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Deprincess4321:
when who arive?

NO MIND ME JO
YOU WROTE RIP TO THE DEPARTURE INSTEAD OF DEPARTED!

Deprincess4321:
Chaiii,rip to the departure,itz so painful

LETS KNOW WHEN THEY ARRIVE!

Mikeeytools:
why did you not go ahead and marry that lady and answer her surname? See advice you are giving someone.

He doesn't want to divorce her .
Old ways ain't working for him.
Why not try to be more loving and see retract from the old ways of reporting her up and see , and see if it works. Must he die with only plan A ?

SimeonOTC:
There are levels of maturity..maybe, just maybe you haven't gotten to the level where you think and act like a man..

So your our maturity and thinking like a man is to divorce your wife because of misunderstanding . Epele oo

SimeonOTC:
you don't deserve to be called a MAN

the nonsense you wrote up there will serve as a catalyst to the menace of a wife to up her ways.

It's for Matured Minds only .
Not everything must be done by vawulence . Besides , don't judge by just the Op's story pls. You need to hear her side of the story and see reasons for her behaviour and actions.

I read your story , I shake head. I hope she no get bipolar ? I was very happy when I got to the part you wrote, all the red flags were there during your courtship but you foolishly went ahead to marry her . So you brought sorrow , tears and sadness to your self, thinking that things would change. I don't know how old your wife is , but I know that things ( lifestyle) that did not change over 30 years of her existence would not change now .

Anyways, I don't have much to say but to thank God for my life. My relationship of over a year now has been a very turbulent one from the very first day till date and I once believed things would change, but my brother , things are just getting worst and I am planning to go ahead with the marriage. However, Something very strange happened by she, taking her madness to my family and every one was stunned !

Imagine your wife telling you and your family she can't bear your surname and you should bear hers ?? Baba , it was a narrow escape and really thank God almighty for coming to my rescue. Now reading this your story even makes me feel I am on the right track not to regret my actions very soon .

My advice for you right now is to try as much as possible to stay away from reporting her to her family of any kind , pastors and councillors ( as it has not been working but only makes her more angry ) . Always try to make your wife happy . Be the first to apologize. Put in more effort to be a gentle , sweet , romantic, caring and loving husband . Go with her love languages, just maybe, she may see a reason to love you again. The reason for this is because the old ways ain't working so you need a change of approach to save your marriage. Lastly, put her in prayers! Good luck in your future endeavours.

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I knew there was no way both of them could have died the same time, having sex . It was either they were both killed and dumped there or the true story we just read now.
RIP to both of them .

The guy that brought the woman should be arrested and asked to produce the women . Atleast he should be able to provide more information about them , through contract/agreement they signed before he leased the flat to them..

SmellySperm:
Maybe she has met a new cóck better than yours, just maybe. Pulling up this weak áss emotional text just to make you feel terrible.

She's simply gaslighting you. Most women do that alot especially if they just met a new guy on board. Nigga take the f**kin L and move on

She not even deflowered yet. I rule that out . Decent as F.

Jennyclay:
Shut up!! You this lazy Broke man.

Your mother and sisters sleeps with dogs doesn't mean other ladies do same.

You're always quick to throw tantrums at women, why??

@op, probably you're not up to standard. Improve yourself and be a man!!!

And what is the standard if I may ask.
You don't just jump into conclusion without asking relevant questions !!!
What standard are you talking about pls . ALSO, What is your standard ?!

I should improve myself on what exactly.

Who told you I am not a man?

Kobojunkiee:
But a relationship is more than a proposal. Can't you see what she is telling you?

What she's saying is that she is not convinced that you are the man for her and that conviction should usually come long before the proposal you seem stuck on....

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Yes , understood. The other part on my side i didn't add is work. We live in different cities and my work doesn't permit me to travel , thus, missing appointment of dates we fix and not able to see often. However we keep InTouch via calls and video calls also when ever this same work requires me to travel to Lagos , I never fail to see her before leaving . So in all We see atleast twice a month.

I'm tired.
I don't see the love in u but I see that u want to just use Me.
If see the selfishness in u.
I see the anger in u.
I see the unforgiveness in u.
I see the harshness in u.
I see the lies in u.
I see the wickedness and pretence to look good in u only in front of my parents.
I see the ungentlemanlyness in u
I see the troubles and problems in u

So what's the point? I don't see an ideal spouse in u. I'm afraid. I see a boy and not a man. Marriage is not only about the man primarily having money. Other things are very important that a man must GROOM HIMSELF to have for a Marriage to last forever and you are lacking in them sadly.
I kept telling my mom this as well as I told my dad this once but they didn't listen as they are very mean and do tribalism mostly.

I'm afraid that till now u are unable to fully convience Me as I kept fairly giving U time but u kept not changing for the better and allowed your work be your only priority. Even the dates you were insisting u always spoilt them by bringing your work problems. For how long will this selfishness and immaturity last?

So u just want to have good time with Me but don't Love Me and clearly are not ready for Marriage. Go.Bye Bye.


I believe ALMIGHTY GOD will give Me a good Man that is religiously Good, Genuine loves Me( And the love that comes unconditionally and pure and true and with Forgiveness) and One that will make our Marriage work forever via truly understanding Me and that is not selfish.

A good religious Man that will bring out the best in Me and have eyes for only Me and thinks about Me always as I think about Him.

A Good religious Man that won't be selfish, that won't lie, that won't look at my body but want to sharpen my brains and bring out the best of Me always. That is peaceful and truly is Monogamous. That knows when help is needed. That won't hurt Me and is a real Gentleman and will be a Great Husband and a Great Father to our 2 future Children.
One that is Mature and really ready for an everlasting Marriage like I'm and knows what and how to make his Fiancee and Wife later on happy even if he is still struggling. I'm afraid I don't see these qualities in u. I have been heart broken by u one to many a times.

So think hard as I'm already struggling with some people indirectly saying u are from a broken home, so u might not know how to keep a home and then ur behaviours show it, with ur constant insensitivity. I'm afraid as I do not want polygamy nor divorce and ur behaviour of work preference always over Me and the way u go back and forth, ur lies to my Parents to look good and then hurting Me constantly with the way u address other women makes Me think that u just want to use Me and don't appreciate Me.
I know I tried and genuienely never went out of my ways to hurt u but the reverse is your case.

Think hard and just be honest for once .
At this point in time. I'm slowly pulling out. I need a good Man that truly loves Me.

So I don't know how u are going to convience Me but I'm starting to feel again that u are not the one for Me.

This were exactly her words to me in a message.

My own side of the story now ,
I've gone to see her parents and declared my interest as well as taken her to my hometown , to see my parents , with the permission of her parents.

Yet, she sent me the above message.

Which other proposal is greater than meeting her parents and introducing her to mine.

IF YOU WERE THE ONE SHE SENT THAT MESSAGE TO , WOULD YOU GO AHEAD AND ENGAGE HER?

Your advice and comments are needed pls!