine and that being with the wrong person is way worse than being with themselves.

This is why men often seem to have a great time with you, yet you never hear from them again. It just means he liked you, but doesn’t see you fitting into his life. (Men can be smarter about this than us gals. They tend to be better about not trying to fit a round peg in a square hole…so to speak.) So if you don’t hear from him, just know he knew something about himself or his life that meant you weren’t meant for each other.

If finding love with an adult, interesting, committed man is on your dream list, consider opening your mind to see him as such. If being with you doesn’t greatly enhance his life, he’d rather be alone. And I know you would too.


If you like him, show him, and let him know there is room in your life for a man. Lastly, don’t make him guess what you want. Tell him how he can make you happy. The right man will love you for it. And you just might love him back!


Source:http://www.don9ja.com/2017/02/03/the-difference-between-dating-men-and-boys/

This is the 10 tips you need for now to better your relationship.

1. Listen.
It might sound obvious, but when you really allow yourself to listen—and ask questions about—what your partner says, it not only leads to better conversations, but also better communication.

2. Take a few days apart.
Missing each other is a great way to reconnect. Try grabbing some girlfriends for an overnight or a weekend getaway every few months.

3. Find a support team.
Have a handful of great friends or family members you can call so your significant other doesn’t have to hear every small grievance going on your life

4. Put away your phones.
One of the biggest relationship tips is to give your undivided attention when your partner is speaking. It’s is one of the most important things you can do.

5. Volunteer together.
Giving back is a great way to keep perspective of how great your relationship is, and how lucky you both are.

6. Create a checklist.
Jot down new and fun things you want to accomplish for a day as a duo.

7. Talk to couples over 65 years old.
Get relationship tips from them, and see what you can take away to apply to your relationship.

8. Stop and appreciate all that your relationship is this very second.
Stop living for what it can be. This person is choosing to be in your life every day, not every day in the future.

9. Revisit the questions you asked in the beginning.
What are you hoping to accomplish in the next year? What are you scared of? These answers change, so we need to keep asking these questions.

10. Find 10 things you really love about them and tell them.
Guys need confidence boosters, too!

Source:[url]This is the 10 tips you need for now to better your relationship.

1. Listen.
It might sound obvious, but when you really allow yourself to listen—and ask questions about—what your partner says, it not only leads to better conversations, but also better communication.

2. Take a few days apart.
Missing each other is a great way to reconnect. Try grabbing some girlfriends for an overnight or a weekend getaway every few months.

3. Find a support team.
Have a handful of great friends or family members you can call so your significant other doesn’t have to hear every small grievance going on your life

4. Put away your phones.
One of the biggest relationship tips is to give your undivided attention when your partner is speaking. It’s is one of the most important things you can do.

5. Volunteer together.
Giving back is a great way to keep perspective of how great your relationship is, and how lucky you both are.

6. Create a checklist.
Jot down new and fun things you want to accomplish for a day as a duo.

7. Talk to couples over 65 years old.
Get relationship tips from them, and see what you can take away to apply to your relationship.

8. Stop and appreciate all that your relationship is this very second.
Stop living for what it can be. This person is choosing to be in your life every day, not every day in the future.

9. Revisit the questions you asked in the beginning.
What are you hoping to accomplish in the next year? What are you scared of? These answers change, so we need to keep asking these questions.

10. Find 10 things you really love about them and tell them.
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Valentine’s Day has always been about sweet indulgences, expensive dinners and buying gifts. But if you and your man are tired of the same old traditions, give him an experience both of you will enjoy.

We spend so much time shopping and buying things for our loved ones, we actually don’t get to spend much time with them. That’s why this year, we’ve rounded up 11 of our favourite date night ideas that involve little money, some creativity and a lot of that much needed one-on-one time.

Here are 11 things you can do with your man on V-Day, a lot of them being in the comfort of your own home:

Stay In Bed All Day
We mean it. If you can, stay in your pjs, grab some breakfast and watch your favourite movies or start a TV marathon…in bed, all day. Both of you will not only feel relaxed, but when was the last time the man in your life took a break?

Get A Message For Him…At Home
Call in a masseuse and have them come set up a massage parlor in your living room. Treat your dude to a night in, scented candles and if you want, you can pick up a few massage tricks of your own.

Turn Up The Heat
If you have a fireplace in your home, light it up, grab some wine and make some s’mores. Treat your man to a night of cuddling and staying in. The best part? You’ll both enjoy some peace and quiet.

Make A Meal
Even if both of you are awful at following recipes and would prefer to order in, try. We promise, it will be fun. Find out his favourite meal and cook it together. And if it doesn’t work out…at least you can always order pizza and laugh about it later.

Have Sex
It’s a win-win situation for both of you. We already know there are plenty of health benefits to getting busy, including lowering blood pressure, boosting your immune system and burning calories, but there’s just something special about having sex on the day of love. This time around, get a new intimacy gadget, buy some lingerie, watch porn together or just surprise him with a new location.

Send Him On A Hunt
This may take some time to plan, but send your boyfriend or husband on a scavenger hunt either in your home or around the city. Write out clues to the next location, give him riddles or leave questions only he would know the answer to. The end result? Book a spot at his favourite restaurant or cook him a meal at home.

Recreate Your First Date
Do you remember your first date? Was it awkward or was it smooth?If you’re all about getting nostalgic, try recreating your first date (and if you’re up for it, recreate the same outfit for extra points). You’ll both realize how far into the relationship you’ve come and get all mushy about old memories.

Plan A Trip To Get Away
A survey by YourTango.com found 50 per cent of men just wanted to get away on V-Day, but if you’re on a tight budget or can’t take the time off, search a daily deal site for hotel deals or bed and breakfast deals, and plan a weekend getaway in your city.

Build An Adult Fort
Hear us out. Remember when you were a kid and used to get so excited about building and hiding in your own sanctuary? Your kids may think their parents have lost it, but when everyone is sleeping, build a fort in your bedroom or living room. This is the perfect time to watch a movie, have sex or have that much-needed pillow talk session.

Have A Game Night
If playing chess gets you in the mood, do it. Hit up a local adult store and plan out a game night for the two of you. It could be sexy truth or dare, board games or download sex apps on your tablet or phone to spice things up.

Have A Drunken Paint Night
Inspired by PaintNite, a local bar night of drinking beer and painting portraits, recreate your own version at home with your guy’s favourite brew. If both of you are new to painting, try drawing each other just for kicks.

Source:http://www.don9ja.com/2017/02/05/romantic-things-to-do-with-your-partner-on-valentine-day/

We are getting to that time of the year where love is presumed to be in the air and lovers do all they can to make their partners have a beautiful time romantically. The valentine’s day celebration is a major highlight for many people in a relationship.

It is the perfect time for lovers to work on their relationship and join millions of people all over the world in the celebration of love. While the February 14 is a lovers’ day for majority of the people in the society, there are a few people who are indifferent and believe love should be celebrated daily.

Although there are different opinions surrounding the celebration of the day, the celebration would still be done. On that note, you should be mindful of the gifts you get your partners in order not to tamper with their mood.

Many people preempt the events that will unfold on Valentine’s day and for these thoughts, many end the day with the thought of doing something cozy with their lovers. Check out the gift items you should never get your partner on Valentine’s day:

1. Underwear

While getting one or two sets of underwear for your partner may be a good gesture, you should be mindful of how you go about it. You may end up passing the wrong message to your partner.

A guy may feel you are trying to tell him his underpants are not good enough while a lady may feel the guy is deliberately trying to get her in the mood. This may be a turn off and you may not like the way the day would end after all.

2. Textmessages only

Never assume your woman is not a fan of Valentine’s day celebration. Sending a woman a text message alone may put her off if she sees how her friends are being doted on by their partners.

Your actions may incite her to give thoughts to some other guy who has chosen to use the day as the perfect time to make his intentions known.

Every woman loves being appreciated and pampered. Customize the day and let it be a day to be remembered for her.

3. Adult toy

It would be a hard joke for you to give your woman an adult toy as Valentine’s gift. Not only would your partner find it embarrassing, she may feel like you are questioning her morals and may take the joke seriously.

Also, ladies should do away with the idea of getting their men an object like that as the men may find it as a way of mocking them and their sizes.

4. Card and plastic roses

Like seriously? Do not bother giving this kind of gift to your partner as Valentine’s day if you are above 30. The world has gone past sharing stuffs like that with your partner.

The only exception to that is if your val is a form 2 student but then, teenagers know iPhone 7 and want a mind blowing gift too.

Source:http://www.don9ja.com/2017/02/05/the-4-gifts-to-give-your-lover-on-valentine-day/

Relationships usually begin with high hopes and bright expectations. The key is to not waste precious time hanging onto one that is bringing up more and more question marks. Here are signs that you’re sticking with a dead-end relationship, and it might be time to move on:

1. You have more confusion than clarity. Time should bring important insights into your relationship, so it’s a red flag if you are more confused now than you were weeks or months ago.

2. Initial attraction hasn’t led to a lasting bond. Being attracted to external qualities—a nice smile, a quick wit, a confident demeanor—can hold a couple together for only so long. A romance that flames out quickly might be due to a strong physical attraction with little else to feed it.

3. Your desire for “space” is increasing. Everyone needs individual time—that’s normal and natural. But if “me time” has become much more appealing than “us time,” consider this a clear warning sign.

4. You work hard to improve the relationship, but the other person is not making the same effort. A healthy union needs two people who both carry their weight and invest equally in the partnership.

5. Time has revealed a mismatch in your values and beliefs. Be realistic about whether your respective lives and desires are pointing you in the same direction, or whether impossible compromises lie ahead.



6. You don’t share the same level of motivation and ambition. Whether these include career advancement, further education, or personal development, each partner should have clearly defined objectives and a plan to attain them.

7. You’ve noticed incidents of dishonesty and deception. Lies destroy a crucial component of any relationship: trust. The presence of lies and the absence of trust spell trouble.

8. One person is clingy and dependent. Few relationships are able to survive extreme jealousy, possessiveness, overdependence, or controlling behavior. Such actions and attitudes indicate that one or both people lack a solid emotional foundation.

9. Your partner is unrealistic about what is needed for long-term success. In a healthy relationship, the individuals acknowledge that nobody is perfect and there will surely be problems to address. Every relationship will require hard work and perseverance.

10. It’s become obvious that your career and financial goals are not in sync. Ask yourselves how you envision your standard of living, income, and vocational progress into the future.

11. You have put your own needs and ambitions on hold to concentrate more on your lover’s. This kind of imbalance will eventually leave you feeling resentful. A healthy relationship requires equality, with both individuals feeling valued.

12. More and more you wonder if there’s someone better suited for you. It’s normal to have occasional doubts and questions about the long-term prospects of your partnership, but don’t ignore the warning signs if those thoughts become increasingly frequent.

13. You don’t feel like you can be “completely yourself” with this person. Trying to change or conceal your true self is a big tip that this isn’t a good match.

14. You’re feeling an acute sense of “time urgency.” Regardless of your age, you’ve begun to think that the time you’re spending in this relationship could be better spent exploring other (better) possibilities.

15. As you look ahead, the vision of your future together is fuzzy. You should be able to envision your relationship five, ten, twenty years ahead with joy and clarity.

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Relationships usually begin with high hopes and bright expectations. The key is to not waste precious time hanging onto one that is bringing up more and more question marks. Here are signs that you’re sticking with a dead-end relationship, and it might be time to move on:

1. You have more confusion than clarity. Time should bring important insights into your relationship, so it’s a red flag if you are more confused now than you were weeks or months ago.

2. Initial attraction hasn’t led to a lasting bond. Being attracted to external qualities—a nice smile, a quick wit, a confident demeanor—can hold a couple together for only so long. A romance that flames out quickly might be due to a strong physical attraction with little else to feed it.

3. Your desire for “space” is increasing. Everyone needs individual time—that’s normal and natural. But if “me time” has become much more appealing than “us time,” consider this a clear warning sign.

4. You work hard to improve the relationship, but the other person is not making the same effort. A healthy union needs two people who both carry their weight and invest equally in the partnership.

5. Time has revealed a mismatch in your values and beliefs. Be realistic about whether your respective lives and desires are pointing you in the same direction, or whether impossible compromises lie ahead.



6. You don’t share the same level of motivation and ambition. Whether these include career advancement, further education, or personal development, each partner should have clearly defined objectives and a plan to attain them.

7. You’ve noticed incidents of dishonesty and deception. Lies destroy a crucial component of any relationship: trust. The presence of lies and the absence of trust spell trouble.

8. One person is clingy and dependent. Few relationships are able to survive extreme jealousy, possessiveness, overdependence, or controlling behavior. Such actions and attitudes indicate that one or both people lack a solid emotional foundation.

9. Your partner is unrealistic about what is needed for long-term success. In a healthy relationship, the individuals acknowledge that nobody is perfect and there will surely be problems to address. Every relationship will require hard work and perseverance.

10. It’s become obvious that your career and financial goals are not in sync. Ask yourselves how you envision your standard of living, income, and vocational progress into the future.

11. You have put your own needs and ambitions on hold to concentrate more on your lover’s. This kind of imbalance will eventually leave you feeling resentful. A healthy relationship requires equality, with both individuals feeling valued.

12. More and more you wonder if there’s someone better suited for you. It’s normal to have occasional doubts and questions about the long-term prospects of your partnership, but don’t ignore the warning signs if those thoughts become increasingly frequent.

13. You don’t feel like you can be “completely yourself” with this person. Trying to change or conceal your true self is a big tip that this isn’t a good match.

14. You’re feeling an acute sense of “time urgency.” Regardless of your age, you’ve begun to think that the time you’re spending in this relationship could be better spent exploring other (better) possibilities.

15. As you look ahead, the vision of your future together is fuzzy. You should be able to envision your relationship five, ten, twenty years ahead with joy and clarity.

Source:http://www.don9ja.com/2017/02/02/15-signs-you-are-in-a-dead-end-relationship/

Alcoholkills your brain cells outright! Alcohol also interferes with dopamine production. Moderate amounts of alcohol, particularly resveratrol-rich red wine, can help improve your health, but anything beyond a glass or two of wine daily is a recipe for reduced brain function and energy loss.

Corn Syrup and Sugar lead to health problems like diabetes and obesity, and they’re terrible for your brain. Don’t eat sugar except on special occasions or as an infrequent treat. If you can’t cut back that much, try to limit yourself to just two bites of whatever tempts you daily.

Nicotine constricts blood flow to the brain, so while it may “soothe” jittery nerves, smoking will actally reduce your brain function severely – and the effects are cumulative.

A high carbohydrate lunch will make you sleepy and sluggish. Opt for a light meal with some quality protein, such as a salad with grilled chicken breast or vegetables and hummus or wild American shrimp and avocado.

Source:http://www.don9ja.com/2017/02/01/things-that-drain-your-brain-that-you-need-to-abstain-from/

GIFT 1: LEARN YOUR PARTNER’S “LOVE LANGUAGE”
Each of us wants to feel loved by our partner and wants our partner to feel loved by us. The challenge for many couples, according to Gary Chapman, author of The 5 Love Languages (Northfield, 2010), is that the way one person shows love often isn’t the way his or her partner intuitively feels it.

One person, for example, may experience physical affection as love, while her partner experiences help with the household chores as the ultimate token of affection. They are, in essence, speaking different languages. “These miscommunications aren’t a matter of not having good intentions,” says Chapman. “They’re a matter of not touching the heart or emotions of the other person.”

also suggests asking yourself what you most often demand of your spouse. “The thing you have most often requested is likely the thing that would make you feel the most loved,” he notes. Here are Chapman’s five love languages:

Words of Affirmation. Some people experience love most directly through warm words, whether they’re verbal compliments or encouragements — anything from “I appreciate that you found a babysitter for tonight” to “I know you can run that 10K!” Whether or not words of affirmation are your primary love language, research suggests that supportive comments help couples develop a sense of “we-ness,” a feeling that enhances satisfaction with one’s partnership.

Quality Time. If this is your primary love language, you want your partner’s undivided attention. It’s important to you to have time together without distractions where you can nurture conversations and enjoy activities together. Quality time, according to Chapman, helps couples build reserves of positive memories, which are linked to increased marital stability and satisfaction.

Receiving Gifts. Actual presents have their place on the spectrum of relationship gift giving, too. The key to speaking this love language, however, has nothing to do with the price tag — it’s all about making your partner feel understood. This could be a store-bought bracelet or a beautiful rock you pick up on a hike or a watercolor you paint. These kinds of gifts demonstrate that you’ve been paying attention, and that you really see who your partner is and what she loves.

Acts of Service. This love language emphasizes doing things you know your partner would like you to do, from making dinner to changing the cat’s litter to paying the bills. These acts show your partner that you notice what’s going on in his life and want to help him.

Physical Touch. Backrubs, holding hands, deep hugs, kisses, putting your arm around your partner — for some people, physical intimacy is the signal of love and affection. If your primary love language is physical touch, nothing will say “I love you” more than being held or touched.

Bring passion back to touch by connecting emotionally as well as physically. You can do this by having each partner tune in to what touching feels like. He suggests taking turns deliberately touching your partner and noticing how it feels to touch and be touched. Do this experiment once when each person is tuned in to the experience and once when each person is tuned out. This helps both people understand the importance of really being in the moment, he says.

When both people focus on the same spot at the same time on opposite sides of the skin, it creates an electric sensation that is the byproduct of emotional attention.”

GIFT 2: ALLOW SPACE FOR SOLITUDE
When author Laura Munson and her husband got married, their ceremony included a quote from the poet Rainier Maria Rilke, which read, in part: “A good marriage is one in which each partner appoints the other to be the guardian of his solitude, and thus they show each other the greatest possible trust.” Almost two decades of marriage and two children later, Munson’s husband began to have doubts about the marriage. But instead of begging him to stay, Munson took Rilke’s quote to heart and gave her husband the emotional space she felt he needed to reflect and reconnect with himself.

During an especially difficult stretch where her husband took up residence in another part of the house, Munson focused on what she knew in her heart: that she and her husband had a solid, loving bond that could transcend his personal crisis. “If a person needs to reconnect with who they are, the greatest gift a partner can give is the gift of space,” she says. “It’s a refueling time.” Today, Munson’s bond with her husband is stronger than ever.

Munson’s story, which she recounts in her memoir, This Is Not The Story You Think It Is: A Season Of Unlikely Happiness (Amy Einhorn/Putnam, 2010), is a dramatic example of how powerful the gift of solitude can be. Giving your partner the gift of time not only helps repair relationships, as with Munson’s, but it can transform them from good to great. Time apart — whether it’s a night out with friends, a quiet morning alone or a solo weekend away — helps your partner get in touch with her needs, interests and priorities. And it allows her to more authentically share them with you.

GIFT 3: DON’T SKIMP ON TIME TOGETHER
Some solitude is healthy, but as with all things, balance is key. Too much can weaken a relationship by creating separate spheres of interest, which can lead to couples having less and less in common over time. After all, we tend to fall — and stay — in love with the person we have the most fun with. That’s why relationship expert Willard F. Harley Jr., PhD, advises couples to do the things they enjoy the most together. “Couples who spend their most enjoyable time together tend to have great marriages,” he says.

Giving each other the gift of what Harley calls “recreational companionship” benefits both giver and receiver by combining two important human needs: to have fun and to have a companion. Harley recommends spending most, if not all, of your recreational time with your significant other. Stumped about what to do together? To jump-start your imagination — and recreation — he developed the Recreational Enjoyment Inventory at www.marriagebuilders.com. It’s an extensive list of activities — from archery and astronomy to cribbage, croquet and gardening. Each partner ranks each activity based on his or her level of interest. When both people give an activity a high score, it’s one worth trying.

GIFT 4: CRACK DOWN ON CRITICISM
Nothing can sink a relationship faster than unrelenting negativity, says marriage researcher John Gottman, PhD, author of The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work (Three Rivers, 2000). In his research at the University of Washington’s “Love Lab,” Gottman has found that successful relationships have a 5-to-1 ratio of positive interactions — compliments, loving glances, offers to help out — to negative gestures such as criticism and nagging.

Whether you nag or simply turn your back when your partner is talking, these negative gestures erode your sense of togetherness. Researchers have even found that eye rolling after a spouse’s comment can be a strong predictor for divorce.

To bring your interaction ratio in line with Gottman’s recommendation, try to become more aware of how often you’re criticizing your spouse. One way to do this is to create some kind of lighthearted stopgap when you notice critical commentary — put a coin in a jar, or create a silly code word to let your partner know you’ve caught yourself (or her) in the act. Then try consciously focusing on each other’s strengths instead. Criticism will be naturally tamped down, and that will give each of you more opportunities to feel successful, appreciated and loved.

Accentuating the positive in your relationship doesn’t mean you should ignore tough issues. It’s just that you need to do it in an environment that’s fortified with positive feelings and exchanges.

“There’s a big difference between asking for change and criticizing,” says psychologist Noelle Nelson, PhD, author of Your Man Is Wonderful (Free Press, 2009). “If what you want is more participation with the kids or the house, that’s fine. But you need to start out from the perspective that you respect your partner, and his way of doing things is as valid as yours.”

GIFT 5: ACTIVELY LISTEN TO YOUR PARTNER
During the courtship and honeymoon phase, it’s easy to hang on your lover’s every word. “Being listened to in childhood develops our sense of self and is how we know we are important, and the same is true for adults,” says psychologist Jan Hoistad, PhD, author of the Big Picture Partnering blog and the book Romance Rehab: 10 Steps to Rescue Your Relationship (Sterling, 2010).

Unfortunately, when couples are together for a long time, it’s common to become less attentive — but with a little practice, you can renew your capacity for rapt listening. Hoistad suggests taking turns actively talking and listening at least four times a week for 20 to 30 minutes. Alternate which of you goes first and talk about something important to you, excluding well-traveled topics and hot-button issues as much as possible.

Be honest, but don’t just focus on what’s bringing you down. Hoistad recommends sharing personal successes and things you find exciting, rewarding and worth celebrating. Then, when it’s your partner’s turn, actively listen to what he or she has to say without interrupting. What’s most important, Hoistad says, is to listen with a readiness to give and take. “When we’re generous with others it creates such nice feelings,” she says. “And then the other person naturally starts giving back.”

GIFT 6: PURSUE PASSION
Passion often gets sidelined as a marriage becomes more established, but there are far-ranging benefits to bringing it back, says clinical psychologist David Schnarch, PhD, author of Intimacy & Desire: Awaken the Passion in Your Marriage (Beaufort Books, 2009). For starters, tapping into passion helps us discover more about who we are, which allows us to share more of ourselves with our partner. “When we are the object of our partner’s passion, it makes us feel desirable and desirous,” says Schnarch.

Passion also improves relationships by making people more tolerant of one another. “When we think our partner likes us, we are much more forgiving of grievances, and we’re also more tolerant of the inherent nicks and bruises of being in a relationship,” he adds.

Good sex has other benefits, too. Orgasm increases levels of oxytocin, a hormone that boosts feelings of connection and trust. Higher oxytocin levels have also been linked to increased feelings of generosity, reduced stress and improved cardiovascular health. And sex increases self-esteem; a five-year study at the University of Texas found that one of the reasons people have sex is to boost feelings of positive self-regard.

If passion is in short supply in your life, Schnarch recommends these simple strategies:

Hugging to Relax. Most hugs last an average of four seconds, says Schnarch. Extending a hug to 10 minutes without the pressure that it should lead to sex can be a way to reconnect with your partner. “The focus of a 10-minute hug isn’t about holding your partner,” he explains. “It’s about putting your arms around your partner and calming yourself down. This calms the anxieties that separate people.”

Heads on Pillow. For many couples, it’s tough to transition from washing the dishes to rolling around in the sheets. That’s why Schnarch advises partners to lie in bed with their clothes on and face each other with enough distance so that you can clearly see each other’s faces. “Hold hands, look at each other, and stay there for 10 minutes,” he advises. Most people feel passion start to kick in when they’re relaxed and lying down.

Feeling While Touching. Many couples develop the habit of touching each other without really feeling each other. “It’s very irritating to be touched by a partner when their touch feels mindless, like your partner is not invested and you are being taken for granted,” Schnarch says.

Source:http://www.don9ja.com/2017/01/30/the-six-best-gifts-you-can-give-your-partner/

Now you finally know…

How long to wait before s3x is a hotly debated topic that probably isn’t going away. But even still … how long are you “supposed” to wait? Maybe you went out with someone and your chemistry is UNDENIABLE. You instantly feel that attraction and your s3xual energy between the two of you is DYNAMITE. What are you supposed to do? End the date? Go where your body WANTS you to go?

Your brain is wrestling with your tingling body and you SERIOUSLY want to just go for it.



It’s the age old struggle — if you jump into bed right away you run the risk of screwing up something that could have real long-term potential. The s3x might be fantastic, but what if he ghosts you afterward and leaves you in a puddle of insecurity? What if she gets the wrong impression and pegs you as just another player?


You may find yourself wondering — if you wait and build an emotional connection before you have s3x, could it mean a better opportunity for something lasting?

On the other hand, if you do have s3x, you might wake up the next day and find that the two of you are blissfully bonded and completely at ease with each other. One night leads to a weekend together and then the two of you become inseparable. It happens!

Is there a magic formula for the timing of that first s3xual encounter?

How long is long enough? Do you have a hard and fast third date rule? What factors need to be present in your relationship to make you feel secure about sharing your body with someone?


Source:http://www.don9ja.com/2017/01/25/what-you-should-think-about-before-you-have-s3x-with-someone-new/

Though finding a great guy can seem like an impossible task, there are many great guys out there who would make wonderful boyfriends and husbands. There’s no need to give up if you haven’t found one yet; you just have to stay open and positive while on the lookout. The great guy you’re just dying to meet might be right under your nose, and all you have to do is open your eyes and ask him out.

Ask friends to set you up. Your friends — guys and girls — have access to a huge reserve of potential dating prospects, so use them. They’re likely know guys from work, school or church who might be a good match for you. Reach out especially to friends who are already in relationships because they’re not looking and may have accumulated acquaintances that fit your bill. Check in with them periodically to see if they’ve met anyone new that might be a good match for you.

Get out there and be social. You’re not going to find a great guy by sitting around in your pajamas watching television with a plate full of take-out. Get involved with organizations that interest you, such as recreational clubs, sports, church, travel groups and volunteer work — anything that creates an opportunity to meet guys with similar interests. Organize outings with your friends to destinations where you can meet guys, such as happy hour or local night club dancing. The more opportunities you give yourself, the more likely you’ll meet someone who makes it all worth while.

T :Pry online dating. Online dating isn’t as taboo as it once was and you can meet lots of quality guys if you’re willing to put in the time and effort. You can be very clear about what you are looking for in your profile. Have a friend review your profile to make sure it reflects the kind of guy you’d really like to find and accurately reflects what you have to offer. Set up a profile on as few or as many dating websites as you see fit. Once you start getting responses from potential suitors, weed out the losers from the keepers. Get to know potential suitors via email or chat before you meet them in person.

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It’s no news that Nigerian men have issues with saying, ‘I am sorry’. Even when they become husbands who love their wives, it could be difficult for them to admit defeat and even harder for them to say the word, ‘sorry’.
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You know how it goes. You and your husband will argue and you will just vex and wonder why you are even married to him.
So you’re sitting there in a room with your face like this:

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Which kind husband wey I marry?
Then he will return home and immediately, your defenses will go up like this:

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Eh-hen! You came back for more, abi?
The man will know something is wrong and if he wants to apologise, he may look for other creative ways to reconcile with you without actually saying sorry. Here are four of the best ways:

1. He will ask you what the matter is (knowing well what he did)

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My dear, any problem?
This is the most frustrating way. He will come in and pretend like he doesn’t remember what he did to you and ask you why you are twisting your face. If you even try to remind him, he will do like his memory has been erased and act like all is well.

2. He will shed crocodile tears

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Hoo! Why me, why me?
Crocodile tears are basically tears that are not sincere. Your husband may see you are upset and if he tries to talk to you and you do not agree, he play the sympathy card and act very hurt and upset over the whole thing.

He will act sober so much that you will even forget why you were angry and forgive him.

3. He will crack jokes

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You must laugh with me today
This is when he resorts to jokes to make you laugh and smile with him. You might be twisting your face but when he is down teasing you or cracking jokes, you would have laughed away your anger at him.

4. He will buy something for you

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I have something for you – o.
This is one of the best ways. He will come back with something he knows you love from food to gift items. Your anger might just fade away like magic when you realize he is annoying but hey, he makes up for it with your favourite things.

Source:http://www.don9ja.com/2017/01/23/4-ways-nigerian-husbands-apologise/