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This is the time for Southwest Leaders to be very calculative. Don't trust those yeye Governors... They all support the killings of Southerners on a low.

All Northern Governors have affiliation with terrorism. Let Seyi Makinde not be deceived by their presence.

says a senile lifeless vegetable

mannequin with voice. zoogeria don saw-far

EzeAro:
I've had a deep and critical self-evaluation about my time here, and I've come to the conclusion say I just dey waste the best prime of my life on useless tribal e-wars and campaigns of hate. For one e no dey add any value to my life, secondly its becoming very toxic to my well being as a man who actually( aside from the disgusting character representation of hate, spitefulness and bigotry that defines most of our online personalities on the internet) many of us here are actually nice, caring and very upright people who come on nairaland to vent, banter and diffuse our innate feelings of unhappiness. It's so bad and borderline psychopathic how we leverage on bad news affecting other people of a particular ethnicity to score cheap ethnic points? Fulani herdsmen will kill Yorubas and Igbos will celebrate... Fulani herdsmen will kill Igbos and yorubas will rejoice, and all in that order of cyclic melancholy the madness continues while human lives are wasted! where have our consciences gone? no remorse for human life... tomorrow it could be your family members who will suffer a similar fate in the hands of these so called Fulani herdsmen and then it sinks in!

I dey retire jare, na to just dey come on here once in a while to watch una embarrass unasef, I'm off to romance and career section make man know wetin him go use him life do

How you wan take romance and advance your career if herdsmen don kee your romance partners and career protegees them finish?

You had better use your influence on this platform to agitate for Southern Unity. Nah the only way to enjoy your romance jejely and advance your career on a low.

I'm enjoying the movie titled """"The Disintegration of ZOOGERIA""""

Again, welcome 2021.

says the foolishly sick presidiot of zoogeria

The FALL of zoogeria

The United States of America have stylishly donated those equipments to buhari's brothers, the killer herdsmen.

Buhari, Lai Mohammed, Femi Adesina, Garba Shehu, Buratai are all acting from the same script of pretence.

They know pretty well that Nigeria is on her knees, but pretending like though they are ignorant of the deteriorating state of the country.

I pity SW Leaders who are failing to be proactive in the clamping down of the menace occurring on that region everyday.


BOKO HARAM IS IN SOUTHWEST. SOMEBODY WAKEUP THE LEADERS.

Nawa o

This Kepa guy lucky gan o. If Mourinho were to be his Manager, Jose would have announced to the world how shitty a Keeper he is.

Expecting Mendy to come claim the number 1 spot in weeks to come.

A look at the Federal roads, National Stadium, National Theatre etc gives an overwhelming evidence that the Federal Government is the most corrupt arm of Government in Nigeria.

The Service Chiefs are only a product of the corrupt FG.

imhotep:
So we have just witnessed the de-babalization of Oshiomole
cc lzaa

You bad gan o

stanliwise:
What is the meaning of Alpha male?

Kindly use google, thank you.

45th birthday still Baba remains relevant in Music Industry since the then years of Plantation Boyz to the now year of Opo.

Happy many more years 2baba. Opo is Plenty!

The Simp even tried kissing the Nengi gal upon his eviction...lady stylishly declined.

Shout out to the Alpha Males out there.

lalasticlala:
https://mobile.twitter.com/BBNaija/status/1307754456784789505

Happy for Nengi, at least she can breathe well for the next 7days.

Lemme complete the statement for her "You are a pain in the ass, you made me lose kidwayya cos of your gumbody".

Observing...

Here is a secret why majority remain poor.

Many want to be rich because they want to show off
Many want to be rich because of the pleasure that comes with riches.

Thinking of getting rich so that others can know I have a God, does it mean others are godless?

If you think of getting rich because you gotta buy designers and exotic cars, you'll soon be thinking of stealing and fraud so as to meet up that negative thought of getting rich.

But if you think of getting rich so as to meet your needs and that of others, you'll soon be seeing problems which you can provide solutions to, and also setting your solutions at a fair price.

I can go on and on, but the first place to create riches is in your thoughts. Change your thoughts, make new priorities and you'll begin to realize new things.

The journey to a new life starts from your thoughts.

The first time I left the shores of Africa for the united States, the first thing I noticed was the difference in beauty between their airport and ours. I noticed an overwhelming difference.

But that wasn't all, when I met the people of America then I realized the power behind their achievements. They are a believing people, extremely positive, majority doesn't believe in impossibilities, why they were able to achieve all off those things we are willing to enjoy with them.

Their thoughts is their way of life, they all share a common thought of possibilities.

To start with, what does it mean to be poor?
Poverty is a major result of negative thoughts, that is, a poor person is the one who thinks he/she doesn't have the ability to rise.

A poor person is the one who thinks he/she lacks opportunity to make it up there.

A poor person is the one who waits for opportunities to arrive unknowing that opportunities are around

A poor person is the one who is afraid to stretch, that is, they remember their previous failures and then lose hope to try again

A poor person is the one who lacks vital information

A poor person is the one who fail to invest in their personal knowledge.

We have the phrase that Knowledge is Power when well applied.

The difference between you and Otedola is that he have the knowledge of money multiplication and the desire to apply his knowledge in effective ways.

To be rich is to continuously seek for knowledge, developing oneself from the inside.

Here is a Bible verse majority lost its meaning
As someone thinks within himself, so he is.
-Proverbs 23:7


See, if you think you'll make it in life, you'll begin to get ideas in your thoughts how to make it in life.

The truth is we are attracted to what we think about.
If you think you'll have a lady and date her, you'll summon the energy to do so.

See, if you decide with great conviction that you'll travel to Canada in the next 3 years, don't be surprised as you'll gain this inner strength that gives you the courage and determination to work more than you ever think of. You'll be ready to do any odd jobs not giving a heck about what others thinks.

The moment we begin to agree that our thoughts and imaginations are spiritual components that determines actions taken in real life, then we are making a substantial change.

Our greatest battles in life lies in our thoughts, imaginations, feelings and emotions.

You see an opportunity, but you thought its not for you because you imagined failing if you take that chance.

We have been lied to several times that we must not think above certain degree.

How far you think determines how much you make.

Poverty is mindset
Poverty is the way you think & imagine life
Poverty is doing the wrong things in wrong ways
Poverty is lack of imagination
Poverty is fear
Poverty blames others
Yes... poverty is spiritual

Each time a man connects with a woman sexually and releases his life form energy within her, he leaves a part of his information (DNA) in her birth canal. If she doesn't clean herself, his energy remain inside of her. That imprint can often create illusional sexual addiction to the individual.
When some 1 decide to have multiple partners, it can sometimes send mixed emotional signals within the inside of the body's vibration system. Women must be careful of different energies or spiritual forces polluting their internal temple. You are a sacred doorway, where life is intended to pass through, respect yourself, use your gifts wisely! Just think about it and ask yourself... Ever wonder why they call it sexual intercourse (INTER-Course)? It's an inter (nal) course that unites man and woman, mind with mind, spirit with spirit, or energy with energy. This is something that a condom can't protect you against because energy is behind the elements of all flesh.

There is no such thing as "Casual" Sex or "Friends with Benefits"... No, No, No, I Don't Think So!!! Intimate activity intricately entwines the energies between two people. Sex creates a powerful exchange of energy between those involved. These connections, imprints and debris are left upon the mind, soul and spirit for a long time because they are not easily purged or cleansed.
‘Casual sex’ with multiple partners can intertwine the energies and spirits of a lot of people into your own aura if they are not severed and cleansed. You become joined to every person with whom your partner has slept, as well as all the partners those people had.
This type of "soul clutter" can be felt by your partner's subconscious. Even if they are not completely in tune or aware of the extra-curricular sexual activities, they still are able to sense the subtle disturbances of multiple energies and/or familiar spirits that have entered causing restlessness and inner turmoil.
The longer and more intimate the contact with another person, the more powerful the reinforcement and the interaction of the bond becomes, and all the more difficult it is for them to untangle and leave.
Soul stains, transference of odors, perceptive connections and even mutually formed habits are now left to burden the psyche long after that relationship has ended.

By: Raul Villacis
Entrepreneur, investor and coach for
CEOs, Entrepreneurs

May 1, 2020 9 min read


In times of crisis, there are those who become overwhelmed by fear and those who rise to the occasion. They know that they have the mindset to not just endure but to thrive in the middle of chaos. They understand that what they do right now is going to determine what kind of life they will have ten years from now.

What separates these individuals from the vast majority? It’s not necessarily money or past success. There are plenty of people who have money but they are living in fear. And there are people who thought they had their business figured out, and now they are forced to reinvent themselves because everything has changed.

People who thrive in chaos have the ability to stay calm under immense pressure and focus on who they need to become to get through a challenge. They have the capacity to change their perception when reality changes. They don't try to argue with reality by wishing that things wouldn’t be a
certain way. They possess what I call emotional fitness. Emotional fitness is not the same as emotional intelligence . Although the two are related, emotional intelligence is the capacity for empathy. Emotional fitness is the capacity to think on your feet when the ground crumbles underneath you.

You already know the benefits of exercise . You can do all the research you want about the perfect interval times or the best yoga pants, but all of that means nothing if you don’t get in the gym and do the work until you start sweating. The same
thing is true for emotional fitness. You can read all you want about how to stay calm under pressure, but the only way to actually increase your emotional fitness is to do the necessary inner work to increase your capacity.

HERE ARE FIVE WAYS ENTREPRENEURS CAN INCREASE
THEIR EMOTIONAL FITNESS.

1. Check-in with yourself multiple times a day
Your reaction to whatever stimulus is in front of you is to a certain extent involuntary. If you step on a LEGO, you get angry at the same time the pain shoots up your foot. When you watch the craziness on the news, you get anxious. Those
thoughts and emotions are going to come to you before your rational brain has a chance to keep up. At least two or three times per day, take a minute to check-in with yourself and figure out what you are focusing on. Follow that focus and
see what the emotions are bringing up. Are you stressed out because you’re focused on the negative things that are happening, or are you excited about the opportunities that are ahead of you?
Most people don’t know, but subconsciously our mind focuses on all the negative things that are going on because of the survival instinct. When you're on autopilot, it's easy for these negative feelings to overwhelm everything else. But
by intentionally bringing awareness to your thoughts and emotions, you can make a conscious decision to shift your focus and interrupt the pattern of being on autopilot. By checking in with yourself multiple times a day, you give yourself the data to understand why you feel the way you do and where your focus is during the day.

2. Acknowledge the emotions and thoughts
The moment that you acknowledge your emotions and thoughts is the moment that you can become aware of the trigger that is causing that thought or emotion. Like I said before, our subconscious mind is constantly focused on negative thoughts and emotions, especially early in the day. If you don’t acknowledge those feelings, you are going to be fighting an uphill battle the entire day. Your brain is going to release the stress hormone cortisol, because your brain behaves as if you’re fighting an enemy, and your body expends energy fighting itself.
Studies show that just acknowledging negative thoughts, and realizing that it’s normal for your brain to be in reactive mode, gives you the power to make the conscious decision to shift and focus on the opportunities instead of the problem. Be more aware of them instead of trying to fix them. Your emotions are not something you have to “fix.” The trigger that made you feel that way is the thing to fix, not the emotion itself.

3. Don't make your emotions "wrong"
Your emotions are feedback to your perception of your current reality. If you make them wrong, then you believe that your current situation shouldn’t be happening to you. That’s when you start arguing with reality and look for something
or someone to blame. We have this illusion that we shouldn’t feel a certain way, or that we are weak by acknowledging what we feel. By acknowledging you are not your thoughts,
feelings and emotions, you become open to receiving the feedback and learning from them instead of reacting to them.

4. Feel your emotions fully
We are constantly judging ourselves and we don’t give ourselves permission to feel our emotions fully. Like the feeling of relief that sometimes mixes in with sadness. Our emotions can bring out guilt and shame because we think we
shouldn’t feel a certain way. The guilt and shame are what prevent us from expanding our capacity. The emotions are there because the triggers are there, and you can’t just stop that circuit. Instead, you have to complete the circuit and feel the emotions fully.
The moment we give ourselves permission to feel the emotion, that’s the moment you’re bringing light into the darkness. The fear and uncertainty that consume our energy will begin to lose power. We are bringing light into the darkness and realizing that we were more afraid of the dark than what it was hiding.

5. Win the battle in your mind before it becomes real
Most of our fears and stressors are caused by what we think could happen. Much of the time, the fear isn’t real, and only lives in our mind. The thoughts of the worst-case scenario are all set in the future and are inspired by some pain from the past. That feeling of being caught in the middle of an unalterable past and an undetermined future takes away our certainty. It’s that helplessness that amplifies all the other
emotions. But the secret weapon is that you can also win those battles in the same place: your mind.

Recently, my wife became ill. We were sure it was COVID-19, and the two of us took immediate action to protect our two teenage children by quarantining her in the guest room. A day later, she recovered but I got sick myself, and I was
sicker than I’ve ever been for two days. Although fighting the virus was brutal, I had the emotional fitness to not overreact. This was in large part because for years, every morning I imagined myself facing a worst-case scenario, and every
morning I felt the pain of my wife or kids getting sick, or of being sick and not being able to provide for my family. But then I would end the mediation, knowing it was all in my mind and the reality was that they were fine. At that point, no challenge or failure I would face that day would be worse than what I put myself through in my imagination. This time, when the worst-case scenario actually happened in real life, it was painful, but I was comfortable with the pain in a way few people ever get to be. Because I was able to fight the battle in my mind many times over and I had the emotional fitness to stay calm in the middle of chaos.

You have to do the same thing. Fight the monsters where they live, which is in your mind. When you slay the beasts inside your mind, you realize that they are there to make you stronger. So when you face them in real life, you know exactly what to do to overcome them.

Every day, I’m having conversations with clients who are CEOs and entrepreneurs, and I remind them that this present moment is the biggest opportunity we have to stand out from the crowd as leaders. If we’re willing to increase our emotional fitness on a daily basis, we will rise through the chaos. But this has to be a daily commitment. If you’re a leader in your business, you can’t afford to be consumed by the negative energy that we have in this pandemic. Increase your emotional fitness daily, and you will become stronger when the storm clears. One of my favorite mantras that I repeat to myself every day is “the best is yet to come.” And if you believe that with every single cell in your body, you will find opportunities, and you will bring certainty to those who are living in fear. Your job as a leader is to get stronger, increase your capacity, and bring hope to your employees, customers, and family. You were made for moments like this.

By: Raul Villacis
Entrepreneur, investor and coach for
CEOs, Entrepreneurs

May 1, 2020 9 min read


In times of crisis, there are those who become overwhelmed by fear and those who rise to the occasion. They know that they have the mindset to not just endure but to thrive in the middle of chaos. They understand that what they do right now is going to determine what kind of life they will have ten years from now.

What separates these individuals from the vast majority? It’s not necessarily money or past success. There are plenty of people who have money but they are living in fear. And there are people who thought they had their business figured out, and now they are forced to reinvent themselves because everything has changed.

People who thrive in chaos have the ability to stay calm under immense pressure and focus on who they need to become to get through a challenge. They have the capacity to change their perception when reality changes. They don't try to argue with reality by wishing that things wouldn’t be a
certain way. They possess what I call emotional fitness. Emotional fitness is not the same as emotional intelligence . Although the two are related, emotional intelligence is the capacity for empathy. Emotional fitness is the capacity to think on your feet when the ground crumbles underneath you.

You already know the benefits of exercise . You can do all the research you want about the perfect interval times or the best yoga pants, but all of that means nothing if you don’t get in the gym and do the work until you start sweating. The same
thing is true for emotional fitness. You can read all you want about how to stay calm under pressure, but the only way to actually increase your emotional fitness is to do the necessary inner work to increase your capacity.

HERE ARE FIVE WAYS ENTREPRENEURS CAN INCREASE
THEIR EMOTIONAL FITNESS.

1. Check-in with yourself multiple times a day
Your reaction to whatever stimulus is in front of you is to a certain extent involuntary. If you step on a LEGO, you get angry at the same time the pain shoots up your foot. When you watch the craziness on the news, you get anxious. Those
thoughts and emotions are going to come to you before your rational brain has a chance to keep up. At least two or three times per day, take a minute to check-in with yourself and figure out what you are focusing on. Follow that focus and
see what the emotions are bringing up. Are you stressed out because you’re focused on the negative things that are happening, or are you excited about the opportunities that are ahead of you?
Most people don’t know, but subconsciously our mind focuses on all the negative things that are going on because of the survival instinct. When you're on autopilot, it's easy for these negative feelings to overwhelm everything else. But
by intentionally bringing awareness to your thoughts and emotions, you can make a conscious decision to shift your focus and interrupt the pattern of being on autopilot. By checking in with yourself multiple times a day, you give yourself the data to understand why you feel the way you do and where your focus is during the day.

2. Acknowledge the emotions and thoughts
The moment that you acknowledge your emotions and thoughts is the moment that you can become aware of the trigger that is causing that thought or emotion. Like I said before, our subconscious mind is constantly focused on negative thoughts and emotions, especially early in the day. If you don’t acknowledge those feelings, you are going to be fighting an uphill battle the entire day. Your brain is going to release the stress hormone cortisol, because your brain behaves as if you’re fighting an enemy, and your body expends energy fighting itself.
Studies show that just acknowledging negative thoughts, and realizing that it’s normal for your brain to be in reactive mode, gives you the power to make the conscious decision to shift and focus on the opportunities instead of the problem. Be more aware of them instead of trying to fix them. Your emotions are not something you have to “fix.” The trigger that made you feel that way is the thing to fix, not the emotion itself.

3. Don't make your emotions "wrong"
Your emotions are feedback to your perception of your current reality. If you make them wrong, then you believe that your current situation shouldn’t be happening to you. That’s when you start arguing with reality and look for something
or someone to blame. We have this illusion that we shouldn’t feel a certain way, or that we are weak by acknowledging what we feel. By acknowledging you are not your thoughts,
feelings and emotions, you become open to receiving the feedback and learning from them instead of reacting to them.

4. Feel your emotions fully
We are constantly judging ourselves and we don’t give ourselves permission to feel our emotions fully. Like the feeling of relief that sometimes mixes in with sadness. Our emotions can bring out guilt and shame because we think we
shouldn’t feel a certain way. The guilt and shame are what prevent us from expanding our capacity. The emotions are there because the triggers are there, and you can’t just stop that circuit. Instead, you have to complete the circuit and feel the emotions fully.
The moment we give ourselves permission to feel the emotion, that’s the moment you’re bringing light into the darkness. The fear and uncertainty that consume our energy will begin to lose power. We are bringing light into the darkness and realizing that we were more afraid of the dark than what it was hiding.

5. Win the battle in your mind before it becomes real
Most of our fears and stressors are caused by what we think could happen. Much of the time, the fear isn’t real, and only lives in our mind. The thoughts of the worst-case scenario are all set in the future and are inspired by some pain from the past. That feeling of being caught in the middle of an unalterable past and an undetermined future takes away our certainty. It’s that helplessness that amplifies all the other
emotions. But the secret weapon is that you can also win those battles in the same place: your mind.

Recently, my wife became ill. We were sure it was COVID-19, and the two of us took immediate action to protect our two teenage children by quarantining her in the guest room. A day later, she recovered but I got sick myself, and I was
sicker than I’ve ever been for two days. Although fighting the virus was brutal, I had the emotional fitness to not overreact. This was in large part because for years, every morning I imagined myself facing a worst-case scenario, and every
morning I felt the pain of my wife or kids getting sick, or of being sick and not being able to provide for my family. But then I would end the mediation, knowing it was all in my mind and the reality was that they were fine. At that point, no challenge or failure I would face that day would be worse than what I put myself through in my imagination. This time, when the worst-case scenario actually happened in real life, it was painful, but I was comfortable with the pain in a way few people ever get to be. Because I was able to fight the battle in my mind many times over and I had the emotional fitness to stay calm in the middle of chaos.

You have to do the same thing. Fight the monsters where they live, which is in your mind. When you slay the beasts inside your mind, you realize that they are there to make you stronger. So when you face them in real life, you know exactly what to do to overcome them.

Every day, I’m having conversations with clients who are CEOs and entrepreneurs, and I remind them that this present moment is the biggest opportunity we have to stand out from the crowd as leaders. If we’re willing to increase our emotional fitness on a daily basis, we will rise through the chaos. But this has to be a daily commitment. If you’re a leader in your business, you can’t afford to be consumed by the negative energy that we have in this pandemic. Increase your emotional fitness daily, and you will become stronger when the storm clears. One of my favorite mantras that I repeat to myself every day is “the best is yet to come.” And if you believe that with every single cell in your body, you will find opportunities, and you will bring certainty to those who are living in fear. Your job as a leader is to get stronger, increase your capacity, and bring hope to your employees, customers, and family. You were made for moments like this.

cray91:
It's good you Trying To Give Yourself Hope sha lol

It is bad you have decided to lose hope sha

Stevyne:
Ode.. You should have asked her what's the thing she wanna give you.

That's the mind of a fanatic, they read negativity to everything.

They are all welcome to the Nigerian home in advance, we will together beat the imaginations of the ones who think us to be dwarfs.
The Giants in us shall be unveiled as we rise above this crises.

Gokoyer0:
I don't think I can trust anyone here to do business anymore. I have scammed by a Nairalander after he pleaded that I should boost his business and I will get ROI. Till today, I didnt get a dime from him.

Hhmmm... Tough one.
You won't trust him again or anyone else because one person played the dishonesty card with you. That is one of the consequences of been dishonest. That one person have locked opportunities others are suppose to enjoy through you.
Mind you, you aren't alone in this, many Nigerians passed through the same. The act of dishonesty alone have cause a society of low opportunities cos everyone are a suspect of dishonesty.
What that guy did can even make you decide to be dishonest. This is how bad dishonesty have ravaged our society.
Meanwhile, if you decide to trust no man again you'll be doing yourself a great harm. Why? Because you'll fail to see the ones who can help you elevate above your current state. I suggest you learn & move on. Thanks.